Do you think marriages that last 40, 50, or more years are a thing of the past?
Not of the past, but they are getting more and more rare. People these days are not as patient, and as soon as the first years passion goes away, and you end up in a routine, they panic, and leave each other.
Not ever because I know it's cliche but 'if it's lust I think it will fade, and if really love it just lasts.
Hi all, I have MANY friends who are at the 25+ years of marriage - not that all the years are great but they know that the grass is not all greener at the other side. I think that it's important to realize that it's not always perfect, I now actually like the man I am with - we are at the 6 year mark- we have fun together, but are still pursuing our own interests and support each other, I look forward to many fun years and to our commitment to each other for the remainder years.
I've heard people say that you have to get married three times before you get it right. This is something that I don't agree with. I think that a lot of people are to quick to get married, or they don't work out their issues before tying the knot. Marriage is a huge commitment that you should stick with and not something you should jump into just because you can. I've heard someone say, "he's a slob!!" Well you married that slob so stick with it.
They are definitely an endangered species. I don't think that people are impatient but the economic dynamic has changed which I think is the biggest reason that marriages break-up. I have a list of reasons to call it quits, all hinging on him to do something, anything to show any interest in making a go of it... and he's as over this marriage as I am. But I'm not the one secretly calling a teenager all the time... dumb*ss.
Ugh... forever marriages are DONE. Honestly, why stay with someone if you're unhappy? The truth is - we are all ANIMALS, who's purpose on Earth is to eat, breathe, f*ck and PROCREATE... with the most desirable of our breed possible. Society has placed value on monogamy, to the point we try and believe it's what we've been built and programmed to do. I wish people could liberate themselves to realize what a narrow-minded and hopeful belief it is to expect people have sex with a single person for ever and ever amen based on a scrap of paper. Staying with someone because you should "stick with it" or "make it work" is soooo noble of you, but is it worth it? Go be happy and screw the poolboy. (and yes, this is coming from a woman.) That being said, sadly I live in Canada. I should really move to France. *sigh*
Marriages that last 30 or more years are not a thing of the past, but almost a dream. If you are a newly wed, you are obviously either are madly in love with your partner, or you're using them to get to something you want. Real love is what people want. A person that will treat you just right. But these days partners like that are definitely hard to find. So we hope that we'll get that far but hardly ever do. Unfortunately people want an upgrade after ten years. Someone younger, hotter and fresh off the press. So they get tired of their old model and decided to upgrade. Either going behind your back and having an hot, exciting affair or completely ending it. But when partners decided to split it's not simple. Either it's a huge argument and fighting over possessions or one of the involved get's their heart broken into a million pieces. Love can last forever but do people really want to love the same person forever? Is that the reason why it doesn't last so long anymore? Love that last forever is nice but having a variety and exploring your options is almost more intriguing. So if the love ends end the relationship.
It's all in the way society shapes us. We LOVE to consume and own ... clothing, food, music, ppl. Once u'r done u discard it ...the media teaches us that we can get better bigger and cheaper...and it gets into all aspects of live. Besides, from many of the comments on this side it becomes obvious that we have a pretty unrealistic idea of how love should work. If it's love it will last = WRONG. U need to work on everything and improve in order to keep the good you have. If u love a hobby or or have an interest u need to learn and improve ...that's how relationships work too; it doesn't matter whether it is your parents, your child, or your spouse. R u gonna give up on them if they mess up...or r u gonna sit down and say: "K this isn't working let's figure it out." Nothing is ever easy but we r taught that it should be...but quite frankly where is the challenge in that?
NO!! How could someone think that u just need the right person and a great sex life! Duh. Like my husband and I i`m 29 and my husbands 32 and we are still going strong. We`ve been together 5 years my be short but we plan on being together 4ever.
Oh boy, this is quite an opinionative topic, not to say that anyone's would be wrong because all have their own opinions. Mine being it can really differ... I think that long marriage are possible, do agree that nowadays they are far and inbetween but that's due to the fact that divorce is not taboo anymore as it used to be and as it is accepted more it has become more frequent. That being said I think a lot of people jump to the option of divorce for an easy out instead of sticking around and trying to work out issues which I think all should do first. Again, that being said if one isn't willing to try then it becomes increasingly difficult as it takes two to make a relationship work. Another point to be made is that I also don't believe marriage is something that should be jumped into. Good for those who believe it's a morality issue and feel that they HAVE to but I don't feel that they give themselves the proper time to understand if they're best suited for one another. I don't think there is anything wrong with notbeing monogomous as long as both people are ok with this obviously..however I don't think as human beings we can survive without someone around to love and care for you so if you find that right person to commit to then lucky you, and there's a good chance that you can make that work for a longterm commitment if both members work hard to go through all tests and trials because there will be that down the road.
Long term marriages are a thing of the past unfortunately. We live in a society that is focused on immediate gratification and many people think of "me" first.I was married for 25plus years with the intentions of being married forever. Unfortunately my ex didn't think the same way. He thought he upgraded...you know...younger woman...better job etc. Personally I think he downgraded, but that's his issue to deal with....And contrary to poP***r belief, while the actual divorce document is easy to acquire a divorce is both very difficult to manoeuver through and it is extremely costly for both parties.No one wins in divorce.
They are definitely dwindling but not at all gone. I still know many older couples who have been together for decades and decades. I feel that people do not work as hard at their relationships as they used to (although I definitely believe that divorce is a positive thing when there are really irreconcilable differences). Marriages are hard work. I think people need to BELIEVE in romance and remember that many people are still together forever. If you're lucky, it will be you.To the non believers: If you don't believe it, it's never going to happen for you.
While long term marriages are the exception not the rule, they do happen. My in-laws are at 48 years, my husband and I at 25 years and we are still going strong. Why? Patience, acceptance and delight in each others change and growth, excellent communication, honesty and common goals. It helps that we like talking to each other and we support each others dreams. When I married my husband I was a high school graduate. Now I am a Masters student and I could not have done it without his support. And he went from working for someone else to owning his own business, We have helped and supported each other in going after our dreams. Life is wonderful, and marriage makes it even better. I look forward to 25 more years together!
I have been married 41 years this Oct. And number one is communication. I was told by my mother that marriage is like a roller coaster..you have your ups and downs and there are more downs then up'sAnd that is what I always told my girls, and if you ever want to make a show on the up's and down's on a not rich..mob cook or bunch of kids let us know. We have no money no mob connection no triplets and so on. Just an average family with many up's and down's. Just a normal family with 3 generations. What a show!! We do need a job lol 905 227 7289
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