Brad's Blog - Episode 4045: Leadership Down
WOW… that’s all I could say when I walked into the house. So many people, so few rules. Hunter and Emma seemed misguided amongst the hustle and bustle of the house.
One of the treats of working with this family wasn’t the mayhem or dysfunction. It was Hunter and Emma, two kids screaming out to be heard and seen. They wanted this, so I granted them the responsibility to work with the dogs and set an example for the rest of the family. I wanted to give them a voice. Hunter reminded me of a nephew of mine, quirky, cool and with something to say. Emma was a young girl who was still growing up and needed her voice to be heard. I hoped to help them with these new voices.
Was a nasty day to be filming. Yeah, yeah, I know the sun was shining and we are in a park blah blah blah… The mosquitoes were the size of quarters and they were out by the billions, and I was sick. I was not looking forward to the park but we had to go there. The dogs needed a reality check by well-trained dogs, and this family needed to see what respect looks like in the dog world. I wanted to show the family chaos and confusion from a dog’s perspective, it always gives then something to reflect on.
It was time for accountability. It’s funny so many people say I like conflict. I’m not interested in conflict. I’m interested in results and people doing what they say. I expect results, I expect 100% from every one I work with. If not I FIRE THEM. This is me taking a stand for my work ethics. And today was a day about getting tough, opening up the family to the truths, feelings, thoughts and empower them as family, not separate entities. These were good people and they should be given that at the least.
Holly was getting married to John, two fantastic role models if they worked together. Megan and Nick could set an example for the younger two, Megan and Hunter…I just shook my head and smile. Both of these kids have talents that need to be nourished. They were not deadbeats, they were individuals who will make a significant difference in anything they do.
On Day 3, I left them with lots to sort out. A few weeks had passed and I crossed my fingers.
Today, I rolled up with my latte in hand on a stellar sunny morning; I had a good feeling. The crew were setting up so I briefly chatted with my director, Heather. She was on fire in a good way, so everything was in place. She was beaming but would not tell me why. I was hurried away from the house before I could step inside. I waited and waited and waited. My latte finished and discarded in the trash, I waited some more until it was time to step into the house.
When I met the family again, something was different, the confusing chaos was gone and each individual had gained clarity. The dogs looked to the people for direction, not the other way around.
Both Hunter and Emma took me aside individually that day. They both had a private conversation with me that I will never forget. I will say this. These two had a lot going on and are two of the most impressive kids I had ever met. I will always wonder how they are doing and where they are in their lives. They are kids today and role models tomorrow.
I would like to congratulate Holly and John on becoming Husband and Wife and Megan and Nick who have started their own life together.
I raise a glass and toast them all.