Five Signs a Guy is Definitely Not Interested

Even the most spontaneous people know that specific dates and times are required to see the people they want to see. If he won’t confirm a date – and texting you at midnight to hang out doesn’t count – cut him loose.

Everyone should get a pass for cancelling plans without much notice, once in a while: work, illness, and life just happen sometimes. But, if a guy you’re dating seems to forget that you had plans, or just “doesn’t feel like it” after you’ve confirmed the reservation, he doesn’t respect your time, or you.

Does he say he’s hanging out with his rec-soccer teammates, but it randomly comes out later that he was having take-out with a friend? Even if he wasn’t actually doing anything wrong, lying – by omission, or regular-style – means that he’d rather keep you in the dark or at arm’s-length than have an actual conversation with you.

Even the most distracted-by-video-games-and-junk-food kind of guy pays attention to a woman’s likes, dislikes, interests and hobbies if he wants to be with her. If you have to tell a new man the same thing over and over again, or if he forgets basic facts about you, like your hometown or what you do for a living, it’s probably time to move on.

Considering how casual dating has become, it probably doesn’t mean anything if a new guy calls you “dude” or goes in for a high-five. But, if you’re dating and he brings up other girls he’s seeing, or talks about other women around you as if you’re his roommate and not someone he might be making out with later, he’s thinking about your relationship as more of a hook-up, at best. If that’s not what you want, too, stop seeing him.