Do you have a hard time bonding with others, but you don’t totally know why? Do you ghost people before they can get too close, for reasons that you can’t quite pinpoint? An avoidant attachment style could be at the root of the issue.
Connecting (or wanting to connect) with others is an innate part of the human experience, but the way that we bond with people is unique to each of us. According to attachment theory, your attachment style — read: the way that you act in relationships, and how you attach to others — likely began to take shape when you were a child. If your emotional needs were neglected when you were little, you may have become an avoidant attachment child, and that attachment method carried forward into adulthood.
What does that mean for you today? If you do have an avoidant attachment style, this can impact all the relationships in your life, from romantic relationships to friendships to professional interactions. By taking the time to self-reflect on your own natural attachment tendencies, you can develop a deeper understanding of the ways that you bond with others, and ways that you may be inadvertently pushing people away. Here are 10 signs that you may have an avoidant attachment style.