Hookup Dos and Don'ts

Hookups can be many things (fun, embarrassing, stressful) so to make them easier to navigate, we’ve got some important things to consider if you’re currently in one or thinking about getting into one.

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Do: Be safe

When it comes to hookups, and any time you have sex, safety is a top priority. Make sure if you’re going to do it, you use protection no matter what. This also means having your wits about you (as in, not hooking up after three too many shots of tequila).

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Don’t: Hookup with your coworker

The last thing you want to do when it comes to hookups is have one with someone you’re forced to see on a regular basis, i.e. someone you work with. Even if you’re both relaxed about the whole thing, there is potential for awkwardness that is best avoided.

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Do: Make sure you’re comfortable

Just because you’ve had a few drinks, you’re flirting and having good time doesn’t mean you have to take things into hookup territory. If the person you’re with is suggesting you head back to their place, only go if you’re totally comfortable with what might happen. If you’re not completely into the idea of sleeping with this person, go home rather than back to their place.

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Don’t: Expect a call

While you may have had an amazing time and maybe even went out for brunch the next morning, the nature of a hookup is casual so avoid thinking of it as a potential relationship. Your recent lover might call you but don’t get too upset if they don't.

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Do: Have fun

If you’re into it and the person you’re with is into it (and you’re being safe), have fun with your hookup. Sex can be a lot of fun so as long as you don’t take the situation too seriously just enjoy the moment for what it is. You understand your emotional capacity best, and if you think you can handle casual sexy times, enjoy! If you find you get attached easily, that's OK and you're cool to pass and enjoy something that won't haunt you for days.

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Don’t: Take things too seriously

It’s a hookup so chances are, the one night you’re spending with this person will amount to just that: one night (they’re called one night stands for a reason). Try not to take things too seriously because you may not see this person again. Sure, some hookups have led to a relationship, but most are fleeting.

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Do: Cut yourself some slack

Embarrassed you hooked up with someone? Don’t worry about it – hookups happen so cut yourself some slack. If you had fun and you were safe, there’s no harm done – even if you might not want to see this person again.

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Don’t: Overstay the next day

No matter how much fun you had last night, take note of the mood the next morning. Is your new lover rushing to get ready for work or hinting that they need to take their dog for a walk? By all means stay and hang out if that’s what feels right, but if it seems like it’s time to go, find your purse and head out. Alternatively, if you’re at your own place, don’t feel bad about asking him to leave so you can get on with your day.