There are all kinds of reasons relationships come to an end, but cheating is arguably one of the most devastating. Infidelity is an awful thing to deal with and celebrities aren’t exempt. It could even be argued that it’s worse for stars because their lives play out so publicly. That also means they tend to be more open about how they bounce back from their terrible experiences. Here are 20 celebs who’ve been cheated on and what they had to say about it.
"It's like everybody is coming down my neck like, 'Why are you not leaving him? You have low self-esteem.' I don't have low self-esteem. I know I look good. I know I'm rich, I know I'm talented. I know I could get any man I want — any basketball player, football player. But I want to work out my sh*t with my man and I don't got to explain why. It's not right, what he f*cking did, but people don't know what I did, 'cause I ain't no angel."
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"It was a real marriage. It wasn't for the cameras. And it was a huge priority for me to stay in it. And that did not work," she said before turning to Affleck's affair. "We had been separated for months before I ever heard about the nanny. She had nothing to do with our decision to divorce. She was not a part of the equation. Bad judgment? Yes. It's not great for your kids for [a nanny] to disappear from their lives."
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"We're all where we’re supposed to be," she told Vogue in 2013. "I am exactly where I want to be now. You can't go backward. I'm not going backward. I'm grateful that I'm here, blessed to have what I have. Nobody can be prepared for anything. If you end up in a place where you can look back and go, 'It happened, but I'm so lucky to be sitting where I am sitting.'"
She live-tweeted as it played out on TV in November 2018. "Amidst the tough times, I have been blessed with the ultimate gift, my sweet baby True who has changed my life in ways I never could have imagined." She added: "Remember that you are never alone in your pain, and that everything is temporary. Pain, joy, elation, panic, anxiety, it is all temporary. Be grateful for the experiences that continue to build character, and make you who you are."
"That stuff about how she couldn't wait to get to work every day? That was really uncool." But Jen wanted us all to know that she wasn't a victim. "This whole 'Poor lonely Jen' thing, this idea that I'm so unlucky in love? I actually feel I've been unbelievably lucky in love." You tell 'em, Jen.
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She added: "My dreams were shattered. All I wanted my whole life was to have babies, be married, like what my parents have. It was so insane because not only did my family break up, but then my kids are taken away like half the time, so that was really like, 'What?! What did I do?'"
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"It wasn't about who he chose. I mean, I had moments of, 'Am I not sexy enough? Am I not pretty enough? Am I not smart enough?'" she said during an appearance on The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet. "But in so many of those questions, I immediately stopped and said, 'No, don't start doing that.' Because you can get stuck in that cycle." It took Eva some time but she eventually realized Parker's actions were "definitely not about me." Sing it, sister.
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"Sh*t happens, you know?" Pattinson reflected to Esquire U.K. in 2014. "It's just young people ... it's normal! And honestly, who gives a sh*t?" Um, every Twilight fan?
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"The most valuable thing I can share is the importance of living in truth. Sometimes, facing those truths can actually be your worst fear. Trusting your gut is always the best thing — no matter what people around you insist you should be doing or saying or thinking. Only you know and once you live in truth your heart is completely free."
Fast forward over a decade and Bush penned an open letter to Cosmopolitan in 2017 and without mentioning Murray by name, wrote about her experience. "I refuse to let that one relationship define me, which is why I've done my best to avoid discussing it for 10 years. The reality is that, yes, it was a massive event in my life. And the trauma of it was amplified by how public it became, which was incredibly foreign and bizarre to a girl who'd been just another college kid 24 months before her life blew up. While these celebrity stories are devastating, most of them have landed in a better place in life. Lesson learned: Things always work out the way they're supposed to."
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"Well, by now everyone knows my boyfriend cheated on me," she said to the fans in attendance. "But the best part of breaking up is going on first dates. OMG, OMG, I need a hot guy. Where are the hot guys here tonight?" Enter Perez Hilton. No, really.
"He was like, 'I love you — I'll do anything.' And I said, 'If it had been one person [you cheated with], it would've been different.' After that I left for the hotel. He refused to move out. He wouldn't let go of us. And I'm like, 'You don't get to have your cake and eat it too. I'm done,'" she recalled to Glamour in 2013. "My heartache probably lasted a lot longer than it should have, because in the old days, you broke up with someone, you never saw them again. You're not seeing pictures of how in love they are." She revealed: "I started to drink too much. I would cry all day. I began taking an antidepressant. I got a DUI and realized I needed to wake up and let go. I said to myself, 'You know what, Brandi? You have a life to live. Why are you obsessing over these two people? You know Eddie loves your children. It's time to do you.'"
"There was this bar that everyone hung out at after set and I remember coming down the stairs and seeing the two of them shooting pool together," he said. "I could just tell by the body language that everything had changed. All of a sudden, there was a huge shift. My stomach dropped. I literally felt like I got hit." From then on, Sheremet says Rimes made him feel "pushed out," so he left the set. "I totally felt foolish. I felt like this pathetic husband hanging around. I was very aware of how others were looking at me." Poor dude.
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"I broke up with Nick because I found out he had brought other women into our home while I was away and caught them on security footage," she tweeted. "Unfortunately, although I love Nick and I have tried and tried to rebuild my trust in him — it's become apparent in the last few weeks I am unable to." And while she didn't have to, Iggy added, "I genuinely wish Nick the best. It's never easy to part ways with the person you planned you're entire future with, but futures can be rewritten and as of today mine is a blank page."
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"I don't say the word 'cheat.' I can say he was not loyal to me. I don't care about the act. I care about how he reacted to it and how I was told by the media what happened. That scarred me," she told People. "I'm finding the trust again ... and I'm actually very happy Hank went through this now because he's able to teach his son and his daughter what it's like to make a mistake and what you do after making a mistake."
But no matter how hard she fought, it didn't work. Kendra and Hank officially divorced in October 2018.
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Spelling added that she never thought she would have to deal with infidelity. "I wanted the fairy tale! And then when it wasn't, I was like, 'Well, what do I do? Divorce my husband?' I have four kids. I was like, 'You know what? I love this man. I'm going to make this work. We started at ground zero and built it back up. It's amazing.'"
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"It was difficult, because I was trying to get him help for his problems, and eventually I realized that he didn't want help," she told The Telegraph in 2007. "I wasn't supportive about his partying or his relationship with another girl and as much as I loved him I wasn't going to be part of that." Can't really blame her.
She also clarified that while she and Russell were romantically involved at the end of her marriage to Dennis, Crowe "didn't break up the marriage." Ryan added: "I am not a victim. I was there. I was in that marriage for a really long time. Some days you think, 'This is so crazy,' and you are all intellectual about it. And other days, it's just really, really painful."
Regarding the cheating rumours, which Hawke has always denied, Thurman admitted, "There was some stuff like that at the end. We were having a difficult time, and you know how the axe comes down and how people behave and how people express their unhappiness. Our marriage failed. I should take full responsibility for the failure of my own marriage." She added: "You can move on, and you can be lucky and you can seize the moment and you can take one step after another," said Thurman. "You bear two children with somebody – that's not a small thing – and then you can hardly talk to them ... We don't have a lot of personal chats about how we're doing; there's a lot of unfinished damage and baggage and stuff that's still in the way."
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