These Celebs in Open Marriages Might Surprise You

The Younger star opened up about their queer polyamorous relationship to Out in October 2020. Tortorella, who has been married to nonbinary and gender-fluid entrepreneur Bethany C. Meyers since 2018, revealed that, “I am kind of a serial monogamist in my polyamory. I’ve explained this term before, but it’s a lot of fancy words jumbled together for, I love dating one person at a time. I’m married, yes, but I love dating one person at a time. I have a partner in LA that I’ve had for a long time, but I’m not his only partner; he’s not my only partner."

When talking about Meyers, Tortorella talked about their deep connection. "There was this loyalty that never went away, no matter how far apart we were. No matter how long we had been dating someone else or how long we were living in a different state or country, for that matter, the other person [Meyers] was always there and it was f*cking beautiful then, and it’s f*cking beautiful now.”

These two are as open and honest as it gets when it comes to relationship talk. Back in 2015, Jada revealed that she gives Will all the freedom he wants. "I trust that Will is a man of integrity," she told Howard Stern at the time. She also told the Huffington Post that both Will and herself are allowed to do whatever they want. "Our perspective is, you don't avoid what's natural. You're going to be attracted to people. In our marriage vows, we didn't say forsaking all others." Jada later clarified by describing their relationship as a "grown one," but she doesn't deny that they are intimate with other people.

Swinton and Byrne were technically separated when Sandro Kopp entered the picture — and he never left. But the actress, playwright and their two children were still co-habiting when Kopp moved in. In fact, at the 2008 Oscars, when Tilda won the award for Best Supporting Actress, it was Kopp who was by her side; Byrne chose to stay in Scotland with the kids.

"There are some myths," she told the Daily Mail of living with two men. "The reality is so much more boring, fun and good, but so much more boring. People like to believe all sorts of magical ideas." She added: "It's not something I try to promote as a radical lifestyle choice. But it's a situation I find very healthy. I can maintain my life with my children and their father and spend time with the man I've become very fond of. I am very fortunate there has been a lot of understanding by the men."

"People have such a childish view of monogamy and fidelity," Hawke told Mr. Porter back in 2013. "'He's cheated so he's bad, she's cheated so she's bad', as opposed to a recognition that our species is not monogamous." He added: "My relationship with my present wife is thrilling to me and I'm committed to it. But neither she nor I know what shape the future will come in. Sexual fidelity can't be the whole thing you hang your relationship on. If you really love somebody, you want them to grow, but you don't get to define how that happens. They do."

Basically the actor doesn't think cheating is a big deal. We're pretty sure his ex-wife, Uma Thurman, to whom he was unfaithful (with his now-wife, FYI), would argue otherwise.

"I think that monogamy is artificial," fashion designer Ford said in an interview with Arena. "I do not think it's something that comes naturally to us." Though he did admit that he didn't want to get into it any further because he was "going to be in so much sh*t."

They've been together since 1966 (almost unheard of in Hollywood), but perhaps the reason they've lasted so long is that monogamy isn't a priority. "If we cheat, we don't know it, so if we do cheat, it's very good for both us," she told the Daily Mail in 2007. "I don't want to know it, if he's cheating on me. If I'm cheating on him, he wouldn't want to know it. And if we do, if that's what's making it work, then that's fine too." Parton also told Vanity Fair that monogamy is the "most overrated virtue," before quickly referring to it as "monotony." Ha!

The Oscar winner has always been candid about her marriage to Hicks: having sex outside their relationship is not something she worries about, because fidelity doesn't define their connection. In an interview with Barbara Walters, Mo'Nique said: "Could I have sex outside of my marriage with Sidney? Yes. Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That’s not a deal-breaker." She explained it further on The Oprah Winfrey Show. "When I said I had an open marriage, people automatically jumped to sex. They automatically went there. But I've been best friends with my husband since we were 14 years old. When we say 'open,' we're very honest. There are no secrets. Oftentimes you have people that are married, but they're strangers, and we refuse to be those people."

As far as monogamy goes, Bello finds it "nonsensical," telling Esquire in 2006, "I suppose I understand the idea of a lifelong helpmate and friend. But when you have to stay sexually monogamous to this one person, I think it's usually a big fat lie." In 2013, Bello wrote a story in the New York Times detailing her approach to relationships with her modern family: her son Jackson, her ex-boyfriend/son's father Dan McDermott and Munn, her bestie-turned-girlfriend (though they're no longer together). "My feelings about attachment and partnership have always been that they are fluid and evolving," she wrote. "Whomever I love, however I love them, whether they sleep in my bed or not, or whether I do homework with them or share a child with them, 'love is love.'" Damn, can't argue with that.

The rapper and his wife, Amber Najm, have been married since 2003 and their marriage is open in a way that's a little different than others: basically, other girls are welcome in their bed. "Me and my wife just sleep with other girls together. It's not like we can just go off and have relationships with other people," he said in an interview. "People were assuming we got married for nothing." He continued: "It's that mind frame that has us together... It's not just the smashing of the women. Before any of y’all heard of me, I was married."

"My husband and I had a liberal arrangement when it came to each other's lovers," Shirley MacLaine detailed in her 2011 memoir, I'm All Over. "We were friends. We stayed married so we wouldn't be tempted to marry again." Five years later, she told People of their open marriage: "No one understood it; we did. He lived in Japan basically, I lived in America working, and this and that. We'd meet up, always great friends, traveled sometimes together." She added: "I think that's the basis for a long-lasting marriage, if you really want to do such a thing. I would say better to stay friends and we don't have enough time to talk about the sexuality of all. I was very open about all of that and so was he."