one if im lucky! some men just need to last longer, mine seems to get shorter and shorter!!

i can't orgasm during sex, my boyfriend focuses on me and plays with me until i do after he climaxes, i have yet to orgasm in sex, i wonder how common this is

After our daughter was born the sex was awful. But lately, I have the most awesome and fulfilling orgasms ever. I anticipate his arrival home all of the time just so he can look at me and I can feel the desire in his eyes. It is all so good to be true!!

Never during intercourse, my clitoris just doesn't get any play during sex. Apparently only 30% of women orgasm during intercourse most of the time. I know from talking to my girlfriends that they require oral or manual stimulation to orgasm. A Guy who's not willing to give a girl a hand just isn't worth it.

what is orgasm? I hear it everywhere what is it!?

My over of 2 years decided to try and make me have multiple orgasms. After the first one, he'd wait around 30 seconds and make me orgasm again...sometimes up to 5 times! Its out of this world...Thanks MC

I'm a sensitive gal, I can usually orgasme every minute or so with intercourse alone. They're not always very intense though. Oral stimulation takes much longer but the result is much more gratifying!

I come close to orgasming from sex alone, but am as yet to actually have it happen. It's more like a plateau of bliss I hit from just sex... I usually need a vibrator to help me get off, but I can orgasm multiple times if I use it during intercourse.
I started M***ing with vibrators at a young age, so I sometimes think I may have spoiled my chances of being sensitive enough to orgasm from hand or oral stimulation alone. : (
Then again, my sexual peak is still years ahead , so here's hoping!

My lover is great to me. Fantastic at everything, in my opinion. But for some reason, no matter how long it goes on or to whatever intensity...I can never seem to orgasm :(

Orgasm only happens for me if I'm the one in control (on top) and I go to my pace cuz if he tries to go at a pace that tries to make me orgasm he ends up getting there first and then I don't. Usually I just give up on having an orgasm and tell him to get there cuz he's getting too tired and sweating all over me and crushing me.

I always orgasm during sex :)

I after 4 years with the same woman and years of studying Tantra have come across ways to make my gf orgasm during sex, but definatley not 100%. Easiest explanation for a good technique I can give is Missionary position, but arch you back so that your penis is rubbing against the clitoris while your having sex. And if she doesn't orgasm be a good man and get down there IMMEDIATLY and show your love in another way, if your lucky you'll drive he so crazy you'll get the rare girl cumming. . . . YES you can make a girl cum

Honestly if it's only twice it's less than usual... I'd say usually about four times during intercourse alone... As Eric mentioned missionary is usually the one that sees the most results I find it very difficult to orgasm in any other position. Love making is something that should take time and if you think you're man is not romantic enough or isn't giving you enough foreplay, then either tell him or you instigate it trust me it works :)

I've only been with one guy but I do everytime and it just makes it better for both of us!!!

i have never had an orgasm before is that bad, i might have i don't know

I've never orgasmed during sex or otherwise. My man is awesome in the foreplay department, but alas, no matter how long or hard he works, no orgasm. Sometimes I feel worse for him than for myself!

My fiance and I have 2 children and are engaged to be wed this summer...he's an amazing guy and he's my best friend...BUT...the sex is terrible! He never lasts more than 5 mins EVER and ive NEVER had an orgasm to date with him! We moved in together just after 2 months of seeing one another and its been 2 yrs now and im more inlove with him now than ever before...only i just wish our sex life was better:(

Sex!! I love it!!! And orgasm 30 times. That comes with age and a lot of experience. You have to show your man your pleasure zones.

well with me it takes me a fairly long time to climax for a man 6-10 min... and i am hard that whole time. But after that i have very little sperm (it just sorta just leeks out) and then my wee-wee just shrivels ...

i am a freak in bed. but i dont know what an orgasim is

i agree with briget! what is an orgasm???? haha

I've been dealing with this bloke for quite sometime now...talk about hot looking. The sex is great, but I just can't seem to have an orgasim with him. Many times I've gott'a reach for my viberator to finish of the act...

Ive been with my guy for over 3 yrs now and our sex life is GREAT!!! I have Multiple orgasims every time. They are more intense on top and the side position. He is "BIG" and sure knows how to use it. He can make me orgasim by hand, oral and intercourse. We use toys sometimes too, to S***e things up a little!!

if you have never orgasmed you need to keep trying different ways to get there.. it's totally worth it. my boyfriend gets me there all the time.. multiple times.. it just turns him on even more when I do.

I have never had an orgasm before. i have never even had sex before. It sounds so great i can hardly wait for a orgasm it sounds great.

I have orgasme 90% of the time, but I never has multiples. How do I get there?

ilovetohavesex

I MASTERBATE A LOT! AND MY BOYFRIEND FINGERS ME. AND I GIVE HIM BLOW JOBS.
OMG<33 ITS AMAZING AND DURING INTERCOURSE DAYYUUUMMM. F*** YEA! OHHH YEA FUUUCKKKK

I've never been able to have an orgasm during sex, and I find oral sex uncomfortable...I don't even know if I've ever had a proper orgasm. I told my boyfriend this in the beginning of our relationship and he'd try so hard to please me but I'd never get close, He'd try so hard that i started faking cause i just feel like it's never gonna happen so why make him kill himself for it. It sucks cause they sound amazing...

I am 22, I've been having sex for about 4 years, I've been with 3 different guys.......3 very different in bed guys. But i Have never had the big o during sex. I have by myself or sometimes during manual or oral if im lucky. but during actual intercourse it doesnt work for me and then the same thing always happens. at first when me and a guy start sleeping together im up front about if i did or not but eventually i feel bad and start faking. and i put on a good show. i wish i was a guy, its almost tooo easy for them to cum.

I can honestly say i feel lucky because i orgasm every single time. But this has only happened to me resently with my new man. it is really about technique and some how my man was born with it because he was 23 year old vergin!! but to my amazment he is amazing. i am truly lucky

I never have an orgasm during sex, I don't know why! It's horrible, my boyfriend feels like he isn't doing a good job, so we both end up in a bad mood.

Well for those girls who don't know if they've had an orgasm: if you've had one, you'd know, you can't really miss it! The ? person, just because you haven't had sex doesn't mean you can't orgasm. Believe me don't wait for sex, or you may never have one. Try it yourself. If you don't know what you like, you can't teach your boy. For MLY, I had a very similar situation. I have been with my boyfriend 2 years. At first the sex was not good and he couldn't make me cum at all, no watter what he tried. He got really frustrated. I finally relaxed and we were just messing around one night, not focusing on that at all and that's when it happened. I think it's a trust thing for a lot of girls, you don't want to totally give him that kind of control over you, even if you think you do.Just learn to relax and have fun. Now it doesn't stop!

i orgasm EVERY time but you have to help it along. go for it alone and see what works for you. then when you're with your guy add it in or get him to and it's awesome. definitely worth working up to and not rushing. also every time i have sex it gets better and better, the more you change positions the better too. it prolongs the sex for both of you and makes your climax so much hotter.

The way I see it, it is my job/joy to make sure that my wife has as many orgasms as she wants. Witch mean an least 1 by oreal at least 1 or 2 by hand and as many her want making out.
If a man can do this for his wife it goes a long, long, long way in making her happy. Also then she is more wiling to do the little thing that make me happy. Like shaving her P***. Wearing sexy underwear/no underwear.....
Going braless, Making love in the backyard etc, etc, etc.

I am A lesbian woman and how my partner and how we make each other have orgasms is by sticking our tounges into eacothers vaginas the we lick each others clitorises. Thats called real F*** baby

I guess I'm one of the lucky ladies who can actually orgasm every time my partner and I have intercourse. Maybe I've been lucky with good partners, or maybe it's just easy for me to orgasm. Sometimes my boyfriend will blurt out during my second or third orgasm "That's not fair, I haven't even had one yet". I always thought females were lucky because we have the ability to have multiple orgasms. It seems harder for men to acheive multiples. I've never been with a guy who has had more than one orgasm in one session of intercourse. I thought guys had the crappy deal, but after reading some of the comments on here it seems many women aren't so lucky.

I orgasm minimum 5 times. My bf is amazing in bed!

With age comes experience, and I am turning 35 (who gets mistaken for 20something almost every time) this year and the sex just gets better and better! It was fantastic when I was in my 20's but the orgasms just get more and more intense as you get older, and start knowing what it is that makes you feel great. I have had some extremely wet multiple orgasms that have soaked the bed and the men absolutely love it! All I can say is...try it for yourself first, touch yourself, learn about your body and then let the men in your life know what makes your body tremble.

i love sex!!

I can O during intercourse but manual stimulation is far more effective, the two combined are highly recommended tho :) and if that doesnt work a vibrator will lol

Ladies. ask your man to Arouse your subconscious before sexual acts. If he researches ,learns and practices word foreplay through subliminal teasing, He, can, using simply language and his voice, Arouse the right hemisphere of your brain, your largest erogenous zone. It will enhance the frequency and intensity of your orgams. BUTT IF YOU LEARN HOW ITS DONE IT WONT WORK.
ask him..... then forget about it.
and your life will be bliss.

i've known orgasm on self sex... from then i can experience multiple orgasm with my partner now

For all the ladies that are saying that they've tried everything and they still can't get there, I think you need to suck it up and help your man out. Stimulate your clit during intercourse, it's your best shot at an orgasm.

i orgasm evvvery time! my boyfriend is amazing.

I always make sure that the girl I am with orgasms multiple times before I do. Men can actually learn and get better with age. By the way Kathy, I love your boots !!!

My guy can have multiple orgasims too...which makes for a very exciting session for both of us. I agree when people say you need to see what makes you feel good....and if the guy just isnt getting it right, dont be afraid to tell him....afterall....you both want the same thing!!!

Another thing...making yourself feel sexy can help too...and dont rush things. Make it FUN!!! The orgasims will be coming in no time....haha

I do have to say that as men get older they get much better at making a woman orgasm. It seems that when they are younger they only worry about themselves, and have no clue what makes a woman climax. Though my partner and I have not been a couple for years, he misses "bed time" and he always comes by for some fun. He can make me have an orgasm several times and is very good at controlling his. He learned long ago that ramming himself is not how it happens and I think that a lot of guys believe the "g" spot is somewhere in our throats.

I'm lucky enough to have a wonderfully attentive boyfriend with the same tastes and attitudes as me when it comes to sex. I orgasm at least once every time we have sex which is at least once a day. It's great for my energy level!

It was still a lot of work getting to this point in our sex life, but I think that getting open and comfortable with my own body and with telling him what I want was they key to our bedroom bliss.

usually orgasm if i masterbate, not so much durung sex unless were using toys or sumthin

I can orgasm almost everytime... but it takes time... my husband isn't always willing to stick around..... and help me out, so if he gets off first its hopeless for me unless I pull out a vibrator and get my self off while he is in the bathroom

I orgasm pretty much everytime (Guy talking). The ratio of me coming to her coming is about 5 to 1. It is give and take, but I have to give more.

like 3 times

for those who haven't orgasmed yet. Buy a great vibrator or shower head and learn to stimulate yourself first. Then teach your man they will be grateful because most want to please you.

I have an orgasm 9.5 out of 10 times I have sex with my partner. I have never had them consecutively though...

My problem is i am about to climax and all of a sudden its like a switch goes off and im done. No orgasm, the leading up to it but no finale. I don't get it...its super frustrating.

I think I am a rare one. I orgasm multiple times in every position. I have had the same partner for over 8 years and every play date is different. I think if you're really "there" mentally and anticipating the next stroke or touch you'll find out just how sensitive you really can be. If you really struggle try putting a pillow under his bum when you ride him. This will almost always hit the spot. PS- don't pull away when it feels good.

I've been with my husband since high school and we're now 40 somethings with 4 kids. And my husband can get me going any time now that we've got the 25 years of experience; and I definately agree it keeps getting better as we get older. But I remember when we were younger he would always orgasm before I was even close. It was because I was always so worried and anticipating the thrill of an orgasm that I would get too worked up and it would never happen =(.
Probably the best advice I could give is just learn to relax and the best experiences I've ever had are when I give him all the control and just enjoy the ride. PS- my first ever orgasm was when he pinned me up against a wall while standing =D

i always have an orgasm if not through intercourse , he would make sure i cum by eating me out. he is the best !

I orgasm almost every time! My secrets are a good rythm (he has to be willing to get into it with you) and the use of my Kegel muscles (those are muscles down there that you can exercise by stopping your pee for a few seconds then go again. You can also exercise them without peeing and no one will notice! Tense them up and hold for a few seconds, then release and repeat). M***e once in a while so you learn what you like and what gets you to orgasm (yes, use your Kegels then too). Practice makes perfect!

It doesn't get talked about much, but men don't necessarily orgasm when they ejaculate. In fact, as a man, although I ejaculate regularly, I only have orgasms rarely. I would separate the following three different experiences. I sometimes experience two of them at the same time, but never have been lucky enough to experience all three at the same time. The holy grail would be to experience all three at the same time as my partner experienced an orgasm, as well...
1) ejaculation [every time]
2) "orgasm" (where the surface of my skin tingles all over my body, and i get waves of this tingling sensation up and down my body) [maybe once every 20 times; unpredictable]
3) complete psychological abandon (where I'm so into my partner that i have completely forgotten the rest of the world and feel like it's just the two of us) [maybe 5 times in my life]

Again, these don't necessarily come together. I have experienced them in the following combinations: 1, 2, 3, 12, 13, 23, but never 123. Has anyone seen any discussion of these different types of experiences for men?

The key to giving a woman earth shattering orgasims is IF your eating her, you lick her clit gentle Like if your licking the honey off of a butterfly's wing. You are not trying to remove a spot on a carpet.
When you are making out with your girl, wotk it in slow get comfortable and then do not change anything same speed, same stoak, same deepth. This way her can build on this and her knows what is come.
For add bang close her legs, with puts action on the clit every time.

I have been seeing the same man for about 2 and 1/2 years. In the beginning, I would have two or three orgasms when we were together. Now that we have been together a bit longer, it doesn't take much, I think about 6-9 times in an afternoon is about normal for us. Mind you, some of these vary from real mind blowing to just really nice.

Comfort level has a lot to do with it I think. And not to mention having a patient lover who doesn't fade before you've arrived.

The last time I orgasmed during sex was with a guy I had a crazy fling with 6 years ago. He was amazing. *sigh* There's a serious lack of physical chemistry with my current bf...

Me and my friends have just recently tripped over the interesting fact that guys don't orgasim everytime! IS this common? Are guys faking it more than we realize?

98% of the time I orgasm. Either by him or something I'm doing, like being on top!

An orgasm (sexual climax) is the conclusion of the plateau phase of the sexual response cycle, and may be experienced by both males and females. Orgasm is characterized by intense physical pleasure, controlled by the involuntary, or autonomic, nervous system.[1] It is accompanied by quick cycles of muscle contraction in the lower pelvic muscles, which surround the primary sexual organs and the anus. Orgasms are often associated with other involuntary actions, including muscular spasms in other areas of the body, a general euphoric sensation, and, frequently, vocalizations.

After orgasm, humans often feel tired and a need to rest. This is attributed to the release of prolactin.[2] Prolactin is a typical neuroendocrine response in depressed mood and irritation.[3] Ongoing research at the University Medical Center of Groningen, the Netherlands, studies brain events that accompany orgasm in men and women. Techniques used involve Positron Emission Tomography (PET) and fMRI. Male and female brains act almost the same during orgasm. Brain scans showed that large parts of the cerebral cortex temporarily reduced their activity.[4]

I orgasm multiple times during sex. My bf counted once and he lost track after 25. Its great but man am I tired when we're done.

I've never had an orgasm DURING intercourse, but oral sex: OMG! I need a stack of towels, as I have SO many and get incredible soaking wet. It's so great! I'm like a water fountain, and over and over again! My 'magic bullet' toy does the trick really quickly, too, if the real thing isn't available. What can I say: I love being pleasured, (and pleasuring myself) and sex itself, of course!

sadly ive never orgasmed :(

I can't orgasm during sex!!! I don't know if it's just me or what but it's only happened once in my entire sex life!! My husband does however make sure he stimulates me manually and I'm happy before we go into intercourse:) But I sure wish I could fix this issue of mine, any suggestions??

I am an attractive exotic looking woman and men come up to me and have actually told me they think i am a tiger in bed.. Funny enough have never had an orgasm in real life meaning clitoris now vaginal I really don;t feel much in my clitoris at all.. i have been told by doctors to M***e but it really doesn;t feel good.. has anyone else has this experience..? but the wierd thing is I have experienced orgasms in my dreams where i am half awake half asleep.. and they are real i wake up and my body is shaking or my vagina is pulsating.. some of them are great some are not.. and because i know how they feel like its vey frustrating because i have never remotley felt anything like that in real life.. not even close.. Sometimes i am scared to date a new guy cause i have to tell him that i don;t orgasm... and i feel a lot of pressure from certain men.. that bothers me.. i have come to the conclusion that they have to accept me for me.. and thats it

Orgasm from sex maybe 25% of the time - but only if intercourse involves clit stimulation. If I come, it's always in multiples!

I am extremely lucky!
It doesn't matter where we are my guy can turn me on and make me orgasm!
It is amazing!
I don't think our relationship would be the same if he wasn't able to!
I think it helps that me and my guy are very attractive...
I have a great body and lets just say so does he!

in the shower is awesome to give yourself an orgasm.especially if you have a showerhead with different settings and there is a hard one put that on your clit and you're good to go.i never really orgasm during sex only a couple of times during doggy. when my hubby uses his hands i can have at least 10 before he gets tired.when being fingered the best way to have an orgasm is to bend your legs at the knees cuz then it really opens you up:)hot stuff

I've never orgasmned but I'm prety sure its almost as satifying as eating ice cream.

I often orgasm either during or orally. I'm a multiple orgasm girl. Can have huge mind blowing orgasm up to 11 0r 12 times depending on how long we work at it in an hour.

I find the best position for me is girl-on-top. That way I can control the motions and really find my spot. Not to mention the clit also gets way more stimulation, cuz it rubs on his pelvis area. (if he doesn't shave, this might be irritating rather than pleasurable.) And wtf? How do you people not know what an orgasm is? Are you in elementary school? Haha. It's the explosion of pleasure you get from sexual contact that just... paralyzes you. If you don't know about it, you've never had it. Why not try doing it for yourself? My most intense one's have been from myself. Cuz only you know exactly what works. ;)

I'm not sure if my guys just knows how to work it or if I'm just a freak, but my most is about 30 times in one session. I have an orgasm with everything from oral to penetration and I've never had less than 15 and they are usually mind blowing. We have to change the sheets every time because they get SOAKED!

After having a baby I found that I could not have an orgasm. My husband can be quick so by the time I got arouse3d, he was done. After trying different positions I found that being on top was the best. I could go my own pace and it worked everytime!!!now I love sex!!!

before i met my husband i never had an orgasm before. Now i have plenty. I dont know why but I cant remember what it felt like not to have one everytime. Oh well im not complaining lol

out of all the times i've ever had sex,
the only time i have ever orgasmed is with my recent boyfriend. and omg! its amazing! he hit the spot about 4 times!

I have been with only one man for just over a year now and ive never once orgasmed with him. Hes tried orally, using his fingers both in and out of me and yet i have never orgasmed, it gets me frustrated especially and i feel sorry for him cos he wants to make me cum.

we have the best sex, I start orgasm the minute my husband rubs my N***ples and he puts his large penis on my lips. About ever few minutes I will have a mini, and this can go oh for hours, with me sucking him - I don't like oral on me, and then we really do the deal or we don't its a stimulating experience for me, and my husband usualy has at least two orgasms, and we have started buying wonderful sex outfits with crothless underwear and open N***ple bras as I orgasm in the car, just the tits and sitting does it for me, but that came after 20 years married and always peak high for the both of us. Just the dick sitting on my clit not moving moves my body and it is so awesome

As a woman I can't help but feel that with so many women not having orgasms during intercourse (at least 70%), this is probably a biological norm. Speaking from a strictly biological stand point, male orgasms and ejaculations through intercourse are required in order for the human race to reproduce and continue. This is not the case with women. I have been married to the same man for nearly 30 years and given birth to 2 children. We have lots of sex but I have never had an orgasm during intercourse. And I refuse to beat either myself or him up for something that is not a physical possibility. During intercourse, the clitoris does not get direct stimulation or attention. The male equivalent would be pulling or tugging on a man's testicles and not touching his penis and then expecting him to have an orgasm.

I'm a 35 year old guy that has learn that age helps. I dont count my gf orgasms. But using Jp classification, I get only 1 and 2, most of the times, but like more only 2.
My gf once toldme I give her so much pleasure that we could sell orgasms...
I have 3 orgasms y sessions of more than 6 hours of bed time. (nice talk included) My eyes feel like dryout the day after though. Is this normal?

okay people for all the ladies who say they love sex and sex is great listen here. if your man had to make you by manual stimulation of having to finger or eating you out the fact of the matter is that he is just cheating himself and you also .Don't get me wrong yes having a orgasm is great but when I read most of the comments 80% of the women said they needed manual stimulation which is again by fingering or eating her out and the most diservice of them all is having to use a vibrator most of them said they never experienced an orgasm before which is a very coommon issue most guys are afraid to lok at the facts that they are F***ing P***s and it does not matter what type of guy you are they are alll the same most guys can not make a girll orgasm by intercourse alone and it's the with every guy it does not matter what age he is or culture they are just all the same give them 5minutes max they already cume and leave you in the cold so that 's why most guys should thank god that women are very emotional . And the reason why Iam syaing this most of the guys would probably go bost with there friends as much as you would go talk with your girlfriends

i just wnated to say most of the girls who ahve problems just need to lern to relax, you may feel fantastic when your having sex or M***ing but to get the big O you just need to know when to give yourself an extra push and ou need to know which spot on your body needs to be stimulated during your orgasm, what helps me is talking to myself thinking thing like "ohh he really likes that,""that makes me soo hot" i do this because like moast people i dont like to dirty talk out loud so all you have to do is find out what it is that makes you crazy and RELAX

The sex after 6 years is still awesome. He has made me orgazim once. It took a LLOONNGG time. BUT, with my VIB-I cant cum multiply times. It is amazing. This guy is a freak in bed and rox my world, and pleasures me very well, my body is just hard to make orgazim.

JLMoyers@aol.com if you want to ask how, I am always willing to help a couple!

it is my belief that both men and women can have multiple orgasms, but the majority may kot know how.
Men need to understand that to have multiple orgasms they need to distinguish that the orgasm and the ejaculation are two separate events even if they are very close in time. If they can avoid ejaculating by using their PC muscle (before it is "too late") and stop all stimulation for a few seconds, they will be able to resume stimulation and continue until another orgasm, without losing the erection (losing the erection and then being able to have another one later on means you will did not get multiple orgasms). Practice makes perfect, try it with M***ion first and exercise.
Women need to know that a vaginal orgasm is for most a "myth" and that in the majority of cases the clitoris needs to be stimulated to get there. Not many positions during sexual intercourse allows you or your partner to stimulate the clitoris at the same time as penetration, but you need to find a way so that a pelvic muscle, fingers or w/e stimulates that part of your body softly. If you do have an orgasm, great, and make sure you resume stimulation not too long after, while you are still in the "plateau".
After multiple orgasms, for either gender, it should roughly take an hour or so to come down (for men, especially if you can avoid ejaculation altogether, using trick above, you will stay in that great state, like multiple-prgasmic women... really, try it...)

my boyfriend and i have been going out for a while. the sex is great, and he really tries, but i've never had an orgasm with him. manual, oral, nothing. i've had pretty on my own, and just last night i had 7 of them. but he doesn't know that i M***e.

I almost always orgasm during sex, But I don't have more than one per session.
Usually my orgasms last about 5 seconds.
My girlfriend on the other hand will keep going and going. She would orgasm about 4 someones upto 7 orgasms per session, she tells me each orgasm last abot 20 seconds each. Women are deffently more multi-orgasmic and theirs also last longer in duration. She would have all orgasms in a row, so she would be orgasming for about
2 minutes non-stop sometimes more. Shes so lucky. Omg can only imagine all that pleasure damn. I'm not really complaining. I really enjoy my orgasms if it's only one short one per session, Afterall I can always go for another round after I recover in 15-30 minutes later. I do have to say women deffinantly deserve minutes of share pleasure during sex, seeing they have periods and have the babies, they deserve to be compensated for their trouble. My gf told me, if it wasn't for the sexual pleasure, childbirth wouldn't be worthwhile. When we're go and ready to have a baby, we are deffinantly going make sure we have to most fun and pleasurable experiance making it ;)

Well I'm 40 yrs old and never had an orgasm by just having intercourse or by oral either until I met my present b/f he gives me the best oral sex ever!! he makes me have up to 5 orgasms in one session and they be so intense I actually scream, he is the bomb!! but I'm still not able to orgasm while having intercourse but it's all good because the orgasms I have during the oral makes up for it big time!!!

Even after 13 years my husband gives me the most mind blowing orgasms. He licks my clit until I scream with pleasure..then he pushes himself inside me and bangs me until I am in total ecstasy...I love him so much.

Never! :(

My husband and I have been married over 9 years. He has never stimulated me with anything other than his genitals and I have had one to six orgasms (once early on when I had more energy I had 10) every time we have sex. I usually acheive 3 only because I am too exhausted to have any more (he is always willing to go for more or hit what he calls the grand slam - 4+ orgasms). The only time I have less than three is if it has been more than a week since our last intercourse. I have always wondered if it is mostly him or mostly me or a combination of both. I have never been with anyone else so I have no comparison - not that I am unhappy.

Girl,

Guys probably fake it more often than many people realize. My wife is very emotional and unsatisfied with her appearance. Occasionally I have had to fake an orgasm just so she wouldn't feel like she was unattractive. The truth be told I was just too tired and too stressed (the few times this has happened) to release. The good news for her was I had just enough energy to get an erection and it lasted awhile which enabled her to have multiple orgasms.

every time oral or during sex. if i dont my bf will help me after he's done

my husband is 38 and i am 41 he ejaculates the first 3 minutes during intercourse is this my fault his friends tells him that he need a younger woman on the side and she would make him last longer is this true

I don't think I have ever had a orgasm with my husband. He is died in the bed it is very bad

for women it roughly takes 10 minutes more for you to orgasm...
1: note if ur man is sensitive and cant handle friction then try part two first, have you womens legs as far bk as posible roughly knees on shoulders this allwos the agina to stretch and is in postion to stimulate friction which is great for helping ur lady to orgasm but again note is the man cant handle intense frictio the aain dont try this or apply less friction, but in doing so this will help ur lady to deeply forfill orgasm, its the first 3 inches inside a womens vagina tht are sensitive like the males head of the penis!.
but the deeper u get it is more involved in pressure so length is obviously need but note tht every women is different, they have diferent types of vagines so deep some short some small some big etc, so this information varies to diff women.
2: this technique is called the trapeze this is for the first 3 inches of the vagina were all nerve ending are and g-spot, good girth is particually essential, the women lies ack on floor, man sits on floor opposite her, women hold on to mens legs (wotever confortable but help leverage).
and with girth (penis head) go bk and forth this will aouse ur women massivley and help her achieve orgasm even multipul orgasms and cumming, also combine it with figer stimulation to clit note again ( 80% of women are most sensitive on the right side of the clit you facing her this is. another trick is once u have found this heavenly spot tease it apply pressure push down on the clit this will help with ur head inside her because u can locate the clit from inside near g-spot so pushing down on the clit with pressure will push the clit onto ur head make double the pleasure for ur lady it is a killer move guys ur lady will worship you watch her have the best orgasm ever. BUT DO NOT GO INTO THE TRAPEZE STRAIGHT AWAY FOR PLAY IS A MUST AND DO OTHER POSSITIONS BEFORE HAND INTILL YOU FEEL YOU ARE READY TO ENJOY THE INSIGHT TO ME INTELLIGENCE OF THE BEDROOM. enjoy guys please

never during sex... unless theres some help with the clit area, always oral orgasms... and yes thats true, only about 30% of women can orgasm during sex.

NOOOOO taneisha!!!! are u crazy... thats just cheating, try having sex like multiple times a day, he lasts longer each time. but only with you!!!!!

My current boyfriend gave me my first intercourse orgasm. I had achieved them before through M***ion, but not like this. It was weird because he wasn't doing anything he wouldn't normally do. It just happened randomly one day and it was rly small. It just kept getting bigger within the other two times we had sex that day. He didn't use his hands or anything. It was only intercourse, and now I orgasm during practically every session with no difficulty what so ever. It's amazing.

I really adore my bf but he is just not doing it for me, he loves f***ing me as his ex gf was completely frigid and I am a minx in the sack, but he had never done oral on anyone before me and that makes both of us feel awkward about it coz he's nervois and I feel like if I don't seem like I am enjoying it he will feel bad. I had a talk with him about how I am frustrated and now I feel like a bitch coz he is really the sweetest, most thoughtful guy and I imagine I can't have helped his ego... My last bf was huge and really good at oral, this bf is smaller and doesn't have much experience... What do I do?

I have learned a valuable lesson after my wife became a S*** wife. I knew I could f**k really good and please my wife better than anyone before me. I would make her cum when I wanted her to cum. I thought that making her cum ten times in an hour was good. It took a long time to get her to admit she would like to be f*****d by another man, and convince her I would really want another man to f**k my wife. She made sure I understood that it was her P*** I was allowing her to share with someone other then her husband, and that once I agree I can not change my mind. I had to agree that she is the one to decide who and when she f**ks and if and when she will stop seeing anyone. I of course agreed. I told her I think she could get more and better orgasms with a man that has a bigger c**k. What I found out was how wrong I was. I saw her lover f**k her for an hour and made her cum 30 times with many of them lasting two to three minutes. That is one orgasm every two minutes and the ones that last longer are so intense she can't stop her P*** spasms. He just keeps drilling her and doesn't stop. She loves his c**k and will never give it up. I would never think of stopping her from getting f*****d by her lover. They know I understand my place now and I respect them and they respect me. The big lesson here is that his d**k is the same size as mine, but he is a lot skinnier and much better shape then me. He runs every day and f***s my wife often. I am now working out and losing weight so some day I can f**k my wife as good as he can. I would like to help any one that is thinking about having your wife f**k another man. I can help you understand how it has worked for us and give you help. She had thought that it could be fun, but she did not think that sex could be that much better with someone else. But after she did, well now she is so happy and sexually satisfied, she needs to be f****d like this from now on. I need to learn to be a better lover and take better care of myself, so I can f**k my wife the way she needs to be f****d.

Is something wrong when you can easily be sexually satisfied,from being fingur banged, then cannot have an orgasm during sex?

I orgasm every time, usually multiple times during sex. I even have female ejaculations. My husband usually likes to use manual or oral stimulation to get me going, after I have the first orgasm, the others just keep coming with each new position. Each orgasm is different too, depending upon the position and whether just the clitoris or entire genital region is being stimulated. The sensation seems to wash over my body like waves, unpredictible, but building in intensity with each orgasm.

i can never come unless im on top or he goes down i wonder why

i always have very long orgasims i guess i am just blessed or mabey because i practice i have sex 4 times a day at least 4 hours

I had a lover for years who had a smallish dick and was narrow-hipped. I had the most amazing vaginal orgasms. Definitely not a myth. His small dick would rub nicely on my g-spot. His narrow-hips meant I could keep my legs together more. I orgasm better that way. My current love has wide hips and a bigger penis, my legs have to open wider to accommodate him. I don't have orgasms with him. Interesting huh?

My lover is great, it's just that sometimes, he can't fully satisfy me, and I can't orgasm, someone said you should go down on your girl and just give it to them but lol I usually start doing that to him, right after he cums all over my face. :P jokes, but your guy would most likely love that.

A note to girls: There is a rubber band looking thing you can buy in any stag shop, and it goes around the near bottom of his shaft, putting this on, your guy will last longer, and will most not likely not be able to cum, until it's off. :D

The answer to a guy faking orgasms !
We don't so much fake them but after an hour or so trying to make sure a woman gets enough orgasms to satisfy her our bodys are exhausted & ejaculation is typicaly what we have left & it's not worth having when tired.
Has anyone ever though about what physical pleasure a man gets ?
Typicaly a whole lot of nothing & women don't even realise it when there snuggling up to you glowing thinking your wonderfull "lol"
Typicaly I just want to get out of there.
A guy will never complain because when we are born were told to shut up & put out so quit your whining .
When a woman asks how it was for you you always say fantastic automaticaly without even thinking to avoid conflict.
My wife asked me a few years ago to be honest about what pleasure I get from sex & I told her the truth which devistated her & as I sat there I wondered why she would think anything else as she lays there in bliss & i'm working like a dog for like ever pleasing her.
Needless to say nothing has changed since her reading that a male gets at most a 1 second squirt & thats it anyways so why would she bother doing anything any different.
I guess as a guy it's my job in order to keep a wife though do always wonder if we are capable of physical pleasure.

Thank god i'm not alone in faking orgasms.( I am a guy)
it's normal I think to fake orgasms being a guy & most guys I know do it also often so as to not upset there spouses.
I find that if I can just ejaculate a bit i'm off the hook & don't have to worry about explaining things.
I read an article once about a doctor who treated men for sexual problems.
He explained that 70% of his clients failed to return for appointments & when asked why they explained that if they were able to function properly they would be under pressure to perform so opted to stay the way they were having an excuse & only went in the first place because of pressure from there wives.
As I read all the comments here & noticing that most are women & most are blessed with an unimaginable amount of orgasms & they find sex so fantastic.
I have never heard a guy say that sex was fantastic for him when just around men but only ever hear about whats involved in pleasing her or what he was able to do for her.
When women talk ,you hear about how good he was & what he can do for her.
hmmmm !!!! kinda makes a point there doesn't it .
It seems to me guys not only don't get orgasms like women always insist we do but do nothing but try with everything we have to please them.
Maybe now I know why guys go gay "lol"

im am 19, M***e and find i can orgasm one after another, like never ending, may sound crazy, but am i mistaking an orgasm for something eles?

I am a 15 year old virgin. The first and only time my boyfriend has fingered me so far, i was extremely embarassed. I remember him saying "babe r u guna cum?" and i sadly said no. =\ I think i just need more clit stimulation. Usually when im on my own, and give it time, i can hav up to 3 orgasms, just by playing with my clit for OVER AN HOUR OR SO.=[

Only once a week which my husband only has sex with me on friday's,but I'm horny all the time. I think about sex and need it and when he has me any other way than me on top I don't orgasm. Its sad he cums to early,and doesn't finish the job. What should I do?

Mona 3, You should leave him and get with a real man. I am sure something in NM would be more than happy to be with you.

I have been marred for a long -long time ago. I never have been orgazym. Please give me advise what to do. Sometimes I want to have sex with other guy, but I embarees. Please help me.

I have been married for 16 years and I never able to have orgsm. I dont know what to do,. sometimes I want to divorce my husband or want to sleep with other man.

I have been with my guy for about 3 years now. I have only had one orgasm the whole time we were together, And yes like most girls that love their man, I fake it. Most of the time I do go for the vibrator afterward. Oral is good, about 80% of the time he can get me off with that. But actual sex I would say, he is great in bed and he tries to finish me if he is done like fingering me and stuff, but for some reason if I do it, I'm done in like 30 secs. but if he does, it takes forever but it feels better when he does. IDK, all in experience. But for those who can cum easier, play with the clit during sex, that should help. Its better for him to do it though.

I really feel bad about faking orgasms every time we have sex, but he just wont stop until he knows im satisfied. i never have been able to orgasm, with or without a partner, but i want to. ive tried everything.. everything... but nothing ever works. sex just feels like a big chore for me because im never pleased. hes really good but theres just nothing to look forward to ever... any ideas?

Next time you masterbate or are getting pleasured stick your legs straight out and flex them (lying down on your back)- this was the only way I could cum either doing it myself or getting eaten out. It works WONDERS- Try it!!!!

Also some amazing ways to masterbate- Use a jet from a hot tub on your clit, or if you have a bath inch up underneath the tap and let it all fall on your clit its amazing. or if your tap is about crotch level- get on your knees and form your hand around the tap forcing it to shoot towards you it will be like a jet. Unfortunatly not all bath taps are high or low enough to hit it!!

Good luck :):)

i had my baby 5 mnths ago and i cant now orgasm at all befor i had my baby i cld orgasm sme1 please help x

I've never not once orgasmed. not through intercourse, oral, or self stimulation. (female) i hear its pretty common, but id still like to be able to reach that point. ive read lots of tips and tried almost everyone. what else can i try? or is there just something wrong with me?

Well I LOVE sex with my fiance. I get one about 98% of the time and it's just craaazy! It feels sooo good. If I'm lucky, and I have been a few times, I'll get about 3 each time.

And since we do count, in the month of May, out of 31 days, 28 days we did it. Sometimes more than once a day. And each time I got an orgasm! Love it!

I can orgasm between 2 and 5 per sex session none of them oral just through intercourse

My boyfriend cheated on me a month ago, it was only kissing, but I worry he wanted more. Also, I found out by checking his phone, he had no intention of telling me and he continued to text the girl he kissed drunk one night. When I told him I knew he admitted it, was devesated and sorry. He is really makig an effort to make things work, and though the sex is really good, I can't orgasm any more. I've never orgasmed thru sex, but usually do thru foreplay. Now I can't. But I don't have the heart to tell him. The thing is, I hope it will get better, but when I was cheated on by a different boyfriend, I could let go and orgasm for years.

I orgasm on average 5 or 6 times. My record is 12 times during sex. I'm 18 now and completely in love. The fact that we love each other so much helps incredible. I've been with my boyfriend for two years and we have hopes to get married in the future!

My advice to those who have troubles reaching orgasm is to focus your thoughts. Focus on the things that turn you on most in the moment, whether it's made up fantasies or scenarios, memories of past moments or what your partner looks like and sounds like to you. The only way to reach an single orgasm (or have more) is to stay focused and tell your partner your what you like. Also tell your partner what feels best and what turns you on! If you don't you likely won't enjoy it. You need to understand each others bodied, likes and dislikes.

Summing it all up you need communication (obviously) and the right mind set to!

Have been married now for 25 yrs...Was married at 16 and he was 17..HE HAS ALWAYS BEEN A AWESOME LOVER!!!!I do believe that when ur man is into you and truley cares anything about pleasing his woman anybody can be multi orgasmic..I have always been able to have many orgasims,always starting with him licking my P***..Then depending how long sex is i can have anywhere from 3 to I lost count orgasims...We stoppedcounting years ago..We had sex for one and a half hours the other nite and I was having a orgasim every one to two minutes(you do the math)Really it almost seemed like one constant orgasim..It was badass..I think my P*** is a weird shaped or somthing cause he can rub the g spot from inside with very little effort..Bottom line is that he tells me that it turns him on to know that Iam being satisfied so much that he wants to keep going and going just to see how many he can bring me to..He has been bringing me to tears lately when I cum..This is new but very deeply emotional and wonderful..He really wants to get me to pass out,he has been working on this for 25 yrs now...I had to chuckle the other nite cause he brought this up again,told him that why would i pass out...then the fun would stop,thats a loose loose situation..It probably helps our situation that Iam and always have been very sexual!!!And for some reason lately I cant get enough,I could do it everyday..probably more than once!! If we are not having sex then Iam thinking about it..I have to wonder if this is normal for a 41 yr. old woman??? Then I think well,if u could orgasim like I do and (and we all know how good that feels)you would want to F*** all the time too!!AHH IT FEELS SO GOOD..Even after 25 mind blowing sexual yrs.with my wonderfully gifted loving husband...

I always get my orgasms. I used to do it 5 times a day, more if my boyfriend was up to it, but it fell down to once a day after taking my bc pills ):
anyway. try lying on your tummy and stimulate your clitoris. I find it very pleasurable but hard (like I can't come) when my man is touching me. :) works for me everytime!

My husband makes me orgasm everytime, and of course always makes sure I get there first. Lately he has been giving me a lot of oral sex,and it has been absolutely awesome. I have been having strong, strong multiples when he puts his mouth on me to lick me, suck me, etc. causing me to me to moan so, so loud, to the point that I can't even control my volume. I would love to be able to do this everynight, including the loud part, but our teenager and pre-teenager's bedroom are very close to ours. Time to send them on an overnight trip to a friend's house soon, so we can let loose! That's a great time to do it in different spots all over our house, with me screaming for more.
Nich

I can never cum. I been with my boyfriend for over a year now and every time we have sex i never have a orgasm he always cum before me and when we are finsh he ask did I cum an I dont want to hurt his feeling by saying no so I play it off an say ya.I feel horrible when i lie to him. The sex isnt bad its good but not that good to the point I can have a orgasm

i have been married for a year and a half and i have never get my o during intercause!only my hand rubbing ! and this is making a problem with my husband any solution ?

I often complain that my Husband makes me orgasm way too much. For example, we've made love 5 times already today and I've had about 50 orgasms. All from penetration only...no oral today..yet!!!! One may ask, why would I complain, because its so draining on me physically:(

when i was younger i always masterbated and had orgasms, but as soon as i started having intercourse, no guys could ever make me come, untill i met the guy that im with now, most times i can orgasm but only if i am on top, the the best part is we almost always finish at the same time! you just have to find the person that is the same as you sexually

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