What do you think about pre-nuptial agreements? Do you have one? Would you sign one if asked?
Of course I'd have one. I think that any income post wedding should always be shared, also in case of a divorce. But there should be no way that my husband can access any assets I had pre-marriage, like savings, my first appartment that I rent out and especially not any family money that may ever come my way. And this certainly goes both ways. His assets/family money should be untouchable for me.
I get a lot of negative feedback with it is brought up with my family and friends that I will be signing a pre nup. But I'm the one who brought it up first as I knew going into this relationship that he has quite a bit of money through an inheritance that he will be getting and honestly it is not mine, never was and will never be so its my way of proving that i'm not with him for his money but instead for love.
I don't agree with pre-nups...they seem to dig the hole deeper when it comes to relationships...unless you know the person your with is a gold digger then yeah sure go for it.Money can't buy you happiness..it only brings greed and envy.If I was asked to sign one that just wouldn't happen..that would tell me that they care about their money and not the relationship..insecure.
I didn't sign a prenup and it never even entered our minds. A part of our marriage is sharing everything, including money. We are committed to each other and do not see a divorce in the future, no matter how bad it gets. We're committed to staying together and working things through, and I think a prenup would show insecurity in our relationship and that we don't completely trust each other.
I didn't need to get a prenub since both my husband and I didn't have much money to begin with (we just both graduated from University). Although, if he or I had a lot of money or assets then yeah, I would have got one.
Firstly there are a variety of reasons to or not to. At the same time a prenup is like a seatbelt, you never plan OR want to really need it. Finances are always unique to each individual and couple. I would strongly recommmend them and will myself. Also they should perhaps be revisited as time elapses. Yes it does take the romantic winds out of your sail, however if you can make it through planning a wedding they say you'll last.
When you become married you become "ONE". So there should be no more MINES and YOURS, but OURS. If you are getting married and are worried about having to share your financial wealth, maybe you should rethink whom your marrying and marriage. My opinion.
I'd get a pre-nup. I think its very important that each individual protect there owe assests, especuially when one of the individuals has alot more money than the other individual. Understand that the assest that he had before marriage should be untouchable because their his and he worked hard. Like your assest would be untouchable because you worked hard for them and anything post marriage should also be untouchable as well. I think pre-nups also show that you love them and your not after there money.
I will ask for a pre nup before I get married. My family and I worked hard for our money and it should stay with the family. Not for a girl who think she deserves everything. When we join our union and then only from that time it is our money but when my parents pass it is mine and I will decide what to do with it. Nothing last forever ladies and if you don't keep on us making us happy we find other ways and use our money to make us happy. Don't be so foolish to believe otherwise.
Having been through a marriage and subsequent divorce at a very young age, I would advise anyone to get a prenuptial agreement. If two people are going into a relationship for the right reasons there should be no issue to signing one. I will have no problem asking for one, or signing one.
I would recommend everyone to get a prenup because when a relationship turn sour, greed is a sub product that will come along. I am glad that I did the prenup, otherwise my husband would have gotten 50% of my condo for free. My family paid off the condo for me, and when we were married, he rented out his own smaller condo, and we lived together in my condo. Now going through divorce, he is trying to get every single penny from me as much as he can. Including asking the engagement ring back.Therefore, just to make things fair and square, you should always sign prenup before you are married.
I had asked to sign a prenup with my ex-boyfriend which he rejected, saying two people should be together because they love each other and money shouldn't get in the way of love. I agree that prenup is very important and that my asset before marriage should remain mine and same goes for his. It turned out that the reason he wouldn't sign the agreement was that he was after my asset, he straight up asked me to pay for his mortgage before we even confirmed our marriage. I do not regret my decision, in the future I will again ask for and agree to signing a prenup.
I think a prenup is more than just a "divorce blanket". A lot of people go to pre-marital counseling, whether it be their choice or because their faith insists, but this counseling makes them sit down and realize that there are many aspects to marriage, not just love and sex. Do you want kids? Do you want to move from family, etc, etc. A prenup helpts the couples realize that there will be a financial aspect as well. How will you share bills? Will you be willing to live frugally is one becomes a stay-at-home parent, etc. etc. Marriage is such a commitment. You need to have a talk about all aspects before you march down the aisle, whether it is through counselling or a prenup, do it.
Yes I agree with pre-nup because if you really love someone it is not what they have that you want (materialist things do not matter) what you build from then on in is to be shared.Marriage is a big thing and if he really loves and trusts you this question would never come up.. But if he asked I would sign no questions asked. Everyone these days have material things in there life with meaning and I can understand if someone wanted to keep them.. Example my boyfriend has a house I don't not. I would sign a pre-nup on that for sure I don't want his house I want him is all I will contribute to the house and bills and all of that but if something were to happen I would hope nothing would but in the case I hope he would have the kindness to help me set up an apartment for myself after being together for years..
Hi,Definetly would recommend a Pre nup, I have had so many friends who get married and a year or two later, the wife or husband want out and get half of everything. It is not fair for the one going into a marriage with alot more than there partner..just remember one thing, you go into a marriage happy but if divorce is on the horizon, that sweet person you married is not sweet anymore and will try to get all they can. It is a shame but this is what happens..Hard work and savings go out the window and you have to start all over. So as I now see it, just sign the damn thing and if they fight it, it makes me think you must want something but it is not going to be my money!!!!!!!
Please Please get a Pre-Nup, I overheard a close friend tell her sister that well if something happens in the next year or two I will just take half of what he has, now he has enough to purchase a house and she has NOTHING!! So if you are smart you better get them to sign on the line!!!
Well I am a female with nothing and I am getting married soon, my future husband comes from a wealthy family and I am not stupid I am not going to sign nothing because if something goes wrong I will definetly take half, hey why not!!
MEN GET A PRE-NUP MY EX WIVE WAS A MONSTER AFTER WE GOT MARRIED AND I THOUGHT I KNEW HER, WE DATED FOR 5 YEARS AND SHE TOOK HALF OF ALL MY ASSESTS ABOUT $150,000.00 DO NOT GET MARRIED BELIEVE ME YOU DO NOT WANT TO END UP BROKE.. THE SINGLE LIFE IS THE WAY TO GO. ALONE IS GREAT!!!
As You see above, here is a man who had his bank broken. As much as he will remind you, you probably will go on to get married and yes it might happen and yes it might not. Get therapy dear. It might help. Is he rich? hes asking for a prenup? then perhaps he should just stay single and look after his money or find a play girl. Poor? Well then this is a good chance for you and him to build up. Im doing it. It sucks. But its your luck in the draw.
Pre-nups are simply practical and a realist's approach to a relationship.We have two divorces this school year already, in my kid's class alone. I never would have guessed.Wouldn't it make sense to set down guidelines for both sides in case of the unthinkable? To make it easier on yourself, your spouse, any vulnerable people like children? Because the unthinkable happens.
Yeah when i get married my fiance would sigh a Pre-nup because inerantence i will get after i graduate from college. If my fiance loves me enough he will sign it.
Pre-nup all the way.Its very practical and unromantic but with todays divorce rate, it should be a no brainer. If both spouses are starting out with nothing than a pre-nup may not be required. In all other situations, it should be mandatory.
This has nothing to do with this topic. I just could not find a place where I could voice my own topic. This is in regards to Four Weddings Canada and I just watched the episode with Michelle, Valentina, Jen, and Danielle and I have never been so mortified nor disgusted after watching this episode! I only hope this show is viewed only in Canada because it was so embarrassing. On this episode there was a tie between two brides and the exact issue happened on Four Weddings USA's episode on Friday night. And that's exactly what the Canadian producers should have done in the event of a tie as the states did, and that is award the trip to both brides. But F.W. Canada, as unsophisticated, cheap, and unclassy as it is, not only has a tie-breaker, but makes the two lower scoring brides choose who the winner was. I could not believe this! These woman have developed a friendship over the months of filming, so how could you put them in that position??? As i said, I was thoroughly disgusted and embarrassed by this. The states awarded the trip to both the brides in their episode and Canada should have done the same. I will never watch F.W. Canada again. Shame on you Canada!! How could you embarrass everyone this way.
'We are men. We built civilization and we run the world. Women are just our stupid f\x2a\x2a\x2a toys. Do the right thing\x3a No prenup \x3d No marriage.'
'I strongly believe in prenup because there are gold diggers on both sides of the fence and in all financial brackets\x21 \x3cbr \x2f\x3eIf I had done this in the past, I wouldn\x27t be in the predicament I in now\x21\x3cbr \x2f\x3e Both parties in an relationship need to have respect for one another and know how to encourage and empower their partner. \x22Behind every Good successful MAN is a very awesume WOMAN\x21\x22'
'Yes, the prenup ensures that he is marrying you for you and not for your money. I am well off, own properties, etc. and my boyfriend has nothing other than some debt. I do love him but I don\x27t think that the assets that I accumulated before we started living together have anything to do with him and he agrees. He signed the prenup and now I have no doubts about his love for me. It feels great\x21'
'I used to think prenups were not necessary, but with the divorce rate at 50\x25, it\x27s prudent to have discussions with your spouse-to-be just to make sure they are on the same \x22financial\x22 page as you. There\x27s nothing worse than working hard for 20 years to see that money given away because a prenup wasn\x27t formed. Not all couples need them, but it\x27s worth looking into. I\x27ve written many a topics on the idea of prenups in relationships, found here\x3a Prenuptial Agreement'
'I don\x27t believe in prenuptial agreements. The way I see it is if you get into relationship you better make sure it\x27s the right one and if it isn\x27t...consider it a lesson learned. Just like marriage, divorce should be a lot harder - maybe the meaning of \x22marriage\x22 would come back.'
'Am in a relationship which I really love the person, but I have evendently noticed that, my partiner love money and sometimes I wonder if she causal loves me or not because i treat her well. When she ask for money and there is delay she get upset. recently, she travelled home and I have sent her money sevrals which I later became very suS\x2a\x2a\x2aious of liers and dishonest.At a stage she told me If i dont send all the money I promise the relationship is over. Is such a person trusted to be married without pre-nub'
'Am in a relationship which I really love the person, but I have evendently noticed that, my patiner love money and sometimes I wonder if she really or causal loves me or not because i treat her well. When she ask for money and there is delay she get upset. recently, she travelled home and I have sent her money sevrals which I later became very suS\x2a\x2a\x2aious of liers and dishonest.At a stage she told me If i dont send all the money I promise the relationship is over. Is such a person trusted to be married without pre-nub'
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