You and your boyfriend are getting serious and you think you have a shot at a great future together. Only problem is, he's allergic to your pet and is miserable. What do you do?
can't he get a shot?
Get him a shot your boyfriend if that doesn't work Get rid of him. keep the dog he will bring you more happeniess
If he's the one... the allergy won't be the issue, if it becomes one... its just a dog... find it a new home and live happily every after.
shots don't always work! we had to get rid of my two cats because hubby was allergic...
Who the hell cares if hes allergic.. hes just a guy.. theres a million and one lieing,smelly, CHEATING bastards out there JUST LIKE HIM!! keep the pooch!
hmmm. I'm having this very situation at the moment! I'm an animal lover and have two dogs at home. I started dating a man who's got bad allergies to pet dander. He hasn't come to the house yet so I don't know how bad the reaction will be, but I wonder what the chances are for any relationship. There's no way I'm getting rid of my dog. She's been with me 6 years.
If there's no talk of a serious comittment lose the guy. Too many people treat animals like they are disposable. Pets don't choose us, we choose them so it's just not fair. Besides, there are other options to try - get rid of the rug, upholstery, build a dog run. Animals have a much shorter life span than we do, give them a good home while you have a chance because they are great pals and ALWAYS there for us. Besides, how bad would you feel if you got rid of the pet and then the relationship didn't work?
Keep the pet. It's not fair to the animal, who loves you unconditionally no matter what. Guys come and go, if he really cared to take the relationship to the next level, it would not matter, he'd live with it.
I highly doubt that a guy will ever suffer so miserably from allergies liek I do. My thoughts...suck it up and take some allergy pills/puffers/sprays/and shots. they work great and it's nto the end of the world. The pet was there before him and has become a part of you, he needs to accept that.
Well, his allergies can't be worse than mine to animals, and I can't part with my animals - I love em too much. He can join me with my allergy drug C***tail... it's not all that bad. ;)If he can't deal, well, it's not going to work out.
whats ur happiness?r u happier with the dog or with him,if hes the 1 it wont matter
my ex was iilergic to cats and I had 2. It's kinda bad when you know your boyfriend has to take alergy pills just to come around you ..
Keep the animal. If he loves you, he will accept and as someone said, they dont have that long a life and shelters are full of unwanted animals who end up being put down. You will NEVER get unconditional love from a man. (or woman) I am allergic to my husbands cat. Allergy pills!! reactine is the wonder drug! I would never ask him to get rid of his cat any more than he would ask me to get rid of my Maltese. (all 5 of them)
him or the dog. for me, definetly the pet is worth allot more than a guy, but you might want to try something like a pill or shaving the animal(they look good in jackets)haha how long have you had the pet?? how long have you had your man?? what ones longer?? thats the one to keep !!
if hes allergic to the dog its fine he can take allerggy medication, and make ure you vacC***e up the house alot to limit the hair. but dont get rid of you poor little dog cause hes allergic becasue it can definatly be worked out so u ccan keep both. like when hes over put the dog in the other room
maybe your pet will be allergic to him and there won't be an issue.
I think a pet is a like a baby of course the boyfriend is important but as everyone knows those come and go.I think of the guy liked you enough he wouldnt care just try to be considerate and make sure the animal doesnt get close to him and perhaps buy him some meds or sprays and clean up more often then you would to make everyone comfortable and happy!
i say if he you think he is "the one" get rid of the ugly furball it's gonna die soon anyways..
I brush my cat every day and make sure I sweep and vacuum lots around here. She is trained now to know she has to sleep at the bottom of the bed if he is around and can only sleep on the pillow on my side. I helps him a lot. Hopefully everyone else can come up with something that helps so they can keep both of their loved ones.
antihistamine <---- and if not... maybe find a GOOOOOOOD home for your pet if not? go sleep over at his place ;)
get a life u can be strong on ur own u don't need a man
get a life don't follow boys be a strong B***!like u were when u were 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10,11, well basicly all oyur life don't stop NOW!!!!!!!
it's just an animal. i'm not saying pets are disposible but it isn't as important as a person. i understand some people are really attached to their pets but honestly, if you find a person who you love and loves you (but is allergic) then you need to make sacrifices for them. getting rid of animal (who really only cares about you because you feed it) is not as big of a deal as people make it out to be. most people who are so attached to animals are just trying to fill some sort of void in their life. if you keep endowing an animal with human characteristics it doesn't have- then you are going to end up a lonely of spinster/male equivalent.
this happened with my man and my cat. He wouldn't even sit near her he was so allergic!He knew that I would not be getting rid of her (hey, a committment was a committment and when I got her from the shelter, I made it) so he went for some allergy shots.3 years later and married, we have just welcomed a puppy into our life!I scored in all departments!
If it also helps, there is a type of liquid sell in pet shops that you put on a cotton ball and pass it through your pet. It helps remove the substances that might cause an allergic reaction which might also help if the shots/pills don't work, but without a doubt don't get ride of the dog.
He is allergic to cats, and he know that getting rid of my cat is NOT AN OPTION. So my question is how to compromise. What precautions can I take so he's visit can be an enjoyable for him and not be a miserable one...:-(
Meds, Judith, meds. My cat is a Persian and is a little strange... I know he would get very sick, if not die, if I gave him to someone else. He is very timid. If a man loves you, he accepts your "baggage". There is always a way. Losing your 'baby' is NOT one of them. Men come and go, but if they love you they accept. Animals love you regardless of what you do. How is that a choice?
KNOCK KNOCK TRU THAAT SAID. kNOCK kNOCK PAC ONCE EXCCEALED.
If you love the man, get rid of the pets, but only if there is a commitment there. I am allergic to EVERYTHING. Shots don't work, medications make me sleepy. Besides asking him to possibly live in a situation where he is SICK all the time, is almost like asking an alcoholic to live in a bar. If you aren't willing to give something up (and taking the time to find a loving home for your pet is not out of the question) then you don't love him enough. There is another possibility. Many farms have cats, they live outside, or in the barn.
so glad i found this subject to put my two cents in on...my b/f of just over a yr is allergic to my cat(funny because he's never been allergic to anything in his whole life)...anyway he is leary about taking meds for it so i have asked him to speak to his doc about it...i have made it clear that i will not get rid of my cat as i had gotten him before i met my b/f and my b/f is the most amazing guy ever and has said many times he would never ask me to get rid of my cat...
its quite simple really,,,your pet will be with you till it passes away..your BF on the other hand won't be. If he doesn't fit with your pet, then he doesn't fit with your life..and it won't last very long. Don't give up something for a man,,,especially a pet, they fall into the same category as "family" so unless your shallow enough to give up your family for some man,,then don't do it for your pet either. Men are like busses, theres another one along every 15 minutes, so you will find one that fits your life better if you just look for him.
its quite simple really,,,your pet will be with you till it passes away..your BF on the other hand won't be. If he doesn't fit with your pet, then he doesn't fit with your life..and it won't last very long. Don't give up something for a man,,,especially a pet, they fall into the same category as "family" so unless your shallow enough to give up your family for some man,,then don't do it for your pet either. Men are like busses, theres another one along every 15 minutes, so you will find one that fits your life better if you just look for him. I have a cat who is 22yrs old, she is deaf now but still my compaion..she has lasted longer than any relaionship or marriage I have had, and none of them ended because they didn't like cats...they just wern't the right man, so where would I have been if I had gotten rid of my precious cat?
i would choose a man over a pet, humans get priority...sorry i think a lot won't agree with me but if i am in such situation, and being attracted to the guy, I would first find a good home for my pets, and try to make sure that they are cared for and sometimes being allowed to visit them....SO if a person is willing to make a relationship work this is the bes solution, and for me it's not a problem, i have 3 cats, 1 female dog (i don't get very well with her though because it seems she hates me for no reason) 3 tortoises.....
well just look at it this way, your pet should be like your child. some people would give their pet away some wouldn't but realy just think what if your boyfriend or your man was allergic to your kids not your pet your kids would you get rid of your kids would you get rid of your kids of course not so why would you get rid of your pet i know you may love the guy but you got to think of your family members too [yes even pets] so just think your pets come first i'm not saying to break up with him or anything stay together but keep the pet
What if you have an auto immune disorder and you can't take medication or anything else does not help. But you love the woman so much and she won't give up the cats. Two years together and I never been so serious in my life as this one, but the cats is killing between us?
Don't just sit there talking to your computer. Have your say and add a comment. Please note: All comments are subject to moderation before being posted into the comments section.
Apply to be on your favourite Slice show!
Real Housewives of New Jersey
Tuesdays at 10pm ET
Princesses: Long Island
Tuesdays at 9pm ET