As the days get shorter and the temperature gets cooler, it is easy to hibernate and be lazy in many ways, including in your relationship.  As much as us women like to be wooed, it’s important to note that the men in our lives also like to be wooed.  Instead of waiting to show him your love, appreciation and thoughtfulness on Valentine’s Day, why not heat things up now to show him just how genuine you are, as opposed to unleashing your sweet self all over him on a day that calls for it?

Here are ways to woo your partner in the winter:

1. Turn up the heat. Picking your partner up for a date?  If it’s your turn to be in the driver's seat, put on the passenger seat bun warmer as soon as you get in the car (if you have one).  Men love little thoughtful things that show you care and that you’re thinking about them – even when they aren’t with you. Feel free to let him know that you turned on his seat-warmer (in a subtle way) and ask him if he’s warm enough, just in case he didn’t acknowledge your goodhearted gesture. Whether he thanks you or not is irrelevant, so don’t trip out or have any expectations.  It’s the thought that counts, and he’ll no doubt keep tabs of this little act of kindness.  Maybe he’ll even follow suit next time you’re riding shotgun.

2. Get steamy. Hosting a sleepover?  Run out in the morning before he wakes up and grab his favourite hot beverage to start his day.  Women always win extra points when they show guys that they pay attention, especially when they know the specifics.  Next time he mentions he just did a coffee run, find out what he got and write a note for yourself in your phone.  If you’re not at the sleepover stage just yet, feel free to put it in your cup holder next time you pick him up.

3. Do it by the fireplace. We're always looking for the next trendy restaurant to hit on Saturday night, non?  With the snow and chill in the air, why not suggest a night in?  If you have a fireplace, perhaps you can roast some hot dogs over the fire (or veggie dogs if there's a vegetarian involved), and to get things just a little warmer, have a bottle of red by your side.  Extra points if you get marshmallows, graham crackers and chocolate to make s’mores.  This is all about creating a memorable experience.  Sure restaurants are all well and good, but this shows your nurturing side and that you don’t always need to go to the newest venue in town.  As for the rest of the night’s plans?  I’ll leave that up to you.

4. Play with your food.  Little did we know (especially at the start of a new relationship), men feel immense pressure even just selecting a spot to take you on a date.  Why not show him your independence and take a load off him by planning some foodie fun indoors?  A local fondue restaurant or a restaurant with a teppanyaki table offer you fresh warm food and a fun environment.  They also differ than the usual, go-to date places.

5. Melt the ice. Wanting to spend more time with him, but can never get yourselves out of the house on the weekend?  'Tis the season to experience ice wine.  Why not plan a trip to Niagara to visit some wineries that specialize in ice wine this time of year.  There are groups, such as that have set prices for couples that include transportation to and from the wineries, the tours, a packed lunch and information guides.

Jen Kirsch is a relationship expert, columnist and blogger. For quick tips and tricks, follow her on Twitter @jen_kirsch. Read her posts every Tuesday on