10 Signs They’re Just Not That Into You

We are often taught how to live and how to love, but the one thing we never really talk about is how to know when your relationship has ended — before it actually has.

Although it is daunting, these things happen… sometimes silently — so how do we know when our relationship is done?

There is no cold hard fact to the matter, however, according to Style Craze and Psych2Go, there are some red flags to look out for that may indicate your partner is ready to leave. With this in mind, we’ve rounded up 10 signs that may mean that they’ve lost interest in your relationship.

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Fighting too much (or not fighting enough)

A healthy relationship has balance — without this, they almost always end.

If you find yourselves fighting too much, your partner may be holding onto resentment, and if you’re not fighting enough (even about the little things) and you feel these situations are being swept under the rug, they may not care enough to fight. Keeping an eye out for extremes can help you identify if your relationship may need work

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Distance

If you find your partner keeping their distance (for example, staying at work later than normal, taking their time to get home, or seeing you less frequently), they may be beginning the breakup process without you knowing.

It is possible if your partner is distancing themselves, that they’re preparing for life on their own, and trying to figure out how to tell you.

While this is not always the case (and please don’t go jumping to this conclusion) distance in a relationship is always something to be talked about with one another.

A couple having a fight sitting on a bed

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Prioritizing someone else

While it is okay to live separate lives and be in a relationship, it is also important that at the end of the day you retreat back to one another in some way. If your partner is avidly prioritizing someone else consistently, this may be a warning sign they’re over you.

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They stop asking questions

Does your partner come home from work, sit on the couch and go about their day as if you don’t exist? Do they ask you how your day went or what you did that day?

If you’re invested in someone, you’re likely going to show your interest by asking questions and showing curiosity about their lives. If your partner used to ask you lots of questions, but they’ve stopped, it may be worth asking them why.

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Lack of intimacy

Sex is not everything, but it does have a lot to do with connection in a relationship, and while this is not always the case, sometimes a lack of intimacy can mean an uninterested partner or a lack of physical attraction. If your relationship is in a dry spell, that can be normal, what is not normal (for most) is absolutely no physical connection — at all.

If your partner isn’t interested in sex, or if they show a huge drop in interest compared to what is normal in your relationship, your partner may no longer be interested.

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Only intimacy

If your relationship feels like all it has become is sex, your partner may be avoiding communication — or may only be interested in the relationship for sex.

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They show no effort

If they no longer make an effort to see you and don’t seem to care much about your plans, they may not care too much about the relationship itself.

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Another cancellation

This goes hand in hand with minimal effort. If they are canceling and/or making excuses not to see you, it may be time to move on.

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No romance

Relationships require romance — to some extent. This doesn’t always have to mean going on extravagant dates, flying to the French Riviera for a vacation, or spending loads of money on each other.

Sometimes it's the little things like cuddling up and watching a good movie, going for a nice walk or just spending quality one-on-one time together.

If they no longer make romantic gestures or hint that they want to, they may be losing interest in you.

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Seeing the future

If your partner is making plans for their future and you aren’t in any of them, or they make it clear they’re doing it without you, the signs are clear. In a relationship, you make those plans together, work your plans around theirs, and make it all work… for both of you. If they’re not doing that anymore, they may not plan on having you around for it.

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Where to go from here?

While these warning signs may persist in various shapes or forms, showing one or more of these signs in a relationship may not always mean the relationship is over.

The decision is yours to make, but a safe start is communication.

If you feel your partner is no longer interested, even after discussing these warning signs with them, maybe it is time to work on yourself and find someone who makes an effort, plans their future with you and prioritizes only you