Top 10 ways to make him yours
You’ve read the books, you’ve studied all there is to know about Mars, and you’re still not sure how to win him over. It’s simpler than you think. Once you’ve found your target of choice, the next step is ensuring he’s smitten. Here are 10 ways to win him over right at the start.
1. Leave your desperation at home
For inspiration, watch Beyoncé’s “Irreplaceable” video and you’ll understand. You see women like Melanie Griffith stalking her own husband because she’s paranoid? That’s not attractive. That’s sad. If you’re desperately trying to win him over, stop right now. Go see a therapist. You’ll get more results that way.
2. The clichés are true
If he doesn’t like you for you, then he’s not going to stick around in the long run. Not only that, but he’ll either a) see you’re not genuine and run off or b) see you’re not genuine and consider you as a one-night stand instead. Be yourself, look nice, smile, be friendly and honest, and you’re in for a much more pleasant evening. Besides, why make all that effort for a guy who probably isn’t worth the effort?
3. Um, are you listening? Guys like it when you pay attention to them
That doesn’t mean laugh in high-pitched giggles at his jokes. Ask general, neutral questions. If you show interest in what he’s talking about, he’ll appreciate it. It’s also a great way to ascertain whether he’s a Kevin Federline or a Matthew Fox.
4. Relax and have fun
Believe it or not, guys have a tendency to go for women they can have fun with, not women who are simply arm candy. Arm candy gets stale fairly quickly. Find something fun you can do together and have a good laugh at. If you don’t have any common interests, what are you doing with him? Oh, the sex? Then just have lots of sex!
5. Be sexy not skanky
Think Katie Holmes, not Paris Hilton. A flirtatious glance or a coy remark can be great foreplay. Licking earlobes after an hour of conversation is something that a friendly Labrador does, not a potential girlfriend.
6. Learn from Fatal Attraction
The movie might be 20 years old but the message is exactly the same: Stalking is a crime. If your whole life is focused on him, then you’re bound to lose on all counts. Be balanced in your life and stop being such a wuss. See your friends, pursue your own stuff and don’t wait by the phone or text message him every five minutes. If you’re at that point, check yourself into a clinic. Now.
7. Live the two S’s: Smart and Secure
A woman who is secure in herself and smart is always going to be more of a turn on than a ditz with a complex.
8. Keep a hint of mystery
Exposing your entire life story and all your skeletons within the first month is only going to leave you stranded on your couch alone. Think of it as a strip-tease: slowly peel away layers until he’s desperate to get to the good stuff. Or at least he’ll be in deep enough to handle anything really foul or rotten.
9. Be open to his interests
Okay, so maybe you never really thought boxing was exciting, but if he’s passionate about it, give it a chance. That way, you have a good argument on your side when you want to take him to the pillow fighting league.
10. Culinary delights are always winners
Men like food. Men eat food. Men like women who can make them food they like to eat. Men, at their core, are pretty basic. Find out what he likes and wow him over. Then offer yourself as dessert. You can’t go wrong with that equation.
Written by: Robyn Burnett