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I’m in my (cough) 30’s

I was at a bar the other day, and some guy asked if I was single or married. Let me back up. I mentioned, when he turned around, “I love this song” (it was an oldie but a goodie). He said I looked too young to know it, so I told him my age. That was clearly a big mistake.

I don’t think I have a problem with my age, but if being in my 30s means I have to be subjected to queries about marriage at a bar, maybe I’ll just say I’m twentysomething. The same guy began his next line with an apology: “Sorry, but if you don’t mind me saying, you look great for your age.” My age? Am I missing something? Are 30 year olds unkempt, lonely, unmotivated, boring and cynical? Do I break the mould by leaving my house to listen to a DJ, wearing skinny jeans, sneakers and a cute t-shirt?

I’m not going to get on the bandwagon that gives props to twentysomethings at the expense of thirtysomethings. They both have something to offer – I just wish thirtysomethings were better at promoting themselves! While the media does not take this cause up often enough…here is MY big chance!

• I am self-aware and comfortable in my own skin
• I am fiscally responsible, which translates to having more money to spend and more assets to rely on
• I have more to offer than when I was 22 in the boudoir
• I am less preoccupied with my career and am more preoccupied with a work life balance
• There is very little drama

In a nutshell, we all get better with age. I can’t wait for 40, which I’m sure is smokin’.

photocredit: Heather Traher

Posted By: Agent Burlesque
Agent Burlesque

Comments:

You go girl

MBJ
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 10:19 AM EST

Well -- by the looks of your picture --you may think you are thirty and hot -- which I am not saying you are not but you look like you want to still act 20 .. something?

shelly
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 11:13 AM EST

This is a comment to shelly__What does looking like you want to act 20...Something?Thats the problem __People like you Shelly...And she does look hot...

BAMBOO
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 12:01 PM EST

totally agreed - i'm a twentysomething, and to be honest, the 30s look pretty damn sweet. i'm hoping to have lots more "things" sorted out by then. this doesn't mean i'm not enjoying myself now, but this whole age question seems to be putting us back into these pretty little boxes that society loves to put us in.

as for the comment from "shelly" - what does acting like a 20something look like? do you have criteria for this... i think your comment is pretty closeminded.

twentysomething, but who cares?
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 12:12 PM EST

Shelly did open mouth and insert foot!
I guess 40 year olds arent supposed to wear mini skirts according to shelly.What is this age catagory crap.I am 36 years old and will do what i want,dress how i want and act how i want..I am curious_how old do we think Shelly is?

Bamboo
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 13:26 PM EST

I think the point here is that being in your 30s now isn't what it was twenty or even ten years ago. I've thought a lot about this, at 27, and there's been a wide variety of stuff written on the "new 30." I say, if AB wants to go to a concert and see a band and wear a t-shirt and stick out her tongue, why shouldn't she?

The problem arises when people in their 30s (men, in my experience, ahem) refuse to grow up and take actual responsibility with money, relationships and other things.

Robotic Hottie
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 13:37 PM EST

Right on ! I married at 33 and had my child at 35 .It only gets better !

Savvy
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 14:09 PM EST

U are soooooooooooooooooooooo right Robotic Hottie!

BAMBOO
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 14:28 PM EST

when i was in my twenties i dated older women (the oldest was 52 when i was 26 she was a aerobics teacher) and i loved it for the reasons that Agent put up.
they know what they want and how they want it.
i learned a great deal about life and love with these older women.now at 38 i've been dating this girl who's 24 and i've been teaching her what i learned now for the past 4 years.
so for you young men out there go out with older women you wont regret it!

Dizzybenny
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 14:43 PM EST

I guess my message was too crump for this weak ass site..Peace out losers and yes im speaking to this P*** ass site..

SEXY
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 15:55 PM EST

I guess my message was too crump for this weak ass site..Peace out losers and yes im speaking to this P*** ass site..

SEXY
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 15:58 PM EST

Hi "SEXY",

Your comment was less crump, more chump. Racism doesn't have a place on this site ... and neither do you.

Peace!

Robotic Hottie
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 16:07 PM EST

Hey Robotic Hottie:U must of saw my Aerobics message before they took it off..What can i say if the shoe fits!It is not my fault some people have less hygeine then others..Oh you know what i did forget to add to that message?The stincky fowl cologne they would use to cover up the stench..How so cauc.........You know what does surprise me?They tend to consume all of the resources in the world,i'm surprised their greed doesn't extend to hogging water to wash their a!@

SEXY
Wednesday, 26 September 2007 16:18 PM EST

now now now ladies i wont accept fighting on blogs here.
it's always better in a tub of jello ;)
(me thinks that by saying a sexist remark you two will stop fighting each other and start dumping on me)

Dizzybenny
Thursday, 27 September 2007 07:29 AM EST

Dizzy
You are a true gentleman. And it's ALWAYS better with Jello.

Agent Burlesque
Thursday, 27 September 2007 09:35 AM EST

My bad everyone i was having a bad day yesterday..I still feel the same, but i'm usually less of tyrannt expressing the facts..And your Dizzy jello is more fun.

Sexy
Thursday, 27 September 2007 13:05 PM EST

Your right Dizzy jello is more fun..Especially with 2 guys..

Sexy
Thursday, 27 September 2007 13:07 PM EST

you speak the truth ... people often tell me i look 5 or 6 years younger than my age (31), but i think 30something of today is soooo much different than 30something of even 5 or 10 years ago. i'm financially stable, single (not cougar-ish or desperate), fashion forward, take care of my health, trendy, etc. and most of my friends who are my age are the same.

bonita
Thursday, 27 September 2007 14:31 PM EST

Dizzy
You are a true gentleman. And it's ALWAYS better with Jello.

Agent Burlesque
Thursday, 27 September 2007 09:35 AM EST

WOOHOOOO!!!made my week right there :P

Dizzybenny
Friday, 28 September 2007 07:30 AM EST

I hope it was the gentleman part that made your week - as the Jello part could just make for a great evening.

And may I say more power to you and other men for dating outside the traditional definitions of 'what age you should date'. All women have something to offer, but I will say that the older a woman gets.. the better she gets.

Agent Burlesque
Friday, 28 September 2007 09:07 AM EST

yes it was the gentleman part that i was refering too.
what do you think i care about the jello?chuckle...chuckle..i don't care about thaaat ahum!(looks away don't know what to do with hands)

seriously tho you are absouletly right!
enjoy the weekend Mzz Agent :)

Dizzybenny
Friday, 28 September 2007 11:16 AM EST

I had a house, my own company and managed employees at 23. I got too serious too young. I'm making up for my 20s in my 30s. :P

Guin
Monday, 01 October 2007 21:12 PM EST

Who are you people? Bottom line--30s are sexier than 20s. You know more! Also, Sexy, your writing is barely legible. That means it's hard to read.

stilts
Friday, 11 January 2008 17:17 PM EST

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