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How long should you wait before you move in together?

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My boyfriend and I moved in together after about 4 months. We are still together over 3 years later. i think our success is due a lot to communication. I don't think it's a matter of time, I think it's a matter of making the effort to get along and make cohabitating work for the two of you. If you work different shifts (like my bf and I) it can also be a matter of making sure the house is sound proof enough so you done wake one another up all the time!

Tamara
Sunday, 21 September 2008 00:14 AM EST

My boyfriend and I moved in after 2 months of long distance, so we went from nothing to living together in a heartbeat. We each had our own apartments for the first 9 months though we were mainly at his place and never spent a night apart - then we decided we were comfortable enough to not renew his lease and he moved into my place, where we lived for 2.5+years together.

Now we've been doing long distance again for 8months with 3 more to go, and I agree with Tamara that communication is the key to making it work. Relationships are about compromise and if you're living together it's important to be sure you're both clear on the expectations you each have vs. what reality permits, otherwise you set yourself up for disappointment, frustration and miscommunication...

But it can work!! it depends on the couple

lucky
Saturday, 27 September 2008 14:20 PM EST

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. In november, we will be getting our first apartment. Now we pretty much live together now (mostly at his house because it is quite and out in the country). There was some hesitation at first, because we are both scared. Him being 22 and me being 19. But we have a great relationship, and we are very strong. I agree with both tamara and lucky. You need to have strong communication before anything can move forward.

Allison
Wednesday, 15 October 2008 15:54 PM EST

Me and my boyfriend moved into together after 4 months, right after i graduated highschool, and were married now! I beleive it will either make or break a relationship because you see a totolly different side of someone when you live with them. I don't agree with the ppl that wait to live togerther until there married....sooo stupid just the perfect time to find out u can not stand each others habits ahah

Ashley
Wednesday, 29 October 2008 23:08 PM EST

My boyfriend and I moved in together in a month. We have been together for eight great years. I don't think that I should have moved in so soon but it still worked out in the end.

Mish
Thursday, 06 November 2008 17:54 PM EST

I moved in with a guy i was dating after 2-2 1/2 years of dating him. Within a month we had broken up. After spending some time on my own I started dating an old friend of mine and we moved in together within a few months, we have been living together for almost 2 years now and are getting married next summer.

It's not a matter of when it's a matter of who and how much you love each and are willing to work at getting along.

Alyssa
Monday, 17 November 2008 21:52 PM EST

Well, My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half and are planning to move in together next year some time. I cant wait Im so excited and I think that this will bring us closer together for sure! We have always been great at communication and talking about whats on our minds. We dont let anything pass by, so I think that thats the key element in any relationship, its just the matter of making sure that the communication doesn't turn into nagging, you know what Im talking about ladies ;)

Ashley
Thursday, 27 November 2008 20:16 PM EST

It is a proven fact that couples who move in together before they get married are fifty percent more likely to get divorced. The only exception to this rule is for women who have only been with one man. Nonetheless, it is hard to be with someone and not live with them. I have done it for 2 yrs now with my fiance. We are getting married in December but moving in with eachother when my lease is up in July. I just hope we are not another statistic.

Sam
Friday, 28 November 2008 15:51 PM EST

My bf and I moved in with each other after dating for 6 months, but we had also been friends first and have known each other for over 4 years. We are very good at communicating with each other, we both place great importance in communication. I agree that it doesn't really matter how long you have been together, just as long as you can openly communicate with each other. Also, looking at your relationship as a "team" really helps too.

Just be aware when you do move in that you will find out little habits and things that your significant other does that might drive you a bit nuts LOL....the key is to pick your battles and remember why you wanted to live together in the first place! We have been together 1.5 years now and have never been happier! :D

Ann
Saturday, 29 November 2008 15:51 PM EST

my boyfriend and i moved in together after about a year of dating

megan
Monday, 01 December 2008 17:08 PM EST

my bf and i moved in together after 6 months. he never went home and he had his clothes at my place. i told him there wasn't any point of paying that much for a "room" to hold his furniture. it's been two years now. i think i'll marry this one ;p

lisa
Tuesday, 16 December 2008 22:24 PM EST

My guy and I shacked up after four months and got engaged the following month. We're happily married and have been together for a grand total of four years.

There are no rules, if it feels right and you're doing it for the right reasons, go for it.

Jennifer
Monday, 19 January 2009 00:56 AM EST

My Gf and i moved in after 3 months we met on the internet, and started talking for about 2months then she asked me to meet her i ran into her arms and never want her to let go she feels the same as i do, and we have been together for 5 years and theres not one day i hate cause seeing her next to me makes my heart beat fast i still get butterflys in my belly and i still look at her and feel that love we share from day one,

Steve
Saturday, 14 February 2009 20:52 PM EST

My fiance and I moved in together after 3 months. We knew each other for a year and a half before we got together, though. Even though it was soon, it was one of the best decisions I have ever made. We are extremely happy, and I actually think we wouldn't be together if we weren't living together. He works and goes to school during the day and I work at night, so it's a good thing we live in the same house or we'd never have time to see each other.

Cass
Monday, 05 October 2009 05:42 AM EST

I met my fiance during the 2008 Christmas holiday at work, our very first hang out together was January 17, 2009, for the entire month of March we didn't talk cos we hated each other, by April we made up and started as bf/gf on April 23, 2009. Moved in with him in the beginning with June. And now we're engaged! So if you aren't being pushed into it and you feel REALLY comfortable with you significant other, then anytime is a good time. lol

Mamotam3
Saturday, 20 February 2010 12:51 PM EST

Me and my boyfriend waited one year to move in together and we have been together for 3 years. It's good to mature in your relationship and know that you care enough about the other person before you move in. This way those little things that might bug you about them when you move in won't bug you as much because you will have respect and knowledge about the other person while also feeling comfortable enough with them for home life to be great!

ForeverInLove3
Sunday, 14 March 2010 06:18 AM EST

I "moved in" 2 weeks after our first date. Sleeping over slowly became living over and 4 years later we have a beautiful son and a new house. When you know, you know.

Rachel
Saturday, 01 May 2010 09:56 AM EST

I personally feel that living with someone is something very special and sacred. I am getting married next year and we (me and my boyfriend of 4 years) had decided that we would wait until Marriage to move in together as well as be sexually intimate. If you don't share these beliefs and you're not someone who wants to get married, wait until you are truly in love with this person. Make sure this person is your best friend and respect you and your wishes ALWAYS! If there are habits that drive you away, deal with them or they will only get WAY worst. If I had to put a time frame on living together, I think the minimum time is 2 years of dating. By then, you've lived everything twice. Christmas, birthdays, the "boring" annual family reunion, vacation time, weddings, the whole calendar twice! You know what to expect and what is expected from yourself at all these occasions. You know the daily routine by then and maybe some of the minor financial situations of the other person. Make sure you know in what you're getting yourself into because these days, living with someone and then breaking up is pretty much as legal as getting a divorce. The other person can in some cases be entitled to 50% of everything........ Make sure you know in what you're getting yourself into!!!!

France
Friday, 13 August 2010 17:40 PM EST

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