If you’re looking for love in 2019, going online and downloading apps is inevitable — and a great dating profile is key. Of course, you’ll need a handful of compelling photos but, in the end, if you’re looking for a real lasting connection then it’s all about the branding — tossing in all those wonderful unique details that make you who you are. But how do you do that without giving away too much — or too little? Creating an online dating profile for Bumble, Tinder, Her, Chappy or any app of choice can be a bit arduous and daunting, but it shouldn’t feel like a chore. The entire process should be fun and illuminating — and may even give you a better understanding of exactly what you want in a partner. We’re diving into the dos and don’ts of online dating.
DON’T hide your face in your profile photos
DO try: Celebrate all the unique qualities that make you you! Mix things up by sharing a snapshot of exactly who you are and how you live your life, from travelling abroad and trying new foods to horseback riding and reading on the beach.
DON’T be negative
DO try:If you’re feeling a little down, reach out to a friend or two and ask them to name three or four adjectives that best describes you. It’ll inspire you to put a more positive spin on your online dating profile and will remind you of what you have to offer a partner.
DON’T write a novel
DO try: You can also give them talking points for when they reach out to you. Engage them by writing: Ask me what book I’m reading right now. Or, ask me where I last travelled. It’ll show you’ve got fascinating stories to tell and will encourage those who might be a little shy about reaching out.
DON’T just list a bunch of characteristics
DO try: Rather than specifying that you prefer “a fit body,” for example, you should highlight the fact that you enjoy “staying active.”
DON’T share old photos
DO try: Focus on the exciting things you’ve done recently when selecting your photos – people will appreciate your candor. Pro-tip: Consider heading out to one of Canada’s most beautiful places and take a fresh photo in nature.
DON’T fall for old dating taboos
DO try: If you’re serious about meeting someone whose values match your own, why would you hide important pieces of information, like kids, from them? Cop to it right up front. Remember, honesty is the best policy – so stop overthinking it! Never forget: some celebrities made their relationships last the second time around.
DON’T gloss over the little details
DO try: If you’re an avid skier, tell everyone your favourite slope to visit. Instead of saying you like music, tell them your favourite artist or song — or quote a favourite lyric and see if they can guess who sang it. Share a favourite long weekend destination from Toronto. Get creative.
DON’T be afraid to make the first move
DO try: Once you’ve read through their profile, pull out a specific tidbit that caught your eye, whether it’s a favourite hiking trail they mentioned or a certain movie they enjoy. Lead with that when you send that first introductory message.
DO try: There’s no need to say why you’ve chosen to try online dating — after all, taking it too seriously can be a major turnoff. Keep things light and casual. Show off your wicked wit and weird self without getting bogged down in the whys of your situation.
DON’T sweat the small stuff
DO try: This might sound crazy, but ENJOY! Online dating is a great way to broaden your social circle and make new friends – it doesn’t all have to be about relationships. Getting into that mindset will help you ease into it, without the added pressure. Even if a first date is a bust, at least you’ll have a story to share.