I would punch myself in the kidneys if that happened. Babies are cool.

Been there, done that - delivered a beautiful gift! Chose to make the decision to keep on my own and informed him when my child was 6 months. He chose to have no part - I left that decision u to him. She is now 11 years old and I have solely supported her. We have completed my education together, moved out of province and back together (for purposes of finishing my education) and we survived my leukemia together. I do not agree to not tell, BUT, is entirely case by case dependant.

I think you are way way way way out of line. You should tell him right now. I would never leave this childs life up to you.

Who made you QUEEN? What a selfish thing to do. You got to give the man the scoop as soon as you find out. If he's a man he would step up to the bat and be a "someone" in the childs life. If not, atleast you were honest about it, and probably feel better about yourself in the long run.

I've never been one for a one night stand but if I was dumb enough to not use protection and then got pregnant, I'd try and tell the guy and get his opinion on hte situation.

if your on your fist date make the man do all the talking frist

Do guys expect girls to be very thin? Like in magazines?

I got pregnant only 3 months into a relationship. I told him he could elect to be part of the childs life or not, didn't need him or his money. Ladies, if you are not prepared to soley be responsible for raising a child you have no business having one. Children should never be a barganing chip. Should you become pregnant & decide to go ahead with the pregnancy the father absolutely should be informed.

I have 5 kids from 5 different men and they all left me because I have them and std. I dont know why they wont stay with me :(

I think when a woman reaches a certain age, her "clock ticks" . if i am 35 and am not in a relationship or married, i would have a one nighter in hopes of getting pregnant. i want to be a mother and i could care less if i had a man in my life, they just complicate things anyways. i have the support of friends and family!

Is anybody thinking about the CHILD here??? They are the most important thing and it sounds like you people dont even care about them. They did not ask to be brought into this world!!
Everyone deserves to know BOTH their parents. Just because the woman gives birth to the child and carries it for 9 months does not give her the right to keep the child away from its father.

think that you should tell the guy that your having a baby with the guy that you had a one night stand with he deserves to know thats if your sure hes the father of your baby dont just assume now make sure .....before you urself cause another problem..........

Tell the guy. If i was a guy, i would be SO hurt if the girl i had sex with didnt tell me i was the father of her child.

did this rlly happen?

♥ g'luck!

Two words...

BIRTH CONTROL !!!

go to see the movie knocked up

What do guys really expect on a first day?? Do they like norrow and thin?? Or do they like an ideal girl's wait?? I don't even know!!

Gwenth Massie

Since I was a young girl, all the girls in my class called me Nancy Drew The mystery sloving Diva!! Believe it or not, I went out with a TOTAL JERK!! I dumped him after screaming my mouth off!! Then 2 monthes later I find out i'm pregnant!! What do I do??

The Crime fighting Diva and the scared child inside!!

First i think anyone that planes on having sex should know the risks and shouldnt act suprised if they find out there pregnant.Second for ladies that dont tell the guy they are pregnant are completely dumb and have no right in doing so. Third guys that cant step up and be a man and raise there kid have no right in wanting to see them when the job is pretty much done aka them being older.Last but not least you cant realy on someone else to protect you protect yourself and no one is to blame for getting pregnant but yourself so to those ppl that are blaming the other get over it, its not gonna change what happened.

I had a one night stand while I was on vacation and got pregnant. I was in contact with the guy about a month after we hooked up. Eventually we lost contact and I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 3 months. I went through so much to find this man and considered abortion even though I did not believe in it. I had so much pressure from my family to keep the baby, give it up for adoption or get an abortion. Eventually I found him and I kept the baby and we kept in touch until I had her. When it was time to help he fussed and fought me about it. Eventually he decided to punk out and not help so I filed child support which took years. I filed because I am a firm believer that both people involved in creating a child should be responsible. It shouldn't have to be something that is forced, you should just do the right thing without a debate. Finally after 5 long years I am now recieving child support...it is not much, it barely pays child care expenses. Anyways...I am rambling, but that is my story. I didn't keep the birth of our daughter from him. He hasn't met her yet and part of me sometimes wishes that i did, because he blames me and everyone else for his problems of why he is not doing well. I hope that he can grow up and stop blaming others for the decisions that he has made in his life. We have all made the wrong step, but the key is to be responsible for whatever actions that you take. I am a better person because of my choice. I would've been scarred if I had an abortion or given my child up for adoption. I am not one to judge anyone's situation, but all I have to say is to be honest with yourself first and make your decision according to that.

Thank you for reading...May you continue to make wise decisions.

I ahve recently been told im going to be father after a one night stand i also dnt know whats going through my head or whether i would have rather not been told atall

Anonymous girl, you suggest being responsible means guys should pay support but it also means using methods to prevent pregnancy if you're only interested in a one-night stand. That responsibility is shared by the man and the woman. And, no, I'm not a guy.

I could use some advice. I am in a committed monogamous relationship with a man who is head over heels for me. We were planning a future when he received some alarming news. Before we ever met, months before, he went to a party, was drinking, and had a one night stand. They never saw or heard from each other again. Apparently, the girl became pregnant, had the baby, and never reached out to him until several days after the birth. So that's nine months because she was afraid to say anything- no word to anyone. Now that he knows he may have a baby (pending DNA test), he of course will be responsible, financially and wants to be a supportive dad. The catch is, he may relocate because of this. NO support network to where he is going, except for his need to do the right thing which I respect. How this impacts the 'us' part is unknown at this time. Do I relocate with him? leave my friends/ family? I love this man more than anything but smart enough to know to to relocate for emotional reasons. If he stayed with me, he could still be a part of the baby's life- planning trips, weekends, vacations and provide financial support. We don't want to be apart, but can't see myself going to the state in question. My roots have always been close to home. Because he regrets decisions in his past and by the way, has a child from a former marriage that he does not know where the child is, I feel the guilt is eating him up and trying to make up for the pain in his life. Like I said, we both say we were made for one another and can't see being with anyone else, but this is tearing us up...emotionally, we're torn. What do I do? What can I do? If I leave with him, will I regret it? Is it worth leaving it all behind so he can fulfill his desire to be a parent? We love each other, support each other, and do not want to leave. But he will go if the baby is his. One day we want children of our own, and can't help but think what's done is done, but it's time and money away from our own potential children...children that are born out of love and committment, and not a one night stand. In the end, he has to be responsible for his actions but for once in my life, would like to know the relationship is worth salvaging even as the stress and responsibilities build. Most days I say I will not move away staying close to my family/ friends, but feel this man is my life and love. I am really dazed and confused as to next steps and welcome some constructive feedback. Thanks in advance!

Women who have one night stands, get preggo, then find the father and charge him $$ for the next 18 years are the worlds best hookers. And dont tell me abortion is against your beliefs because if that were so, you'd also belive that it's wrong to be a dirty S*** who sleeps with a guy she doesn't even know.

Oh whatever.. a woman shouldn't have to have an abortion just because its going to make the mans life easier.

Both parties are responsible for using protection. What if the woman asks the man to wear a condom and he doesn't? (knocked up anyone???) What if she's on the pill and still gets pregnant?

The woman is expected to run down to the abortion clinic to make it easier for the poor man who gets STUCK paying 18 years of child support for a child he didn't want?? OH WHATEVER.

It takes two to tango and though the woman may be the one who bears the responsibility of carrying the child BOTH parties share equal responsibility to the child!

No, she should not keep it from him. He does have a right to know.

i am pregnant from a 1 night stand and dont know wether to keep it or not! Any advice would be good. No mean comments thanx, i beat myself up about it everyday and i dont need someone else doing it.

First of all to the people who are being A***s about one night stands it F***ing happens and I was on Birth control and still got pregnant I am 12 weeks pregnant with twins and the guy is being so supportive he is over to my house three nights a week and keeps buying stuff for the babies and makes sure i am doing ok he comes over and gives me back massages and rubs my growing belly...I was really scared to tell him and I can't say for sure if he will be there for me when the babies are born but as of right now I am so excited and prepared to take care of these babies on my own...but I am glad so glad i told the father :)

For the people preaching about the birth control, get a clue. I have found out the hard way that they are not 100% effective. After a one-night stand with a friend, I find myself pregnant because the condom broke. Yeah, I could've went and got the morning after pill, but it honestly didn't cross my mind until it was too late. He knows that there was a possibility of me getting pregnant and I'm still working up the courage to tell him. And he will be told. And what happens from there is his choice. I'm not asking and don't expect anything from him. Yes, we are both responsible for creating this life, but it is my choice to keep it. And I have no complaints on doing this on my own. But, to answer the question...yes, the father should be told. He has every right to know, just like I have every right to decide on whether to keep it or not.

I like the comment about what is right for the child. Well my one night stand (using birth control)baby will soon be 18 and I told her father he said that he wanted to be in her life and for the next year and a half I was cheated on, beaten, stole from, strangled and had a gun held to my head and when he finally did leave he took everything cleaned out my bank account and left the province, then dropped off the face of the earth. I raised that baby girl all by myself NO HELP of any kind and no contact from him! Yet I never said one bad word about him to her, I wanted her to make up her own mind. She met him a couple of years ago and he is a huge disapointment to her. He has 7 kids that he knows about and phones her drunk telling her how she is a disapointment to him because she has a boyfriend. She is an honor student, is already done her first year of collage while she was in grade 12, with two part time jobs and has her own car none of which he helped with everyone who has ever met her thinks she is a wonderful giving young woman who is polite and sweet.He took her out for dinner last year and proceeded to tell her how I ruined his life everything was my fault, he still blames me for the state that his life is in now. He told her that I am a horrible person and that he hates me. She came home so upset, she had told him that I never said anything bad about him and she couldn't understand how he could run me down like that. She has decided on her own that she wants nothing to do with this man.She can not stand him. Needless to say if I had just gone with my gut and not told him our lives would have been way better off.

This guy I knew was with his ex gf (who was asian) for one night when they were both in relationships. Her bf was causcasion and he was asian. She had gotten pregnant and realized after the baby was born that it had in fact was not her bf's child (kid came out FULL asian). She's calls the ex bf randomly one day and say "I just gave birth to ur daughter" Of course he drops everything to be a father to this kid, but refuses to get a blood test. The little girls lastname is still the bf's lastname but the "apparent" father refuses to have that changed to his own. The mother has since then decided she doesnt want to have anything to do with the child and has moved in with a new bf, who doesnt want the kid around. The "father" has busting his hump raising this child alone, stressin out, and taking all the frustrations out on his family and friends. In the end him and the mother dont see eye to eye and this child is being left calling random men daddy and calling her aunties mommy. I feel for the poor child she is so innocent.
I feel that if there is a pregnancy that it should be the responibility of the woman to discuss matters with ALL parties involved.

I could use some advice. I am in a committed monogamous relationship with a man who is head over heels for me. We were planning a future when he received some alarming news. Before we ever met, months before, he went to a party, was drinking, and had a one night stand. They never saw or heard from each other again. Apparently, the girl became pregnant, had the baby, and never reached out to him until several days after the birth. So that's nine months because she was afraid to say anything- no word to anyone. Now that he knows he may have a baby (pending DNA test), he of course will be responsible, financially and wants to be a supportive dad. The catch is, he may relocate because of this. NO support network to where he is going, except for his need to do the right thing which I respect. How this impacts the 'us' part is unknown at this time. Do I relocate with him? leave my friends/ family? I love this man more than anything but smart enough to know to to relocate for emotional reasons. If he stayed with me, he could still be a part of the baby's life- planning trips, weekends, vacations and provide financial support. We don't want to be apart, but can't see myself going to the state in question. My roots have always been close to home. Because he regrets decisions in his past and by the way, has a child from a former marriage that he does not know where the child is, I feel the guilt is eating him up and trying to make up for the pain in his life. Like I said, we both say we were made for one another and can't see being with anyone else, but this is tearing us up...emotionally, we're torn. What do I do? What can I do? If I leave with him, will I regret it? Is it worth leaving it all behind so he can fulfill his desire to be a parent? We love each other, support each other, and do not want to leave. But he will go if the baby is his. One day we want children of our own, and can't help but think what's done is done, but it's time and money away from our own potential children...children that are born out of love and committment, and not a one night stand. In the end, he has to be responsible for his actions but for once in my life, would like to know the relationship is worth salvaging even as the stress and responsibilities build. Most days I say I will not move away staying close to my family/ friends, but feel this man is my life and love. I am really dazed and confused as to next steps and welcome some constructive feedback. Thanks in advance!

hey dazed and confused if you love the guy does it matter. Please wake up it's hell to find the love of your life. If your happy with the guy what's the problem. Please. As for the pregancy issues yes the guy should know about the pregnancy. If he has any balls he will do what is right. If not well it's not the end of the world raising a child alone. Hey I did it. Sure life would have been easier having a little support but guess what life doesn't always work out the way we want it to. Today I am a strong woman, independant, confident, I know who I am and what I want. I travelled many paths and took alot of turns but today I am happy. My daughter is almost 20 and the best thing that could have happened to me. There is no other love like the love you have for a child. Sure some days I was tired but we made it toghether.

That is definately baby theft. That is just wrong not to tell the man, even IF it's a one night stand. It is in the end your decision whether to keep the baby or not because ur are not with the guy for life. But you should still see his insite on the situation and how he feels about having a baby. Also if you don't tell IT WILL EAT AT U FOR THE REST OF UR LIFE!!!

Tell the guy. Maybe the guy actually WANTS to have a kid !!! Maybe he's not in a rel & time is "running out" for him. He could have low sperm count & then all of a sudden he gets someone prego.

It's your choice to keep the baby or not anyway. It's you who's gonna carry the baby. He deserves to know. Hopefully the ones who find out that they're gonna have a kid are happy & not "Awwwwwwwwwwww why did this happen to ME???!!!" ing. Good luck everyone w/ your decisions everyone !!!

I had a one night stand during a short split with my then boyfriend,found out month later i was pregnant,happy as i already had a daughter but then i thought oh my god who's is it,my then boyfriend or from the one night stand??then when i remembered that i was feeling sick & had a very light period,so was happy thinking it must be my boyf's,had 2 scans which calculated also to be my boyf's baby,even though there was 2 wks difference.But i was 100% sure & followed my mind & heart & had a baby girl,then my worse nightmare came true....it wasn't my boyf's baby,i could just tell my looking at her for the first time....my heart stunk...i even said i don't want her...my mum didn't understand why i was saying that,she thought i was stressed out as my boyf wasn't supportive during the pregnancy.Now 4 wks later....i look at her & feel a mixture of feelings &emotions....love her 1 min...get angry the next,even see my boyf in her but know its not his,all in my head.Im scared to tell the truth as we already have a daughter together but we're not together as a couple....so mixed up & scared for my childrens future,everyone believes he's the dad,but i can't live that lie but so scared to tell,i've also got PND...im the only one to blame so not feeling sorry for myself,just so angry at mysetting myself in that situation & sooo angry that i truely believed in my heart that it was our baby.Now im trying my best to bond with my baby girl & keep telling myself that as long as im a good mum to her & that she has lots of love from me & my family that the 3 of us will be ok & that they won't hate me when they are old enough to know they have different dads.............bigest mistake of my life but i have something so special from it...just hope i can forgive myself.

Well what shocks me is the fact that no one has mentioned that some women plan this from a one night stand!!! They know when they are most fertile and then get the bloke they would like to pay them their manitenance! A good friend of mine was tricked in this way. His crime was being stupid with a beach wale, he said he didn't know how to say no to a women he worked with (just as some females don't) and they had a very quick moment. Unfotunatley she has since acknowledged her plan and wants him to have nothing to do with the child, other than csa payments of course!! Let's accept that not every women is innocent and that not all think of the child. When asked by a girlfriend why she didn;t have an abortion her reply was that she couldn't have another one and that this was what she had wanted. This women has tried to ruin my friends life and attempts to gain sympathy, my friend on the other hand is viewed as a pig-simply because he is male. I hope that she has a good explanation for this child and she is the victim of an awful selfish game.

By the way I was not speaking of you "shocked" I know there are incidents such as yours and that is different! I wish you look and hope you stay strong-be a good mum and protect your children.
Good luck

To: Not to be judged...
Even though I would personally tell the father that I was pregnant if I ever were to have a one night stand, I don't think that you were necessarily wrong...
I mean people get scared and do all sorts of crazy things when their lives change dramatically... And each case varies from person to person for all sorts of reasons...
So, even though people are bashing you for being there and doing that; Most of them probably have never been faced with that particular situation at hand. So really, there is no telling what they would do when it comes down to it...

i had a one nite stand a few months ago and i never told him... he's in my group of friends but i havn tlkd to him i wudn even call him a friend... i had no intentions of getn pregs but he is 8 yrs older then me n loves kids... i had an abortion cos i knew it was the rite thing 4 me... i cud never tel him n i havn seen him since i found out im afraid wen i do end up being in the same room as him i wil tel him... im reali emotional over the whole thing still but i no it normal..reali hard decision to make... can anyone relate to this...

i don't know how i feel. me and a close friend (who's also more friends with my ex-boyfriend I met both of them forthe 1st time on the same night) got together one night very recently and weren't careful on more than one occassion during the night. Then a few days later we did the same thing again, and then for the next 2 days. We realised that there was a chance i could get pregnant so he mentioned i shud go get the morning after pill, but it wasn't really talked about that much. I went to the clinic and got one, but I haven't been able to bring myself to take it.... I really want a child you see. It's just sitting here, with me staring at it. We spoke about getting together recently but he says he doesn't want to, and I know he isn't particularly ready for kids so I don't know what this will do to him if I do get pregnant. Am I a really bad person? You see it felt so right at the time, we have got so close over the last couple of years but don't see each other in a long-term partner way. It is going to be a tense couple weeks till i can do a test. I don't believe in abortion, so feel strange about emergency contraception. Oh and that fact that I wanted children & my ex-boyfriend didn't ever want kids ever - that is the reason we split up.

I had a one night stand and yes got pregnant afterwards. It was an awkward and confusing time for me, I second guessed whether to tell the guy; considering i didn't know him, never wanted to get pregnant from him, and wasn't attracted to him in any way besides being overly horny...I thought about abortion but ended up keeping the child and telling the guy the day after I found out for sure (after leaving the doctors office) so I could get his thoughts about it and point of view. He was shocked and speechless which didn't offer much incentive to keeping it but i knew it was ultimately my decision. I did decide to keep the baby, after giving him some time to think about it and relax a lil (a month exactly) he told me it was unexpected but he wanted to help, and was happy. One night I thought I would be honest with him and told him if I was never pregnant i would never have talked to him again, because of this comment he stopped talking to me for a lil over 2yrs. Our child is now turning three in March and we've started talking now for a lil over 6mths(which is how I found out about the comment that drove him away)but after knowing him now for the short 6mths; He turned out to be very emotionally and verbally abusive and I know he is NOT the man I am looking for and sometimes wish I never told him in the first place but I guess it does help put to rest my wondering mind.
(I am so relieved there are other people like me in the world, this situation was so embarassing and unexpected for me; I know it takes two to tango and we should have used protection but sh*t happens.
I can honestly say now though that my Son is the best thing to ever happen to me, he saved my life and no matter how it happened; unexpected or expected, I believe someone sent him to me, to save me, to give me purpose. Just kind of a screwed up way for a child to be conceived.
I wish hope and guidance for every woman in this situation, it's hard but women are the stronger sex. We will prevail!! Peace & Love

This happened to me. I am involved with a girl whom i love to bits, i never ever cheated in my life until about 6 months ago when i was drinking. I told her to take the morning after pill. I woke the next day and felt absolutely awful. I went back and told my girl a week later wot i done, she managed to forgive me. Then about a month later i was informed that the drunken romp i had with the other girl has left her pregnant. Her friends say she had a miscarriage before and that she wanted a child. I am horrified, she's given me the option to stay away and have nothing to do with it. Butit's killing me. I wish she never told me it's torture. I don't know if i can stay away from my own flesh and blood but i dont want to hurt the love of my life with it being in her face for the rest of her life. If you think it would be better not to tell him then i wouldn't. It's all down to you're circumstances and his, u would know more than us.

First off, the child wasen't conceived in love. You'se were not going steady for long or got married. If you tell this man he will be in and out of you and your childs life wenever he wants. If someone comes along that you really love and you want to spend the rest of your life with this may cause a big problem for you. I think if a father would be better with a dad who's there always, not a sperm doner who will don't want it and could upset ur chance at a proper family life.

I'm only 16, and I'm 2 weeks pregnant after a one night stand with a guy who's moving to Spain to work in afew months. :S. I haven't told anyone yet, I'm too scared. I don't want to ruin his perfect new lifestyle.. with a baby? I'm defanately keeping the child.. I just have no idea how to tell the father. Bad timing :( I know it was as much his fault but I can't help feeling guilty as he's exited about leaving the

Help please? x

being 16 and pregnant is a big problem dear, not just because your body is too young for pregnancy but because how will you support the baby once he's out in this world. i know its bad timing to tell him, but you have to tell him and discuss what should you do about the pregnancy. discuss it with your family too. you are afraid to ruin the guy's lifestyle? i say you should be more afraid on what will happen to you with this pregnancy specially if you're not ready for it.

Just found out i am pregnant from a one night stand. we were both drinking. I tried to call him after, because i thought we might have had something. He avoided my calls until I left a message that i was pregnant. He called back and said abortion is the most logical thing to do. Turns out he has a girlfriend in a different state. I decided on an abortion. He gave me cash to get it done, but i was not able to that day . As of now, I am still pregnant, he thinks ive had an abortion, i have the cash. My abortion is scheduled in three days. The more time that goes by, the more i think about keeping it. Im 22, and have a big family support. theres just so much that i want to do in my life still, and I know this guy would give me a hard time if i told him i was keeping it. Still undecided...this is not how i imagined it...any advise? please be honest.

if you want to keep the baby don't let him convince you otherwise. While I think it is unforgivable to keep your pregnancy a secret from the father (props for doing the right thing), the decision to keep the baby is entirely yours. It is your body and ultimately it will be your life that is unavoidably altered. Just please keep in mind that being a mother does not have to keep you from attaining your goals. There are countless strong and determined women out there who became mothers at a young age and still managed to become very successful. Your child can be an incredible source of motivation. Good Luck!!!

I Think Im pregnant from a one-night stand but im only 15 .. no harsh messgaes please! i didnt want it to end up like this, and seein as he has a kid on the way already i dont think hes gonna be happy about it all, and i dont no wiether to hae an abortion im against them, i hate tha fact of havein one but im only younge. Fair enough its partly my fault and im ready to take responality for it because i cant blame it al on tha fella we both decieded to do it. and good luck to u all and think u should tell the men because tehy have a right to no !

that's impossible, it would never happen here, because im asian, no girl will 'stand' with asian guys, not even asian girls. thanks to white-washed society.

I had a one night stand, and found out I was pregnant with my friends boyfriends cousin. So yes he found out, and came over to talk. First thing was we were both speechless and he said I thought you were protected. You never asked, as much a memory serves me correct. Back to the shock, he said he will be their to support what ever decision I made. So that gave me though and I spoke with some of my family and close friends. They said what I made they would be their no matter what. But exception how this would hurt me in a lot of ways. This guy really had no intentions to help as he hooked up in a fast relationship and no more calls. So I knew what I had to do being an already single mom. So ladies and gents should not be judged on what can or did happen. As well on making their decisions. Their is reasons and not reason why we end up pregnant on a one night stand. And like reading through comments that not all protection can keep us becoming parents...

"mommy jun"
as i can see you are a mom so dont try to advice anbody not to keep there child when you have kids of your own..

i got pregannt at 15 and kept the baby and now he's 7 months and hes a true blessing the father is working and helpin me through everything.

It happened to me. When i was 15, a met a boy I really liked. It was summertime and I thought, why not? It wasn't like I'd ever seen him again. But instead of just having a little fun, I ended up pregnant, and never saw the guy again. It as been hard, because a lot of people have looked at me differently, but if you do get pregnant on a one-night stand, just know that it has happened to other people, and if you have some people that support you and your decisions about this pregnancy and the baby, you can do whatever you want!

I had a one night stand with a close friend. I just found out im pregnant. i just thought it was my ex boyfriends so I already told him it was his we have 2 kids together then when i got the ultrasound i found out it wasnt his and i talked to my friend and he admitted the condom broke but wants me to get an abortion. What should I do ???I already have 3 kids but really dont see me living with an abortion

This guy is only looking out for number one, himself not you or the baby. He doesn't really seem like a stand up guy by the looks of it. I wouldn't want someone like that to be a friend of mine. To be brutally honest... the baby is not at fault and shouldn't be punished nor denied into this world for yours and his mistake. Just think about it this way... what would you do without any of the kids you already have now? Can you picture youself without them? Everything is meant for a reason, no matter what choice you make!
Good luck with everything.

some of u people make me sick!!!!!!!! when u tell someone in a bad situation asking ur advice to abort her unborn child!! maybe u shud take a look at ur own lifes u disgusting animals!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Everyones situation is different and no one has the right to preach!!! ........best of luck wiv whateva ur desicion!.....and to the rest of the diks u make me sick and id love to meet u face to face to hear u say that stuff!!!!

I'de say if you think you're woman enough to be having sex & woman enough to make a baby than YOU should walk the talk. Take responsibility for your actions, stop bitching about the card you got dealt & how HE isn't there. I'm pretty sure you didn't climb on top... of yourself & get pregnant, & that's the exact reason why you DON`T open your legs up to just any little boy with a dick who tells you they LOVE U. how foolish can you be?.. but if you absolutely NEED to get a quick piece of ass than you live your life I'm sure we all know what happens when two people have sex that is the soul purpose of having sex is it not? Sure its pleasurable but I'm sure everyones parents or guardians have told you this THINK BEFORE YOU ACT! And if your irresponsible actions bring this not only are you changing your life but the life of your partner and your child on the way .. Dont cry about it if he's there he is if he's not than he's not the only one to blame! Grow up people ... Why would a respectable man want to be with some tramp he picked up one night? DONT HAVE SEX WITH JUST ANYONE! You're so lucky you're going to walk away with a child and not an STD .. some one had to say it.

Wow! I don't know where to begin except I had waited 1 year and 9 months from having sex because of a prior relationship I got cheated on and a medical condition I survived that about killed me. I promised myself a GREAT guy next time around before any sexual relationships. A male friend of mine of 20 years came into town-he plays in a band but have known him far beyond that, bands do nothing for me, sorry not into that scene- we talked and hung out but then I left and he kept in contact and asked me to meet up again 3 weeks later for dinner and shopping, etc. I got a room since I was meeting out of town and knew it would be late driving back but NO expectations and he knew as well. Things happened and I wasn't ready, I don't know why but I felt comfortable with him and allowed it as well he knew I had waited for Mr. Right almost 2 years and had no intention on anything happening. I am a month pregnant and honestly a miracle because I had severe medical condition that took my ovary and one tube away. I told him 4 days ago because a friend in town said I should, it was the right thing to do. I personally didn't and wanted to run and not say a word to him. He text me tonight and I didn't respond, I feel he will become a JERK! He freaked out on the phone when I first told him last week but said he wasn't mad at me nor could be. He knows my medical story of survival and I was honest in telling him I got checked from my doctor 3 days after sex in fear I might have a STD although he said he always uses condoms, makes me wonder why he didn't with me. He is clean, I am clean but pregnant and not who I would ever expect to be as a father nor the guy I thought I would wait almost 2 years to be with. The sex was well......not good, the worst, hahahha! sorry but being honest but not the point right? This is a tricky situation, he lives in LA, I live in Indiana. I have an ultrasound in 10 days, I told him I would contact him then, I want to be upfront and did so even getting checked for stds, although he kept saying he was clean, I still as friends didn't believe him but well he is and I am too. Ahhhhhh what to do? He made me comfortable, We have known each other for 20 years, we meet again and in some strange connection-we do joke about it but I am scared to talk about the baby, I am afraid of my expectations of him being an AHOLE to come true anyday now because I got cheated on with my ex twice. Trust with men is hard to build again but I know this person. He moved to LA 5 years ago, my family knows him very well too and visa versa. I guess question is what should I do? what should I expect and why do I want to run from him and not answer his calls, texts, etc, nor talk about it and is this just fear of the past and getting hurt?. I should be happy, I am blessed to be pregnant, overcoming medical odds. I have a great team of specialists and great insurance. Any advice?
-20 years of friendship :(

OK SO check this out...I just found out from a girl I met 4/5 years ago that I am the father of her child. WTF. 4 years ago..who does that! We met at a party, had "protected sex" and never have spoke since.

Literally this was minutes ago, and I am freaking out a little. I find myself a good guy and I am 100% sure I used a condom that night. I just can't get over the fact that after 4 years I am being contacted. Has it taken her that long to go down the list to get to my name?

I honestly don't know what to do? This girl has kept this child from me for 4 years, never a word. Can I sue her ass or something....I prob wouldn't but...and seriously what about the child,,wtf, you raise a child with no father then all of a sudden here's daddy,,,or putting them through court battles...wtf it would of been so much easier 4 years ago..now it's gonna F*** up (not the child the situation) at least 3 lives not including the people around us

Help!!!

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Be on the defensive Sean - tell her you need proof before you get involved in this and tell her you have no intentions of being a part of her life. Tell her you need a paternity test asap. I think she's just maniP***tive and just wants your $$ or she wants in your life for some reason.

i was in a 5 year relationship when i had a one night stand w/ a complete stranger after being incredibly drunk. we used a condom and during sex he kept asking if he could take the condom off, i kept saying no. he took it off w/o me knowing and i realized this when i stood up and felt it come out of me. i took the day after pill. i was not on birth control b/c my bf and i were ok w/ getting pregnant, we wanted a baby. anyway, i found out i was pregnant, thought about having an abortion but couldn't. got an ultrasound and felt assured that it must be my boyfriends, i told him, yay we are having a child! he was so excited and happy. by the next dr apt, the dr guessed on the age of the baby and felt i ovulated later than expected, this made it closer to the date of my one night stand. this started to eat at me. my bf was being so sweet and was just so happy. it started making be feel so awful. awful that i didn't tell him the truth right after i initially had the one night stand. awful that i could tell him we were having a baby instead of the truth that it might not be his. awful that i had a baby inside of me that i didnt knw who the father was. i couldnt take it anymore and so i told my bf the truth. i knew that my decision would cost me everything. humiliation in front of my family and his, plus the pain i caused by lying. i also knew my bf would leave me for good. i just had my baby 5 wks ago. did a paternity test w/ ex bf and my baby is not his. my baby is from a one night stand and the only info i have on the one night stand guy is his first name, and his friends name and phone number that my friend provided to me. ive contacted his friend and left msgs. his friend told me that this guy will contact me but he still hasnt. im trying to pursue this as best as i can out of respect for my child. every person on this earth has a right to know who their father and mother is regardless of how they came into this world and i want to be able to tell my son i did the best i could to find his father. at first i felt weird towards my son, i felt love for him, but also felt like i didnt even know who he is from now that i know he is from the one night stand. i just have to keep reminding myself, he is from me too. he is my baby. i know that i made the right decision to keep him, it is not his fault it was mine. i made a mistake and i need to live up to the responsibilites that come from my mistake. even though it included embarrasment, humiliation, a loss of my bf of 5 yrs who i loved so much, and now a son from a stranger and to be a single mom when this is not how i pictured it. but god has reasons for things. and my family was supportive and no one judged me the way i thought id be judged and everyone shows love to my son not caring who made him w/ me. they just see him as my son. my son is so beautiful and im falling in love with him more and more every day that passes. i know i made the right decision to finally come clean w/ my family and bf b/c my bf had the right to know and had the right to leave me for what i did. i wish he could have forgiven me but i understand how he couldnt. i wonder, would any man be able to forgive his gf for something like this? if she was truly sorry and learned from her mistake? .. anyways, for anyone out there in these shoes, please take the time to explore your options and dont just run to an abortion clinic, it is a quick fix, but it may leave you in a world of regret. sometimes facing yourself and honestly dealing w/ the consequence of your actions will produce something beautiful, such as a gift of a beautiful child. i have no idea what is in store for me, but maybe ill meet a guy who will love my son and me and ill be happier w/ him then i was w/ my old bf who i prob would still be w/ today if i had an abortion or if i would never have told him the truth about having a one night stand and he just believed my son was his. bottom line, being honest w/ yourself and others might seem impossible, but after you do it you realize the world doesnt stop turning, and you are able to forgive yourself and own up to your actions and that is always going to make you a stronger person. i find it helpful reading all of these posts on here b/c it makes me realize that other people are out there going through the same thing as me, im not all alone and the only one who ever made a mistake. we are human, and god does forgive us and love us through our mistakes. if you are in this situation, stay strong and just do what is right for you whatever that may be, just stay true to yourself, and know that it will be ok no matter what you decide. life is not over as you know it, and you will be ok.

If you choose to have a child from a one night stand without the father's consent then you are setting yourself up for disapointment. Stop thinking about yourself and consider the pain you will cause (including for yourself) down the road when he actually finds someone he does want to make a life with. If you do decide to have the child you should plan on doing it alone from the start. My fiance has a child from a one night stand 6 years ago. He was told and they agreed to have an abortion which he paid for. She decided not to go through with it , and now he has 18 years of child support payments to make. He refuses to have any contact with the mother or child, and I feel like that is his right. I don't blame him one bit. It's sad for the child, but it's a real situation so fellows be very careful and ladies don't count on using a child to get your "happily ever after."

I just don't understand why it is just the mothers decision whether or not to keep a child from a one night stand. If it takes two to make one then why doesn't the father have an equal say in the situation. The father does not have a say in paying support now does he? So if these girls lay down and get pregnant from some stranger then they have the choice to keep the baby. Yet, they don't give the man a choice and then want his money. Like someone else said these women are hookers!! If someone does not want a child then they should have the choice and women do but men do not. People try birth control and sometimes it fails I know that. My point is if a guy told me he did not want the baby I would raise it completely on my own with no help from him whatsoever. I would give him the choice. It takes two to make it and only one to keep it. then all these tramps want are a paycheck and some are very crappy mothers. Yes, let's think about the child. IT WAS NOT A CHILD THE DAY AFTER!!! Do people cry when a chicken egg gets stepped on? No and we will sure fry that egg up when it is ready. this world is messed up. If someone does not want a child then it should not just be the womans choice the father should be able to make that decision too.

OK Ladies Wise Up!

It is irresponsible and downright 'retarded' - yes you ARE retarded to not use any birth control or not insist your partner use birth control if you are having a one night stand or casual encounter OR you have both agreed you don't want kids. Fine, you want to sleep around ? Then use birth control and perhaps a condom ? STD's and AID's are obviously out and about, as are some really stupid women and some really ugly guys. Women who choose to remain lazy about birth control are just that - stupid and lazy. I pity these poor guys who have a few drinks, meet a friendly girl and get a phone call 9 months later saying ' ta da, pregnant! Not sure if it's yours but I don't want any money, don't you want to know if you have a baby?'. Ladies, the answer is NO. NO and NO. If you have slept with a few guys in a short space of time, not used or been a bit lax in your birth control - smarten the f&*^k up. I am going to make a bold statement and say this, you should NOT get child support for a rugrat conceived on a one night stand or a weekend three bonk bender - while you can decide to have an abortion with little repercussion to the other party (let's be realistic) any man stuck with your teary eyed 'moment of clarity' (Oh, because you're smart lol) he's stuck with child support for the next 18 years. I don't think so Miss Skanky. I'm saying this - don't sleep around and if you do, have some smarts and use some frigging birth control. Also, read the 'Tipping Point' about how birth control and an abortion ruling changed the face of crime in the US. P.S If I was a guy I would terrified of having sex with any woman! I am ashamed of my own sex. You guys - sorry ladies suck. And P.P.S Think about the child for God's sake. "oh sorry sweet pea, you were conceived in the toilet at the local bar".

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I totally agree. It's not fair at all. Honesty in everything - if you're pregnant, fess up. If you're a gold digger, fess up. If you're just using someone for sex, ditto. This is serious - children are not dogs or handbags or costume jewellery. They require great care and attention and love. If some random guy hit me up for child support for 18 years after a one night stand I would be mad and righly so. And you what? I have to question the intelligence of people making these decisions - you had a one night stand and know little if anything about the father or his geneology or family medical history - except that he likes Stella Artois (ooo what a catch). Like I said, retarded is and retarded does. Enjoy but not at our expense :)

Married for 9 years. Wife then got pregnant and used an abortion pill without telling me. I found out via coplay insurance document coming in the mail months later. Can I sue?

Had a one night stand where she said she was on birth control. She has just told me that her period is very very late. Im freaking out, I'm trying to tell her that there is no way that I can have a child right now, im 20. I'm starting to get the feeling that she may just decide to keep it against what I want, (I want an abortion or an adoption) how should I be responsible for paying child support for something that I dont want. For all I know she could have tricked me and told me that she was on birth control and never was. I'm completely lost in what to say to her at this point, and even what to tell myself. Im 20, and going to college, I cant deal with this right now.

alright, i agree some of the women on here are scary and I don't blame the men for being angry. HOWEVER-i am the result of a one night stand between my 17 year old mother and an older man. My mom told him, he never believed her and was never in my life. She never asked him for a thing and he's never provided anything other than his sperm donation. Guess what, stop preaching people-I turned out okay. I love my mother, she has always been honest with me, and it never diluted what i thought of her or my existence. I'm 34, successful, well adjusted and happy, with no white trash past to be ashamed of. I am now and pregnant with my first child who I am having alone after realizing i want and love kids but I don't want to trap a man or wait for one to make my dreams come true. So I will tell my child what I've always been told- I loved you from the second I knew about you and you were never a mistake. End of story. Please don't judge people until you've walked a mile in thier shoes... people have one-night stands for many reasons, everyone is human. I don't agree with women whose only motive is to intentionally trap a man into funding thier own own maternal dreams. If you want a baby be mature, and be able to do it alone. If it's an accident between two consenting adults then tell him, but be okay with NOT getting support too if YOU decide to keep it. And everyone else, stop judging, we all make decisions other's don't agree with, do you want to be judged for your's?

oh and men- please don't think that every woman that gets pregnant and has the courage to tell you is trying to trap you, maybe, just maybe they made a mistake too and are only trying to do the best thing for everyone? Just a thought!

I got pregnant after a one night stand - i think i wanted to get pregnant if i am honest however fantasty compared to reality is a majorly different. I found myself heart broken, trapped and feeling so dirty. I did tell the baby's dad and he very early on decided not to be a part of the child's life. We had actually discussed children if i am honest and i thought i knew enough of him to believe him to be a good father should the worst happen ... but sadly i misjudged. I never wanted to trap him nor have ever attempted to. I am a lone parent now, its both super hard and utterly rewarding ... i don't regret having the little one but i do regret the situation in which little one was concieved ... how am i ever gonna tell my baby any of this without him thinking me some mamipluative S*** :/ How am i ever gonna explain that i screwed up and he will never know his father, i can only hope that my love and care is enough for him and if not, try to help him through it the best i can.

I DON'T want to know you are having any kids we both didn't plan on having together. If you want to keep it secret that's fine, just don't come back years later asking for child support.

Tell the guy, he will surely leave you but alteast you will be on a safer side once your child is old enough ask questions about "where is daddy"

I got pregnant by a one night stand too and have a wonderful 1 year old son. His "dad" asked for a DNA test when I was pregnant that got me so disappointed and my family hurt.
He finally decided to tell his family when I was 8 months pregnant. He was able to acknowledge my baby but can't respect me as the mother of his kid. Now, he has a girlfriend who is married and has two kids. Make sure that once you decide, you will not regret it and he is worth of it. Good luck!♥

Anyone caught in the situation that they had a one night stand on Holiday and had no way of contacting the father of the child? What does one do. You dont know his last name or even where he lives? How do you find him...I guess there really isnt a way is there?

I met this guy recently that was on vacation
we hit it off right away
call him the next day to hang out
end up at the hotel
I ask if her had condoms
He said yes. I got to bed
While having sex i notice, sex was a bit different NO CONDOM!
we couldnt stop
he left the next day
I took the morning after pill
a month later
found out i'm pregnant
i had his contacts
I thought to let him know
he told me it was my mistake and I shouldnt have told him " I didnt want to know'' he's not tobe responsible And " I dont believe in abortion"
Confuse as can be
I had no choice
I had an abortion done a month later
I fell for him, think of him
but he has ignored me since
:(

im eighteen and im a month pregnant by someone i loved but the thing is he already has a kid with a fifteen year old and dont even take care of it. he is 19 with no job but im not tellin him till monday. im confused and scared and alone he wont talk to me after we had sex and my mom will flip out if she knew.plz help!!

i have a child form a one night stand,
i lean when you have a one night stand you not to get knock up , guys have issue and more then any thing do not want to tie down to you or any way , no matter for what guys say to you, guy think all about you know what , the babby to they want to run and get piss and blame you for it , the best thing is just to move on withe life ,

i'm being told a 5 month old is mine after a one night stand and i used a condom and she thinks its ment to be.
i'm waiting on the dna test.
now what?

Ive read most of the comments on this thread. I am utterly amazed how most of you are not in touch with reality. Finding out you're pregnant and telling a one night stand you're pregnant is the EASY part. Pregnancy, child birth, and rearing a child is harder than hell with two parents let alone one. Sleepless nights, worry, finances, etc... The problem in today's society is that men refuse to act like men and women enable them. If you think a one night stand got you pregnant and he acts like the biggest loser on the planet, it is a clue to what you're in for. Ladies, hold their feet to the fire and stop this "I don't need his support" crap. Stop acting like a martyr. Gentlemen, handing over money is EASY. Acting like a man and being a financially supporting father is what will make you feel like a man.

i am pregnant after a one night stand and a failed morning after pill and i've told the father and he was just brilliant about it really supportive but we've decided that we can't support a baby, so im having an abortion but every time i see him i fall for him more, i don't know how he feels about me, do you think we could have a future after what has happened?

Having a child after a one night stand is one of the most solely selfish things a woman can do.The baby was not made from a loving relationship, there is no commitment, the act itself was thoughtless and probably dispassionate. When I hear about this I immediately think of entrapment by the woman.
I also agree with a previous poster...you can have a one night stand with a stranger/acquaintance, neither of you think of protection, and then you don't believe in abortion? You are obviously able to give yourself up for nothing but all of a sudden you have morals.
Give your head a shake. If you have an early term abortion (unless you are religious) you have to understand that the fetus is a cluster of cells without even pain perception until 24-28 weeks. Think of the kid, ladies! I can almost guarantee that your sex partner does not want to have a kid with you, will not be in that childs life, and will most likely be a pay cheque. Great way to grow up.
If you want a kid...go to a sperm bank. Remember, both a man and a woman make the baby, but only the women gets to decide the outcome.
Use PROTECTION, in this way you will never have to face the dilemma, condoms, birth control, and the morning after pill are all totally viable options and should be used with new partners. If you have done all that and you still end up pregnant remember what was discussed earlier. Remember, if you were using protection, that child wasn't wanted in the first place.
Choose your partners wisely, and save that child for a loving and committed relationship.
I am in no way condoning using abortion as birth control just think of the future. And finally congratulations to all the ladies who went through this without any difficulties...although as I have read other comments it doesn't seem like there were many.
(written by a woman who has a kid with her loving man but has also had an abortion because the circumstances were not right.)

Not telling the man makes you crazy with a capital "C". Who made you God? Keeping someone in the dark about a life is unfathomable. If you made the kid together both of you need to discuss your options together. Then you can decide what you want to do and so can he...like adults.

Who has a baby from a one night stand only a b**** who wants childsupport. Theres no way as a women would i ever do that. I think a man shoulddn't have to pay for a one nightstand. Thats just nasty!! i know someone who did that and the father doesn't even see hi, Y? because he told her he didn't want and he wasn't takin care of it. It was her who wanted it so she should take care of it. like that shouldn't be able to have children. Just tryin to get rich off of childsupport.

well im 3weeks pregnant from a one night stand, im 19. Theres no suprize in this, unprotectedsex+drinking=pregnancy.. im keeping it of course, if he wants me to have an abortion than screw him. If hes in then great, if not i dont need his money or help, im a child of a single mother, if she can do it, so can I :)
I already love this unborn baby i hope nothing goes wrong with my pregnancy. Good luck to you young women in the same situation, hope you make the right choice for you, not for the guy, or for what society wants you to do.. I'm going to tell him once he gets back into the city, im a bit nervous, but i did alot of thinking.
And for you 'babygirl3' are you serious? "who gets pregnant from a one night stand?" little miss who thinks shes perfect, wow, why are you even looking at this page? tsk tsk

I just had a one night stand last night to an english guy i used to chat with long time ago and i accidentally met him here in philippines coz he's doing some business here.. I don't think i'll be pregnant coz i just had my period,i could say im pretty much safe.. the only worries i have is that im not so sure if this guy is safe,.last night went really past and we didnt use protection.. i know i was really stupid. He's been in different countries and i never did one night stand before. He said he's safe but how would i know..what happened last night was just a booty call and im trying not to put too much thought of it but im starting to really get scared.. he's older than me and got more experienced.Im huge stupid thats all i could say about myself.

i had sex with my collage mate two days before i dont knw weather m pregnant i so depressed i dnt even love him it was just a coincdence m 19 years old

My boyfriend of almost 8 years cheated on me 3 years into our relationship. He was drunk and cant remember most of it, he remembers cheating and feeling dirty but put it to the back of his mind and never thought of it again until about 8 months ago when the lady(much older) tracked him down through his work and a distinctive tattoo he has on his chest(they didn't even know each others names)and tells him he has a 4 1/2 year old son who is asking about his dad. Since he cheated we have had another child bought and sold a couple of houses and got engaged. He agreed to meet the child but decided he didn't feel like a real dad to him (didn't feel much at all but regret) and told the lady he didn't want to be part of the childs life. She agreed and said we wouldn't hear from her again but recently she has been hassling him again. Yes i have stayed with him and am working on forgiving and trusting him again. he has a drinking problem and is seeking help for it and i believe he is not a bad person just one with a problem:( He does understand that if she asks for money he would have to pay(after a DNA test of course) although we both think it would be a low act on her behalf but he really doesnt want or feel it is in the best interest for anyone for him to try have a relationship with a child he had no choice in for almost 5 years. Is this so strange? Why wont she understand and do whats best for the child? No point having a dad who doesnt feel anything for him!

Just have an abortion

I had a one night stand.
Haven't seen or spoke since.
If she got pregnant with out contacting me and went threw with it.
Although I'm against it and do NOT want the baby or any part in it's life. How would I take legal action to have no part in that baby's life.

You know what?!? Life is what you make it. If you make a mistake and don't own it then you will feel the consequence. Roll with the punches. Things like this happen against many odds - having a baby is far from the end of the world. Two consenting adults that have sex share the responsibility of the end result.
Everyone has circumstances that will dictate the action they take. Let's just hope that if you are fortunate enough to bring life into this world that you choose to live it with your Childs best interest in mind.

Some of you act surprised when you are pregnant after sex. I honestly don't believe that you are surprised. You know what I think about one night stands? I think women are afraid of the ugly baby. Most women have a fear of loneliness. Which is why they have these one night stands. So the grab the most attractive man they can see bring them home and make a conscious decision to have sex with him. Unless either or or "fixed" you are going to have a chance on getting pregnant. Those pills are not an excuse for you to be promiscuous or an answer to your loneliness. Some of you said you hate your one night stand and wish you didn't have the child. Shame on you.

Well, in South Florida this happens all the time, especially meeting in a bar, then going home. Im most cases the guy is a lot older, so he has a big ego to feed. After the child comes he is a part time nanny on weekends so mom can find a guy she really wants to be with. This guy will be paying for 20 plus years depending if they married. All pretty stupid, and unfair to the babies.

i am pregnant but not from a one night stand and do not know what to do. the guy already has three kids and this one he said he does not want because of his financial difficulties so he ask me to abort but he have no right in telling me what to do we both should make the decision.

Can i get advice, no mean comments please ive heard so much cruelness already... okay so i met this guy and we had a one night stand, he never gave me his number but he got mine, he only called me once and after that we never spoke again..i found out i was pregnant and my baby is now 7 months. is it bad that he doesn't know

We'll I'm just humen but this is my story i was liveing in nyc for like six months... i came across this handsome guy, he seem really sweet we spoke to eachother from time to time but some reason i never really paid him no mine but i would always see him everywhere i go an he would kinda slick be on my mind an then stp comeing around so around my b-day he end up stoping by an we stared drinking alittle bit to much and guess wat we had a one+nightstand started haveing great sex an boom he came out blue an said i told yu i didn't have a condom so yu know he was planning on getting me pregnant an then moved back to my home town atlanta,ga we're I found out i was 2,3 months pregnant with my 1 year old son i tryed to come to him like a women That i am but he didn't stand up for wat was right running like alittle boy never got. in contact with him wants a DNA test an thats find because god always has the last say so but to all my single parent out there its hard doing it by yourself but we're strong an we have to walk by faith an be the best mommy
We can be an let a man push yu to weakness or beat your self up for there lose its gone hurt hurt Them the most god bless: )

GF many years got pregnany had abortion and never even told me until twenty years later on facebook. Devastated. Always tell the father!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hi
my wife got pregnant her first day is 18 nov 2011 yesterday know she has successes what should we do i still wait or go to doctor plz tell me

Here's my story, I've been dating a guy for 6 weeks, it was goin so well, he seemed nice and very loving.. Well my pill didn't work and I'm now pregnant, i only found out a few days ago but I told him the day after I found out. He lives about an hour away from me and he is the only one that drives. He went quiet at first and then made excuses to get off the phone. He's now not texting or calling me apart from a very weird txt conversation yesterday (started by me) about him breaking his arm so he can't drive to see me (I've offered to get the train to him) and he hasn't thought about the pregnancy.. Can't understand whether he's in denial, or making up convenient lies!! The thing is it is an accident yes but I feel more along the lines of wanting to keep it, but want him in the decision of something that could potentially affect both our lives! and I can do it on my own without any money (I'm no gold digger) but I'd rather have had him in our Childs life, he hasn't even asked if I'm keeping the baby or not! How long does it normally take guys to get their heads around these things?? And what do you think about his comments, lies or unfortunate timings??

How can i tell my best mate that i am preggo with his baby ??

I had a 1 night stand with a woman i met on a singles website...we went out for a bite and had some wine. we ended up at my place and enjoyed each other. so the next morning i dropped her off t home, she already had my phone #, I nevr heard from her again ubtil 2 years later she called me and said she had my son???? she waited 2 years after i met her to tell me?! i still had the same # and she couldnt call me when she first found out? she then tookme to court and was awarded child support....F*** YOU Arizona,this woman is wrong to do this to me, i have the right to be included when she became pregnant, she could have atleast called me when she found out but nooooo not this whore! if she makes the adult decision to have the child without even giving me a heads up, then why should i have to pay for it 2 years after the fact?????? its a F***ing shame. I have a real son son that i love with all my heart, and because of this stupid bitch and her greed and lack of respect for me, my family that i trully love suffers from this evil heartless woman....now i have less to offer my real son....i feel totally betrayed....she should be punished for her totl lack of communication, and the courts should recognise her as a criminal to use the system in scumbag way she does. now just clearify, if she would have called me when she became pregnant, everything would have been different...and i would have had the time needed to prepare my mind and exept this situation for what it was. now im trapped by her useing the court system for a paycheck.....toatal F*** you from Arizona courts....

Alright... people are talking about one night stands... well I was seeing a guy for a few months... and things were starting to look like they were getting serious... I have an IUD and we used condoms... we had only one night where we were sexually active... and 2 days later he met the girl of his dreams and dropped me... It has been a few weeks... I have all the symptoms of being pregnant, I have a 6 year old son already (and in case you were wondering I was with his dad 5 years), I am waiting for the pregnancy test and have no idea what to do... he has cut all contact with me due to my crazy ex harassing him... so when the test comes back +ve... and I have my IUD out... and if I stay pregnant... I have no idea what to do next... I can't go see him at work... I don't know if he would meet with me so I could talk to him face to face... and I really don't want to just text hoping he hasn't changed his number... any suggestions?

Dee, I think that you should do whatever it takes to tell him. He may respond better than you expect. Guys aren't often as open about their feelings, but he may actually be happy inside, even if he is confused about what it will mean.
Think of how lucky your son will be to have a younger brother or sister. As you know, children are a blessing.

wow, what a dilemna. I'm 42, single and have three gorgeous kids to my ex-husband who is still in their life, but I happened to have sex with a guy on our second date, very, very drunk, neither of us thought about condoms, stupid and completely irresponsible given my age etc I know, he assumed I was on the pill and I assumed he'd had a vasectomy but I took the morning after pill the next day. I told him that it wouldn't work out between us as our personalities were so very different, he was upset and couldn't understand why I felt that way but respected my decision. I didn't keep his number and never thought anymore about it, until holy crap last week I discover I'm 6 weeks pregnant. Blown away completely and stunned but after doing a hell of a lot of Googling I discovered that many women have gotten pregnant from failed morning after pill. At first I thought of abortion, but then don't think I'll cope with the thought of terminating the life inside me, I told him and he's majorly pissed and now thinks I got pregnant on purpose to trap him, what the!! I've reassured him that I don't want anything from him, will not ask for money or interfere in his life but he still thinks I've used him. F*** what to do. I know the simple thing would be to abort but I can't help the feelins I have about that. Anyway, I'm sure there will be a lot of idiots wanting to post unhelpful things, I've been honest to put myself out there, you should be respectful enough to keep those comments to yourself.
thanks :)

Hey holy cow

Best thing would be to give him loads of space, sounds to me that you've already made your mind to have this baby and even though it's gonna be hard I've no doubt that it'll be loved by you and it's 3 older siblins to make up for an absent father. Just tell him kindly that you understand he's shocked and that he'll need time to think things over, it was an accident and as proof say that you would never have dreamed of having to do the whole pregnancy and raising a child alone at 42! Then go onto say that because of his accusing it's Makin you I'll which is not good for you or the baby and say you will keep him updated about the baby until he decides his role... It will be so difficult not being able to call or txt especially when you have so many questions, but give him some time and he'll either come round which is great or he won't which isn't the worst thing either.. Only contact him after with any docs appointments/scans etc.. And don't pressure coz he'll just run a mile!! Hope this helps..

hey tryin to help, thanks so much for your msg, and I'm still so stressed. It's very hard when he thinks I'm a complete nutter and we live in a fairly small town. But I'll keep trudging along and try to work out what's best. thanks again :)

i got an email today from a female i had a one night stand with 8 months ago. she told me she had some news for me. then she told me that 2days ago she found out she is pregnant and due in 4 to 5 weeks. says she knows it is mine and it is my decision to be or not be involved but says she does want financial support. what do you think, i am freaking out and not sure what to think

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I am going thru something similar with a woman I dated one and off for 2-3 years. The relationship was dying and we finally broke up (she became very physically and emotionally abusive). 2 weeks after break up she TEXTS me that she is pregnant. I meet her, have an optimistic attitude, spend two weeks with her and go to a few dr. appointments. When I first met her the day she told me she said three things to me--I was not going to tell you until the baby was born but my best friend told me I should, I don't know if I want to be with you, I know I will want your money for child support. Great way to set the tone...

Anyway, I sucked it up and tried to stay positive but she was batS*** crazy--more rages and a sense of entitlement over the moon--so I talked to my attorney and filed a protective order against her. She did not fight it in the courtroom but since then has tried to contact me begging me to lift it.

My attitude is that some women are not fit to be mothers. There is no way in hell I am going to let this woman raise my child. I am fighting for full custody (I am a great dad of two boys from a previous marriage of 19 years and share custody with their wonderful mom). She got pregnant and immediately used the child as a weapon--huge red flag.

In the animal world there are mammal mothers that eat their young if the dad does not protect them. Sadly, their are women out there like this too....

I am a man who is stepping up to do the right thing. As my dad always told me, character is what you do when no one is looking, courage is what you do when EVERYONE is watching.

Moral of the story? Women who do this kind of thing have huge issues. A baby is not a leverage chip. When the relationship is over walk away. Don't be a desperate jerk and get pregnant to keep the guy. Roe vs. Wade gave women more rights over their own bodies. Now woman need to be fully accountable for the consequences of how they use their bodies. The laws are in place now the courts just need to step up.. We are slowly getting there.

And for those of you who say it was my sperm blah blah blah, well she entrapped me. How would a woman feel if I replaced her birth control with candy and got her pregnant? Violated I bet. 'Nuf said.

That would be just fine with me. If the intent wasn't to conceive then odds are I wouldn't want to know.

I got pregnant from a guy i was rm mates with. I think we were friends but not entirley sure. When he found out i was pregnant. He asked me if it was his. I said no. I said no cuz i didn't want to ruin his life. Then my daughter was born at a yr i contacyed him and said i lied and that i do not expect anythibg from him and i will pay for a dna test. He said he was not ready to have a child and he did not want to do the dna test. About a few mnths later i lied again and told him she died. Yes i know very wrong and how dare i but this is my truth and story. I lied cuz i did not want him to one day grow up and come into her life. I thought i was protecting myself and daughter. Yrs went by and i could not live with my lies anymore found him and told the complete truth. He wants in her life now and i am terrified. How do i let in a man i don't need?? My daughter is now seven i have went to a professional with her to help explain what i have done. I am ok to being judged but would like help in the matter of letting him in the right way.

I am NOT one of those Mothers that would EVER use my Babies as Leverage against their Father.After a somewhat brief friendship I became pregnant made it clear that I did NOT want to be with the Father he disappeared shortly after my pregnancy.

After about 4 Months magically he came back in the picture and he did claim his child well about 6 Months of pregnancy I discovered I was having Fraternal Twins both boys it shocked everyone no one was prepared for that,I had many complications and went in labor twice at 35 weeks I delivered the Boys and thats when all hell broke loose.

His Sister begin calling me at his request to check on the Boys and waited a few days later to give me their Nigerian Middle names and Magically I found out from her that he NEVER told them he was going to be a Father.

Few days later his Sister calls me and tells me to go to DCSS to get a DNA test and get child support I was like is she serious HE IS the Father I have many Text and emails where he acknowledges his Sons he knows he is The Father yet he feels empowered and now wants a DNA test I told him I welcome it but After the fact I want him to leave myself and my Family alone.It NEVER had to come to this I wanted to Abort from day one he pleaded with me NOT to abort his first baby and now denies them all because I lost interest in him some kind of Father he is.Even insisted I give my babies his Last name which I did and one of them is Named after him what a nightmare this has turned out to be had I known this would happen I would have played his game and NEVER told him I dont want to be with him.

Tell the guy yeah....I am now married to a man who has been now recently found to be he father of a baby girl with a girl (I say girl because she has the mental stability and mannerisms of a little girl)he was super supportive from the very start although their relationship was nothing past a drunken mistake. I will say one thing. If you are the woman in this situation, you have no right to call the guy for any subject passed baby talk. The girl my husband dealt with was using him as a therapist which is unfair.You have friends for that! If you two were not close before, a baby does not change that. Also don't harass his significant other or use his relationship with the woman of his life to make threats. It is immature and shows your true character. His relationship with other women is not your business, nor should you blame her for you not being able to snag the guy into an obligated marriage. There are a few who skip the step of love, marriage and then baby but be realistic and use your head! I have had to deal with this girl's harassment for over a year. I have tried blocking her means of communication but she finds some way to weasel her way into contacting me. If you don't wanna seem psycho don't act like one. Also if the guy wants to be civil and supportive then let him don't sabotage the chance your child could have with its father. Don't alienate people because you need sympathy. It has gotten to the point now that my once supportive husband can't take the name calling and ugly behavior and would rather just pay the support and get her away from him. It's sad when someone is wanting to be there but the other party makes it impossible with a poor attitude. No excuse for that. I agree whole heartedly that a kid should have both parents and I would like our kids to know their sibling but the ugly outweighs the civil and makes a happy life for all involved impossible unless contact/harassment ceases.

i used birth control, and just to be on the safe side i had even too the morning after pill because the condom came off. how ever im a week late now im panicking because I already have a daughter from a 7 year long relationship. i had known this guy a while and we had sex. but he was saying that he wanted a long term relationship with me and how he was thinking about relocating here. but now i may be pregnant and i know he is going to label me a bunny boiler. i wanted to be married before i even thought about having another child which is why i took steps to prevent it but none the less i am in this situation. Is it really fair that i Bordon him with this responsibility after such a short time. and lets be honest he has a good job and he is a really nice guy and although this is an accident it may look like entrapment dont you think. so for all you people that are ripping a strip off of this poor girl stop and think about the other factors involved. alot of men dont want the kids and i can tell you that even the nicest guys become absolutely ass hole as soon as you tell them that you are with child. she is absolutely right to be thinking what she is thinking. i am bricking my self because i dont want to be in this situation much less have that conversation. because i am about to get accused of all sorts. i am a good mom and i support my child on my own. i have provided her with every thing she needs and she is very happy and i will do that with this baby. but i will not destroy a mans life. but at the same time he does have a right to know that there is a little him running around.

That only happens with married / committed women. Single women always tell.

feb 17,2012 i had sex with my boyfriend we was both drunk yes he nutted in me.. now iam feelin pregant my back will start hurtin,, i will not eat as much , if i stand for a long time i will start feel in sick... i need help i'm only 18yr old...

find friends, talk, try to talk with family, be completely honest. If he doesn't want you or the baby, don't give up, don't make a mistake that will haunt the rest of your life. Have the baby at least; it will be the greatest joy of your life. Don't make the mistake I made, didn't have the baby and it haunts me every day, it's been 31 years and I go through every day praying I had talked to family and friends.

F*** you to the girl who says she one night standed a guy and is forcing him to pay for child support. Seriously F*** you.

You are everything that is wrong with the world.

I just found out I was pregnant yesterday. I hooked up with the father one night at the bar and we hooked up once or twice since then, until he got back together with his ex. I was on the pill, but I hadn't been having sex so I never really thought anything about missing a few here and there. I dont know what I should do. I have had an abortion in the past, about five years ago, because I was to youngh and it was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I was depressed for two years afterwards. Now I am older and I know I could adapt my life to being a mother even though it would be difficult. I am not sure what I should do. I would like to talk to the father before I decide..he will be shooked considering I told him I was on bc when we had sex the first time..I dont really want to mess up his life though. Should I wait until I decide for sure before I tell him?

Well I have to put my 2 cents in. I am 45 and pregnant again with a much younger guy. He is now 27 and we have a 2 year old together. He is also black and I am white. I have 3 adult daughters with my first husband. My oldest daughter married a black guy and I meet his friend, the father of my 2 year old and unborn baby at the wedding. I got pregnant using the pull out form of birth control. It was more like a FWB than anything. We tell everyone that my daughter got pregnant on her wedding night (but it was before) I got pregnant after her baby shower. That was the first time we were seen as a couple, but I was pregnant a month earlier. He is the only black guy that I have been with and black boys are much different than white guys. We have to have sex at least once a day or he goes some were else. And tells me he is going to. This second baby was not my intention. He told me that if I wanted to have sex with him that I was going to have another baby of his.

'Ok. I just read all \x28most\x29 of these comments and I can say I am the only person commenting who got pregnant and had a baby from \x28not a one night stand but a short one month relationship we had sex twice\x29 and I did not tell the father. My daughter is now five years old. I haven\x27t seen him since the day I decided that I didn\x27t want to see him anymore, which was before I knew I was pregnant. There are many reasons why I stopped seeing him, but the bottom line is that he wasn\x27t a good person for me to be involved with. \x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eWhen I made the decision to raise my daughter alone I did so thinking if the man wasn\x27t good for me, why would I be delusional enough to think he would be a good father for my child. At the time I was thirty two ears old and had learned through enough relationships that you can not force people to be something that they aren\x27t so its always best to accept reality. The reality was that I loved my child from the moment I knew of her existence and she deserved to live despite how crazy her father was.\x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eBefore anyone asks....No I did not use him for a baby, I am not married, I am not on welfare and I work and take care of my daughter on my own. My daughter is smart, sweet, healthy, funny and doing very well. We have a very happy family life together.\x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eYes, for a while she asked about her dad and I explained to her that although everyone has a father hers is not a part of our lives. I don\x27t have any guilt feelings or regrets about my decision because I did what I felt like was in the best interest of my child. However, I sometimes wonder if other women have made the choice to go it alone without telling the father which is how I came across this web site. \x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eI\x27m leaving this comment not for the judgmental naysayers who have no idea what its like to be in this situation, but for other mothers like me who have made this difficult but necessary choice.'

'My boyfriend had a one night stand before we were together. We found out that the woman may be pregnant by him but there are two other prospects. We will not know if it is his and don\x27t even know when she is due. I feel he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, but I have always wanted to have my own kids with one man and have our own family. He is very into kids and obviously says that it wasn\x27t the child\x27s choice to be born. I feel the woman he was with was trying to get pregnant. He says he would want to be a part of the child\x27s life, but I don\x27t think I can handle that. Am I ridiculously selfish if I didn\x27t want him to be in that child\x27s life if it were to be found that it is his\x3f He had no say in whether the child would be adopted or any other options. I am so distraught...I finally thought I found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, but only want to have my own family. This sucks.'

'I had a one night stand and got pregnant we used protection and the condom ripped so we decided to take an emergency contraceptive and it still didn\x27t work, and foolishly didn\x27t use a condom afterwards. I don\x27t believe in abortion that would never be an option that doesn\x27t mean I would ever consider trapping a guy nor forcing him into fatherhood but my attitude is it takes two..getting pregnant is reckless when you aren\x27t commited I took the blame and he should take the blame also...when you don\x27t use condoms you are putting not only your life at risk for sexually transmitted diseases, but creating a child irresponsibly it\x27s never a childs fault so I don\x27t believe aborting a child is the answer if pregnancy could have been avoided. I ended up miscarrying ..Although I was content with doing it alone because I know I can\x27t force anyone to do anything they don\x27t want to do ...The woman should never be one hundred percent at fault for something she didn\x27t do herself..period\x21 It\x27s takes two and two people should be involved at all times...no matter what It\x27s like when you don\x27t use condoms what are you thinking\x3f that you are invincible and that it\x27s impossible to not get pregnant or an STD it was a wake up call for me ...the man and woman both agree to have unprotected sex and she ends up pregnant all of a sudden she\x27s a tramp\x3f Whore\x3f She wasn\x27t your girlfriend but you are sleeping with her like she\x27s your wife \x28 no contraceptives\x29 and than you get mad PLEASE\x21'

'So I just graduated from college, I\x27m looking for a job and I move to northern Arizona w\x2f my family until I get a job that I planned on\x2fdegree specialized in which has most demand in Texas and Colorado. It was my birthday in mid-September and I go to meet this girl who a family friend got me in contact with because I didn\x27t know anyone in this town. We go out drinking on my bday, we hit it off \x28though I don\x27t love her\x29, she\x27s just a cool chick. I\x27m drunk, go back to her place, didn\x27t have a condom so I ask if she\x27s on birth control - \x22yes\x22 and 6 weeks later I get the call. I\x27m in no place to have a kid, with no job, no feelings for the mother, and I would basically just be a beneficiary to the child because there are no jobs in Arizona for my degree. What on earth is my end game\x3f\x3f'

'I would rather forget the incident ever happened. Never knowing about it.'

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'I am pregnant from a guy that I hooked up with 3 times. The first time, I was drunk and told him I\x27m not on birth control AND I don\x27t like condoms. Yes, sooo stupid, but I was drunk and consumed everything going on. Although, he buzzed too, but nearly as much as I was. He understood what I said, and did it anyway. Well, surprise I\x27m 5 wks pregnant and he\x27s acting all hurt over it- saying he\x27s too young \x2824\x29, saying he doesn\x27t want a relationship... and thats fine. I feel good that I told him though. Any advice though\x3f'

'I got pregnant after one night-stand. When I found out, I was very upset with myself\x21 I was not afraid of not knowing who the guys was, But I was afraid of telling him and he not believing me. We both talked, and off course he asked me if I was sure it was his, I said Yes.. I had no doubt bout it..He asked what was I going to do\x3f And I decided to have an abortion. I was 22, and WILD. What I regret the most is not preventing it. Years has passed by and now I can\x27t get pregnant\x21 \x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eLife goes on\x21\x21\x21\x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eLive IT\x21\x21\x21'

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'why should any man pay for some bastard that doesn\x27t even has his sure name. I told my ex if you don\x27t give my son my surename ok your loss\x21 I\x27ll get weekend care and it\x27ll waive my child support....I yavent paid in 4 years legally cos I have weekend care. My dissability only allows me to work 25 hours a week. Any leftover money after bills goes on my care days. I\x27m not dumb women waste money while I own my own unit and car which is stable for my son. She left me her loss.'

'If a man divorces a woman he should be in prison if a woman can\x27t even cook why would any man want her\x3f These idiots don\x27t think of these things. 15 year olds getting pregnant like whites of Babylon and then expect hand outs....its called adoption ladies. I know couples who can\x27t have children theire more deserving of children.'

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'Hello To The World At Large,\x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3e I am Miss Balkes.,From united states of America.I will start by saying to all that have experience heart break and also cant do with out there lover should please stop here and read up my story, So as you will know how to go solving or getting your ex back from this spell caster..AND AGAIN I WILL WANT TO ALSO TELL ALL THAT THIS SPELL CASTER I WILL WANT TO TELL THE WHOLE WORLD ABOUT IS HARMLESS AND DO NOT HAVE ANY SIDE EFFECT, BUT TO RESTORE AND GIVE YOU BACK WHAT YOU DESERVE, COS WHEN I MEET WITH THIS SPELL CASTER THAT WAS INTRODUCED TO ME BY THE WIFE OF MY BOSS IN MY WORKING PLACE, HE MADE IT CLEAR THAT HE CAN CAST SPELL ON SO MANY OTHER PROBLEMS EXCEPT IN GETTING YOUR EX OR MAKING YOUR LOVER TO LOVE YOU MORE THAT WILL SUITE YOU. Last year December, My lover was cheating on me and was not also give me the attention that a man should give to a woman,And really that was troubling my mind and tearing my heart apart to the extent that i was not concentrating in the office the way i use to before the break up by my lover.And before that incident,I always see how my boss use to love his wife so much. I was binging to think that i was not doing the right thing to him that will make him love me forever,So i really gathered my courage and went to my boss wife office to ask her the secret that made her husband love her so dearly,In the first place she refused in telling me,She asked me why i am asking her such a question,That if is it not normal for every man to love his wife.I told her the reason that made me ask her about this question,That my lover started cheating on me lately,When i knelt down before her for her to see my seriousness in this issue that i went to ask her,She opened up to me by telling me that i should not tell anybody about what she want to tell me,The wife to my boss started to say to me that she used a very powerful spell on his husband to love her,And the spell that she used is harmless, But the spell is just to make him love her and never to look for any other woman except her. I QUICKLY ASK HER HOW DID SHE GET TO KNOW THIS GREAT,POWER,DURABLE AND PERFECT WORK SPELL CASTER,she said that a friend of hers also introduce her to him. Then i also ask her how i can meet with this spell caster.SHE SAID EVERYTHING TO ME,THAT THE NAME OF THIS SPELL CASTER IS doctor alliya spell TEMPLE.My next question to her was how can i get this wonderful spell caster,She said she is going to give me the email of the spell caster for me to contact him for my problem,Really she gave to me this spell caster email and i contacted him and explained all to him,And after every thing that needed to be done by the spell caster, In the next two days, My lover that hated me so much came to house begging for forgiveness and i was so glad that i have finally gotten my heart desire..I was so grateful to this spell caster for what he has done for my life.. So i made a promise to him that i will always continue telling the world about his wonderful work towards me and also to other that came to you before and also the people that will also get to you from my story that i narrated online now..I will want to say to the entire world that you should not cry over noting again, That there is a great man that has been helping individuals to restore there Joy and smile in there faces \x21\x21 The direct email to get this man is \x3a dralliyaspellhome \x40 gmail.com,This is what i want to tell you all out there,That is thinking that all hope is lost ok..Thanks\x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eRegards,\x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eMiss Balkes.'