Wondering what happy couples do each and every single day? We spoke to Dr. Jess, Toronto’s sexologist, author of The New Sex Bible, and We-Vibe Education Ambassador, about how to create and maintain a strong, intimate relationship. Here, she shares the top ways you can make your relationship better today.
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Tip 1: Touch
Touch seductively when out in public. A peck on the cheek or brush of the thighs can go a long way to keep the flames burning.
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Tip 2: Change
Novelty is a universal human desire and the chemical reactions associated with the anticipation of the unknown will help to reignite the spark you first experienced in the early days of your relationship.
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Tip 3: Laugh
Laugh together as often as possible. It makes you more attractive and signals to your lover that you understand them. Reminiscing about funny memories is connected with greater relationship satisfaction.
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Tip 4: Ask
Ask questions that delve into part of their life you don’t know much about. Even if you’ve been together for 25 years, there is always more to learn and the act of sharing new information enhances an intimate connection.
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Tip 5: Fight
It's healthy to disagree, but it’s important to know what issues are resolvable and which ones you should let slide. You cannot resolve every issue to mutual satisfaction. Get over it.
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Tip 6: Compliment
In group situations, compliment and revere your lover. The social signal reinforces your attraction and bond.
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Tip 7: Eye contact
Make eye contact at unexpected times. Sit across from one another at a party or gathering and sneak a coy smile as you lower your eyes.
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Tip 8: Secret code word
Use a secret code word or phrase to indicate your desire for intimacy or sex.
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Tip 9: Be mysterious
Be mysterious. Intimate connection does not require that you reveal everything about your life to your lover. Some grooming rituals are best reserved for private spaces and getting dressed for date night in private can create erotic anticipation.
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Tip 10: Surprise
Surprise one another regularly with small favours. Whether you pick up his dry cleaning, wash her car or pack a lunch unexpectedly, unpredictable favours make your lover feel special and appreciated.
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Tip 11: Be gentle
Life gets hectic, stressful and intense. Every time you open your big mouth, think about how you can be a little more gentle.
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Tip 12: Admire
Admire your partner. If you’re frustrated or bored, think back to a time when you were really happy together and spend some time there in your mind.