In pop culture, the female sexual experience is often shown in two lights: it either results in an exciting, explosive, over-the-top orgasm or ends in an underwhelming moment of awkward frustration brought on by a lack of “fireworks.” For many younger viewers, this paints a picture that is not only inaccurate, but seriously unhelpful (and even harmful) when trying to navigate what an orgasm is, how it might look and, mostly importantly, how to get yourself there. According to a 2019 study on Hollywood sex scenes, 39 per cent of the clips analyzed in movies implied female orgasms. The reality? Only 19 per cent of women orgasm every time they have sex.
Misinformation and misrepresentation surrounding the female orgasm can create anxiety and stress during an act that should be fun and open to experimentation. So, we did some research to better understand the most common types of orgasms (there are many!) and how to have them.
To break it down first, an orgasm is, according to a study conducted by the Kinsey Institute, “a variable, transient peak sensation of intense pleasure, creating an altered state of consciousness,” and your best bet for achieving them if first figuring out what feels good to you. Each orgasm can feel different, depending on the level of intensity, duration and which part of your body is being aroused or stimulated. While some focus specifically on the vagina, you might be surprised to find other erogenous zones that get you hot. No matter your preference, you’ll thank yourself for taking the time to figure out what turns you on.
Finding your orgasm: clitoral stimulation
For many people, clitoral stimulation a tried-and-true method, and with good reason if you’re looking for a heightened climax. The clitoris is highly sensitive, composed of millions of nerve endings which can react to even the lightest touch. A study published in The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy found that nearly 37 per cent of women required clitoral stimulation to experience orgasm, either from solo or partnered play. Experiment with what feels best by using your fingers, or introducing a a sex toy such as a vibrator or massager.
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For deeply intense pleasure: g-spot orgasms
A G-spot orgasm is often described as deeply intense, and may take a bit of warming up to reach climax. According to Amy Levine, certified sexual educator and founder of SexedSolutions.com in an interview with Everyday Health, “When your G-spot is sexually aroused it swells.” So begin by pressing it or lightly stroking it until you’re fully aroused. You can find your G-spot by inserting a finger into your vagina and pressing forward, curling your fingers toward yourself. The G-spot is located on the front wall of your vagina, and will be slightly bumpy, ridged or spongy to the touch.
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Aiming for a two-for-one: blended orgasms
Like anything that feels incredible, you’re going to want more of it, and blended orgasms are no exception. This type of climax is explosive and can be reached when one or more erogenous zones is being stimulated. Female orgasm expert Vanessa Marin describes a blended orgasm as a mixture of clitoral and G-spot orgasms, or simultaneous dual stimulation. There are many combinations, but a few to consider are adding anal or nipple stimulation during penetrative sex, or bringing a vibrator or a butt plug into the mix.
Expanding on your explorations: anal orgasms
If you’re into anal play or sex, an anal orgasm is certainly one you should know about. Although anal penetration stimulates new nerves and muscles (including a woman’s pelvic floor) when stimulated, this highly sensitive muscle can trigger an intense anal orgasm, as well as a vaginal orgasm, doubling your likelihood to reaching climax.
Other hot spots: deep vaginal erogenous zone orgasms
While the G-spot has long been dubbed the “magic button” for it’s high success rate in pushing people over the edge, there are a number of other hot spots you’ll want to get to know. Researchers have found and identified other internal areas, or deep vaginal erogenous zones, which can deliver toe curling orgasms when stimulated. This includes the A-spot, found on the high front wall of the vagina just beneath the cervix, and the O-spot located on the back wall of the vagina, behind the cervix. Officially “discovered” by Malaysian physician Chua Chee Ann, M.D., in 1997, it’s recommended to insert two lubricated fingers deeply into the vagina to find your A-spot and use gentle, repeated strokes.
Discovering the squirting orgasm
This type of orgasm is often recognizable thanks to female ejaculation, also known as squirting or “the release of fluid through the urethra during sexual arousal”, according to sex educator Corrine Kai. The fluid is generally clear and can release in a spurt, stream, or full on gush, most often with G-spot stimulation.
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