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Should you tell her?

Is there something you feel you should tell a friend that will hurt her feelings? Will you do it?

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I want to divorce.
I do and I've been thinking about it for a lontg time. I know it has to end, we don't get along, I don't love him anymore and even thought I'm smart and young... I'm a codependent.
I can't do it and it's a horrible feeling.

Anna
Tuesday, 05 May 2009 18:06 PM EST

You're deluding yourself if you think that you and your boyfriend are going to last. You go from telling me how he never introduces you to his family, to how you spy on his calls and texts, to suddenly you're going to get married in the future and how you're so sure he's "the one"? Your relationship is drama, not lasting, just break up and get back to reality. Will I tell her? Probably not.

Mariesl
Wednesday, 06 May 2009 08:52 AM EST

I was young and stupid. I said "I Do" for all the wrong reasons and been hating it ever since. I dont want to fake it anymore. My marriage is a jail cell for me. How the Heck do you ask for a divorce? Over breakfast? "Hey babe, I want a divorce"?

I want to do it But I cant bring myself too

Secret
Saturday, 09 May 2009 01:51 AM EST

Your boyfriend is a loser. You have bad taste in men who use you and live off you and your hard work. He has no ambition, goals and has never worked a day (let alone a hard day's work) in his life.

He is only trustworthy to not steal or cheat on you because you give him all your money, attention and every demanding wish.You even let him abuse your friends generousity and kindness. True love is about compromising, committed and respecting each other as individuals who want the best for each other. What does he do to better you?

You pretend to be afraid of confrontation and be overly sensitive but the truth is you know you're only with him because you would rather settle than be lonely

Undeniable Truth
Sunday, 10 May 2009 18:28 PM EST

Am I the first one answering no to this? I am completely honest with my bestfriend. If there's something I have to tell her, I do, I don't just hide it.

AngeLys
Saturday, 13 June 2009 22:24 PM EST

when ever i have a new guy my "friend" trys to make sure he wouldn't cheat on me by seeing how far he would let her go,
But i hate it she ends up looking like a .. well you know. and i cant find the right words to say STOP!

Ms. umm what now
Saturday, 20 June 2009 03:52 AM EST

You're extremely competitive and naive, and it's hurting our relationship. You always feel the need to one up me and it leaves me feeling like dirt whenever we really get into something for fun and you ruin it with your ego-swelling, suffocating competitiveness and poor sportsmanship.

I wouldn't tell her because she pretends to be oversensitive (never takes even the nicest form of critism well) and would probobly snap right back at me and list off ALL my flaws in a rude way, then later childishly try and apologize with an e-mail or something full of bad excuses, i.e. I'm PMSing" or "I just had a short temper today :(".

She's a good friend but sometimes I really can't stand her.

Sorry
Friday, 31 July 2009 00:08 AM EST

i whould of course, this way they dont have to find out the hard way, i mean when i was dating this guy and we were together for a few mounths he ended up cheating on me with my best friend and my older sister was there when it happend, she accually saw them doing it, and then the next day was my b-day and everyone was acting all weird and i was asking her to tell me, and she didnt then when he told me that same day i was mad as hell at my sister. but she said he should have told me but i thought if she knew then she should tell me. then that same mounth that girl he cheated on me was pragnent and my sister knew and it was his kid and she didnt bother to tell me or anything that was such a piss off. how could she not tell me those things? she is soppose to be my sister,
and when i found out that her boyfriend was going down to strip clubs and she hated that, i told her right away and she didnt belive me although my best friend told me that she was there and so was he,
u need to trust poeple and how the hell can you do that when they wont say if something is wrong??

trisha
Wednesday, 23 September 2009 15:07 PM EST

It depends on what it is and how close I am to the friend. I wouldn't want to interfere where it was unnecessary and inappropriate. Trisha you need to get a dictionary. ;

TodaysWoman3
Thursday, 12 November 2009 23:00 PM EST

I have a friend who is 50 pounds overweight. Her excuse: she's single and says that eating is the only physical pleasure she has in life. I never had the guts to tell her that this overindulgence is what's making her overweight and keeps her from finding a man in the first place. It's a chicken-or-egg situation.

Also, her behavior on my wedding day was kind of innapropriate. My husband and I eloped, and she was my witness. All day, she was pointing at other brides in the courthouse and the restaurant and saying "look how beautiful her dress is! are you sure you won't have regrets?" and scolding me for getting married in everyday clothes except they were white, because to her I was "wasting" my only chance to be queen for a day. Even if she knows I'm a bit of a tom-boy and hate fluff, and I knew since childhood that if I ever got married it would be a private affair. I never told her that her behavior was inappropriate. If she ever gets married, she'll do whatever she wants and I will stand by her. I don't have many friends and don't want to get angry at them for small stuff.

Juliet3
Tuesday, 16 February 2010 14:33 PM EST

i have a friend that is overly in love with her boyfriend, she buys him anything and everything he wants, as soon as he calls her to come over
and make food she is there in a instant and any where he wants to go he makes her drive
instead of being a man and driving!
she is probably the biggest push over i have
ever met in my life, she makes woman look bad and she would be proud to be a woman and stand up for herself, instead she wipped by her boyfriend who treats her like crap. she is blind and can't see she can do better, instead all of my friends have to sit there every single day and listen to her complain about the same story "___ did this""omg what a jerk" same ol' thing and every single time they are together drinking they end up fighting... how is that ever going to work! all of our friends DO tell her , but it doesn't help so we just give up!

=)3
Thursday, 18 February 2010 22:19 PM EST

This is what i would say, if I wasent afraid of hurting her fellings.
He is old and grous, lazy, he uses you, he brain washes you,YOU! complain about he dosent even have sex with you,he stoped working the minute you got married,he loves to put you down,you went to collage he didnt even finish 3rd grade,(again she told me this)and I am here to lisen to you as your friend, but I hate seing you the next minute, falling all over him, its mad I dont understand you, and You are so pretty and funny and nice, WHY ARE YOU WITH HIM? You deserve so much more than that thing you have in your house.

bestfry3
Wednesday, 18 May 2011 15:56 PM EST

If I have a problem with a friend I tell them! Even if it upsets them it is better than letting things stew until they blow up! You don't have to be rude about it but it is better to be honest and deal with the issue and a true friend will understand that!

Lily
Sunday, 25 September 2011 22:05 PM EST

i have no friends

but i hate the way people talk to me.they do it coz they know they will get away with it. i wish i could stand up for myself but i never have the words to shut them up. i have no confidence

lonley
Friday, 07 October 2011 13:22 PM EST

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