20 Secret Ways to Know If Your Date Will Be Good in Bed

There is a slight adrenaline rush that goes along with having sex. We don’t mean that the person you get it on with should be a skydiver, but he or she should be willing to take (safe) risks now and then: like surprising you with flowers, a weekend getaway, or even changing up their career.

There is a reason that people think Spaniards and most South Americans are good lovers – it’s because they know how to move their hips and sway to a beat. It’s a general rule of thumb that if a potential lover can shake what their mama gave 'em, they’ll have rhythm in the bedroom, too.

Pay attention to how your date touches you, even while you’re curled up on the couch. That will say a lot about his or her lovemaking style (and whether they know how to caress you in the most sensual and romantic ways).

Knowing the person you’re about to sleep with is trustworthy is key to any successful sexual relationship. Do the deed with someone who you trust wholeheartedly (AKA you know they'll never bail on you or lie about their whereabouts).

…But not cocky. Every good lover needs to have a little bit (and we do mean a little bit) of swagger.

Sex is something to be enjoyed, not rushed through. If someone new you're dating takes the time to enjoy life’s moments, even if it’s watching a movie with you, they’ll appreciate hanging out in the bedroom (and working hard to make sure it's just right).

Getting to know what works for a woman is work. Generally speaking, if he or she’s a go-getter in life, they'll be keen to tackle the ins and outs of what makes you happy and what makes you tick.

Having sex is a pleasurable experience, one that’s to be enjoyed. A sign of a good partner is that they enjoy the many wonderful things that life has to offer – from digging into a delicious meal to sipping on a glass of wine.

The last thing any girl wants to do is wind up in bed with someone who doesn’t appreciate her body for the masterpiece it is – love handles and all. If he or she's not complimenting you before you hit the sack, they likely won’t do it “after the fact” either.

Having sex is intimate, and it can be intense. Someone you're just getting to know should be able to make eye contact with you before tearing off your clothing. If not, he or she might be too nervous to tackle the task. If you sense that’s the case, have a chat.

Everyone wants to date someone who looks good, but who doesn’t seem so pulled together that it seems fake. You want a lover who looks like he or she can have fun getting messy and dirty, but who also respects themselves enough to polish their shoes before you two meet up.

If you get a responsible “I take care of myself” vibe from him or her, it’s likely he or she will know how to respect and take care of you as well.

If they're nonstop flirting with you, that’s a clear sign of attraction, which means he or she probably wants to get to know you better outside, and inside, the bedroom.

Plain and simple: if he or she texts to ask how your day went or if he or she tries to understand how you’re feeling, they're probably going to be the type who’ll put in extra effort in the bedroom to get to know you, too.

No means no and no one should ever pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. If you're sensing this type of behaviour before you even hit the sheets, it might not be worth taking this person back to your bedroom.

The person you cozy up to should also stop doing something when you ask them to, without ’t questioning your motivations or asking why. If he or she listens when you say stop, he or she will also appreciate your feelings in the bedroom.

No one is perfect in the bedroom. No. One. But, someone new is bound to be a good sexual partner if they're free of judgment and make you feel comfortable in your own skin.

Body language doesn’t lie; in fact, 95 per cent of communication happens via unconscious cues. If you sense from him or her that there's something going on below the belt, you may be right.

No one wants to wind up in bed with a person who doesn’t move or who asks their partner to do “all of the work.” Though there are exceptions to this rule, one should be careful of partners who won’t help tackle daily tasks.

You should be able to relax around a person you’re going to get sexual with. If you feel good being you when you’re around him or her, that’s a tremendously good sign.