Aside from the fact that I found out from "another source," meaning he conveniently left out that detail when I asked him how his night was, and the fact that it was private...If he'd stayed at the party and gotten a lap dance by a girl he met there, how would it be any different? I would have to say that, no, a private strip dance would not be acceptable to me. I would dump him - it sounds a lot like cheating.

My boyfriend went to a strip club with some buddies. Since it's a one-time thing and he was open about it, I was fine. He told me 2 of his buddies got a lap dance and he found out later that these lap dances were "ahem" more than lap dances. Would I ever be ok with him getting a lap dance? No.

my mum used to be a dancer thou not anymore and iv asked her over the years if it ever bothered her and im happy to say that from what she has told me you don't need to worry girls as it is only a dance i don't think any less of her

I can say that i am very generous compared to most people and quite confident. my boyfriend goes to clubs on occasion with his best friend and they do have lap dances the good part is i know hes coming home to me so i never get worried.As a dancer in my younger years its just a job do your thing and go home..

hey girls....i am a 24 year old pole dance, work in a strip club do private and public lap dances bachelor parties ect...and im gonna let you girls know that a lap dance is nothing sexual...there is no sexual urge or touching, men are not allowed to touch....but i worked with alot o men older and younger and they usually go to strip clubs i they are having problems in their relationships which isnt a good excuse but most men ive spoken to want to S***e up their sex life and lap dancing pole dancing help guys see what their wives have to offer ....theres nothing sexual about a lap dance although some guys do go for the wrong reasons

I have been to a strip club. As a woman with a husband, you need to go.

It is basically having sex. They shove their vag*na in your face. It is totally having sex and cheating.

you need to go and see for yourself.

My husband's never done that. I just can't even imagine him being comfortable with the idea. So if he DID go (and didn't tell me) I would be very worried about where his head was at.
Otherwise, I think it's just exciting entertainment for most men... I'm okay with the idea in theory.

"It doesn't matter where he reads the menu, as long as he eats at home" if you know what I mean.

Um ... no. I don't care if its just a dance (and yes i do still respect the stripper - more than my other who would be in one boiling kettle of water), and I don't care if it is open or not - UNACCEPTABLE ... if he wants that he can come home (but thats when us ladies gotta take it from there if you don't want them to go, actions must be taken). I only practice what I preach on this one ... and I'm self concious too, don't worry, they aren't thinking about that - best incentice its free and they can touch the goods:):):)

I guess it depends if he told you about it honestly or not... and if he asked you beforehand if it was ok with you.

And yes in many clubs guys are allowed to touch boobs and ass. Some strippers even let them touch crotch. :s It depends on the location of the club, and the classiness.

As for the woman who said you have to go with your husband to see how it is- this trend has got to quit. So many girlfriends and wives are coming into strip clubs lately and just ruining the whole vibe. I think they sometimes intend to go to keep an eye on their man (ladies, he's not gonna act the same way with you around), or to act like they're ok with it and even maybe bi-sexual or bi-curious. More often than not, it results in the girl sporting a sour b*tch face, trying to distract her bf/husband from looking at the dancers or talking to them, or her criticizing the dancers openly. Ladies, if you're not comfortable with your guy going to a strip club, please don't accompany him into one. You're wasting a seat that could be filled with a spending, polite customer.
The strippers are NOT interested in taking your bf (unless he happens to be rich or famous lol). They're just interested in taking his money. :)

sometimes they are interested in your bloke!

Of course, he can go to the strip club, but no private dance. "Why pay when he can get one home at free?" (and those are his words)

buyyer3 you are completely 100% right. People who work there have no I MEAN *NO*. Do i need to repeat myself. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO self respect for themselves and if they don't respect themselve how could they possibly respect a married man. I have been with my husband too and they do rude everything in your face. GROSS. This is how gross strippers really are, my best friends bachlour. Everything was great untill he can out of the private dance room covered in blood. lol funnyest thing i've ever seen. Grosses thing I have ever been around. The girl went right up on the stage and begin he stage dnace. Everyone LAUGHED and of course left. "Blood-borne diseases"is all that was going though our dental minds.

you're all prudes. offer to go with him and get one as a couple next time. it's only cheating if he paid for sketchy "extras"

It makes me sick, degrating, that my boyfriend everyonce in a blue moon to see a stripper i have redhair and when his so called stripper as he calls them friends come into town he goes to watch them dance, as in i set the boudaries, no more victoria secret, supply beer instead of wine. I told him they are acquantinces, i asked if i went out on a date with another man would he be upset he sais yes, well to think going to a strip club is like a date. Learning to be smart,. wise with my own finances. And when the subject comes up i tell him thaty his stripper friends are hores, not afraid peace of mind.

yes it would BOTHER me,just like it would BOTHER him!

It would bother me. It has happened and apparently it lead to other things with the dancer and multiple others. It seems to to have lead to further things for that guy but he's gone.

I'm one to think look but don't touch. I'd go to a place with my partner to watch and he would be invited with me.

If there is interest in one from me I hope my partner would feel comfortable to talk to me about it. Trying something new can be an option.

Husbunds who go to strip clubs can bring home to their wifes herpes which can develope into encephalitis of the brain and being that I was lucky to get that ..I now live with a brain injury...Lucky me...Thanks all you S***s out there...Carma can be a bitch...just remember that all you Husbunds!!!!

I also got encephalitis from my husbund going to strip clubs and I to have a brain injury..Carma will come back to you guys only in time.

i'd dump my fiance if he did that.

If my boyfriend went to a strip club and received a lap dance, I would definitely feel like his attraction to me had declined. If he was open and honest, COMPLETELY* honest with me about what happened, I would a whole lot feel better and, depends on the severity, make an educated decision as to what I would like to do. Breaking up with him would be an option. I completely understand that dancers are doing it for the money, however, I would feel uncomfortable around my boyfriend after hearing about him getting a lap dance because of the amount of communicable diseases that can be passed on from person to person. The bottom line: it comes down to his honesty. Going out with the guys once in a blue moon wouldn't bother me, but if it happens persistantly and he is not respecting my wishes, he'd be kicked to the curb. I would also wonder what is going on at his workplace or in our home that is causing him to want to escape from it in that way. Talking to him would be my first action... Not to b*tch or to accuse, just find out the truth.

I got encephalitis from my husbund going to strips clubs as well in Toronto Ontario and I find the second last post from Sandy in Barrie interesting since my Husbund claimed to be with a girl named Sandy in Barrie...weird!!!! Carma is a BITCH for ya!!!!

you girls are a bunch of F***ing psycho wackjobs

Sandy, before you start posting under aliases learn to spell. The word is "karma". Theoretically a man could bring hsv home from the strip club, it just happens to be pretty unlikely.

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'I would hate it if my fianc\u00e9 went to a strip club, I\x27d even call off the wedding. The reason is, strippers don\x27t just dance in front of them. They rub them selves all over them, grind on there laps. At some strip clubs, you can touch them, at some they can be fully naked. I\x27ve heard stories from my guy friends about there experiences. One said he got one and the stripper took him in for a private dance. She stripped her bra and panties off while dancing, then she sat on him and humped him, grinded on him. He said she told him he could touch her anywheres, boobs and between the legs. He was also asked by one stripper if he\x27d like her to come back to his room for a more \x22private\x22 seson, in which she ment sex. Some strippers give blow jobs, hand jobs and some even have sex in the private rooms. I found that out from one friend who is a stripper. \x3cbr \x2f\x3e And men who go to strip clubs should be single men, men who are desperate, or men who aren\x27t happy in their relationship. Men in happy relationships and or getting married SHOULD NOT go to strip clubs unless there woman is 100\x25 ok with it.'

'Jessica is right. My husband went to a Bachelor party that ended up at a \x22high class\x22 topless only strip club. A \x22dancer\x22 approached him and asked if she could sit down. My naive husband \x28who has not been in such a place in 11 years and the one\x27s where we are from didn\x27t allow this stuff to go on\x29 says \x22OK\x22 and she plops down on his lap. He tried to ignore her for awhile and eventually realized that he either had to ask her to leave or pay for a lap dance. Not wanting to look like an A\x24\x24 he paid her for a lap dance. He was fairly shocked when she was grinding all over him and rubbing her breasts up and down his body. He came home feeling ashamed and awful and told me about it the next day. We are in marriage counseling, because I absolutely feel that this was sexual infidelity and so does he. It was consensual sexual touching, even if it did not involve penetration or sex. To be very clear this woman was grinding her bare buttocks \x28t-strap thong undies only\x29 and vaginal area against my husband\x27s crotch \x28penis\x29 through his clothes. In juvenile terms, the word is dry-humping. This is not ok and it is certainly NOT dancing. It\x27s the biggest wink-wink, nudge-nudge to ever pervade society. FYI, we don\x27t own a t.v., so yeah, we can be a little \x22behind the times\x22. Honestly, it\x27s a mild form of prostitution. Your talking about physical contact for sexual stimulation for money.....'

'I just dumped my boyfriend of 12 years for constantly lieing about going to strip clubs in and around London - he booked a hotel in Aldershot this week especially near a lap dancing club - worst thing he has lied for 12 years - he denied it told me they were pop ups by mistake on the computer whilst he was booking the hotel\x21 The last time I had the same old row about this subject I found a text at 5am on a Monday morning saying\x3a\x3cbr \x2f\x3eLapdance here I come I have had my hair cut and I have a change of clothes - let me know mate - He thinks he is a business man who is rich and that the girls love him\x21 I have had the last laugh because he is a fool who is screwed up thinking they love him they just want his money and he got lots - the whole working away in London thing is wasted paying for trash - he wont stop texting me at the mo saying he has done nothing wrong and that he is going to miss me\x21 I say go to the Flyin Scotsman and sit with the trash cos thats where you belong - sorry to the dancers I understand it is a profession but maybe if he told me in the beginning it would be different I wouldnt have wasted time with him - the point is the lies every couple of months - he must do it as devilment - a gemini - split personality - avoid benny the electrician from Wales x'

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'Any men that has a lapdance and is married is NO GOOD.'

'As a man i totally agree. I believe that when two ppl are in a committed relationship this type of behaviour in inappropriate, but lets not focus on only men. What about when married women go to male strip clubs\x3f They tell their man its all just good \x22clean\x22 fun and funny to watch, but that is hardly the case. Its just an excuse to get away with going and not getting into trouble. Women are never honest about what goes on in those places and most men don\x27t know what goes on \x28reason being that most straight men have no interest to attend a place like that, which is opposite of how women attend female strip clubs\x29. That being said women feel more comfortable letting loose without the worry of misbehaving. Theres this \x22shoes on the other foot\x22 attitude which is not any better than a mans attitude for going to see ladies dance. Its actually a worse attitude to have. Get a bunch of women together add the alcohol and a naked man dancing and swinging his junk in their faces and women go crazy. I have a friend who does this for a living and he says that touching is encouraged. Women always rub him down. They always smack his ass and even grope his package. He is allowed to interact with the women. Feel them up swell as let them feel him up. He jumps on married\x2fengaged women and dry hump them, puts them in different positions and grins on them simulating sex and also shoves his junk right into their face. A lot of thus is awkward and funny for women but a lot of women tend to egg each other on and dare each other to grab his penis. This is done out in the open. Private lap dances are much worse. In many cases women are allowed to put the package in their mouths during a private dance. Its an anything goes mentality at the males strip clubs. The reality is that women get away with behaving far worse and for some reason its allowed and accepted .Then when the night is over they go home to their man like nothing happened, because it was just \x22funny\x22. This is a big double standard. Men are not allowed to touch at female strip clubs but women are allowed to do much more. The fact that women say that it was all a big joke is just an excuse so that they don\x27t get into trouble for their behaviour. At the end of the day touching equals cheating \x28for both men and women\x29 and the reality is that women who go to those places behave far worse. So don\x27t don\x27t take it upon yourselves to complain about men when women are no better and in many cases worse'

'Just so you guys know, I\x27ve danced for years and I\x27ve never repeat NEVER GIVEN EXTRAS. I also have absolutely no interest in your husband\x2fboyfriend\x2fwhatever, I just want his money. \x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eBecause of your lovely significant others, I\x27ve been able to put myself thru school, buy a house, and two cars. \x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eI was mainly able to do it because most of the men who come to me complain about wives and gfs in between dances... \x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eSo while you\x27re complaining about how dirty I am, I\x27m sitting pretty with amazing education, no debt, and a beautiful life courtesy of your partners generosity. So please keep hating me and telling me what a bad person I am. Men love the feeling of being \x27bad\x27 so the more you hate on strippers, the more easy you make my job. \x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3ePlus it makes me laugh to see people so insecure.'

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'The one time my partner went into a strip club he paid \u00a320 for a lap dance, got a blow job in with the price to \x28which may I add he didn\x27t ask for\x29 oh and the gonorrhoea must have been a freebie\x21 Sound like a nice environment that you\x27d want your man in\x3f'

'Hmmm, not sure how id really feel tbh.\x3cbr \x2f\x3eI used to be a dancer, but it was in a nice respcetable club. Sure some of the girls offered after hours \x27extras\x27 but I didnt. A lot of the time I had a good laugh with the guys and it was just a bit of harmless fun. \x3cbr \x2f\x3eIt all depeds on the nature of the club, there are exceptions to the rule however there are some still very steroptypical.\x3cbr \x2f\x3eI think a safe rule is, by all means go but dont get a dance.\x3cbr \x2f\x3eIf my fella turned to me and said I got a dance the other night... And say \x27oh good, i wanted to go back to it to earn some extrs money\x27.\x3cbr \x2f\x3eThat being said, you cant help but feel betrayed because your guys let someone else arouse him other than you. He shouldn\x27t let a female that close to him whether it be in a strip club or a local pub, its about respect and hopefully he\x27d think about how he\x27d feel If i let a guy that close to me..... If he really wants one, man up and do it, he will treat you like a princess, it will bring you closer together, just have a laugh with it. \x3cbr \x2f\x3eBottom line\x3a If you have an issue with it talk about it before it even happens, some people find it hard tocome back from. Do it if he wants it. most importsnt bit though don\x27t limit your own fun.\x3cbr \x2f\x3eGirls on tour are just as bad \x3b\x29'

'To Sally Superstripper, Don\x27t forget to mention how our partners have given you a great life by allowing you the money you need to pay for your STD medications, drug habits and abortions. Be sure to start a savings account for later on in life because when you are an old aging stripper, you won\x27t make enough money to pay for your sagging breast repair surgery.'

'We all need to go naked on a beach and embrace the way we were born.Exploitation is horrible and lapdancing and female degradation undermines the man woman relationship'

'My husband of 16 yrs went to s strip club for the first time. Found out he had a lap dance. I\x27m very hurt by it. I think its not for a married man to do or be at a strip club.'

'I think lap dances are disgusting, I\x27m pretty sure there is other ways for a woman to make money\x21 I think if a husband likes to go to strip clubs and the wife doesn\x27t agree, friggin right go with him\x21\x21 And then you can really say no and if you don\x27t respect my wishes I\x27m outta here\x21 And for Patrick who said you girls are f\x2a\x2a\x2a psychos... what the hell are you doing on here anyways\x3f If your spouse is uncomfortable with it, don\x27t do it..it\x27s disrespectful\x21'

'If your husband brings anything home from a strip joint, he is getting more than a lap dance. Catching an std by keeping your clothes in literally impossible. They call them sexually transmitted diseases because you have to have oral, anal or vaginal sex to get them.'

'If your husband brings anything home from a strip joint, he is getting more than a lap dance. Catching an std by keeping your clothes on is literally impossible. They call them sexually transmitted diseases because you have to have oral, anal or vaginal sex to get them.'

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