What do you think is an unforgivable crime in a relationship?
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Sex with another man/woman.
I think anything is forgivable. People are only human. It all depends on circumstances and whether there is a true willingness to change. Now if it keeps happening again and again, that's another story.
Pretty much doing anything other than kissing someone else that isn't me. It would break my heart and that is unexcuseable.
I mostly agree with just me, forgiving someone who got drunk and did something once is forgivable I went through that but if he does it again or has a full fledged emotional affair, look out cause I will go "Before He Cheats" on his ass!
I would say any form of cheating is unforgivable. Drinking too much is NO reason for someone to cheat. It is just an excuse for someone to try and get away with what they did knowing that what they did was wrong. If someone cheats then there is no trust therefore there is no relationship.
For me if I am in a serious relationship a deal breaker would be an emotional cheating. I could deal with the physical act of cheating but if he/she was more emotionally involved with someone else I would feel betrayed in that way especially if it is with my enemy. That is what broke up me and my exhusband. He chose his "friendship" with her over making me happy. He knew I hate her that is why when we were having problems he ran to her and befriended her. That was too much for me, I could handle them cheating with eachother but not him telling her all our intimate details and discussing things with her ne never did/would with me, I would not put up with it so I left. I am happy now and remarried, but went into this marriage with eyes wide open, he knows my boundaries with what I will put up with and won't cheating wise.
I will not stand for any type of betrayal, whether it be coveting another woman, flirting, kissing, especially not being intimate. For the woman who can forgive that, I think you're very strong, cause you know your man isn't trustworthy when he allows himself to get into the a situation where he is able to cheat on you. Yes, I understand we are all human and imperfect, but there are good, honest men out there who would not even look at another woman, and we should be loving these men, not the dopes that keep their brain in their pants. If I'm strong enough and love enough to be completely faithful, then my partner should be too. Love is the act of selflessness, and if we did truly love then we wouldn't allow ourselves to commit such a selfish act as to allow someone else to satisfy us sexually. There is NEVER an excuse for infidelity, because everything can be avoided (i.e not going out to party and get drunk without your siginificant other, especially if you know you can't keep it in your pants). Also you should never have a closer realtionship with someone other than your spouse (who's supposed to be your other half). I really hate unfaithful people, cause its NOT impossible to be completely devoted to your partner, you just need to ignore and avoid all types of distractions.
so, if you look at the above picture,,, you know he's not keeping his eyes where he should be. Can you see the extreme amount of pain his "girl" feels at this betrayel? Jesus had something right when he said that even if a man LOOKS at another woman with lust, he's already commited adultery. How much pain could be avoided if we stopped thinking about love as only sex, what if love was something greater than an emotional fling....? What would that do to relationships in general?
Cheating, flirting, lying and drunk while doing those are absolutely immature and no excuses in my books. Men and women are adults, and should be mature enough to know boundaries if in a serious HAPPY relationship. Even if a relationship has unhappy times, its the responsibility of the couple to work things out in communication as to why the issues, what the issues, and resolve it. Marriages are not hollywood love stories, its a reality and facts of way ups and way downs. Couples need to understand one another, communicate about all, respect each other and most of all, trust and love and appreciate one another. If you are in a really happy, healthy and satisfied relationship, then the chances of having your spouse "looking" or tempted is low risk.I have to say that I am in a very healthy marriage with my husband and we communicate about every single dam thing out there on a daily basis. He travels globally with his job and I always know where he is at all times. He txts me, emails me and calls me to tell me where he is, etc...its not an agreement between us, its just the way we are. Heck, he even shares stories he overhears on planes, hotels, about cheating men/women. And we talk about this all the time. I trust him completely because he has no reasons for me to believe he has been unfaithful and that goes for me towards him as well.
Emotional Abuse! criticism, insults and being put down is the worst thing I have ever felt, especially when someone says they love you. Cheating sucks for sure, but this is worse
I agree with emotional abuse being unforgivable. I was even physically abused and i actually found that easier to forgive then all the emotional abuse I dealt with. Unfortuanatly most women and even men don't even realize there being emotionally abused. If you feel like your going crazy and having a hard time judging if what there saying to you is right or wrong, that's a major sign. It's called crazy making. It's not just one incident or one mistake that can be forgiven. It's unfortunatly part of their personality trait and they never change for the long term. Just a week here a week there. Enough to make you hold on to that hope. I wish I could say that they can change but 99% of the time it doesn't work out that way. And all that marriage advice out there about "communication", it doesn't work with these types of people. They completly overpower you and make you feel more stupid for even thinking there was a problem to begin with. It's a vicious cycle. PS to leaving soon: My heart goes out to you but just realize your not alone. I wish you the best. I know how painful it is especially when you love them. Sometimes you just can't help them and you have to part ways to preserve the little self-esteem you have left. I'm just starting to like myself again and after going through that I now find happiness in the smallest things. I finally have peace in my life and am excited about my future.
Forgivable unless it's a repeat offense and there's no regret. Humans aren't built for monogamy X_X
Being emotionally, physically and mentally abused. I have worn these shoes and wouldn't wish anyone to walk in them. You have to forgive in order to move on and I had to do just that. Not saying you ever forget but you do need to forgive the abuser not necessarily face to face but in your own heart.
physical abuse and or cheating, those are the two things i will not take
Cheating is something I wouldn't be able to take. Got out of a physical abusive relationship. When I had doubts he was being faithfull, thats when I knew I had to leave. I'm glad to say there is sunlight after the thuderstorm.
In the past I was willing to date. But I was afraid how I would be treated, because I was bullied as a teen, and I read it leaves scare. As a adult I recieved counselling and recovered. Now, I believe I can have a health relationship with a man. In terms of cheating, emotional abuse and verbal abuse it's unforgivable. My take on it is you can forgive the abuser, but you need to leave the person permently and perserve well being.
What do you think is an unforgivable crime in a relationship? Yes, I agree on "any type of abuse." Cheating falls within that realm also.
Cheating... doesn't feel good to be cheated on..
I'd say lack of honesty, in any way possible. Since cheating is also a part of that.
heck no! lol i'm only 15
Emotional cheating is unforgiveable...however just physical cheating depending on circumstances could be forgiven if its not a repeat offense and she better not be hotter than me. people can change sometimes it just takes something to make them realize what they have. some people think they lack a consience until the meet someone who makes them realize they do...then theres the one super crazy drunk night and for all you know you could have been doing a couch....but lets get real...people do make mistakes...sometimes a step back and reassessing the situation can make or break the relationship and determine whether or not its worth fighting for. come on girls...are you really theres two ways you can look at it....1 - hes a jerk and im just gonna cry about it and let the other girl get what she wanted or ..2- im going to fight for my man and show her whats upagain depends on the circumstances....overall emotional cheating would be unforgivable because that would mean he never really loved you anyways
i'm not sure actualy it just depends
I agree with the fact that anything can be forgivable... if you love someone, you can forgive pretty much anything... if it were to happen a second time, it might not be so easy, but a one time occurance is forgivable.As far as emotional/mental abuse, sometimes it is hard to see that fine line... I have been in a "potentially" abusive relationship for over a year now, every fight we have is somehow my fault and I have even been "punished" by him not taking my calls for a couple of days after these occurances... I love him and I am willing to forgive him, but my friends tell me that he is emotionally abusing me... who makes the decision as to what constitutes abuse?
Every person has a different idea of what is an is not forgivable. For me abuse and cheating are unforgivable. I might forgive the cheating man as a person, but I would certainly not trust him enough to stay in a relationship. I feel like if an entire human being isn't enough for you, you have big emotional issues that you need to work out. Be mature. If you are unable to commit to one person, don't enter the relationship.
Cheating and Abuse of ANY kind
Any form of Abuse, whether it be mental or physical abuse, or both, in my eyes, are completely unforgivable, been there, done that and currently going through a Divorce because of these actions. Also, any foorm of cheating, being physically or mentally with another person, is as well aterrible thing! I have learned from all this, that Life is toos hort, and we should all try and make the best of each and everyday we can, and if something feels not right in any relatonship, in any way like these, always trust your instinct and intuition, and move on in life to bigger and better things....
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the most unforgivable crime to me is obviously cheating, unforgivable isn't even the word. Another is when you get accused of something you never did..but in their mind..you did. WTF?! GET A BRAIN!!
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