10 Things Parents Hate When Their Kids Move Back In
If we've learned anything from this season of Manzo'd with Children, it's that having your kids move back into your home can be a major adjustment. Here are 10 things parents hate about having their children move back home ... as well as 5 things they love that make it worth all the trouble.
The childhood sibling rivalries continue, only with adult language.
When Albie gets into it with his sister Lauren about Albie's "interesting" new girlfriend, Brittany, Caroline is caught smack dab in the middle of their spat. Childish drama is unavoidable when its going on right under your roof.
Survival Tip: Don't choose sides. Encourage a resolution while remaining neutral.
One misconception many kids have about moving back in with mom and dad is that they will be getting a full-time cleaning service at their disposal. While some may even have learned how to clean up after themselves, your kids will often fall back on old habits when they move back home.
When the Manzo sons move back in, Caroline and Al are deeply disrupted when their sons behave like disgusting slobs.
Survival Tip: Lay down the law. Remind them that they are in your house and that they need to treat the space as a guest would.
Surprise Home Makeovers
Another misconception kids have about moving home is that they are free to experiment with renovating and decorating it.
Caroline was furious when Lauren decided to remodel Cafface beauty bar without her consent.
Survival Tip: Stop it dead in its tracks unless you have a room you are not using and are willing to donate to the cause. But don't expect professional workmanship ... or even a finished product.
They Eat Up All Your Food
Literally all of it. They can smell when you bring new groceries home, when you are cooking, or thinking about cooking, and when they come to greet you at the door to help you put away the groceries they have alterior motives in mind.
In Caroline Manzo's case, the kids can't help it because she is an amazing cook. From her delicious sauces to her chicken pot pie, the meals Caroline rolls out at Casa Manzo are impossible for anyone to resist.
Survival Tip: Get the kids in the kitchen. If they want an all-access pass to the pantry, get your boarders to cook a few meals per week for the household.
Meeting All of Their Awful Girlfriends and Boyfriends
When your kids move back home, you get to meet ALL of the boyfriends and girlfriends who walk into the picture. It's not just the "bring her home to mom" types, but even the ones you know are just passing through.
When Albie brings his new girlfriend, Brittany, home to meet the Manzo family, Caroline deeply disapproves.
Survival Tip: Give them the benefit of the doubt, then quietly cheer when it doesn't work out.
One of the biggest adjustments to be made when your kids move back in is the sudden lack of personal space. Not only have they accumulated a ton of new junk while away on their travels, they have no qualms about sprawling out and treating your home as their own again.
Al and Caroline's house rarely sees a quiet moment, and their vehicle almost always qualifies for travelling in the carpool lane.
Survival Tip: Claim a room or two as your own and ask them to stay out. This is your zen zone.
They Don't Wait Until to You Go Away to Have Parties Anymore
Young adults are very social animals and a clean, relatively large home is the perfect entertainment space for them to host for their friends.
With Caroline's side business ramping up, she needed peace and quiet to be able to focus and get some sleep, but her sons Albie and Chris had their own agenda.
Survival Tip: Retreat to the zen zone.
Their New Sense of Entitlement
They say that with age comes wisdom, but that is not always the case. Young adults think they know everything and they will share their (often misinformed) opinions with you whenever they feel like it.
Lauren, Albie and Chris are not the type to hold their tongues when they have an opinion about each other's or their parents' decisions. Luckily Caroline and Al take it all in stride.
Survival Tip: Take their comments with a grain of salt. They are merely testing out their new knowledge of the world.
They See You At Your Worst
One of the best perks of being an empty-nester is the ability to let loose like a teen again. You don't have to play the responsible role model anymore, so you can feel free to indulge and have fun. But when your offspring are still in the picture, they will bear witness to all of your 'adult adventures'.
When Caroline and Al knock back a few shots with the kids on their trip to Texas, Caroline hears all about her antics from Lauren the next morning.
Survival Tip: Relay the message: "Do as I say, not as I do."
They Still Want to Rebel
The thing about having grown-up children is that they'll still make stupid decisions, but you can't say boo about it.
When Albie gets a tattoo to "take control of his life," Caroline is very disappointed because he broke the family's No Tattoo rule.
Survival Tip: Let them assert themselves in everyday conversation so they won't feel the need to do anything drasitc.
On The Plus Side: You Get to Keep Watching Them Grow Up
Now that we've explored all of the negative aspects of having your children move back home, let's take a look at some of the awesome benefits of this arrangement.
First of all, it means you get to keep watching them grow up. Although they are young adults now, they are still growing into their complete selves and are still experiencing milestones everyday. There are plenty more important moments you might not want to miss.
Becoming Best Friends
Spending all that time together is bound to lead to some serious bonding. Just as having fun together strengthens your relationships, going through hardships and serious adult crises together will bring you all closer. Friendships with your progeny are unlike any other because you have gone through life together in every sense of the word.
You may think that having your kids around all the time would mean quantity over quality, but this simply isn't the case. You can still take those fun vacations together, have family dinners and just think of how much easier it will be to get everyone together for the holidays!