Most definitely. Women are SO empowered these days, sometimes men are intimidated to ask them! Go for it, the worst you'll hear is "Thank you, I'm flattered, but no".

Yeah Girls! You go get'em.

If I want the shoes - I buy the shoes. If I want the boy - I will... well, you get the idea. If he can't handle that, he can't handle me and it was never meant to be. (a little poetry there!).

How? I've never been asked out exactly. I don't even know how to tell if someone is interested. I have confidence but it would be completely crushed if a guy said "eew, no." That's what I'd assume they'd say. How do you know if a guy finds you attractive?

why are you asking the SAME half-dozen or so guys the questions? I want more input than that...

Time is defferent and things changed.

the worst you'll hear is not "Thank you, I'm flattered, but no". it's something close to "get the f*** away from me!!!"

I agree with ash...either that or they start laughing hysterically and moving away from you.

Some guys are shy and just like us they
fear rejection. Years later the two of you will look back on that 1st date & he'll say he was so glad that you asked him out.

Why shouldn't girl's make the first move, if a guy is intimidated by this, it probably means they are either controlling, insecure, or both.

As for the possibility of rejection, guys have just the same chance of humiliation.

If a guy can't handle being asked out, then you just saved yourself from a bad date with an egomaniac. If you want to ask a guy out, ask!

Most guys, when they say that they don't mind being asked out by a girl, is imagining being asked out by the girl of their dreams, or a supermodel. Basically, someone really hot. It's still better to wait for the guy to ask. If he's really into you, no matter how shy he is, he will ask eventually. Besides, it's hot when girls play hard to get... to a certain extent. A desperate girl though, is definitely not hot.

lonergirl, it sounds like you need some confidence...not boys. If you feel like a loner you probably look like one...not sexy. Find something that makes you happy and concentrate on that...I bet you'll attract lots of guys that way. Plus if you do ask a guy out and he responds with eww or something worse..he's an a$$hole and you don't want him anyway

There is a whole article on this site about JUST how to ask a guy out - guys check it out and give your feedback! Girls, put it to practice and tell us how it went!

the key is not to act on impulse. feel out the situation, give a glance his way and if you make eye contact for more than a "quick glance" then maybe he's interested. if a guys gives me "the look" and i dont want the look, i look away immediately.
the 3 times that I did ask a man out... we ended up dating!

I wish a girl would ask me out every once in a while because it would be a real confidence booster. I'm am a rather shy guy who has a history of being laughed at while growning up.

Eventhough my confidence has risen substantially over the years it is still quite intimidating approaching a girl, especially if she's in a group of other girls (who will simultaneously be evaluating me as I approach). Like some of the other comments mentioned, the worst thing that can happen is not her saying "you seem like a nice guy, but I'm not really interested", but rather it's her and/or her friends laughing quite loudly as I ask, or even as I approach or walkaway (which sometimes hurts just as much). Rejection is going to happen and it's understandable but some people are quite tough on the person who has left themselves vulnerable and chosen to ask them out.

But as mentioned, no matter how shy a guy is, if he is interested he will eventually ask. It may just take a little bit longer for some guys depending on where their confidence is currently at. Also, some guys just try to be more patient out of respect, as a way to give girls, (who probably have had to deal with guys whistling and making all types of forward comments), space. If he doesn't ask you out immediately, it doesn't always mean he's not interested.

I think you can give the guy signals that you're interested and allow him the opportunity to ask you out, but at the end of the day he should still be the one doing the asking. This says to me that they are interested rather than just going along for a free ride because they know you'll make all the effort. I think if i did the asking, there would always be that little something in the back of my mind that says "does he really genuinely like me" And guys are guys, they like to chase and no matter how shy they are, if they really like you they will find the courage to do something about it. Ladies, we have been put on this planet not to woo, but to be wooed!

I think that girls can do what ever they want these days and i think that if they really want to they should ask guys out....

how do you know if your man is cheating?
what signs do you look for ?

if he's cheating, he'll be all nervous around certain topics. like ask him wher di you go, did you have a good time? hat kind of stuff

there's this guy i know and we're okay friends, and i really want to ask him out, but i know for a fact that his bestfriend likes me. what should i do,

i think this is so cool
i mean it wirks so good

can somone help me?
i really like this guy, and im not sure hes into me, what should i ask, or signs should i look for?

yes yes and defenly yesssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

Yes i think that a girl can ask a boy out!
because when did it ever come that the girls had to wait around for some fella to ask her out!
i say go for it!
how cares!

no, no way
i want total control
i wouldn't want a woman coming out and taking over my life.
EW.

first. I would like to say that "Brad" you are totaly wrong remember people "whatever boys can do girls can do better" so i think that if I were to ask a guy out I wouldn't be SO NERVOUS and go ahead asking him out... so people who say "no girls can't ask guys out" weLL your wrong.:)

i meet this guy online i really like him so far but i got probmle too tell my mother and father the true should i lie about it or tell them the true cuz the reson why i say this is cuz they wanne me too meet guy in real life but as u see it hard too meet them in real life i think easy way is meet them online but u know my mom and dad are crazy but should i tell them the true or lie about it ? plz help me out ..

i meet this guy online i really like him so far but i got probmle too tell my mother and father the true should i lie about it or tell them the true cuz the reson why i say this is cuz they wanne me too meet guy in real life but as u see it hard too meet them in real life i think easy way is meet them online but u know my mom and dad are crazy but should i tell them the true or lie about it ? plz help me out ..

I what is the worst is when you are getting all the signals from a guy that is is into you but then you say something like well there is a bunch of people going to a movie want to join us and he shuts down. Like the whole blank face and everything..it just really pisses me off

Ummm i definatly think it is ok. But I would wait to see if he would be cofortable if you would ask him out. Try asking him if he is cofortable with girls asking guys out and all that stuff but dont make it seem obvious,

I like this guy named Jeff and he's a year older than me but he's so hot. I'm realy outgoing funny and nice. but a rumor went around school in 5th grade and people are still laughing about it in grade 9 and he wont ask me out because he's scared THE WHOLE SCHOOL will reject him if he does ask me out , (DID I MENTION IM REALY HOT AND HAVE A D CHEST) ( I know 4 a fact he does like me because on hollidays we had sex in my tent)

cool

Hmm. Well, it's great to know! Thanks for the advice, guys. ;)

thanks but it does help except for the part where it can be a turn-off to that guy but mots guys are willing to do the asking so why bother to ask!
thats a good question isn't it!

cool advice, sheesh, wish i got the guts :)

uhhh... I would never ask a guy out... don't feel comfortable doing it nor do I feel it is right... lol.. I have a old school, traditional mentality when it comes to dating... and him being the man that he should be, should ask me out!

ahhhh....

i wish i could get asked out. why do we always have to do the asking? itd be nice for us boys to sit back and relax for once

lol @ the almost unanimous verdict

Boys or girls no matter who does the approaching first, just don’t let the girl (or boy) of your dreams pass you by because of shyness. Regret (no asking) is a bitter pill to swallow than rejection, believe me.

I defintely think that a woman can and should ask someone out first. I did that, and have been madly in love with my man ever since!!!

How are you suppose to introduce yourself to a stranger anyway?[never mind who asks who]

id ahed and ask the guy out.

ur shy and u like the guy should u ask him out its very hard for us girls we wish u could fell the pressure we have to go threw. y cant u guys be easy for us!!!

i really like dis boy called aaron but hes one of ma best mates! wt in hells name do i do?! lol i think it is gud to ask a guy out if u av the guts but its ok to be dead nervous just act confident!

Why the heck not?

Theres nothing cooler than a modern woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to get it.

Know your limits though...don't over-do it.

But I'd definetly say yes. I've seen too many women miss a good guy b/c they didn't want to make the initiative to get things started; or b/c they religiously believe that the man must chase.

I think girls should ask guys out, im not sexist but im just saying that girls wanted the right to vote, be treated equally and all that, well with all those priviliges comes responsibility... start asking guys out!

i dont know how to ask a boy out but i think that hes totally fit and he likes me but hes really shy

im not the celeb rihanna who sings umbrella im just a very very big fan

You don't nessisarily have to ask him "out" like a date but rather a fun activity you both like. Saying "Will you go out with me?" is like saying "Will you be my boyfriend?"
saying something about an outing like "Want to go to a movie with a couple of friends?" gives him a hint that you like him if you seem to connect with him keep doing activities. soon rather than that all the sudden. Also gives you a chance to see if he really is who you see both inside and out. Every girl has the courage to party have fun and be fun. by including the boy into your activity you are building your own courage and testing the ground you stand on. if he connects with you in a way you want go for it he has more to lose then you do!

okay, I agree that it's ok if a girl asks a guy out, but my problem here is that the guy that I'm attracted to is completely good looking. what if he's full of himself and wouldn't value me as much as I deserve and then all I'll be left with would be with regrets and feeling like S*** for a long time??!!

oh one more question, if a girl asks the guy out, should she pay for the dinner and other stuff?

what if he's a coworker?
should a girl ask him out? honestly, I don't like fooling around with my guy associates, but this one seems to be the one that if I let him go, I woul be always wondering about him :(
help please!!

i think that if a guy asks u out u should let him get the bill. and not everytime he has to pay becuz u want to kno that he got u if u are dating him and u wanna know that he gotta money in his pocket but not everytime cuz he need money 4 his self too! cuz like in b-hills my boyfriend is rich and i am too but we both handle the bill or he will and the next time ill get it u kno what i mean!

Seems the three-part question the girls are asking is:

1) Is it OK for the girl to ask the guy?
2) How do I know the guy is interested?
3) How should I ask?

This is my opinion:

(Short answer: We can be shy too. Start with chatting and build up enough that you can test the waters without getting too involved emotionally. Long answer to follow.)

1) Yes, go ahead and ask! There are 4 possibilities:
a) No, he's in a relationship
b) No, he's not interested
c) Yes, but he doesn't want to be serious
d) Yes, and he wants to be in a dedicated relationship.
And look at it this way: If you ask, there is a 50% chance the answer is no. If you don't ask, there's a 100% the answer is no.

2) How do you know the guy is interested? Contrary to poP***r culture, guys are not all swathe womanizers with scripts of romantic dialogue and Mr. Universe bodies. Some guys are outgoing, some are introverted. Sometimes a guy might like you without him knowing it.
In most cases if he's interested he'll feel obligated to make the first move but may not because he's asking the same questions you are: Is she already in a relationship? Does she find me attractive? Do we share the same interests?
If you have an aggressive guy on your mind, he likely would have asked you already if he was interested.
If you have an introverted or sensitive guy he may be afraid of rejection, think you're too good to want him, be self-critical, or be trying to test the waters before charging in to woo you.
If you get a shy guy who's interested watch for probing questions that try to find out your interests and likes and dislikes, this usually means he's trying to figure out what (if anything) you two have in common so he can think of a feasible way to ask you out.
If you mention during a chat that you like jazz and he asks if you'd like to go to a jazz bar (even with some friends) that may be a clue.

3) How should you ask? Guys don't get subtlety. Think of it like colours. I'm generalizing here, but men typically only see the colours of the rainbow: Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Blue, Indigo, Violet. We don't do "mauve" or "magenta", and likewise we don't take subtle hints.
Be direct, but not forceful or needy. Start small and test the waters, so start off with innocuous things like eating lunch together and chatting (if coworkers/students). Find out what you have in common and build from there.

So, ladies, that's my two cents as a 20-something guy. Take it or leave it.

I recently asked this guy out and he didnt respond so then i sent him a message telling im i needed a reason and his excuse was work...
what do you think?
ive tried getting over him but i cant
i need help

PTAY
He obviously isn't interested in you and your being too forward. Now your just starting to freak him out a bit.
He already said no. Move on.

NO dont do it men are complicated and send tehwrong signals

well...i like a guy...but he's my best friend...i was thinking about telling him...but then i found out he was bi...and he likes a GUY on our schools track team. i wanted to tell him...but i think its so late...and i'm afraid he wont be interested...what should i do?

Me personally I think that girls should not ask men out it was the way I was brought up...and I like a boy i am pretty sure he likes me and also he ain't asked me out...he said link me b4 but I was not sure he was serious...i think I love him wat should I do..i told I would sleep wid him...then i changed my mind...he was upset but said its ok...how do I tell he is the one thank u people help

if you want to do it, do it -- if he says no, you end up not obsessing over whether someone likes you or not and are more receptive to meeting the guy who's right for you. if he says yes, you can take it out for a test drive and see if it's right. in any event, you'll kick yourself when you're eighty if you don't go after what you want now that you're cool and young.

There's nothing wrong with a woman being the first to ask. To those with the confidence, I say go for it.
Personally, I prefer the man to ask. There just something so sexy about a man who goes for what he wants.

im a student and i really like this guy, we've known eachother a year and ive got to like him in the last 2 months he is so perfect and gorgeous and lovely but quite introverted... we have so much fun 2gether and have a lot in common, he knows i like him and his friends told me he likes me too... but we havnt talked about it ourselves and he hasnt asked me out yet...

i would ask him but im scared it might be awkward...im not shy like he is but i really wish he'd ask me we'd be so perfect 2gether ive fallen 4 him hard...i use all the flirting i know and am being bloody obvious..his m8s have told him i like him....

does he like me cos he hasnt asked me out (last time he asked a girl out he got rejected) and how can i ask him??? its hard 2 get him alone and i DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!...help me!!!
god he's all i can think about...xxx

DarkSecretlove, tell him how you feel, write him a note since you can't get him alone, that's what I'm going to do with my crush. He likes you, you like him there is no reason for the torture! If we wait they'll never make the first move! My guy is super introverted and shy too!

i've liked this guy for a while and i see him every couple of weeks when i go to the pub he works in, when i first started going there he looked over at me a couple of times and smiled at me so i thought that he liked me but i waited for him to ask me out as he seemed interested in me but he never did so i asked him if he wanted to go out for a drink sometime n he turned around and said yeah maybe and took my number but how do i no if he is interested?

i think that a girl should ask the guy out if the guy is to chicken to do it himself and if you are scared to ask the guy out just think of it like if he say sorry but no just say ok bye see you later because you shouldn't get sad over it it is just a feeling it is like when you ask your parents if you can go out and hang out with friends and they say no you don't get sad over it if the guy you like says no i don't like you then get over it there are other fish in the sea.

I have asked out many guys and been turned down but I am not the type of girl just to sit around waiting for a guy to ask me out what am i DOING WRONG i Don't know but I will Figure it out !!!

The results just depend on what type of
girl you are and what type of guys he is.

well i like a couple guys in schools but mostly logan cates and we have been friends 4 5 years and i've also like him for that long me logan and some more friends went 2 the ripley water park and he did the i love u sign so should i ask him or should i wait 4 him?! HELLLLLLLLLLLLP!!!!!!!!!!!!

well i like a couple guys in schools but mostly logan cates and we have been friends 4 5 years and i've also like him for that long me logan and some more friends went 2 the ripley water park and he did the i love u sign so should i ask him or should i wait 4 him?! HELLLLLLLLLLLLP!!!!!!!!!!!!

and i know hes not gay becuuse he said hes a female a$$ graber (F***)

theres a guy in my school that im attracted to even though we don't know each other but i don't know what to say. im very shy in fact im so shy i still have not had my first kiss yet !!!!!!!!! please help me.

i am nervous about asking a guy out that i rele like he gose to mu school let me know if u have any suggestions.

well i was in BBQ party. and i met this boy he was so cute and always smiling at me. well and the others. but i can't stop thinking about him. i don't know wat to do. i am tring to ask him out but it's hard beacause his always with his gang.and +i don't see him usally.he lives in somewhere around london. and i live in dorset.i only see him at parties. wat shalli do. any suggestion
will do.cheers

Recently i asked a guy out and he was like 'yea man'He admitted on the date that he liked my straightforwardness[if that's a word]We women need to go for what we want and learn to take some risks.

Can a girl ask a guy out first? No!!!!!!!

What is it will all these equal rights for women? Women should be in the kitchen cooking and clean for their man. They are the weaker sex.

I think that girls can ask guys out, its not a law or anything. Personally, there is something sweet about a guy that asks the girl out. It shows that he is confident. It shows a big leap of courage for guys to ask out and I think its romantic and cute. But don't overdo it guys or we'll think your C***y!

BTW John Mason, that was a terrible thing to say!

If you love someone go for him. Do not wait anything

hell!!!!!! yhea GO GIRL

Y not?girls are like the ones that ask out. not guys and it even looks like boyz are scary-cats GIRLS rule (got that write)

Theres nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out. Ive done it a few times & sure it takes courage but you feel so much better after. Go for it :)

I really dont think it is a good idea for girls to ask out guys. I am a guy in a relationship right now and had my gf asked me out I probably would of said no simply because it almost seems insulting...its like i find you attractive but you didnt have the courage to ask me so now I have to ask you. If you can see what I mean.

um i really like this kid a lot and he asked me out but i had never met him so i said no and he still liked me ... now i think hes mad at me but idk...he invited me to his party and that will be the first time we meet its in november ... if i see he likes me should i wait for him to ask me out or should i ask him out? ... maybe he will be scared of rejection again...help! please.

Its better if he asks you out, thats the ONLY way you will know if he is really interested in you. Men like the chase, all men do.So don't deprive him of that, it is in his primitive genes even in the 21st century. Sometimes a guy will say yes just to avoid awkwardness or a scene or the DRAMA (they HATE drama)or to avoid hurting you and that is a crappy way to have a date and he will disappear eventually cos he was never really into you inthe first place. Men will move mountains to get to the girl thay want so let him prove himself to you. sorry if i generalized and made evrything black and white. It is based on my experience and evrything i have read on the subject.

IF A GUY REALLY LIKS YOU, HE'LL MAKE THE FRIST MOVE, OK?

I DONT CARE IF HE'S SHY, IF HE DONT EVEN HAVE GUT TO ASK YOU OUT, Y BE WITH HIM? HES JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.

IF A GIRL WANTS TO ASK A GUY OUT FRIST, IT'S FINE, GO FOR IT. BUT BE PREPARE THAT YOU ARE JUST TRYING TO GET SOMONE TO LIKE YOU. HE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU IN THE FRIST PLACE

if a person likes another they must go get them it dont matter that you got a pennis or a vigina theres no difference

for Alexa:
i think asking a guy out is a little bit off. if the guy likes u i'm sure he'd ask you out. but if it seems as though he likes you but won't make a move on you asking a friend to help hook you two up has always benifited me.

i think if a girl pays for dinner and all that it's SO wrong. the guy should be willing to pay. if not he might not be the right man. he probobly doesn't know what curtisy is.
no offence to anybody who thinks differently.

if im honest i prefer it when girls ask me out but id ask them out if it came to it aswell. I dont think it realy matters who asks who because all this talk about that the only way you'll find if he realy likes you is if he asks you out is wrong in my opinion because its the exact sme situation with us. Just because we're guys it dosnt mean we have 2 always be the ones to be humiliated if it goes wrong.

Hell no thats sick seems to desperate

Lonergirl you need confidence and you tell that a guy thinks that your hot,beautiful (etc.) you have got to pay attention about how they look at you and how they act around you. And that is sorta how you can tell, well thats how i tell and im always right. :)

yes it's true a girl can ask a guy out because there are some jerks and shy boys that don't anything but the thing is that don't be too girly around the boy and try to find out what he likes or somthing because you never know what can happen. ok

yes i think a girl should ask a girl out beacuse someone like me im very shy when im around girls if its just one girl ill talk to her but if its in a group i just say stupid crap i would love a girl to ask me out

At worst you creep him out and are forced to interact with him because of proximity, and/or he tells all his friends and your peers and they laugh at you(why would they do that? I don't know); at best he says yes and you happily get married.

It's really a matter of risk management.

well,i think asking a guy out is ok.but no forcing!im more to the confident n straight forward type so i dont think hooking up with frens to get the guy out is nice.just be confident.guys like girls with their own style

yah, i fear rejection, 90% of the time a attractive girl or a girl im friends with asks me out, i will say yes

HELP!!!! ive liked this really cute boy named michael 4 quite a while im pretty sure he already knows that i like him b c friends have told him i want to ask him out but i am not sure how exactly

michaela..... confront him and tell him ur true feelings. 60 percent he will ask u out. 20 percent he wont. lol umm tell him u like him alot... flirt a lot wit him. own him. dnt fall for him unless he is willing to catch u



i always feel rejection but then i get with them after lol girls shud ask out guys if they want.... yall got to get off the computer and go ask out sum guyz no lie haha

ok, so recently i asked a guy to hang out. I've liked him for a while and he is really really sweet. The only problem is we are both very shy. It took me so long to build up the courage and when i asked he said ummm i dont know...i guess. I assured him it would be totally fine if he said no and he said no, im just weird with girls. You caught me off guard. What does that mean?

Lucy, it means he didn't think that would ever happen. Guys usually dnt wanna hear dat from a girl. i do lol but dnt ask a guy out, just flirt a lot with him and he will ask u out hunn =]

Thanks! We did end up hanging out for a little bit (which was his doings) and i think he might be a bit flattered i'm interested and asked...wish me luck :)

haha thats good =] if u dnt mind me asking, how old r u?

All these comments are awesome...i have so much fun reading them.

I met a guy a year ago and seen him about three times since. Every time we see each other, there's chemistry and we end up kissing...but alcohol might be a big part of that, haha. Plus he lives like 5 hours away.

Should i suggest to come see him for once or is that going to look like i'm a creep since he hasn't offered??

sara 5 hours away? dat sounds like u desperate for a guy. not trien to get u mad. hes not worth it.

I went to a school dance with this boy and it seemed like we hit it off. Then again, we're kind of friends, so I'm not really sure how he felt about the whole "date" idea.

I do like him, though, and I want to ask him out, but I don't really know how.

And one of my friends told me that I should wait and flirt a little bit and have him ask me out, but what if he doesn't get the message or whatever?

I don't know. I'm just confused.

xD

I'm 18.

And Amanda, I know all girls like to be asked out by the guy, that's how i am. It was my first time doing the instigating and it worked! If you like him, ask him to hang out dont feel like you have to wait around for him to do it.

Thank you, Lucy.

I think (as long as I don't chicken out, which, there's a good chance I might) that I'm going to talk to him tomorrow.

Cross your fingers.
:]

haha im 13 lucy =]

ok fingers crossed :)

haha my little sis is 13

Girls can totally ask guys out. I asked a guy i really really liked out and he said yes. I'm shy myself but nothing compared to him and i heard he liked me too so i just built up some courage and asked him to a dance next week. He said yes so hopefully it works out.

Girls can certainly ask guys out. The difficulty often comes when the guy is shy and the girl doesnt know how to approach him. I found some tips from this article that are useful.

Just type in 'How to chat up a man who is shy' in your browser and the article comes up. Hope this helps!

i met this guy (A) at a church function..and he was shy at first but we started talking. the funciton was on monday then again on tuesday the whole day. he talked to me loads and stayed around me even though he had friends there. he kept looking at me and all that..and he hinted several times lke 'we should do this...' but i ddint realise at the time. anyways a preacher asked for my number..for chruch purposes and this other guy got my number whilst i gave it to the preacher. guy A just stood there and watched..and he mentioned that we wouldnt see each toher again...and i still didnt get the hint...and then he asked for my email (this was at the end)..and i didnt ask for his in return..>< i dont know why! and then he walked me to the bus stop and i just say bye and left. omg i dont know why i didnt show him i liked him...thugh i kinda did cause i kept seeking him out to talk..and all that. anwyasy he hasnt emailed me yet..its been a week :( did i blow it? or should i just say he wasnt interested since he didnt email me...sorry for the essay :)

oh yeah i was thikning of adding him on facebook to give it a last shot..but i dunno if i should, any ideas? (i may or may not see him again depending if i put effort to turn up at every function and he does too and the functions arent often)

i love this girl tha but i dont know what to say

omg i had so much fun reading all those comments...it gave me hope . Cookiemonster idk if it is too late...but just try to meet him somehow . i mean the guy did his best and no offense but it seen to me like u are the one at fault . oh and ya i want to ask for some advice too...well ppl i like this girl (im a boy btw) i don't even know her, i think she liked me but now she is going out with some1 . Damn i think i blew it i need some advice.

All my life growing up, friends and family have told me that I am pretty, intelligent, independent, etc. yet I've rarely been asked out by guys. I don't get it. If I'm such a stellar catch, then why do I not have guys lined up to talk to me?

My point is that it doesn't make sense for women to wait around and have guys ask us out- I'll be an old woman before a guy gets the guts to ask me out on a date. I'd rather do some of the work, let him have a little chase, and get what I want.

I have a dilema. I like this guy, we have been flirting for a while and i think he likes me. But i dont know how to ask he out. Someone said i shouldn't say will you go out with me but rather suggest a place to go together. But we are in 3rd year of high school so there is no where for us to go!!!!

I really like this guy and I know that my best friend likes him too. My other friend keep telling me that i should ask him out because he's my first love. But i dont want to be hated by my best friend... What should i do?

secret agent : talk to your friend she might like him but you love him.

lulu: i'm second year highschool and i just kind of asked out this guy. my friend is having a hard time so i asked him to come to the city with me to help out a friend because my parents wouldn't let me go alone. even though we're meeting people there its still a 2 hour train ride ;)

I'm a 21 year old guy and I have been asked out by two girls. I said yes to both. Almost all guys will say yes unless A) hes completly in love with one girl or B) really doesnt find you attractive, which you should be able to tell by how often (or little)he tries to catch your eye. Ask the guy out. Most guys will get turned on even if they had no intention of asking you out. Its nice to be wanted.

Ohmighosh, please help me. I really like tis guy, and i think that he likes me but ages ago like 2 months ago one of my friends shouted to him in english if he would go out with me but he shouted back no, no-one laughed but i wanted to run out and cry, but i didn't. Latley ive been told that he's been staring at me, we were talking normal the next day. I always see him looking at me so i smile and he does a nervous smile, my bestos keep telling me to ask him out but i get nervous and i want to get him by himself but how do i do it without people seeing us? i'm afraid hes going to say no again, please help me.
x

Nice answer: Between the two of you, whoever is the more outgoing should ask the other one out, regardless of gender. When shy people spend a great deal of time with or talking to someone of the opposite gender, it means they are interested. Plain and simple. It's a lot easier for outgoing people to be "just friends" with the opposite sex than it is for shy people. So ladies, if you spend a lot of time with a guy who you can tell has a reserved personality, and he's not seeing anyone else, aggressively ask him out. It's what he's waiting and hoping for.

Honest answer: I personally can't stand it when girls think guys "have to" be the ones who do the asking and risk the rejection and humiliation. If we can put ourselves out there like that, you can too. Not all guys like chasing. I know I don't. Share the load or I don't want you anyway.

I know I am in the minority, but I find it a turnoff.

well I want to ask out a poplular guy at my school.'hisn name is Grayson Frenchieck.

ok i like this guy and i think he does like me back but i want him to make the first move you know ... is that bad? I mean i am kinda shy but now i am getting more unshy and we really get along and i smile and look at him a lot and he looks back and ALL of his friends tease us i mean they say i like him and he likes me but the thing is HE has never said it and i know he wouldnt tell his friends because they make a big deal out of EVERYTHING so Should i ask him out im thinking i might never see him ago since we are going to different junior highs so should i ask him out???

yes it makes it seem sexy to have a women who is brave enough to do it

K thanks! :D i guess ill see what happens....

I have liked this guy for about 5 years now and used to go to school with him. However 3 years ago we started going to different schools and i only see him about 3 times a year (even though we live in the same city). When i do see him, we don't even really talk because we usually are just passing on the way to events (at track and field). I still really like him even though i've lost contact. I would like to call him up and casually ask him out to a movie. would this be weird? should it be a group thing if he says yes? please help!!

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i am in 6th grade and there is a guy that i like i am totally going to ask him out but schools over.oh but good news i gave him my phone # and he gave me his so i will ask him out fingers crossed he says yes!!!!ok get this Iasked him out and.......well.....HE SAID YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i cant wait untill we start kissing.

I like this guy, and he likes me too, but he's too shy to make the first move, so i plan on asking him out tomorow. personally i dont see anything wrong with a girl asking a guy out.

i likethis guy named Ryan and i've known him since i was 5 and i used to have a major major crush on him all through elementary school. we used to be really good friends but i lost contact for 3 years when i switched schools. anyways i saw him a couple months ago and got his number and we text a bit. i asked him out to coffee to reconnect kinda and it went good and he asked me out to coffee a month later. he told me over text he still has feelings for his Ex but i think he may like me. sometimes he seems really into me and sometimes not. im so confused! should i make a move and ask him out??!?! he lives like half an hour away tho

def! ive asked alot of guys out! its tottally fine! but ask him out urself boys hate when ppl ask out for other ppl

def! ive asked alot of guys out! its tottally fine! but ask him out urself boys hate when ppl ask out for other ppl

Hey, So I have really liked this guy from Grade 5, we used to sit after school together on the swings, and play games and stuff together too. And call one another and then when middle school came we both kinda seperated and went two different ways. Then we started talking a lot around christmas and we are both 19 now and we were getting very close chatting online. He even invited me to go to play laser tag with him and his friends and to a party at his house too. But then this other guy I have liked since a summer party came along at the same time and we eventually started to date and we were in a relationship. So I told the guy from gr 5 I couldnt talk to him anymore the same becuz I was dating the party guy. And We stopped talking for months then after 4 months of dating that guy I broke up with him becuz he wasn't the kind of guy i thought he was. Then one night at the bar I ran into the guy I had talked to earlier and we chatted and he asked me, "So what happened with you and that guy?" And I told him and he grabbed my hand and walked me outside the bar. Do you think he is still interested in me after I pretty much rejected him for another guy the first time around? Which now I realize was the worst mistake ever!!! I would really appreciate an answer on this because I do have his house number and wanna call him up and ask him out on a date or simply go do something together. :) I am super nervous to call him, but theres part of me saying I should go for it!??

Yes girls should ask out guys!! why wait for the guy to ask you, this is 2009, girls make a change :-)
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yes we should in fact i am going to ask one out @ school tomorrow! (1st time!)

I just asked a guy i've been texting for a while if he wants to meet up and he said yeah!! im so happy lol it's scary girls but totally worth it!! get asking!!

i asked a guy to hangout during the week and he said "ya prolly". what does that mean?

yes women should ask guys out if you really like themthen go for it one one is stopping you

I agree that there is no reason why girls shouldn't ask a guy out, but I wouldn't do it myself. If you are a girl who has enough confidence to ask a guy out, then go for it. But I know personally I would rather wait until the guy asks me out because I would be very upset if the guy said no, and I wouldn't want to have to deal with what could be rejection.

theres a guy ive liked for a few months now. i dont know if i should say like, because i dont know him, i dont even know his name. he works in the phone shop and im just someone that walks past before getting the bus to work. i really want to get to know him, but every time i look at him he looks back but he's with his work friends so there is no way i have guts to go up to him to make conversation as it would be too random. he catches my eye and he's one person i really want to get to know.
what should i do ?

i think that u should ask him out

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I think girls should ask girls out. Like Jason said women are so empowered we can do anything. plus i think it lifts the weight of the guys shoulders so he doesn't have to go through the rejection

U know wat!! girls should ask boys out.......some of them aere probably intimadated by it but it can really help them out with their confidence!!it doesnt matter what gender u are!! i really dont know who created this whole situation that guys ask girls out!! in my own opinion it is quite stupid in fact!!-Sincerly,
Brittanna Sheilds

The worst thing to do is to let life pass you by taking your soul mate with it

What if they have social anxiety disorder? How does that effect your efforts?

So, there is this guy i work with. And we talked a lot when we worked together. So i gave him my # and he texted me and we've talked alot since. But I'm not sure if i should ask him out or wait for him to ask me. I'm 16 and he's 17. What should i do?!?!

This is for SoConfused3
You have already established a relationship with this guy. For all we know he is probably saying the same thing to himself. You both will sit and ponder unless one of you just go for it. It sounds like with all the talking you do with him you make good friends and that sets the foundation for a relationship. So take it from a guy he is most likely wating for you to make the move. So go for it and if he says no you still will talk with him.

i met a guy online and i had a crush on him for about 10 months now. hes a year older than me and ppl keep saying we r a couple, but idunno wat to do. i wana tell him my feelings, but im scared that this wil ruin our frendship.

Well I did ask him out, and he said yes and we were suppose to go to the movies tomorrow and he was like i forgot so i was schedule to work, and he didn't even offer to hang out another time. Does that mean he just doesn't want to hang out?? So confused!!

right i go to this school and i really like some one but im scared to ask him out but aswell how about if he say ewww NO :( but i really like him people say he likes me and hes nice to me sooo please some 1 help me xxx :) xx

if u was gonna ask some 1 out wot wud u say ??

I am so confused on this as well.

I mean i know it is the 21 century and women should be able to ask a guy out but it seems so nontraditional to do so. It's like maybe it is just the guy's duty to make the first move.

but in the same way, what is a girl suppose to do to let a guy know she is interested without feeling too forward?

i know how u guys feel. I sorta asked a guy out and well he likes a different girl (my sorta est friend!) wat should i do!

i have liked the same guy for 2 years now.. i have dated other people inbetween times but noone is like him. lots of guys have asked me out but i only want him. he is in the same orchestras and stuff with me and we talk all the time - even in the middle of a concert! he is very shy but he always remembers the little things i say. He goes to alot of parties with "poP***r" people ...but does that mean he would rather them? i dont think a girl should ask out a guy ..as it was said earlier i think guys like to "chase" ..but i have already waited 2 years.. so i dont know what to do. sorry its so long :) ha

oh yeah im only 10 but i know wemon can definatly ask the guy

I honestly think that it's totally okay for a girl to ask a guy out. I've done it so many times and it ended up to be the right move to do. A guy doesn't really mind who asks who first. Actually, most of men like women to take the charge. BUT. There's a big BUT. Ladies, be straightforward. Ask him out first. But after your first date, you must wait for the guy to call first. I know it's a bit conventional, but it's actually true. As it had been said before, they like the chase. And they don't like desperate girls. If he doesn't call you back or doesn't give you a sign, he's probably not interested. If you call him back first, you'll look desperate (okay, desperate is probably a strong word, but I can't find the right one, anyway...). But, anyway, every single case is TOTALLY different and it's really important to identify who you both are and how you will act will depend on both personnalities... :)

I think it is totally fine for a girl to ask a guy out. Personally I am a super, super shy girl and can hardly even talk to people that I really like, but I was still able to ask out that guy that I had a crush on for awhile and he said YES! So worth the try! We have even been going out for a couple months now. I know people are different and that not all things go smoothly but no matter what, the try is always worth it! Also VivaLaVida<33 is sooo right!

its good fro a girl to ask a guy out but be sure hes not in a rush, he likes u and MOST impotantly makesure ur aking him whe n hes alone cuze if u ask whe n hes with his friends the answer is definatly be no. Cuz if a guy said yes his friends wouuld laugh their heads off sry but thats how it works just helpin ya :)

there is this guy that i have had a monstrous crush on at my work for the last couple of months. basically, at first we were to shy to approach each other but had mutual friends that would send messages for us. there were a couple of times where he would just so happen to wander by my area at work and walk away quikly with a quite hi....finally he asked me if i wanted to hang out with him standing really far away like he was scared of me or something. we hung out had a good time and he walked me to my car and kissed me on my cheek, i then asked him what he was doing the next day and he said that he had late plans to take his nephew to a movie and then he was free after that and then he asked if i wanted him to call me. i forgot to ask him what time and the next day i left him this stupid message saying that i wanted to invite him to hang out with some of my buddies and me and then i just said that i guess he was busy and hung up. ever since then he has been trying to talk to me at work but i have been avoiding him a little because i am shy and i why would he keep on be trying to talk to me at work but not call me,....i guess he dosent like me enough?
thanks

yes, infact i did that once but ofcorse he said "No way im Good!!" it is 50 50 that he could say no or say yes but now he told the inter school and i cant show my face in public and every one is laghing and i am convesed he said "i wont tell anybody if i do u can smack me is school" here is some advice never turst a guy!

Ohkay gurls. If you like a guy an want to date him but dont no if he likes you back then ask him out. If it was ment for you to date him then you will be with him. No matter what if he says no it will hurt but you'll find another guy just as good as him if not better that will sweep you off your feet and say yes.

hi everyone, ijust asked a guy top go to the winter dance with me and he said "i dont know"
whats that mean?

Okay, so i want to ask this guy out but i dont know if i should, we met when school began which was last august. we have become really good friends. we talk a lot. i have been told that he likes me, but i'm not sure, a lot of people know that i like him because they think it's obvious, some people even think we were already going out. I really like him. But he hasn't asked me out, I thought i should. Should I?

i thinck that both girls and boys can asked someone out. if you are in love with a guy go ahead dont be shy, just do it. ok maybe you will humiliate yourself but at least you had the guts to asked him out.

There is this guy I met at a party and before I left, he asked me for my number so I gave it to him. He then friended me on facebook. There was no talk about contacting each other after I left the party. It has been four days since we saw each other and he has not contacted me. Is he interested? Should I keep waiting or should I contact him?

yes definitely, I did it and I've never looked back

I always wanted to ask a guy out but I really don't know how and becuase I am really scared to do it

You only live life once...why not?

I m only in 4th grade and i like a boy named Patrick and my friend Leandrea keeps telling me I should go for it,its kind of scary but i told him i like him in reading and he was excited and i asked him after school he did'nt give me an answer the thing u should be scared of is if he ie in you class and if he says no so go for it good luk pray for me

I was so happy to see that there is no spam in this blog.
How did you do this?

if a girl asked me out i would be so re leaved and i wouldn't have to stress a week early trying to plan a way to ask her out the day im going to do it i for sure would be glad if it happened it hasnt happened yet but idk

If the guy u like is shy deffinently ask him out
because if he dose like you then the answer
will deffinetly be yes and if he dosnt and he's shy then he'll most likely let u down softly cos shy guys tend to be more caring and if you don't ask him out and he dose like u he may not ask u out cos he is too scared ( thats one of the reasons why I don't have a girlfiend).

well i really dont understand this thing about guys doing all d askin out all d time, jst coz of sme notions we have about cavemen types n stuff...i myself have asked the guy out my relationshps..and they have always said yes. in fact, i prefer doing d asking out...coz if he says, fine..if he doesn't i still move on to other guys..n its ok if a guy I ask out says 'no' ...but its humiliating n heartbreaking if a guy asks me out, courts me just to break my heart later on....den it wud seem like he was just usin me or smething. dunno abt other females, but im very independent and askin a guy out gives me greater autonomy. n its fun too, i think...coz its nice to see the eyes of a shy guy light up wen uve asked him out (if he LIKES U) or his nervous, red face (if he doesn't like u or isnt sure what he feels).

currently m talkin to dis guy who i got to knw thru another common frnd...had met him 2 yrs back...found him on FB smetime dis yr..added him n sent him a message...from den on we have been messagin each other on FB...n den one fine day i asked him for his num...gave him a call a week later..n he has caught on now...he was very shy in d first few times of talking..he has opened up a LOT now and we r along d same mental plane as well...we talk continuously for hrs and d conversation is never boring...recently i told him im planning to go to d beach and was gonna ask r common frnd to come along...(who is a guy as well)...n den as an afterthought, i asked him if he' like to come ...he said "sure, just let me knw whenever u go."


its simple. you like something, you go for it. doesn't matter if ur a guy or a girl.

Ask him ou! You've got nothing to lose!
Four days ago we went out with a bunch of close friends and my crush (my best male friend is his best friend as well).
I've only been talking to him on the phone and texting and on Facebook. So we saw each other for the first time that night ut we weren't total strangers. The first thing he said when I walked through the door, and it kind of came out spontanously, "Wow, she is so beautiful!" and it kind of made him blush 'cause he is already a shy guy (I thought it was sweet)!
Anyways we went to this party and we all got pretty drunk, but it was loads of fun and when we got bak to my friends house we all chilled there for another hour or so, laughed and watched movies and I layed there on the sofa and he sat next to me, bringing me drinks and asking if I'm alright all the time (it was so cute)!
Then when everyone went home, he gave me a ride to my place and somehow (it just went naturally) we went together up stairs and I told him he could stay over tonight and he was like oke and we were on the bed and it was so awkward, then he started to kiss me and it was very passionately, but at some point I stopped it because I didn't want to ruine my chances by having sex with him already. But in the morning when we woke up, it kind of happend... But he stayed till noon and we talked alot, we had so much fun. Then he had to go and he said "Well, I can still call you right" and I was like Sure.
He kept calling me and flirting and things changed in the way he approached me, it was much more flirty and caring but there was no sign of him actually asking me out. So Yesterday I thought, what the hell, I'm just gonna ask HIM!
And I did, like straight forward "When are we gonna sit for a drink sometime?" He was like "Hmmm maybe this week!" So I said Sunday or Monday's fine?" he said "Monday's fine :)" and so we've got a date. No big deal, just go for it girls!
You might miss onsome great guys out there who are just too shy... Goodluck!

For the first time tomorrow I will be the one doing the asking. For all my previous relationships, the man has been the one to ask me. There is this guy, seems to be quite interested in me, and I am very interested in him, though he is the shyer type of guys, I believe he has tryed to hint at telling me he is interested, but it has always end up with him going all red, stumbling on his words and changing the subject, I found that adorable :). So tomorrow I am going to take charge and ask him(probibly going to seem confident on the outside, but inside I will be going crazy, hoping I am not rejected, which I do highly doubt, but it will be in the back of my brain, and close to sick with my stomach doing huge flips). Before I do ask him out tomorrow, I have to get a bit more courage, I am the shyer type of girl.

I like thiz guy where are okayy friends i like him a lot. His friend told me tht he thiks im really hot. He said he gonna ask me out but he said i ask him out before he did. I said not even i liked him but i dnt knw if u should ask him out or not pleaze help LOL:)

how do u get a boy to like you if i ask him out boy r hard to get i wish boy ask girls out not girls ask boyz out

Guys should ask girls out. That's how it's supposed to be. Us women like to be wanted and adored by men. There is no such a thing as TOO SHY to ask a girl out, maybe TOO LAZY. If he wants you badly he will ask you out. Equal rights and stuff is fun, but I personally want to date a MAN, I don't want to be the man in a relationship. That's just how I see it.

well i think it would be okay if you've known him for a while but not for as long as you've become such good friends. i think that for me its against my rules but i really think it would be sweet if you think hes the one for ever in your heart. ♥

It takes 2 to tango...it has never been anyones pre-established duty to communicate attraction. We must stop thinking of the individual perspective.This means you cant think I AM SCARED...AFRAID.....UNUSURE....when you link these thoughts and feelings to love, and the person you may love ,you get something called a potentially pathological relationship.
SECONDLY again leave the individual out of this, donttry to get IN HIS head, dont get stuck in YOUR head. LIFE and LOVE are very simple once you see its social and biologial fundaments...unity, empathy, communication....all anti individualistic aspects of love and human relationships

On our first three dates he asked me out. Since then, I have asked him out. I don't think this comes across as desperate. In fact, I get a rush out of asking him out and I'm shy. However, it really depends on what signs he's throwing out there. I read somewhere that guys only exhibit a few signals and women can pick up on most of them. For example, on our 2nd date he tilted his head to one side and looked at my lips and neck while smiling lightly. While seated, his body was loose and facing me. On our third date he kept chewing gum and disappearing. Turns out he was hoping for a kiss, but was waiting for me to initiate it. Since then I have asked him out and we had some really good dates. I even got several really intense kisses from him on the dates where I asked him out. I totally recommend asking the guy out as long as the signs are there. Don't rush things, get to know him first and then work up the courage. The anticipation makes it all worth it. Luck to everyone out there.

umm ok, im a 13 year old shy guy, i like this girl for 3 years[3 f..king years ] but i never have the guts to ask her out. plz the on thing i can say is not to be shy [for either sex] or youll end up like me. ps no rune comments about me please ty, bye

Hey I really like this guy and the only person that noes I like this guy is my best friend and he told me to go for it u never no wat will happen but I am nervous that he will say no and I see him almost everyday at weights so if he says no it will be ackward

I'm thinking of asking this guy out.
If he rejects me because he thinks he should be doing the asking as a male then most likely hes a chauvinist pig and I don't want to date him anyway. Either way its a win-win situation. I either date a nice guy who isn't intimidated by me as a strong modern woman, or avoid a sexist A***.

Meeeeeeeh. You'd seem kinda desperate if you asked a guy out. I'm guessing that if he liked you he'd ask himself.

I agree with Mio3! There's nothing wrong with asking a guy out... I liked once guy for 5 months and he never asked me out. I ended up inviting him to the movies and he confessed that he's liked me ever since he saw me!!! Some guys are just like that- shy or insecure or just not sure how to ask a girl out- they WANT you to make the first move. And if he's not interested- MOVE ON. It's not the end of the world. It does not mean you are desperate at all!!!

there's this really cute guy at work that I am gonna ask out to lunch tomorrow,we IM each other everyday and I go to his office and talk to him frequently as I can..he likes me, you just know when a guy is into you..I think it's time to ask this hottie out for lunch...wish me luck ladies

do guys get bad impression of a girl if she asks him out? D:

i have known this guy for 2 years, but we only see each other a few times a year as he is a musician, when we look at each other the staring is really intense, he actually stares until i turn away, but he hasn't asked me out, should i make the first move,and ask him out for a drink ?

Today I just tried to ask a boy Ryan out,but he said no... please help me befor I go to Middle school next year!I need a BOYFRIEND NOW or i'll cry so badly! I'm DISAPONTED! :'( (PLEASE RESPOND now!)

Dear linsay,
you are so young, you don`t need a boyfriend at tis time of your life your still a child. I diden`t start dating till i was 15. Boys aren`t everything in school, i bet you onley want a boyfriend because your friend or sister has one. Not having a boyfriend is not the end of the world. I say wait untill they come to you, in the meantime have fun with your friends and have a great childhood because your onley a kid once in your life.

I beleve that asking a guy out is one of the best tings to do, because it shows what kind of person you are and what type of guy he is depending on his answer.
If he answers no and is annoyed wirh it, don`t be hard on yourself. it simpley means that he is a contol freak. a man like that like to have control over everything he dose, therefore if he were to go out with you he might be one of those really contolling boyfrineds that stop you from seeing your friends and sometimes family. This type of man will also bring you down and play mind games with you he will make you feel as if you`re worth nothing.
If he answers no and appolagises he is a man who is probably in a relationship and is faithful to his wife/gilfriend. If he is single, he is mostlikeley just not interested. But he is still a gentlemen, and cares about your feelings, so he is genaraly a good man.
If he says yes but is verry silent about it he`s probabley just really shy. what`s nice about a shy guy? In genaral they have better values, and 89% of shy guys are verry faithful to there partners. Most of the times when he starts to warm up to you, he ends up beeing a chatter box.
If a guy says yes and is excited, it means that he had no idea you liked him and he might of had a crush on you for a while and probaley thaught you were out of his league. So it was worth making the first move.
Asking a guy out is more than acceptable in todays sociaty. It also says that you are a confident person, and mst guys find that attractive in a women.

I have asked a shy guy out when i was 18 and we have been together ever since.

Angele 25yrs old

Well, I'm confused because I want a boyfriend but I don't know how I should ask him. I've already heard from my best friends that he likes me, when I stand next to him he runs of blushing. He even told his best friends that he likes me. My friends think I'm stupid because I've been waiting since the 2nd grade to do it. Everybody keeps on shoving me into him so that I will do it but I can't. If you have any advice can you please tell me I want to do it soon but i don't know how. Please give me some advice. I'm despirate.

Alex

Hi Alex, my advice to you is just ask him out, if it's easier message him on his mobile, if you have his number. Also don't tell your friends that you are going to ask him out, keep it to yourself as they might make you nervous, and when he agrees to go out with you, then you can tell your friends the good news ! Take a deep breath and be positive !

in my school theres a boy that i like but i don't know if he likes me but i really want to go out with him

I don't think this "men like the chase" thing is based on true biology, I think it is just a cultural thing. First, not all men like the chase. Second, just because a woman asks a man out doesn't mean she's "desperate". I've known plenty of desperate women unwilling to make the first move. Third, some WOMEN like the chase. I personally kind of enjoy asking guys out. Third, some men ONLY like the chase, so it's not really a good way to tell if they actually like you. They might just like chasing you. And then they'll drop you like a hot potato once they have you. Just sayin'.


I think there are all kinds of separate cases and it is dumb to generalize based on your own personal experience. Whatever dating strategy you use might not work so well on other people, and vice-versa.

I really like this guy, I'm giving him singnals and stuff
Whenever we Hang out he fliers
And
Stuff. But he just won't ask me out and I don't know how to ask a guy out. Please help.

Is it too weird just to ask a guy like "Hey, I was wondering if maybe you'd like to go out some time?" or should u make it more subtle or what?

I need a guy so i asked this really cute guy out he has abs like a 10 pack of abs and i gave him my phone number and he gave me his so im asking him out right now while im typing and guess what he said YES i cant wait to kiss and have sex

im in grade 4 and i reeeeeeelly lik this guy in grade 5 but im too nervous to ask him out but i think he likes me -though i hav frends who r dating and flirting with boys i think i should start flirting first-if u guys think differnt tell me plzzz

im nervous and scared to ask some one out but the main thing is my mom keeps waching me wen i try to ask she starts kissing me on the cheek and wont leave me alone..........tho she likes my choice-wy is she in my social life so much?

Hi girls.
I am a shy guy. I would have loved to be invited by a girl first. I've liked many girls before, but since my severe shyness, I can't get the balls to go out and ask them out. It is very difficult for me, and kind paralyzes me.

There are many shy guys out there that really worth it. That are kind, loving, and will take care of your needs, and will certainly give you lots of love.

I can asure that, if you ask out a shy guy, you'll get a 99% success rate. That means, he will certainly say yes.
Don't do it in front of their friends though. If he don't seem to get away from his friends, send him a paper note to ask him out. If he is a bully guy (probably not a shy boy), he'll probably make fun of you for the rest of his life.

GO GIRLS!

Yeah I think its ok to ask a guy out but if you're both painfully shy you could ask over msn it seems hard when your typing it but when you've sent it you feel much better. And anyone who says girls can't ask guys out are wrong and are living in the wrong century. Most guys would love to be asked out. It lets them relax. Go for it girls!

im in 6th grade and i really like this guy in 7th grade and i really want to ask him out but then at the last second i think what if he doesnt like me and i get REJECTED!!!! pls help

Usually I'd say let the guy ask, providing you gave fun encouragement. However, some situations may call for a gal to make the first move - but do it in a sweet, fun way that allows him to bow out gracefully. Approaching a guy means you want to get to know him better, not I-want-a-relationship-right-now, or I-want-to-pick-out-a-China-patern-with you, and definetely not I'm-going-to-jump-your-bones! Making the first move is okay, as long as it's cute and appropriate. There's plenty of time if he accepts for him to decide to get his hunter-on and go after you, as long as you're just proposing causually getting to know each other (say coffee or an activity) initially. If he doesn't start initiating further 'dating' style activities with you, I'd see him as only a friend at that point. Worst case you get rejected, which doesn't have to be earth-shattering as long as you are positive about it (if you like the guy - what's wrong with making him feel good about himself?). If he reacts badly, then you will know for sure he's a shmuck and move on. You may even get a friend out of it if it goes nowhere - and I'm referring to a real friend, not weird unrequited love or friends with benefits situations (unless you're into that). Some guys may be really threatnened by this, but I think these are the guys you don't want. At 32 I recently did this for the first time - and it went well! I wish I had been more comfortable and confident with myself when I was younger! However, I think there may be too young to ask a guy out, like middle school or high school when young people are still sorting out their identities and how they are comforatable relating to others. I think guys asking girls is the general template (learned young) but meant to be somewhat overturned at times!

today i tryed asking the 7th grader but he didnt have time to answer me cuz he needed to catch the bus. but i think hes going to tell me tomorrow... i hope its a yes!

the 7th grader didnt hear me so i asked him again today and he said no. but i think i suprised him cuz he was like um...no but he had a suprized look on his face and was in front of his friends.

but im convused why he said no cuz he always gives THE LOOK. Please help me.

So theres this guy and we went on a couple dates 6 months ago and we really liked eachother but then we stopped hanging out because he moved schools and family stuff... But now he is back in town and i told him we should hang out sometime and he got excited and went along with it but he hasnt made the move...i have feelings for him so i really need multiple advice!!! Thanks(:

I think women are made to be pursued. I asked a guy out once in high school and he stood me up. I will never ask a guy out again. You can tell that men are made to pursue. God made them that way and women love to be pursued. It makes them feel special when a man asks them out. I think a woman that is very aggressive is desperate, and we can all smell desperate. I do believe that if a woman is interested, then it's ok for her to show that, but I don't believe it's ok for her to take matters into her own hands. Girls hearts are very different than guys. Women personalize things too much, so if they are rejected it's hard for them to just bounce back. I'm not saying that it's easy for a man to just move on and not think about it, but I do believe that men are made in such a way to where they want to "rescue their beauty". (book-Every Man's Battle) Every guy should read! You can also compare our grandparents relationships to todays. The guy persued the girl. It may be old fashioned, but I believe it's the way to go! Guys really do like the challenge and they rise up to it.

High school girl3-if you have let him know that you are interested and he has not responded, you need to move on. Have confidence that there is a great guy that wants to hang out. If a guy is into a girl, he will want to spend lots of time with her. My step-brother lived 2 hours away from his girlfriend and he went to see her every weekend. He loves her and he loves showing it. :) You deserve a guy that wants you! Don't ever settle :)

me and a guy are the bestest of friends but im starting to like him but i dont know what he will say if i asked him out shud i or shud i not??? and i done things to show that i like him but he didnt understand so i told him one nite and he said he liked me too but we're not asking each other, he wrote me a note saying all his feelings but i dont know what to do ask or wait plz help??

i like this guy and i i asked him if he liked me he said yes and then i asked him to be my boyfriend he said yes after 5 min he came up to me and was like lets just be good close firends for now and i said ok but like he looks at me a lunch every min and when i walk pass by him he says hi? can u please tell me what changed his mind i don't get it

Yes. girls some men love it when you take control.

Look, if you had, one shot, or one opportunity To seize everything you ever wanted, one moment Would you capture it?
Or just let it slip
! GIRL You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow
This opportunity comes once in a lifetime
-eminem-

i think all the girls should ask the man they like out. Men like to know when someone likes them.
He will be surprised about it and if he is really into you he would let you know if he would like to go out for a drink. Be patient as some men are shy and take their time.

it would mean ALOT if u could answer this question.............i like this guy.....and well he told me he liked me and well i like him too soooooo i wanna ask him out............i dont just wanna say"will u go out with me"i wanna say something diffrent................not so avrage................please help............and feel free to email me the answer..........please help!!!!!11

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F*** me, I think this is the dumbest question I've seen. -.-
There is no hope.

Last week, I went to a doctor for an appointment.... we ended up chatting and what was supposed to be a quick 15 min appointment ended up being an hour long... we chatted constantly, he asked me questions about myself- what I do, my marital status etc.

I felt like a nervous teenager and lost my ability to concentrate (I'm in my 30s). I have only had this feeling once before. I had a better rapport with the doctor (who is also around my age)than most men I went out with on dates.

I want to see him again and think he is really interesting! One of my friends thinks I should ask him out, to which I responded... if he was interested, he would have asked. My friend mentioned that he was probably cautious of the doctor-patient relationship in a professional setting and was intimidated by that and therefore, he didnt ask.

I'm afraid of being rejected....any advice?

Is it a good idea to ask out this guy in my class? I want to, but if he turns me down, I worry that it would become extremely awkward for both of us.

Girls need to take a stand!!!This is the 21st century,don't be sexist...make a move!

Thats the worst question ever nah jp lol. If you like a guy straight up after a couple days of talking or flirting or whatever it is and you see this dude is really dumb or doesnt get that you like him. yea go ahead ask him out if you see its appropriate. he probably likes you too. hes just shook and doesnt know how to approach it. if you took the initiative and asked him out first, you would make it much better for yourself and him. after that first time trust me hell get the point and he should at least take some charge. peaceeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Im a girl and to those guys who said u cant................... UR STUPID!!

Lol wtf? Since when does a woman want to ask a guy out? Men must really get a kick out of this. Seems almosy sarcastic lol. If you like the guy, ofcourse show it. But let him be the man and ask you. Lol if you ask him out i guess the girl will also make the plans where to go. Plus pay for The date to show him how much you really care. But its ok cause it shows confidence and what not and he will admire me for that. Oh and dont forget the roses woman, guys like that onthere first date loooool. Just ridiculous that woman have lowered there dignity cause they wanna wear the pants in the relationship. And omg just cause a guy might be weirded out cuz of a woman ask him out does not make him a control freak, just makes you look easy and desperate. Just chill and if he dosent ask you out then he prob dont want you or not man enough.

I think yes is the obvious answer, but I still have to say Rod's response warmed my heart.

"Women have made strides in so many areas, why shouldn’t they go after what they want?"

That is a great quote.

aly* that is just rong having sex in a teant like that.If u want to ask out a guy then first u wait. if u have a brother or a sister and he would ask your brother for him and tell them for him.If he is desprit to tell you then go to your crush and say first if I say yes then ask if he has a girlfriend first and he says yes say then dump her or I cant be your girlfriend.

And I had expierints to like that so if you want to ask out a guy then this is a good thing for you to do when you want ask out a guy.

I sure wish girls could ask us out, most of the time girls go chasing the real A***s and then later complain about it but if your looking for the nice type ask some of us shy guys out because odds are we dont do the asking, most of the time we wont reject you considering how lucky we would be to get asked out, I have a social disability so asking others out is more scary than stepping in front of a bus for me

also forgot to mention yes this is the 21st century where women are equal to men so dating should be going both ways, the 1900's are gone

Now what do yuh guys think.. Should girls ask guys out.?

Just one thing: If you do the asking, expect to pay for the date, or at least split, and don't have double standards - only ask him to pay half if you'd be willing to pay half for a guy who asked you out.
He is not obligated to offer to pay for the whole date just because he has a penis. Not everyone is old fashioned.

I like this guy ALOT! And he knows i like him. He says he likes this other girl, i think he acctually likes me, and he's jus trying to cover it up. We've been friends for years. And he's known i like him for a while. And, i've been thinking about asking him out for a few weeks. My friend said go for it. But, idk about it........ : / any suggestions?

I am going to ask a guy out.

Can I just smile & say "Wanna go on a date?"

or is it better to say something like "Wanna grab a coffee after class?"

I am leaning towards the first one. I want to be direct to that there are no mixed signals. I feel like if I am more subtle and ask the second question, I'll be wondering whether or not he considers it a date too, whether he likes me, etc... just too much speculation for me.

What do you think?

Lol no dont ask a guy out
Ive asked guys oiut before in the past and it always ended bad. So unless you REALLY know he likes you...Wait for him to make thw first move.

I think it depends on the type of woman you are. But yes girls can totally do it!!They can do ANYTHING. Shy ones like me though, not so much

I have low confidence and am very shy girl,thats my main problem ...However I do belive strongly in equality of male and female right to do challenge and achieve their goals..it can be a perfect person,car,house or even a simply pair of shoes...I have difficulty asking a guy out because of low selfesteem and shyness...I have fears of being rejected..getting blush and seeing others making fun of my emotions...till now have had some proposers that I rejected all not cause they were not good for me but also I wanna ask a guy i like out..then let other boys also chose me....please help me..I like him from many at school years ago however i never had guts to propose or even give him a sign that i like him..except few times i smiled at him...some times he smiled at me back and got blushed when we both were alone but the other time whenever he or me with friends and I smile at him his face gets angry just like he rejects me...he is very cute than me and mostly hanging out with group of his friends.so mostly he is not alone and and rarely meet him on campuse...for this reasons am affraid of loosing apportunities to offer him ..even when he was with his friends and his friends looking at me..one time i saw he tried to make them busy with himself so that they dont look at me...i dunno why he acts like that..and dunno what to do next..one time i meet him at canteen with his other two friends ..a boy and a girl..and I saw he shouted at them blaming he doesnt want to acompany them...that scared me cause i don t like angry or jealouse males...living with my brother in a foreign country for studying also scares me even more from angry and mafia boys cause he can think of hurting my family if later on i didn t like him...ooohh by the way i forgot to tell u that i have no personal information about this guy as am not a socialized girl,mostly alone...so I dunno who he is though we study at same university..i just guess he is at same faculty of my brother and he maybe doesnt know the he is my brother..i mean he has seen me hanging out with my brother and as my brother doesn t look like me at all he may think he is my boyfriend...am lost ..just cant study like before...one one side I wanna propose but low selfesteem and shiness problem doesnt let me and on other side am affraid to get approach to this guy cause am affraid he harm my brother as he may be bad guy...please help me...pleasee..

what if you ask a guy out who is very confident. I am seeing alot of people writing about guys who are shy. What if the guy is super confident. And years ago he use to ask you out but you were not interested and now you are interested and you asked him out. I was first nervous to ask but I did it...and I'm over it...his repsonse was weird..but meh what can you do ..live and learn

Yes, please! Most of us boys need a little nudge, since we can't cope with thinking about whether or not to, where to ask girls out to, if their parents will disagree, etc... It would be awesome if a girl tried to ask me out! I would be so happy if any girl asked me out, no matter which one.

I think asking someone out is a great idea for the girls.
I only face one problem... I've dumped so many boys without going out with them that I forgot who they all are (name wise). I feel confidante enough to ask the dude I like but i'm now known as the 'Ice Queen' of high school. Any help???

You go for it! I wish I had the courage to ask the guy I like out... but I'm a chicken lol. Also based on other posts as well has anyone else noticed that Andy is a d***?

I'm a freshmen and I asked this guy who is sooooo hot to go out for lunch an he said yes! Btw he is a senior!!!!

A lot of times, guys are too chicken to ask a girl out. Every single boyfriend I have ever had I made the first move. They were totally enthralled with me but I guess that was the problem, they were too scared to ask, and if I hadn't, nothing would have ever happened. So in my opinion, you can't just wait around hoping they'll ask, you gotta be ambitious and go after him if you want him.

Mine's a weird situation. I met this guy whose 3 years older than me. I saw him 4 to 5 times. At a party, he spoke to me without me starting the conversation. Then when the dance floor opened, my friends and i started dancing and he danced with me a few times. I was thrilled at this because i have been having a crush on him for sometime. But now i don't know what to do. I still have a crush on him, but we dont know each other that well. I heard that he's a really nice guy n really sweet as a person, so how should i go about it? should i pluck up the courage and tell him that i like him? and that i want to get to know him better? Help.

maybe a guy should ask a girl out because some girls are scared to ask a guy out

well i like this guy that i kno really well but one of my best friends was going out with him and now she is afraid of him seing her and im afraid that she wont like me as much if i go out with him what do i do?

i mean im worried that she wont want t be my friend anymore coz like he makes me laugh and is ALWAYS being nice and friendly i want to ask him out but my friend...what do i do???

please respond

Help i know this is my 3rd post but i REALLY like this boy and the way he acts makes me think he likes me aswell coz when our History was in a meeting he was making me laugh and kept talking to me I sorta feel left out like ive had a boyfriend before but i didnt like him he liked me isaid yes and thatwas stupid of meandhe told oneof my other best friends that he was cheating on me with 2 other girls but i didntcareandi still dont and now our wholetownknowsand when they say "u went out with..." i just say no i didnt heonly wishes i did...

i feel left out coz all my other mates have boyfriends except me and my mate that went out with the boy i like and she only went out with him coz she knew that the other boy that she liked would never go out with her and she only fancied him a tiny bit so what was the point i was wondering so yeah basically I WANT THIS BOY SOOO BADLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PLEASE RESPOND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hey!!! age 12 (btw in also hey!!!)

I want to ask someone out but he is quite to me, but when he is around his friends he is different and more talkative. I want him to ask me out so bad but i am going to ask him out in about 2 minutes after he text me back!!
WISH ME LUCK I WILL POST WHAT HE SAYS!!!!!!!!

right i like this guy but a couple of months ago my friends asked another guy that iliked atthe time out forme he kept putting it off for days saying maybe but after about 7-8 days he said no and now im scared if this other guy will do the same and also mafriend wernt out with him for a day and now she is afraid that he is angry at her but heisnt and now if i ask him out ma friend wont want 2 be ma friend anymore HELP AND PLZ REPLY

Smiles xx

Hi guys, I have been reading this post and want to add a little bit into this. I am 16 in 2 months and my one and only boyfriend I have had turned out to be gay. I have asked guys out before, two in my school year. One of them was when both him and I were in year 9 (aged 13) and at the time I thought he was beautiful. I asked him straight out and he was really kind to me saying stuff like I'm sorry I'm not into you but you'll find someone eventually. I asked out the other boy at the beginning of 2011 and he was also in my year. This time my friends did it for me and again I got rejected, and he was also really sweet about it. At the age I am, obviously I'm gonna have crushes and get rejected, it's just a way of teenage life I guess. Just to tell those of you who feel scared about asking a guy out, don't be! If they're stupid and give you a hard time about it they obviously weren't right for you in the first place! I think girls do it, you'll feel a satifaction after doing it, whatever the outcome is :) Good Luck xx

i think your right
but i dont see the guy i like till monday though so i might ask him out over facebook or wait till monday what should i do? plz reply

If a man wants to hang out/see you/date you/ be with you .... he will make it happen.

Well recently I asked this guy on facebook if he was taking the final. And he said yes and I asked him if he could help me study and he said no problem. So the next day we studied and thought everything went well we exchanged numbers and talked for the rest of that night. But he texted back since then, so then my friends told me to ask him if he was doing anything next weekend &he hasn't replied back. But he is little quit though. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? SO CONFUSED

well it normally means he is either thinking about it or he fancies you i did that to loads of ma crushes that ive had and that happend and now they all stare at me with that look that says "i love you" or "i wish i took the chance" either way they eventually text back i had to wait3 months for a reply from a boy but he hasa busylife so cant blame him

Smiles

well today i found out that the boy i like is crazy for another girl that will never go out with him and now i think ive blown my chances coz i said to him on facebook (im not mentioning any names)"ma m8s think u fancy me" and he replied " i have no clue what they're on about" so i think ive blown it with him or should i wait a while and hope he 4got about it PLZ TELL ME IF I HAVE OR HAVENT BLOWN MY CHANCES WITH THIS BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (it doesnt help one of my best friends got dumped today by her boyfriend!)

so i told the guy i know who he fancies and he said "who?" so i say her name (not mentioning any names)and he said "NO!!!!! i finneshed with her ages ago!" and i was all like "huh" but really what i was thinking was "yeah yeah whatever" so i guess its all ok but i dont really fancy him anymore so yeah just wait i'll find some else to fancy and then i'll be back (probably)

Hey!!! (aka Smiles, hey!!! age 12)

(hey!!! age 12 is my cousin she just uses my laptop)

hey so theres this guy that always flirts with me and i like him and i really wanted him to ask me out so i waited for a long tim and finally decided to ask him out so i did but he said no and now he flirts with me even more then before i dont know what to think i still really like him and hes always really nice to me and flirty around im cofused about why he said no please help

okay there's a guy i totally like he knows i do too and well its kinda awkward to talk to him but he seems happy to see me when we talk..should i make the move or should i wait because theres another girl who is totally flirting with him..so what should i do?!

I always found that guys who did this always had more of a chance http://howtofixstuff.blogspot.com/2012/01/how-to-a
sk-girl-out.html

I think that this egomaniac IT Consultant "Andy" should shut the hell up. Maybe there's a reason that he's single...

well my situations a bit complicated. I did hang out w/ the guy a few times and everything was great and it seems like he is interested in me but suddenly theres no more sms... we havent talked for a while already, should I ask him out again coz I realized I really like him??

Im a shy guy for the most part. I used to have the most beautiful and sweet girlfriend in the world (not kidding!!!) and I was the happiest I'd ever been in a long time. How? I asked her out. It just kept getting better. While being the guy who made the move I still think that its completely fine for girls to do the asking. For all you guys out there, think of it this way: YOUR being asked out by someone who likes YOU! Take a chance! She could end up being the perfect girl! Lots of guys are like me and are willing to stay silent to prevent rejection. It's the most terrible feeling in my opinion. And for you girls out there, ask yourself: what are the chances he'll say know to you? Low (unless he's taken or is completely in love with someone else). In closing, go out there girls and take that guy you wanted for a long time. You deserve it. :)

This always seemed to helped me ask guys out http://howtofixstuff.blogspot.com/2012/03/ways-to-
ask-guy-out.html

Right today i got hit in the eye with a rubber really badley and my crush was staring at me for the rest of the day! but when i got hit he just laughed at me but the trouble is... i think i fancy someone else aswell theres this guy i think he's a 2nd year (I'm a 1st) he has the cutest face and the fittest bum! his hair is perfect and oooh i just don't know what to do! the crush that laughed at me has light brown hair and a fit bum and the cutest face and is in my class! HELP!!!! PLEASE REPLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

wtf ^

i actually think that the guy shiud do the first move on agirl because then the girl would seem despirate and i really think that is not convinient for a girl to be called like that

man stop talking about those people you ofend them because they got rejected once and if they do it again it will happen again

hey everybody how you been

Hi, i'm 10,bu mos of the boys in my class have huge crushes on me. HELP!!!

After school, on my wy home, a boy came up t me and asked me out! I'm too young fer this!!! :/

I am soooo jealous, "sweet peach", no 1 hs askd me out yet and I'm in 9th grde. There's this boy named Shane that I've had a huge crush on since lik,....4th grade!!! He's funny,blonde, and cute. I'm worried cuz he's reeeealy poP***r and most girls have had an eye on him. He really seems to like me, but whenever our eyes meet, he blushes and looks away. I kw this whole blog thing is about who shud ask who ot first. I don't know if I shud ask him out or not!!!Pleas reply QUICKLY within a coupla days!!!

hey, guys . Whatta up!!!

'i would love for a woman to ask me out, the only problem is that where i live, so many women have an ATTITUDE PROBLEM. i live down the SHORE, and the women down here certainly STINK. they do not know how to talk too us GOOD STRAIGHT GUYS, and so many of them, THINK THAT THEY ARE ALL THAT. many of them are LESBIANS, and that certainly adds to the problem.'

'I asked my best friend out. He thought I had \x22friend-zoned\x22 himself he was a bit shocked at first. After that he was confused, I guess he didn\x27t expect it. We dated for a while back in January\x2fFebruary but he thought we were better off as friends. I\x27ve loved him for over 2 years now and I\x27m sure that he knows it. He wasn\x27t the only one in the \x22friend-zone\x22 I thought he was out of my league and that I wasn\x27t good enough for him. I still took the chance though and I made a move. Two months ago I asked him out, two months ago I was happy for the first time since we broke up. He said that he liked dominance in a girl. I couldn\x27t be happier that I took the risk. GO FOR IT GIRLS\x21'

'so ive liked the same guy for over 6 years and we grew up together and i think he likes me and i like him a lot , im terrified of rejection because i dont want to ruin our friendship but then again it could turn out to be something really good can anyone please give me advice im so lost\x3f\x3f\x3f\x3f'

'we should now break the tradition guyS\x21 its already 2012.. it doesnt matter who ask first for a date. lol\x21'

'A breath of fresh air to see girls steeping aside from princessy ideas and to see guys enjoying the shift in responsibility. I think it is absolutely cool for a girl to ask a guy out. Like many guys who have shared their opinions here, girls ought to be confident and just ask. What\x27s the worst that can happen\x3f He\x27ll say no. Great. He just lost someone who could have truly liked him. I asked someone out and he didnt answer favorably, but we\x27re great buddies now. I know when I am 80, I won\x27t feel like I missed a chance.\x3cbr \x2f\x3eBut girls, make sure you evaluate the guy rationally. Good luck\x21'

'Dear guys, I need your opinion\x21 I\x27m a really shy lady and it took months of getting my confidence up to ask a guy out \x28we work together 2 times a month\x29. We were constantly checking each other out, or he would find an excuse to land up in my room, or meet me at the same place,and forever catching eyes. To me he was very attractive and found myself thinking about him quite a bit. So after months of agonising, I asked him privately, \x27I wanted to know if you would like to go out sometime\x3f\x27 He seemed a bit sad and it took him some time to answer but he said that he had a girlfriend. But it was the way he said he said it, like he was debating whether or not he should tell me. He said that he was very very flattered and then asked if we were ok. I said yes \x28what else could I say\x3f\x29 But it had been 7months since then and I can\x27t forgot him. We see each other but I feel like he wishes it was different, we have good chemistry, electricity whenever we are in the same room. I\x27m confused because the ball is now in his court now that I have asked him. I\x27m 26 yrs. Please help guys\x21 Thank you\x21'

'Gender equality. Period.'