Many of us would like to think we know what it means to be a good friend. Between giving advice, listening attentively and stalking exes for them on social media, friendship takes a lot of work. But sometimes we’re so happy with our friends that we don’t realize when we do things that hurt their feelings. Even worse, maybe we do things to upset them because we think it’s funny or entertaining. To help you figure out if you should be checking yourself, we’ve rounded up 10 things to help you be a better friend.