When applying this to a first date, what does that mean? When I think of what it means to be chivalrous on the first date, I think of being courteous, opening doors, taking the other persons interests for the date into consideration, being respectful towards that person, paying for the meal, movie, etc. Some would call this "old-fashioned." Some may say it's not fair expecting one to pay the bill and not the other, that it takes away from the notion that we are all equal. So what is acceptable first-date etiquette today?