While open, honest dialogue is always the best course of action, it doesn’t always yield open, honest results when you’re dealing with a deceitful partner. And despite the increasingly flexible definitions of relationships, significant others continue to step out on their relationships and their partners. Perhaps, you’re that suspecting partner.
You’ve felt it. That sick, nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach where you are absolutely certain your partner is cheating on you. You’ve recognized the signs. Now you want proof.
Thanks to constantly-evolving tech, while it’s never been easier to cheat, it’s also that much easier to catch the cheaters. Here are some supper tech-savvy ways to spy on your partner to see if they’re cheating.
Do be mindful that some of these methods are not only potentially irreconcilable breaches of privacy (especially if your beau or belle proves innocent), they may also be legally questionable.
How to catch a cheater: Watch how they behave with their phone
Are they uber-protective of their phone? Do they seldom part with it and take it everywhere they go? Do they always keep it out of sight? (Or always face down? You know the type...) Is the phone always locked or does it have a privacy screen on that obscures what your partner is doing on it from most over-the-shoulder angles? Do they always have the “Do Not Disturb” function on in your company to keep potentially risky notifications at bay and silent? (On iPhones, look for the half-moon symbol in the upper right corner.) Remember to also look for a potential second (‘burner’) phone, or even alternate SIM cards (less convenient, but also a possibility). Our suggestion is to ask to use their phone while somewhere on the go together because your phone *cough* is dead *cough, cough*.
It helps if you can get a hold of the phone first before asking for it, so they’re more apt to give you the password.
How to catch a cheater: Touch ID
How to catch a cheater: The Google Chrome password hack
Luckily, some people may be less protective of their computer passwords, and if they use Google Chrome, you may be able to unlock many if not all of their passwords... Ask for their computer password for *insert believable story here*.
Once they give it, go to the Chrome browser, Settings, Passwords and Autofill.
Once on the passwords log page, you can see what sites they’ve accessed that require passwords. Do a quick scan and see if any illicit sites jump out (pro-tip: Ashley Madison is a bad sign). Then, next to the obscured passwords full of ‘****’ click on the ‘eye’ icon and type in the computer password you’ve just obtained, and voila. All these passwords, all at your fingertips. You’ll want to save these for posterity, so you may want to take a quick pic with your phone (though do be mindful that now your phone possesses delicate evidence of snooping), so now you have to be mindful of keeping your phone out of reach.
How to catch a cheater: Download keyloggers
How to catch a cheater: Use a spyware app
How to catch a cheater: Track their movements
If your SO uses an iPhone, there are several options you can use beyond tapping into a family account where location sharing is enabled (Find My iPhone and Find My Friends app can be helpful here). If these aren’t an option, here is where it gets very interesting...many people don’t even know this feature exists. You can see your partner’s frequent locations under Settings, Privacy, Location Services, System Services, Significant Locations. It would take a super-savvy cheater and a ton of diligence to consistently disable or delete these settings each time they’re stepping out, and this allows you to see which locations they keep revisiting.
The following are additional ways to keep tabs on your beau or belle as well. With an app like Spy Phone or a super-small GPS device that can be fixed to the underside of your unfaithful spouse's car, you can see where they go, then catch them at that sleazy motel (or worse, that luxury resort you two never went to) with their pants around their ankles. You'll be busting the affair in real time.
How to catch a cheater: Track their movements with Uber and Waze
For Waze, scan their drive history by clicking on the magnifying glass icon (each destination appears alongside a clock icon). Do note that the app doesn’t provide a tonne of detail, but it can tip you off if certain unfamiliar destinations keep reappearing or are saved under favourites.
How to catch a cheater: Check text messages, other messaging apps, and more
And don't forget to always check for aliases because ‘Aunt Becky’ may be someone else entirely (i.e. ‘Michelle’). While no software can definitively show you how to find out the true identity of a caller, there are apps like Reverse Phone Lookup App for iPhone. Spyzie or Call Log Monitor can track a person’s contact list and call logs to help tell you exactly how many times a day this ‘Aunt Becky’ calls. Once you have that, make a note of any numbers you find and contact the mystery caller yourself to bust a cheater once and for all.
How to catch a cheater: Look for hidden audio or photo files
Making them is easy with DeepSound and QuickStego, and what may look like a funny animal picture may in fact be a steamy nude. You will need to know a special keystroke or code to unlock the file.
How to catch a cheater: Check bank statements
Make a copy or take a screenshot of anything suspect and keep it hidden in a safe place as you continue your investigation in the hopes of catching that cheater red-handed.
How to catch a cheater: Check their trash folder
While you're at it, you might also want to check their computer's recycle bin for any incriminating photos. If you find anything, then you can kick this human trash to the curb.