Dos and Don'ts: Toasting the Mother of the Bride
Your mom has been your best friend and your biggest fan your entire life, and now, your devoted wedding planner. Being a helpful and big part of your very special day (and life), you want to make sure she knows, and everyone else knows how much she means to you and how much you appreciate her. Your wedding day will be all about you, but you know that without her being there for you, it would never be the same.
Sometimes, we take for granted that we have a guardian angel taking care of us and making sure we are happy and safe. Having mom helping to create and share our wedding day is not just important to the bride, but is very special and meaningful to mom too. So, let’s not forget how much mom has done for us through the years and up to our wedding day and beyond, but also remember that your wedding day is a very sentimental day for her too. Toast your mom and let her know she is very precious to you.
Here are some dos and don'ts for toasting the mother of the bride:
Do: Prepare in advance. Think about what your mom (if you’re the groom, your future mother-in-law), represents to you. Start this at least a few weeks prior to the wedding and allow yourself time to feel the emotions that come when you think about your mom and note these to later formulate your speech. You may recall moments shared between you and your mom years ago and use these as stories in your speech to express what your mom means to you.
Do: Start your speech by addressing your mom with her name. Then acknowledge what she has taught you, how she shaped you into who you are today, and what lessons she has taught you to carry forward in your new life. Of course, thank her for the time and support she has given you with the wedding planning as well, if this is the case.
Don’t: Read off a piece of notepaper. This is a heartfelt speech and even though you may be nervous and feel like you need to read off a piece of paper, forget it and just speak from your heart. Keep it short and sweet.
Don't: Make jokes. Toasting the mother of the bride, whether you are the bride, groom, or someone in the wedding party should be kept tasteful and not contain potentially embarrassing or off-colour jokes. It's an emotional time for a mom to see her daughter get married and have to "give her away." This is a day to reflect on the relationship and love between mother and daughter. She has hoped for this day to be perfect for her little girl, so let her know that her hard work and loving support is appreciated.
Celebrate mom and let her know that this day, in part, is her day as well. Besides, who better to share the day with than your new hubby and your unconditionally loving mom?
Rita Wong is a wedding and events planner and owner of Rita Wong Events. Based in Montreal, she also plans many weddings every year for brides living in Toronto and abroad. She is a dedicated follower of new trends and her goal is to give each bride a wedding that is fresh, unique, and a personal reflection of who they are.