Single and dreading the supposed day of love?  No need to pull out the violins.  Many of us are in the same boat.  Sure you can complain to your friends about it or sit at home feeling sorry for yourself but come on, it’s just another day.

For those of you who aren’t convinced and aren’t feeling all that great about it, here are some things to keep you afloat, day of:

1. Join another couple. One of my most treasured and memorable Valentine’s Day was spent with a girlfriend of mine and her new hubby.  Knowing that I was single, they invited me to join them for dinner.  Since they wed only a few weeks prior, they were all romanced out.  Plus, just back from their honeymoon, they wanted to share their stories.  Us singles make such a big deal of Valentine’s Day in our heads. Perhaps it's a case of thinking "the grass is greener" but if someone invites you to join them and you enjoy their company, say yes.  If they didn’t want to include you, they wouldn’t have invited you in the first place.  Say yes and enjoy your night out.

2. Play cupid. Kids absolutely love Valentine’s Day.  They are too young to know the hurt, pain and confusion that can accompany the holiday and instead are greeted with Valentine’s Day cards, pink and red heart-shaped candy and see the day as a lovely celebration.  If you have nieces and nephews, why not give their parents a much-needed night out and offer to babysit the little rascals?  You can come with lovey-dovey colouring books, and a heart-shaped cookie cutter to make a fresh batch of cookies. Spend the evening with them baking and decorating and – of course – snacking.  Your siblings will be grateful for a date night, and you can feel the love as the little ones look up to you.

3. Get naughty. Just like how singles tend to feel at weddings, Valentine’s Day brings up a sort of vulnerability. It's as if on this day in particular we need a reminder that "we still got it."  Why not treat yourself to all of the perks you would’ve treated yourself to if you had a Valentine?  Think waxing appointment at a local wax bar (my fave in T.O. is Waxon Waxbar), enjoy some indulgent treats and go out for a night on the town, splurging for a bottle of Veuve Rose with your closest girlfriends.  Oh, and you can always throw on a hot new bra and panties set as a “just in case.”  Who knows, the night not be as young as you think it is.

You don’t need a guy to go all out for -- simply taking care of yourself and feeling your best will do the same.  The best thing you can do is to take control of the situation, your feelings and your day.  Instead of sitting around with a sense of doom, trying to avoid the love stories splashed all over your Facebook news feed and the sense that you’re alone, face the day head on and make it one that will put a smile on your pretty face.

Jen Kirsch is a relationship expert, columnist and blogger. For quick tips and tricks, follow her on Twitter @jen_kirsch. Read her posts every Tuesday on