Every parent can lose their cool once in a while. It pretty much comes with the territory of raising children. Because while we wish they could all be quiet, well-behaved, well-mannered humans, there are times when that’s an impossible ask. Whether it’s a toddler in a full-out meltdown or a teenager dishing out the kind of attitude you’d only wish on your worst enemy, the defiance is real. You need to have all kinds of patience and the commitment to discipline them — but in a way that empowers them to change their actions. And celebrities are no different. Here, 20 celebrity parents reveal how they discipline their kids.
Now an adult, Lourdes has characterized her mom's parenting style as controlling. "My mom is such a control freak, and she has controlled me my whole life," Lourdes said in a 2021 interview. "I needed to be completely independent from her as soon as I graduated high school."
"I literally just walk into the kitchen, ignore them ... and then they come over and they say, 'I'm OK now,'" she told People. "I'm at the stage of parenthood right now where I just need to stop entertaining them. The more you pay attention to that kind of behaviour, the worse it gets."
Ultimately, for Blanchett and Andrew Upton, communication is key. "What I do know is that you have to let them talk and you have to listen. I hope that when they're 15, they're still talking as freely to us as now."
“I wouldn’t say strict, but I’d say disciplined, because there are definitely times when they get over on their dad,” he said, admitting that he tends to go easy on daughter Vivian.
“No way. It’s too hard — she’s too cute, and she just says, ‘Dad, please?’ and I say ‘Okay,’” he said. “My wife always says, ‘You gotta be tougher on her!’ and I say, ‘I can’t.’
“[Vivian]’s, like, half my wife, so you know … that’s just the way it goes.”
"My kids — it's a blessing — they're extremely disciplined," he told PEOPLE. "They try [misbehaving] with other people because everyone gives them so much attention, but when it comes to [Mariah] and I, we only have to say something once. We ask them to have a seat, they sit down, cross their legs, and put their hands in their lap." Cannon admitted that he hopes it lasts. "I've got the loudest voice in the house, so they've always responded to that ever since they were newborns. They hear my voice and they freeze."
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"I really limit what he can have access to," she told Hot 97. "He just got an iPad for Christmas. That was Grandma's gift. Hell no, he doesn't have a phone. He's around a lot of sweet, nice normal kids. And also around kids who get disciplined. If he gets completely out of line, I do the three steps: 1 is the look and talk. 2 is taking away something of value to him. 3 is you need your butt popped. You don't have to do it often, like twice or three times a year. And he remembers it."
The one big rule he and Joanna plan to follow for all five children: "We keep telling the kids they don't get a phone until they go off to college." Good luck to them.
Years ago, when Kate was photographed spanking one of the sextuplets, people were up in arms. Gosselin defended her choice, telling Life & Style at the time, "Whether the paparazzi are there or not, I am a mother first. I love my children and when they misbehave, I discipline them as I deem appropriate for the situation."
"I had to give my six-year-old four timeouts two days ago," she told Cookie magazine in 2009. "She kept hitting. I don't spank, though sometimes I think, 'These timeouts aren't working! What's next?' I strive for consistency, and not making idle threats. They have to know there are consequences for violence, name-calling, and not doing household chores."
He once tricked his daughter Poppy into eating a scotch bonnet, and while the punishment worked, his wife Jools was not pleased. "Poppy was quite disrespectful and rude to me and she pushed her luck," he recalled while appearing on BBC Good Food Show. "In my day, I would have got a bit of a telling-off but you are not allowed to do that. Five minutes later, she thought I had forgotten and I hadn't. She asked for an apple. I cut it up into several pieces and rubbed it with scotch bonnet and it worked a treat. She ran up to mum and said, 'This is peppery.' I was in the corner laughing. [Jools] said to me, 'Don't you ever do that again.'"