wedding blog: how to handle groomzilla
Yes, there is such a thing as a groomzilla, grooms-to-be that are overly involved and will throw tantrums if they don't get what they want. Just like bridezillas, they go overboard and obsess over every little detail of the wedding planning. Wedding vendors panic when they see their numbers on the call display and hide when they see them enter their store.
Gone are the days when grooms took a back seat when it comes to wedding planning, but in today’s metrosexual society, men are paying more attention to aesthetics and dreaming of the perfect day. However, as with bridezillas, there is a point when the obsession becomes too much and causes more stress and makes you more enemies than helps you progress in the planning. Earlier this week on Rich Bride Poor Bride, groom-to-be Samir gave us a glimpse of what it's like dealing with a groomzilla. They really exist! So, how do you deal with a groomzilla on the prowl?
First, test him out and see if he is really that into the wedding details, or if this is just a power struggle. Bring him to a bridal show, make him sit there, and go over the hundreds of photos you’ve seen on the web and in magazines. Completely inundate him with everything wedding and see if he is still there at the forefront of the planning. You may see that, at this point, he'll be happy to relinquish all the planning responsibilities to you.
Assign a certain task that is meant just for him. Whether it's finding the perfect DJ or band or designing the perfect wedding invitation with your paper expert, this will keep Groomzilla preoccupied as he micromanages that specific task. That’s one less thing for you to do and something that will keep him busy and make him proud.
Appeal to his common sense. Sit him down and reason with him. Kindly and carefully explain to him that all that stress and agony that he's going through over the font of the monogrammed napkin will not matter in 10 years and will also probably be forgotten about anyway. Give him a reminder that weddings are supposed to be a positive and fun time in your lives and not a time marked by hysteria and panic.
Take the heat off. Take a day off from the planning every now and then so Groomzilla can relax. Indulge in a couple’s massage, get tickets to a basketball game, or something else you both enjoy.
Lastly, why not enjoy this time while you can? Think of other brides who wish their groom had any interest in the planning of their most special day. This groomzilla phase will only last for a little while and then before you know it, he'll be back on the couch without a care in the world except for the game that's on his big-screen TV.
Written by Rita Wong, Rita Wong Events http://www.ritawongevents.com
Rita Wong is a wedding and events planner and owner of Rita Wong Events. Based in Montreal, Rita also plans many weddings every year for brides living in Toronto and abroad. She is a dedicated follower of new trends and her goal is to give each bride a wedding that is fresh, unique, and a personal reflection of who they are. She now shares her professional insights with slice.ca.