More and more women are choosing not to have kids. Will you ever take the plunge into motherhood?
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I respect all those who have kids and I love my nieces and nephews more than anything. But I can and have listed hundreds of reasons I won't have kids. Not now.. not ever..
may be later but not yet...
Yes. At least 2, maximum 4.
i definatly want at least 3 kids
There is a time and age where a woman most feels secure and mature enough to handle such a responsibility. It could be as young at 18, and as mature as 55. Woman need to take their time, enjoy their lives, then be able to decide on their own behalf once and for all, if kids will positively change their lives. Every woman is different and not all woman want to have kids. Society needs to understand and deal with that.
I used to think I wanted lots of kids at a young age but now...I'm not soo sure. I'm much too self involved to think of having kids now. Maybe someday.
I love my 2 girls! I couldn't see kids as an option until I was 24, suddenly one day I looked at a child and realized I has to be around children - my own biologically or adopted. I wasn't going to wait for the perfect man. He came along though, and we could only have 2 ... I wish I could have more! I was a stay-at-home mom, but now I work and he loves staying at home with the babies and quit his crap-job while I went back to a job I love. I truely have a fabulous life.
I just turned 23. In August I got back together with my on and off boyfriend of over 3 years. I love children and I work in education, with young ones. Right now I do not feel ready to have a baby. My boyfriend and I have been taking it a bit slow, making sure this is the real deal this time, we don't even live together right now. I would want to be at least living with my boyfriend and feel more financially secure before having children. (And having that ring on my finger would be nice too. lol.)Idealy I want 2 children, with the next 5 ot 6 years.
I would love to have kids some time soon. At least 2
I think a lot of young women these days (at least where I come from ) are just having children to get attention or because they think its going to be easy. The only people that end up suffering in that situation are the children. It really makes me mad! It seems like children are having children. And in these economic times I almost think its irresponsible to have children. I guess thats just where I am now, too many people having babies for the wrong reasons just make me mad! However there are some great people having children right now, and thank god for that!
I love kids, and I would have more! I had my first when I was 18 and now at 34 just gave birth to twins! I finished school went to college and now have a good government position. I wouldn't change my path at all! I have a great husband who is so dedicated to his family!
I knew I wanted kids since I was really young, but I waited until I was 24 and married to start my family. I am now 32 with two beautiful girls and we are gonna try for one more. We take care of our own children and don't depend on anyone else. I don't think it is right to say that just cause we are in hard economic times that it is irresponsible to have children like Not Yet said. If you are ready now, later or never that is your own personal choice. Just like anchovies aren't for everyone neither is parenthood and we have to respect that.
I just got married and my husband and I really want to have kids...I feel my biological clock ticking (I'm 31)...but I'm concerned about getting pregnant when my husband doesn't have a job....thought?????
I have somthing to say here, I am heart broken that my wife only wanted a child and not a family. After my daughter was born (Right after) I was kicked to the curb like a bag of trash. She only wanted a child. I wanted a family and feel that I have lost everything.So, now I am staying abstonent and going through University for my PH.D so my daughter will have a good future. I hope none of you use any guy's as a sperm donar. It's a shame we have to suffer away from our own children.
so im 19, im married and my husband is in the military. originally, my plan was to go to school and focus on a career. then i met him and my whole perspective changed. i want to be a young mom so i can have that special bond with my children, and have the energy to be the best mom i can be. some people may look down on me for that because im so young and im throwing my life away, but whatever i dont care. i am happy in my life and who says that having a degree is what makes you sucessful in life? maybe its just about living it and having all the love of a family. i believe that is what true happiness is.
Im 24 and just had my daughter 4 months ago... The first few weeks she was home I did'nt want more children, thinking it was to much work! But now, Im thinking that except those first few weeks, it is so much joy that I want a least 2 or 3 more... and my fiancee agree!!!
I'm now 26 and growing up I was never one of those kids who wanted babies, now if I end up pregnant then I will accept it but I'm not going to go out of my way to have one even though my bf would be totally ecstatic about. I honestly can say I don't think I ever want children.
I am expecting my first, and I am very happy that I waited into my 30's then in my 20's. Like some of you's, if my path was to never have children, I would not be upset. But it seems my path was! I grew up convinced I was never going to be married and have kids...maybe because I did not want that life. I was the type that career and money was my motive for living. Really. I met my husband and everything changed. Now we are expecting and happy about this. Although I sacrificed my wishes and goals for high career and money, that cannot replace my husband and our great life together. Hey, I now have my own home business in esthetics! So, that means, my career is home!So I do not judge at all women who decide children are not for them. I do not look down to them at all for that decision. The world has changed and we women especially are much more in power and independant on life choices now. NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!!!
This is a note to dancing queen. I felt the same way as you, I very much so was ready for a baby at your age, but don't let that strong desire distract you from the real situation. Trust me you don't want to have a baby with a man that can't even forsure commit to marrying you. If they can't commit to that they likly won't be able to handle the demands and the committment required to be a real man and stick around to raise his child. I was not married to my boyfriend when we had our baby and now he has left and everyday I feel guilty that my son does not have his father in his life everyday. So wait for the right man!!
I can see myself having kids. I want to be financially stable and settle down with the right guy. So maybe that won't happen for another 5 years
To Emily:My degree never helped me be a better mom. And nothing tops being a mom!!!Education is a life-long process ... I will be returning to school ... as long as it adds to family life - that is my passion and priority! All the best from an ol' mom in her 30's!
My baby girl is due on wednesday and I thought I was ready at the age of 26 but now that I realize it i am fine having a baby at 31!
I dont know... i might end up having a baby by next year. I'm married, he wants kids, I am kind of on the fence.... If we end up pregnent, that's fine with me, but if for one reason or another can't, then I'm okay with that too. I've never been one to NEED a baby. I like babies, but I also like being able to give them back to their parents at the end of the day. Maybe I'll wait a little while longer before I stop trying to NOT have one ;)
My wedding is coming up in September, and since the moment i got engaged, both my mom and future mother-in-law are already on my case to make sure i get pregnant asap after the wedding! Now I am 27 and been dating my fiancé for 10 years (and we have never even lived together!)... so whats another 3 to 5 years to wait before having kids?! I have so much pressure from the families, but honestly my fiancé and I wanna wait as long as my biological clock can wait to have 1 or maybe 2 children. Whats so wrong with waiting til 31 or 32?? You old-fashioned parents (our families are italian, greek and polish) just dont understand my generation and how its changed from yours! Let us live our lives on our own terms and understand that kids are not an absolute necessity for everyone. Or at least respect that we choose to get married and have families at an older age...
I am 20 and me and my boyfriend have been together on and off for 5 years. We have been contemplating for over a year now on whether we should do it now or wait. He's 23 and feels that it is about time for him to start family because he is done school and I am done in April. We are both starting into our careers and want to see the world but we also want to expand our family and love for eachother. Everyone tells us we have all the time in the world but I want to live each day to the fullest even if that means with a baby at 20.
I tell you this ladys, you never know real love untill you have your own child, and it dosnt matter how old you are or who the daddy is the child is yours forever! I have a 3 yr old son I was 17 when I had him 16 when I got pregnant but I would not change anything in the world! I love being a young mom I think that it is great ! I have a lovly home and a awsome son! I know that one day he will make a family and a life of his own and I am excited to see his childrens children! I will be young enough to do that!
Im 28 and have been married for almost 5 years now. I think I want children and know my husband does...badly...but Im still so hesitant. He gets upset and discouraged when I tell him I am still not really ready for them. Will I ever be ready? I do love kids and want them...someday......but when will I know Im ready?? Im a bit freaked out too about the whole thing...but Im getting older and don't want to wait too long...and don't want to have them just to make him happy...Maybe I'll figure this all out someday.....
I am 21 and in university doing an undergrad degree. My dream is to go to graduate school and be a published author. Having children before I am thirty might not make my dreams impossible, but it would definitely make them significantly more difficult. Plus, I want to enjoy my twenties and find out more about myself! I don't feel I would be a good mother before really living life fully without kids and learning as much about the world as I can. I am definitely planning to hold off until my thirties to get married and have children.
Ready for kids?First of all I'd just like to say "HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA" and then some!! 'NO ONE'is ever really ready for kids! Kids are work and they are stressful. They are also awesome little people that you can't stop kissing, they're loving, sweet, kind and cuddly!I'll be 50 this year. I have grown sons, daughter in laws and grandchildren. I love having them over and cherrish every moment! I love them all to bits!I have a sister that chose not to have children....it's a pity too, she would have made a wonderful mother, she's the best aunty to the kids!
Sorry, but none for me. If watched over so many lil ones. I'll pass.
My biggest issue is that I am 20 years old, and my boyfriend is 29. We've been together for a while now, but I feel like there is some pressure for me to have kids with him soon because he is so much older/his parents and my grandparents want grandchildren. I think 25 is way too early, but I feel as if 30 may be too late because he will be almost 40. Maybe I should just forget about the age thing. Other than that, I think kids are great IF you can afford them! I don't like it when couples have children and struggle - don't forget it costs a lot of money for education, clothing, toys, etc! Just the thought of needing to have all that money for the kids scares me.
hey guys!haha well Joe and I are back together. He bought us a house, and we're getting married in about three weeks. I'm really excited. Well, i really want two kids, but he doesn't think we're ready, what do i do? and please don't comment back saying AHH i love you and stuff.Love Tay.
I sure hope I will. One day. Since no boyfriend right now, might be a little complicated at the moment. haha.
i'm not sure lol i'm only 16 i know that not right now
I'm 23, my boyfriend and I own a house together and we have good jobs.We have been trying for almost a year. We have been prepared for a while to get pregnant, but it just doesn't seem to be happening. I agree that no matter how much preparation you take life works in mysterious ways.
yeah right ur taylor swift!
lol i 4got to say what i was going to say!!!! anyways i am younger than 30 so i am totally not going to get prego!!!
I definately know that I will have kidsat a future date... hoping for around 3-4 but no one knows exactly what life will bring so no one can really tell those things. There is planning you can do to a certain extent but life is unpredicatable. Now as far as the whole "more and more women are choosing not to have kids" bit... really, if it's their decision that they're happy with, then there's really nothing wrong with that at all. In fact, to be all scientific...it's actually better, the world's poP***tion keeps rising and rising that it will eventually come to a point in time where we will not have enough reusable resources to actually sustain all life.. so the less people are producing the farther off that day will be.
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