While open, honest dialogue is always the best course of action, it doesn’t always yield open, honest results when you’re dealing with a deceitful partner. And despite the increasingly flexible definitions of relationships, significant others continue to step out on their relationships and their partners. Perhaps, you’re that suspecting partner.
You’ve felt it. That sick, nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach where you are absolutely certain your partner is cheating on you. You’ve recognized the signs. Now you want proof.
Thanks to constantly-evolving tech, while it’s never been easier to cheat, it’s also that much easier to catch the cheaters. Here are some super tech-savvy ways you can use to learn if your partner is cheating.
Disclaimer: Be mindful that some of these methods are not only potentially irreconcilable breaches of privacy (especially if your beau or belle proves innocent), but they may also be legally questionable. Always make your own best judgement calls.
How to catch a cheater: Watch how they behave with their phone
Are they uber-protective of their phone? Do they seldom part with it and take it everywhere they go? Do they always keep it out of sight? (Or always face down? You know the type...). Is the phone always locked, or does it have a privacy screen on that obscures what your partner is doing on it from most over-the-shoulder angles? Do they always have the “do not disturb” function on in your company to keep potentially risky notifications at bay and silent? (On iPhones, look for the half-moon symbol in the upper right corner.) Remember to also look for a potential second (‘burner’) phone, or even alternate SIM cards (less convenient, but also a possibility). You could consider asking to use their phone while somewhere on the go together because your phone *cough* is dead *cough, cough*.
It helps if you can get a hold of the phone first before asking for it, so they’re more apt to give you the password.
How to catch a cheater: Touch ID
How to catch a cheater: The Google Chrome password hack
Luckily, some people may be less protective of their computer passwords, and if they use Google Chrome and are willing to give you access, you may be able to unlock many if not all of their passwords... Ask for their computer password for *insert believable story here*.
Once they give it, go to the Chrome browser, Settings, Passwords and Autofill.
Once on the passwords log page, you can see what sites they’ve accessed that require passwords. Do a quick scan and see if any illicit sites jump out (pro-tip: Ashley Madison is a bad sign). Then, next to the obscured passwords full of ‘****’ click on the ‘eye’ icon and type in the computer password you’ve just obtained, and voila.
How to catch a cheater: Keyloggers
How to catch a cheater: Look at location history
How to catch a cheater: Look at Uber and Waze
For Waze, scan their drive history by clicking on the magnifying glass icon (each destination appears alongside a clock icon). Do note that the app doesn’t provide a ton of detail, but it can tip you off if certain unfamiliar destinations keep reappearing or are saved under favourites.
How to catch a cheater: Check text messages, other messaging apps and more
And don't forget to always consider aliases because ‘Aunt Becky’ may be someone else entirely (i.e. ‘Michelle’).
How to catch a cheater: Hidden audio or photo files
Making them is easy with DeepSound and QuickStego, and what may look like a funny animal picture may in fact be a steamy nude. You will need to know a special keystroke or code to unlock the file.
How to catch a cheater: Check bank statements
How to catch a cheater: Check their trash folder
While you're at it, you might also want to check their computer's recycle bin for any incriminating photos. If you find anything, then you can kick this human trash to the curb.