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Ok I know all about STDs and how easy it is to get pregnant. I am 22 years old, not 16 so I don't even have age as an excuse. But there have been times when I certainly have forgone the condom. I've only been with 3 guys. The first two I used condoms with at first and eventually once we were more into the relationship and comfortable and we had discussed things, we didnt use them any more. (But I am soooo religous about the pill, I never ever miss it. The thought of missing it horrifies me!) Anyway the third guy that I have ever been with I started seeing a few months ago. I am sorry to say we have slept together a whole bunch of times and we have never used a condom....I know, I know!!! But we talked about everything before we had sex and we both had recently been tested....but for all the younger girls out there...unless you are totally sure use a condom and the pill or else don't have sex!!!!

Yeah, mostly because we didnt have one but also because it feels better for both partners without one ... however, everytime I have done so it has been with someone I am in a longterm relationship with and we have talked about it and the consequences.

for all the peolpe shaking there heads right now, I know. I havent used a condom many time just for the simple reason that i didnt have one.many times i just didnt care about what happen tomorrow.. Now that my thinking has changed alot in the past years i think back i horror and wonder of what could have happened.

For anyone reading this who is having sex and doesn't use condoms because they just didn't have them: buy some TODAY and keep them in your purse AT ALL TIMES! This is for all the young girls out there reading this. If you're not convinced, go to Google images and type in "STDs"...

I hate saying it but many times I have forgone the condom just because I didnt have one or was too drunk and one thing leads to another. You really do have to be careful, I have been lucky so far, I am in an area well known to have the highest STD rate in the country and that worries me, I get tested frequently but you can never be too careful. I have caught an StD, not from a one night stand or a random stranger, but from a boyfriend I was with for 5 yrs. I never cheated on him and I trusted him, so seriously be careful, some are cureable but not all of them, and if your not ready for a baby there is nothing worse then finding out your pregnant.

I NEVER went without! I wasn't even all that concerned about getting preggers, I just HATED the thought of having one of "those" diseases. I would hate to have to warn all my partners that I had an STD. Although since being with my fiance for over 2.5 years we do not use condoms. We trust each other and so cheating isn't a question. To control getting preggers I am on birth control. But never never never would I have EVER dreamt about not using one when I was dating and not settled down with 1 guy!!

I am in a long time commited relationship and I trust my boyfriend entirely. I have just recently graduated from high school and I don't use condoms anymore. I am a firm believer in the pill and it has not lead me wrong yet. STDs are most certainly not a problem with us because we never slept around.

I am in the sex trade industry I suppose you would call me a "high class call girl" and so I have 2 sides of the story to divulge.

1- In the industry, I have never done anything without a condom and often use something with spermicide "just in case".
I have in the past had clients whom I've seen for an extended period of time, and exclusively, and we came to an agreement that with both of us being tested we could do certain activities without protection, at their own risk.

I get tested every 3 months or more just to be safe, although with any sexually active lifestyle, they recommend getting tested EVERY YEAR minimum.

2- In my personal life I have been more foolish than I ever would be with my professional life.
In long term relationships I generally desist after the first month of intimacy, (and of COURSE mutual testing) however I have had stupid moments in the past (haven't we all?)
Generally I find alcohol to be the excuse for "forgetting" to use condoms. So far I have been lucky, but I know others who have not.

I know of a girl in the industry who's personal sex life was very timid... only 7 partners in 27 years. Once, she had an affair with a European gentleman who gave her herpes. This was personal, not work...

SO far I've found the dumbest decisions that are made are usually personal, in the moment, and often times with the influence of some kind of substance (be it drugs or alcohol.)

My advice is to always keep an extra condom in your wallet. Even if it's melted and old, it's better than nothing.
Better safe than sorry.

They say AIDS was tracked down to 1 woman, a flight attendant who had 8 partners. It only takes 1 mistake to give you lifelong regret.

Me and my boyfriend are in a serious relationship. Both of us have been tested for STD's and came out clean. We see us having a future together and dont see the need for it 100% of the time. We do use them but not every intimate moment.

sometimes i have used condoms, other times i havent, but im on the pill and i take it almost perfectly. I only have sex with my current boyfriend of half a year and we dont use condoms anymore. He still gets worried sometimes but so far nothing has happened, good old pill :)

Sex without a condom because you got so drunk? Look up the info on FASD!

You don't have to be the "type" to sleep around to get an STD. In fact, you don't even need to have had intercourse at all. HPV can be caught by genital sexual contact/rubbing. One night I had too much to drink, got too close with someone, told him I was a virgin and didn't want to have sex...while we were hooking up though, he slipped one past me (hazards of wearing a skirt). As soon as I realized he was in me (which took about 10 seconds given my inebriated state), I got away from him and left. I then tested positive for HPV (had tested negative only a couple of months before this) so I know it was him. And out of ALL the gazillion strains, I happened to catch one of the few "bad" kinds...and ended up a couple months later w/ small warts that though tiny, have recurred as I have a poor immune system. They can be a b%ch to get rid of. BE CAREFUL. I dread having to explain this to a potential partner without him making assumptions...

My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months now, and stopped using condoms after about the first 3 months of being sexually active. I was his first partner, and he was my second (the was with a condom), and I have been on the pill for about a year and a half.
We had a discussion and decided that with the amount of times we have sex per day (at the time it was up to 7) using condoms was impractical, and we both felt comfortable that we weren't carriers of any STI's.
Our agreement includes if I miss a pill, I obviously will let him know and we'll use condoms for the rest of that month. That happened recently, and so we used condoms and I must say.. after not using them for so long, the sex definietly doesn't feel the same.
All of this being said, I am definitely an advocate for condoms AND the pill until you are in a serious committed relationship with someone who you trust completely.

My (recently ex) girlfriend and I were together for three years and never used a condom. It felt great, although that's far short of a reason not to use precaution. In hindsight, it was pretty stupid. But also in hindsight, I think there may have been something wrong with her reproductive system.

i have done some horrible things, due to being under the influence but that is how i met my current boy foriend of 8 months and we have both been checked, turns out we are both clean. but that does not happen in all cases, we did use a condome the first time but we have also known eachother for 6 years. some people would not be so lucky..

Reading all these comments as a 16 year old teen girl. Is kind of scary and helpful. I have been a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years and we really want to have sex, I am about to start the pill and thought that now we wouldn't have to fuss over the condom but I never put the thought of diseases would ever be an issue! It doesn't matter how much they say to you in health class it's your own decision!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sS8FvFfkc6c

Can I just say that when people say that they "have been tested" it doesn't mean they are "clean". Herpes and HPV cannot be tested for unless you have symptoms, and over 70% of cases are contracted from a partner who doesn't show symptoms and who may never have had symptoms.
Keep it in mind and be willing to accept the risk.

pill AND condom, always
ALWAYS

Me it was with mi bf's older brother! bahahaha ya I think it was wayyy better cuz mi and his 2 broz r like all cowboyz!!! ya we were just wayyy 2 lazy 2 put one on!!! bahahahah so ya and we were like stone cold sober man it was asowem! YA I'm in 2 red necks gots a problem???? awe lolz jk oa and mi bf found out about it 2 and he didnt care he was like "Atlest it wasent someone I didnt 2 then I would be piss off" So right there he just gave me a pass 2 ALL his friends AND his brothers I think! bahahahaha lmfao! :D

Yup ,sure did like an idiot. Got super smart when my mom came home and told me that she had AIDS. So for the rest of her life and mine, and her grandkids we are reminded daily, about condoms and the fact that she is dying right in front of us. It's not a joke anymore, its a reality.

i make sure i use one with guys i dont know very well .. but with my recent ex we didnt use some sometimes just cause it feels so much better without it .. but then again we were dating for over 2 years so i trusted him and i was on the pill

Me and my boyfriend are in a long-term relationship so we don't use condoms but what is REALLY bad is how we met. WE were virtual strangers and had a one night stand WITHOUT a condom...thank gawd he ended up being clean and we ended up staying together for 3 years.

Okay well besides everyone else who has written here I am not on the pill...I don't like pills..I know its bad!! But if I get pregnant I get pregnant it was something that was meant to happen

but yeah I guess its one of those moments where if we dont have a condom why ruin the moment...
I trust my boyfriend and we both are certain we're clean. I've been with him for 9 months now. We've discussed getting pregnant and are fine with it. If it happens t happens..

I did once the second time having sex with a guy. I did it because I wanted to get pregnant without the relationship or financial dependency aspect. I knew I became pregnant that second time (the time without condom) so I never saw him sexually after that day. May seem wrong to you, but we all do things that not everyone agrees with. I got a beautiful baby girl out of it, and thank goodness no STD's.

my cousins friend has unprotected sex at a very young age. she uses birth control pills and she is not over 17! her bf says that its better without one so she goes along with that. she had many times which she gotten pregnant. i dont think this isreally smart, what if she gets pregannt again ?!?! what is she going to do with the kid?! shes only a preteen!

Ladies Please!!! Age does not matter when it comes to having safe sex. Comfort in the relationship is not an excuse to not "wrap" it up. If we cared as much about ourselves as we do for our pets, mother, sister or what the cashier thinks about us when we pull out pennies to pay the difference on a bill....we would be protecting ourselves and our children from STD's, pregnancy or even just a simple bladder infection. I am passionate about this for so many reasons, and I truly hope that this comment does not upset anyone but rather just make them see where I am coming from for just a moment.

I get UTIs with condoms. My boyfriend snd I have been together for 5 years, we are completely committed. I get tested yearly regardless, and I insist he get tested. I heart the NUVAring

with my first boyfriend we used a condom religiously(wouldnt allow him to without one).my one night stand with my best guy friend no condom but he was tested before that and my hubby we did but found out i was allergic to latex so no more condoms for us

Yes. I am in a long-term relationship with a man who did not have sex with anyone before me. We do not use condoms because I am on the pill, and we have both been tested for any sort of transmittable diseases. Because of this, I don't see the necessity of a condom.

Are you all kidding me?! We do not use condoms because I'm on the pill?! These are the same dumb girls that get pregnant and get upset and wonder how it happened. NO form of birth control is 100% effective. You shouldn't fall back on using the pill, you should be using more than one form at all times! Birth control, condom, and spermicide! "He says it feels better without"... well then tell him that sex with a condom is probably better than sex with his own hand and he should just deal with it.
"We have sex at least 7 times a day".. first of all, who are you kidding? Secondly, that number will go down REALLY fast when you have to take care of the baby you will probably have.
Contact the AIDS society or a Teen Health Centre.. you can get as many condoms as your heart desires for FREE!
So many of these stories make me shake my head. All of you girls that don't use a condom every time, no matter what your reasoning, give women a bad name and are the reason why men don't think they should have to use a condom everytime.

all the girls that are saying "we don't use one cause i'm on the pill" DO NOT DEPEND ON IT!!!! i was on the pill AND we always used condoms, but i STILL ended up pregnant!!! we were not ready to have kids but it happened anyways, we thought we were being safe but please remember: the pill is NOT 100% effective, even if you use it perfectly!!! I was a birth control baby and so was my bf so maybe i'm just more fertile or something, but girls do not chance it!!!

A few years ago I had just turned 40 and lost 44 pounds. Due to the extra weight and self-esteem issues due to the extra weight, I had been hibernating a bit. Once I felt good about myself again, I began dating for the first time in 5 years and threw caution to the wind despite the fact that I have a teenage son and I have talked to him repeatedly about safe sex. Hormones can affect you at any age and I became stupidly caught up in the moment. Even at 40, I was not only worried about stds but also an unplanned pregnancy (the thought of one child getting his driver's license and another in diapers didn't thrill me) so the morning after, I went to a walk-in clinic and got a prescription for the "morning after" pill. The doctor at the clinic told me that my chances of actually getting pregnant at my age were slim but I didn't want to chance it. I wouldn't recommend the morning after pill as a regular birth control method but I am thankful that it was available when I needed it. By the way, the side effects of this pill made me extremely nauseous to the point where I was in bed all day and that gave me plenty of time to think. Now even with the effects of menopause upon me and knowing that my child-bearing years are behind me, I am practicing safe sex..when I get my handbag ready for a night out, amongst the extra cash, lipstick, powder and keys are condoms.

I have a really hard time beleiving that everyone uses condom almost all the time. Guess know one wants to publicly admit to not using them and becoming pregnant.

im 22 and im married since i woz 16 and only eva been to bed with my hussbend but one nite afew weeks ago i statd F***ing around b hind hes bk and i loved it but been haveing 2 much cook and fun i for got comdoms and now im worrd have i got something

i am on the pill and take it PERFECTLY. i am in a serious relationship and we have sex about 5 times a month. we use condoms about 50% of the time but sometimes we don't and he never cums inside me. i know the "withdrawal method" isn't very effective, but paired with the pill i think it's a lesser risk. we don't use condoms all the time because it doesn't feel that good for us, but during the time in the cycle where there's the most risk, we use condoms.

I have been having sex for 4 years now and for 3.5 years i havent been using condoms! WTF IS THE POINT? if you know your both clean and you know the "withdrawl method" then your fine! I havent gotten pregoo...Honestly i have stacks and stacks of condoms and never use them. For the ppl that say the pill works...its bull...Because i know so many people that got prego off the pill so have fun with that suckers!

Yes i have, two of the guys i didnt havce to worrie about getting knocked up beacuse they were stearal and then the other two i didnt becasue i am on B.C. and well it didnt work well b.c i am prego right now. but we llove eachother so.

My husband and i were eachothers first he was 19 and i was 17 when we got married, we used condoms before we were married but now its kinda pointless, we are on our 4th child and he's going in for a visectomy!

Me and my hubby both agree the experience more intamite and pleasing with out a condom its more natural and exiting. Although with past bfs i never didn`t went without one.