Many of us have heard of soulmates or twin flames. Heck, even those of us who are super into astrology know a thing or two about who you’re compatible with. But what about soul ties? If you’ve never heard of the term, it’s pretty much what it sounds like: two souls that are connected to one another. But it’s a bit different than say, a twin flame, which could be your bestie, a sibling or someone else special in your life.
Whether you’re in a relationship or you’re just curious about the phenomenon known as a soul tie, we’ve got all the answers on what a soul tie is — and the signs that you might have found yours.
What is a soul tie?
“A soul tie, sometimes referred to as emotional or spiritual cording, is an inexplicable, powerful emotional bond to another person,” Dr. Carla Marie Manly, clinical psychologist and author told Hello Giggles. If you’ve met a special someone and you feel inexplicably connected to them, that person might be your soul tie.
While soul ties can be platonic, it’s rare that they are, and they’re usually intense romantic connections. As relationship and life coach Joseph Moore puts it, “Time and sex is how a soul tie is formed.” So chances are you already had a strong connection to this person, but after getting it on you’ll likely know if they’re your soul tie.
Soul ties are also something that can be broken, especially if they are toxic or unhealthy. Spiritual life coach Kimberly Fosu explains that “a soul tie is too powerful for you to break on your own. You will have trouble with it.” This is because your soul is so connected to that person that cutting them off isn’t simple.
Signs you’ve found your soul tie
While there’s no true, concrete way to be certain that your soul tie is true, there are a few signs that you might have found yours. From dreaming about them to that inexplicable connection you share, read on for some helpful tips on deducing if your person is your soul tie.
You feel you’ve known them forever
That feeling when you click with someone and you feel like you might have known them in a past life is not to be ignored. That strong bond you’ve formed with your person is a sign that they might just be something more than someone you share a connection with.
They came into your life at an important time
Life is all about going through different transitions. Whether it was during a difficult time — or a great one — take note of when your soul tie showed up in your life. Maybe they showed up as you were grieving a loss, or maybe you were focusing on celebrating yourself when they appeared. Whatever the case, pay attention to the timing.
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You feel pulled to them
If you feel this magnetic pull to your soul tie, it might be happening for a reason. When two souls are drawn to one another, embrace it!
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They’ve appeared in your dreams
It’s always a pretty surreal feeling when you have a dream about someone you’re in love with, but when your special someone is showing up again and again in your dreams, it’s an indication they are on your brain. Manly states that having a soul tie increases your odds of dreaming about them.
If there’s one thing to take away from soul ties, is that not everyone you’ve been in love with is one. You’ll have a deep connection that lasts for a long time, and if you’re lucky enough to have found one, that connection will likely only deepen over time.
Now that you know the signs to pay attention to, you’ll be able to keep an eye out for your potential soul tie — and hopefully form a strong and healthy relationship.