20 Secret Ways to Know if Your Date Will Be Good in Bed

Posted by Sarah Kelsey on September 8, 2015

Ever wonder how you can tell if your new love interest will be good in bed? There’s a way—several actually! Consider these 20 things before hopping into the sack with someone new.

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    They're a risk taker

    There is a slight adrenaline rush that goes along with having sex. We don’t mean that the person you get it on with should be a skydiver, but he or she should be willing to take (safe) risks now and then: like surprising you with flowers, a weekend getaway, or even changing up their career.
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    They've got moves…on the dance floor

    There is a reason that people think Spaniards and most South Americans are good lovers – it’s because they know how to move their hips and sway to a beat. It’s a general rule of thumb that if a potential lover can shake what their mama gave 'em, they’ll have rhythm in the bedroom, too.
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    They use their hands

    Pay attention to how your date touches you, even while you’re curled up on the couch. That will say a lot about his or her lovemaking style (and whether they know how to caress you in the most sensual and romantic ways).
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    They're trustworthy

    Knowing the person you’re about to sleep with is trustworthy is key to any successful sexual relationship. Do the deed with someone who you trust wholeheartedly (AKA you know they'll never bail on you or lie about their whereabouts).
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    They're confident…

    …But not cocky. Every good lover needs to have a little bit (and we do mean a little bit) of swagger.
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    They know how to savour a moment

    Sex is something to be enjoyed, not rushed through. If someone new you're dating takes the time to enjoy life’s moments, even if it’s watching a movie with you, they’ll appreciate hanging out in the bedroom (and working hard to make sure it's just right).
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    They're ambitious

    Getting to know what works for a woman is work. Generally speaking, if he or she’s a go-getter in life, they'll be keen to tackle the ins and outs of what makes you happy and what makes you tick.
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    They enjoy life’s pleasures

    Having sex is a pleasurable experience, one that’s to be enjoyed. A sign of a good partner is that they enjoy the many wonderful things that life has to offer – from digging into a delicious meal to sipping on a glass of wine.
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    They compliment you

    The last thing any girl wants to do is wind up in bed with someone who doesn’t appreciate her body for the masterpiece it is – love handles and all. If he or she's not complimenting you before you hit the sack, they likely won’t do it “after the fact” either.
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    They hold your gaze

    Having sex is intimate, and it can be intense. Someone you're just getting to know should be able to make eye contact with you before tearing off your clothing. If not, he or she might be too nervous to tackle the task. If you sense that’s the case, have a chat.
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    They dress well (but not too well)

    Everyone wants to date someone who looks good, but who doesn’t seem so pulled together that it seems fake. You want a lover who looks like he or she can have fun getting messy and dirty, but who also respects themselves enough to polish their shoes before you two meet up.
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    They're responsible

    If you get a responsible “I take care of myself” vibe from him or her, it’s likely he or she will know how to respect and take care of you as well.
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    They flirt with you

    If they're nonstop flirting with you, that’s a clear sign of attraction, which means he or she probably wants to get to know you better outside, and inside, the bedroom.
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    They ask about you

    Plain and simple: if he or she texts to ask how your day went or if he or she tries to understand how you’re feeling, they're probably going to be the type who’ll put in extra effort in the bedroom to get to know you, too.
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    They don’t pressure you

    No means no and no one should ever pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. If you're sensing this type of behaviour before you even hit the sheets, it might not be worth taking this person back to your bedroom.
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    They stop things

    The person you cozy up to should also stop doing something when you ask them to, without ’t questioning your motivations or asking why. If he or she listens when you say stop, he or she will also appreciate your feelings in the bedroom.
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    They don't judge

    No one is perfect in the bedroom. No. One. But, someone new is bound to be a good sexual partner if they're free of judgment and make you feel comfortable in your own skin.
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    They have good body language

    Body language doesn’t lie; in fact, 95 per cent of communication happens via unconscious cues. If you sense from him or her that there's something going on below the belt, you may be right.
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    They're not lazy

    No one wants to wind up in bed with a person who doesn’t move or who asks their partner to do “all of the work.” Though there are exceptions to this rule, one should be careful of partners who won’t help tackle daily tasks.
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    They make you feel comfortable

    You should be able to relax around a person you’re going to get sexual with. If you feel good being you when you’re around him or her, that’s a tremendously good sign.
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