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Am I Ugly??

Q: Hi i need your honest oppion on this.... do you think im ugly? and if not why have i only had 2 boufriends. im 16 years old im smart, funny, and really laied back, im not fat and im not too sensitive and i'm not mean im really sweet, i love reading and singing and im doing cheerleading but im not a prepi really need to know whats wrong with me. Don't be afried to tell em the truth i can take it lol :)

A: You are way too young for me, but you are definitely cute. And two boyfriends by 16 is not exactly nothing. I think you just need to be patient and just keep being yourself and you’ll find someone you like. Your spelling could use some work, although I am sure that has nothing to do with boys liking you or not!

A: You are totally cute. It sounds to me like maybe you’re a victim of the ol’ women-mature-faster-than-men scenario. Guys are going to frustrate you with their childish ways for the next few years (i.e., forever), but you have to keep being your cool, busy self and one of these days you’ll meet someone who you want to keep around and who is crazy about you in return. In other words, keep doing what you’re doing; you can’t rush chemistry. Oh, and for the record, two boyfriends by 16 is plenty!

A: No, you're not ugly!!! What you have to realize is that most 16-year-old guys are morons. There's no way they're going to be able to appreciate your great qualities beyond the obvious. And some of them will never be able to, just ask any 40-year-old single women you might know. Hang in there, wait for them to catch up (and, by the way, I don't really think two boyfriends by the time you're 16 is such a bad track record). And in the meantime, enjoy being 16 and beautiful!

A: You’re being waaaay too hard on yourself. The most attractive quality is confidence and you sound like you’ve got tons of reasons to be confident and feel great about yourself. High school guys are idiots (I would know, I was one) and I’m guessing you’re more mature than most of them. Just take it easy on yourself, do the things you enjoy, and work on feeling great about the smart, funny, cool person that you are. Everything will fall into place from there. I promise.

Comments:

gurl your not ugly your pretty in your on specail way.Don't let boys get to your head.Your only sixteen you don't need lots of boyfriends right now.You should wait slow down.The boy of your dreams will come soon or later.I'm waiting on mine to.

Jasmine
Saturday, 04 April 2009 17:33 PM EST

i have felt the same way a lot and were much alike in the same situation but dont worrie just like what they said someone will come along soon just dont get discouraged about it aand dont keep your hopes up to high on just one boy keep your eyes open and be outgoing and get to know a lot of new people and they will come to you :)

julia
Saturday, 04 April 2009 18:11 PM EST

I didn't get a chance to answer this question, but I feel compelled to. I saw your pics and you are so far from ugly. What I see is a natural beauty that is well beyond the short skirts and push-up bras young punks look for in high school. You're going to be one of those girls that they cannot believe they passed over in high school because someone like you only gets hotter as the years go on. They're actually saving you a lot of grief and frustration by staying away right now. Hold out for a real man and he'll be banging on your door when he comes along.

Richard
Monday, 06 April 2009 10:36 AM EST

Maybe its because you cant spell... "boufriend"... come on now.. Its boyfriend!
So maybe if you retake an english class you'll start getting more fellas!

carter
Tuesday, 07 April 2009 16:55 PM EST

Well I'm almost 21, and every man I've ever dated has cheated on me, or treated me like absolute dirt. I used to be fat (5'3", 175 pounds) and I thought that was why - and now I'm 115 pounds and still no luck. I'm honestly giving up on men, and I've started dating some women, but even they are a strange breed.
All of what and what am I trying to say? Maybe you don't want a boyfriend that bad - and maybe you just want a companion in your life. Relationships can be simply awful - Oh, I know - so don't try and rush into anything.

As far as looks I am sure you are ravishingly gorgeous, as am I - but it just doesn't matter. It's all about the person you're trying to find. I truely hope you have better luck that I.

Vaney
Wednesday, 08 April 2009 20:10 PM EST

Hey Carter, before you start leaving heartless messages to girls about their spelling you better be bloody sure yours is perfect, and it's not: you don't seem to know the difference between "its" and "it's", twice you write it incorrectly.

You're a nimrod
Thursday, 09 April 2009 10:22 AM EST

hey you are too young to be thinking of having boyfriend. concentrate on your career and high in life. men will come when they know that you are mature.

festus
Sunday, 12 April 2009 02:59 AM EST

Two boyfriends by 16? Hell, you're already far ahead of me, and I'm two years your senior!

Honestly, hun, just wait it out. Most guys in high school aren't worth pining over anyway. As all the guys have said, 16-year-old boys can be quite the pack of dodoheads, who wouldn't know true beauty if it danced naked on their noses. So just take your time, live life your way, and when they smarten up, they'll be breaking your door down to get at you.

Think of it this way: tell yourself you're beautiful every day, and believe it. Once you start believing it, all those guys will have no choice but to believe it too.

Cheers!

J

Janai
Tuesday, 14 April 2009 18:34 PM EST

Darling, I didn't have a boyfriend at all in high school. In fact, I didn't have a date for the prom. I was the greasy-haired weird girl who loved chemistry and physics. (Not to say that you're like me - you're way better looking than I was at your age!)

In any case, it took a very long time for me to figure out who I was... but by the time my 10 year reunion came around, I had every boy in school who wouldn't talk to me offering to buy me beer.

I really wouldn't worry about it... it seems hard in high school because you want to be like your friends, but any lasting relationship will happen in your 20s. Very few relationships survive high school. Trust me. :D

Susan
Wednesday, 15 April 2009 23:02 PM EST

i'm a girl who wants a guy. am not desperate but just want a guy. am ugly because i have a little white mar on my face and my upperlips have a little bit of a shadow underneath. any tips how to get prettier? x

elowx
Friday, 17 April 2009 12:25 PM EST

No offense, but if you're expecting to have more than 2 boyfriends at such a young age, I have to wonder what kind of girl you're trying to be. I'm about to turn 21 in a few months, and I've only had 3 serious girlfriends. It's quality, not quantity.

Plus, like others have said, most guys your age are complete nimrods. Even when I was that age, I thought most of the other guys were idiots. Your best bet, if you want a mature relationship, would be to not have any in High School. If that's unacceptable, find a decent looking, single, shy guy. They'll usually treat you much better than the outgoing morons that girls your age are attracted to. Find the loner, and while they may not seem as "exciting" as the preps and jocks who've dated every girl in the school, they're much more reliable and pay off more in the end. Don't let your cheerleader status affect that.

Josh
Saturday, 18 April 2009 13:42 PM EST

Oh, and while I'm thinking of it from answering another topic, don't be one of the girls who sits around expecting guys to always be the ones to do the asking out. You'll miss out on many opportunities if you expect that, cause a lot of us won't make the first move.

Guys do the asking a lot more than the girls. The reason for this, other than tradition, is cause guys are more easily interested in girls than girls are in guys, individually. And because of this, girls are far less likely to get rejected than guys are. A little reverse psychology insight for you.

Josh
Saturday, 18 April 2009 13:49 PM EST

your not ugly boys are just mean its not like they're mean they just want pretty girls or girls that have the same thing in commin or if they have a good personallity but sometimes they just want girly girls or tom boys but I think you should choose your in boys see if yall have something in commin.

Kaleigh Melvin
Sunday, 19 April 2009 19:53 PM EST

Your not ugly boys are just mean its not like they're like he will make fun of you. They just want pretty girls or girls that have the same thing in commin or if they have a good personallitys but sometimes they just want girly girls or tom boys. But I think you should choose in boys see if yall have something in commin.

Kaleigh Melvin
Sunday, 19 April 2009 20:08 PM EST

yall know the first one I wrote I mest up on that one.

Kaleigh Melvin
Sunday, 19 April 2009 20:12 PM EST

gurl stop hateing your self you are cute and nobody can tell yhu that yhu are ugly because you are not




love sasha

corsicana

sasha
Tuesday, 21 April 2009 21:14 PM EST

You're 16. Stop stressing about looks and enjoy high school! Stress only causes pimples and lowers your self confidence which is one of the sexiest things of all!

tiffiny
Wednesday, 22 April 2009 21:05 PM EST

You are 16 and probably too smart for the guys who only focus on "getting a girl" at that age. Unfortunately early teens are a psychological development stage that screams " I WANT TO BELONG!" And I'm "nothing" if I don't belong. We are "Pack Animals" by design and power came in pack size in our tribal days. No longer an issue in our modern culture. "Intelligents" is more powerful. But our biological design is still effecting us as it did thousands of years ago. It is a biological thing. And for the boys, the hormone production is controlling their minds. They're on the "I WANT TO BE COOL AND BELONG and be THE ALPH MALE of the clan/pack" with the other boys." Hence, why older men even admit 16yr oIds are dumb. They need to be the first the have done "the deed" Its all their minds care about at that time-not YOUR feelings. It's all in the Biology books. (sadly they are so absorbed by it they can't see it themselves until they are older and more mature). That is why cultures and history have disciplines where a boy Is supposed to ask permission to be with a daughter and the courting was not to be taken lightly. (It had nothing to do with parent want POWER). They care about their offspring and are just wanting to protect them from shallow decisions. It meant serious thought for the bouys and realization that there is responsibility to ones actions. Cause and effect.- So a boy can shake his head from the clouds and think about whether it is his libido controlling his actions or his true like/love for the girl he wants to date. SO... I think you should consider yourself special. You're smarter than the girls that allow themselves to be blindly wooed thinking that a 16 yr old boy is really concerned about HER. GIRLS want to feel wanted-but for a different reason. AND...I always say...take a look at which girls who are despirately seeking male acceptance. Usually, it is a compensations for not getting it from a very significant father figure in their family. A GIRL with a strong father bond will be content enough to believe she is being looked out for by him and his advice is wise...HE KNOWS cause he's been there...16 years olds are being overpowered by one hormonal thing. You've read many times here, by actual MEN, that where once boys. they gain nothing personal to tell you to watch out. so it has to be concern for your well being.
SO, I say again...having been there. You are probably smart and those boys being in their strong hormonal days, know they can't just USE you. And, since you have had two boyfriends already by sixteen...I certainly wouldn't be crying about that! Just don't make it your focus. make yourself more desirable for a lasting love in your future. make yourself more powerful so you have pick of the crop and power to do anything you want later. Work on making yourself smarter with knwledge. Lastly, you ARE cute. And guess what...no word of a lie.....many almost ugly ducklings in HIgh School ended up being elegant, good looking and not used up looking after their teens. In addition they where smart to boot! They get picked by the smart guys later that have have a hell of alot more going for them. And more to give to you. So ...hang in there and have some patience. "PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE: no word of a lie.

I always wished I could take a young mind and wisk them in into the future to see that it is true. A short life of theirs never sees (and I was one of them) that a millenium of knowledge does not change just because a new generation of 16 year olds has arrived! when my mother said.." you'll see and I told you so later..she was damned right...we all laugh about that! She had nothing personal to gain from my success nor my failures in life...she lived her life already. I was the one that was going to live with my decisions.

SO ...do some research if you need. You have google now! History hasn't really changed.

good luck to you - Be smart!

been there.
Thursday, 23 April 2009 11:53 AM EST

one last point.
definitions like preppi etc...don't last after High school. high School creates cliques that only last in high school..so don't worry about "WHAT YOU ARE" it means nothing. Work on learning and doing things for yourself.

been there.
Thursday, 23 April 2009 12:02 PM EST

You have only had two " relationships" because your only sixteen. take it from me life is to short to worry about having a boyfriend. with that said your putting to much thought into the matter. I have always found that love finds you faster when your not looking for it.

...
Sunday, 26 April 2009 00:55 AM EST

girl you have nothing to worry about it I never had my first boyfriend tell I was 18. soooo enjoy being a teenage gril.

oh wow
Sunday, 26 April 2009 02:08 AM EST

The only ugly thing about you, is that you asked that question.
Self confidence is the most attractive thing anyone can have. So cheer up, and stop worrying about having a boyfriend!! Life is way too short to be worrying about something as silly as boys when you're that young.

Courty
Tuesday, 28 April 2009 01:04 AM EST

Wow it's true what they say...our education system is really failing us. Stop focusing on boys and pay more attention in English class.

Miseducation
Friday, 01 May 2009 12:50 PM EST

gurl you will find that rite guy one day.u just gotta be patient

bri-mone
Tuesday, 05 May 2009 18:07 PM EST

You're not ugly, guys are just jerks most of the time. There's gunna be a guy for you so when he comes don't worry about how you look, just be you!!

Leah
Tuesday, 05 May 2009 19:16 PM EST

Forget the boys for a bit-focus in on yourself, your girl friends and school activities, and especially school. Nothing is sexier to a guy than a smart pre-occupied girl who has it going on. The smarter you are naturally makes you far more attractive to guys at any age. Everyone gets tired of the bimbette. When you focus away from guys "like who cares,I'm busy", THAT makes you more attractive.

Momma knows all
Wednesday, 06 May 2009 21:11 PM EST

Girl there will always be ignorant guys that mess with your feelings. By the way there will also always be people who are ignorant and have no life and they feel like talking junk about the way you spell words. Okay you came in here asking a ? and a lot of people started comenting on things that make no sense. Okay let me give you an advice. I am 22 years old and I have 3 kids. I had my oldest baby when I was your age. Just to let you know is not worth concentrating on boys on the age of 16. You wanna know why? after i had my baby his dad and I broke up and now my son doesnt call him dad because he was never there. The worse part is I quit school and then I had regrets until I decided to go back to school and know I am a college student. The reason why I tell you all this is to let you know that is not worth stressing over a guy at 16. All they want is to hit it and be gone. Finish school and concentrate in your studies. Ypu are not ugly you are a very pretty girl and if you are involved in all these things in school that means you are very smart. Take your life one step at a time. Do not stress over ignorant guys. I am telling you guys now a days are very ignorant. My current boyfriend has been with me for five years and i have 2 kids with him and my oldest calls him daddy because he raised him. But you know what? He is 25 years old and sometimes he acts like one of my kids. Seriously, take it easy and maybe is not meant to be yet maybe you will find your true love in college who knows?

pr chick
Saturday, 09 May 2009 01:28 AM EST

oh and by the way dont listen to josh he is full of S*** dont u dare go ask a guy out then they will think you are desperate they aint that important anyways. HAHA that is what josh thinks that guys are the S***!

pR chick
Saturday, 09 May 2009 01:36 AM EST

Oh yeah Carter you idiot you cant spell either. Did you take English class IT IS=IT'S NOT ITS YOU SMART ASS BEFORE YOU TALK S*** ABOUT OTHERS WATCH YOURSELF YOU SMARTASS

JAJAJA HE CAN NOT SPELL EITHER
Saturday, 09 May 2009 01:42 AM EST

At 16 thats not too bad of a number. Just shows your selective and classy.

Bobby
Thursday, 14 May 2009 00:32 AM EST

go to more partys guys love a fun girl!

nicola belanger
Sunday, 17 May 2009 15:24 PM EST

hey gurl you pretty in yur own way im 16 and i dont got no boy friends and you dont because they can be trouble and they can get you pregnant

Richelle
Sunday, 24 May 2009 09:59 AM EST

personally, i think you know your cute. you just wanted to flaunt yourself and see how much attention you could get over the internet. nothing wrong with that, we all need a confidence booster every now and then.

notsofullofmyself
Sunday, 24 May 2009 22:57 PM EST

your just 16 and you already have 2 bfs im currently 17 and i'm on my second 2 bf. i did think the same way as you before but if your looking for guys around your age their usually not mature enough and sometimes that could be the reason.

coolpat
Monday, 25 May 2009 23:36 PM EST

The people on this site are right. Never think you are ugly because nobody is! If your trying to hard to be pritty that someone is thinking that this is not the kind of person i fell in love with. Always think what is the pusative!!! Take it from me wait dont try too hard!

The girl who doesnt try to hard to be noticed!
Monday, 01 June 2009 19:13 PM EST

I'll be completely straight
my opinion on ugly, is no one is ugly.

yeah some people can be PHYSICALLY unappealing, but from everyone I've gotten to know, when you're physically appealing but you suck as a person, that takes all the looks and puts them down the drain. But even if your physically unappealing but you have an amazing personality and traits, well I just wanna get to know you more! I know a couple one has like model looks, and the other is just NOT appealing, but they love eachother and it's obvious. Why? cause they took the time to get to know eachother, and that's how they fell in love. With who they were not what they look like.
May sound over rated but that's how the best relationships work.

Also, 16? you haven't lived yet. You'll get to be 25 or something and realize, high school and the boys from then, NEVER MATTERED!!! (unless one of them somehow skipped the "i'm a moron and in highschool" stage and you're dating that person)

don't sweat it doll, Life's easier when you don't think about guys and wanting to date them or looking in the area.

(to be honest, being single is the best untill you meet your soulmate. cause you get to strut your stuff and don't have to worry about being attatched to anyone.)

So be young and alive and free. But don't bother with boys or fooling around with them. Makes life complicated and dumb. And to be honest, when you spend all your single time fooling around with guys, it messes you up.

Young and Alive too!
Wednesday, 10 June 2009 15:28 PM EST

don't worry, maybe the guys think your to good for them and they are nervous to ask you out, maybe you look very nice and pretty and they think you might have a boyfriend, it's not your personality, its the guys! chillax

hi
Thursday, 11 June 2009 17:35 PM EST

SERIOUSLY.....dont even worry about having a boyfriend right now....your young HAVE FUN!!! Enjoy every moment of it because one of these days your are going to look back and wish you were there again....having a boyfriend at a young age could be could make you regret it in the futrue.....just enjoy being young and hanging out with your friends boys can wait =)

doest matter
Friday, 12 June 2009 22:56 PM EST

Your 16! If you were my age....which is somewhere in the thirties, I'd be a little concerned, but your not. You're in what?, Grade 10? Relax, you've got lots of time. If you project a feeling that you don't think you are attractive, you won't have a boyfriend. Your self esteem comes first. Besides, now a days if you have a bunch of boyfriends, you end up looking "easy". Respect yourself and make sure you keep high standards for what you deserve.

lexi
Thursday, 18 June 2009 16:57 PM EST

my ex is going out with my best friend

mercedes
Saturday, 20 June 2009 23:21 PM EST

seriously i had my first kiss at sisxteen lol

Joe
Tuesday, 23 June 2009 09:36 AM EST

trust me your not ugly at all

you sound like a nice younge lady

let the guys come to you dont be in a rush to find love love will find you trust me wish you all the best

shania
Tuesday, 07 July 2009 01:21 AM EST

You totally sound cute. Your smart, funny and laid back, what guy wouldnt go for that but sadly 16 year old guys are immature and have the immaturity level of a 12 year old (fact :P) and to tell the truth im the same way but I'm 18 almost 19 and havent dated once. Im shy and it takes a while for me to warm up to someone but when i do im also funny unintentionally, im laid back and im semi sensetive and im a toothpick (mom says that -_-) haha but anyways don't worry about the dating scene just yet, i know its a rush cause it seems like its a cool thing to have a boyfriend for highschool but its not. When you go off to college then you start to date because highschool does not matter at all when your done. Half the people wont even remember their buddies. Save yourself for that right person that can make you feel happy and that likes you for you cause you sound great.

Amber
Saturday, 11 July 2009 22:23 PM EST

The minute you go looking for love you usually find the wrong kind of guy. Just let it happen on it's own and it will happen where you least expect it.

Alexis
Sunday, 19 July 2009 05:08 AM EST

iv had 6 boyfriends and none of them lasted a year why

Katie
Saturday, 25 July 2009 06:04 AM EST

they all seem to b nice and act like nuthin ever goes wrong but im now in a new relashion ship with a guy who reaallly is lovein and carein and sweet

BABY UR THE BEST LOVE UR BABE GURL KATIE

KATIE
Saturday, 25 July 2009 06:08 AM EST

Stop stressing for nothing. Guys are just dumb at that age. They can't appreciate your finer qualities because they are busy starring at the sexy developed girl's chests.
I had one bf in high school and wasn't kissed until I was 17. I still look the same and now I've dated some of the hottest and smartest guys in my city. Age does make a difference but so does confidence. Hang in there and just be yourself.

T
Monday, 27 July 2009 17:48 PM EST

your not ugly cause u have only had 2 boyfriends.... im 21 and have only had 1 serious boyfriend and i am far from ugly. dont settle and dont worry about it... sweet 16 is the time to party with the girls

Jenna
Wednesday, 29 July 2009 04:12 AM EST

wow way to get attention.

unknown
Thursday, 30 July 2009 13:31 PM EST

When i was 16 i had only had one bf because none of the other boys were worth it. I was also a cheerleader. Don't date just for the fact of dating wait until you find someone actually worth your time and i would strongly advise you to not date guys that are the same age. They are way to immature and honestly quite annoying. Trust me you will find someone eventually never settle for less and keep your standards high you sound like an awesome person who deserves the best!!

Kiara
Friday, 14 August 2009 21:49 PM EST

sweetness,
dont worry.
your nottt ugly.
your gorgeous.
its just that somne guys are to stupid to know what they really want. thats all.

randie lynne
Monday, 07 September 2009 21:23 PM EST

just face the truth your pretty and guys are ugly your smart they are stupid idiots what can i say guys they are all dics just trying to have sex with you what can i say who needs em and who gives a S*** what they do cause most of them are selfish bastards girl power you rule dont let any guy get the way of who you really are !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

vicky
Friday, 11 September 2009 01:04 AM EST

dont let those dumbasses walk all over you (hopefully) there brain size will mature from a pea to a orange and they will become more mature trust me your not ugly just because you dont have a boyfriend i know that the prettiest girl in my school dont even have a boyfriend prince charming will come one day believe it or not

vic
Friday, 11 September 2009 01:10 AM EST

of course not, im 17 years old. im the captain of my varsity cheerleading squad, i won prom queen, im not stuck up what so ever at all, and im a generally caring person.. boyfriend score haha 0!

Samantha
Monday, 14 September 2009 00:27 AM EST

Dont worry ur defenatly NOT ugly, i wish i could be you. I SWEAR. I am the ugly one, im ugly, fat, shy, the-kinda-girl-no-one-talks-to-and-ignores. I have NEVER, NEVER in my stupid life had a boyfriend. Its like im invisible or something. I wish i was skinny, preety, always happy, and popupar. But im not. I hate myself, sooo much. :( seriously i wish i could be you. U r preety, im ugly. And i know my stupid life will continue to be the stupid self life i hate soo much. Please write to me!!!! :)

ImSoUgly
Wednesday, 23 September 2009 23:56 PM EST

woa you think 2 boyfriends at 16 is nothing! jeez im14 and my last boyfriend was in yr 2. all the girls i nmy class have had boyfriends but im always shy and never really had the chance. ah well. consider urself lucky!

:)3
Sunday, 01 November 2009 07:13 AM EST

Ya know? I've had people tell me I'm ugly!! my username on youtube is Tyannalyn but ugh, they just don't know beauty is in the inside, not out. I think guys like a sweet girl who cares about them, but guys love girls soo much that they'd do anything for them, so of course you're not ugly! Oh and I hope you get your dream guy, I got mine =) I'm 12 hehe...OH NO FRIDAY THE 13TH TOMMOROW! AHH!

Kailyn3
Friday, 13 November 2009 19:11 PM EST

Just read all the comments. Trust me, you have nothing to worry about, I'm going to be 25 years old soon and I have not even had a boyfriend yet. Your fine.

Sweet
Sunday, 22 November 2009 22:09 PM EST

2 boyfriends at 16, wow, more then I had at that age. im 21 and im on my 3rd, but as Josh said, its quality not quantity. And just a little tidbit of intofmation, when you get older, guys look at how many people you've dated and the higher the number the worse it looks on you (works the same way for guys), because it will look like you can't keep a serisous relationship and later on that is what will matter most when you want to settle down eventually.
An example of this is by boyfriend's cousin, he was worried that she would cheat on him because he found out that the girl he was with was 26 and had already had slept with 7 men.
I hope people aren't trying to pressure you into dating/sleeping with a lot of guys 'cause highschool status means nothing when you get into the 'real world' so dont let it affect you! ^_^
be pacient, you'll find the right guy eventually, I've been with the same guy for 4 years, met him when i was 17, and honestly, its WAY better than having dated 10 guys!
oh and while im on it, dont let anyone bother you if you date a guy who is much older than you, i went through a hard time in my senior year cause my boyfriend was 7 years older than me, but i'm still with him, while almost everyone else isnt with their partners, so dont worry about what other people have to say!

Jess3
Monday, 23 November 2009 16:13 PM EST

o i am 11 and i had a boyfriend,
i am you'll get your luck some time.
Don't give up your hope:D

Karyna3
Saturday, 26 December 2009 17:36 PM EST

I felt the same way, and only had two bfs total, I am Turning 20 and I got married last year, which I thought would never happen!!! You can't give up honey, if I had I never would have found the man of my dreams

Dazzle3
Monday, 01 March 2010 06:51 AM EST

Your not ugly! Listen to me! Take some advice from a girl who learned the hard way that having had 2 bfs by the time you were16 or being a virgin or whatever else anyone says to you it doesnt define you! you get caught up in all the highschool bullsh*t you actually come to belive that your less of a person because you havent been around the block as much as others "claim". well i did just that and i put aside my standards and my wants and dreams for "love" something that obviosly didnt exsit between me and those jerks i spent so much time with .... ive been on both side of the circle ... the grass is always greener babe. Dont ever! ever ! wish to be anything but what you are! and dont change for anyone but yourself! embrace all thoughs rough edges, cause someone is gonna come along with there own rough edges and they will fit in perfectly with yours. if ya change them they may not fit anymore.....and also really really learn to love and respect yourself i tried to fill up that whole with attention from boys and im 18 with a 16 month old. i love him, and ive learn my lesson BIG time but with that said it is also way harder to be confident and love myself whenhave put this huge burden on myself..anyways food for thought xoxo

Courtney912103
Thursday, 18 March 2010 02:41 AM EST

I'm a little disheartened to see so many 11- 16 year olds here say -amidst their terrible diction- they've had ONLY 1 or 2 boyfriends/ girlfriends.

I'm 18, male, and never really had any romantic relationships.

Rationalist_7896543
Sunday, 02 May 2010 11:31 AM EST

You're kidding me right? I had my first boyfriend when I was 21. Not because I am unattractive. In fact, everywhere I go, guys and girls both check me out, and constantly tell me that I am beautiful. Not just pretty, but BEAUTIFUL. I also have a lot of girl friends who are very good looking, but they started having boyfriends at a much later age. When I was 16, I was focusing on my studies (I never wore make-up, did my hair, or dressed fancy). You should be focusing on your studies too! In a few years, guys will automatically be attracted to you - not just for your looks, but because you are a confident and smart girl. Guys and relationships can be established at any point in your life, but this is the age to get your education.

Tiara3
Sunday, 20 June 2010 09:14 AM EST

It always seems like so many truly beautiful girls are the ones who have a lesser amount of boyfriends... and b/f's at that age are not all they're cracked up to be. I had one b/f when I was 15 and it lasted a week and it only really happened in the first place because of the pressure I felt that that was what I was supposed to do. I then started dating one boy when I was 17 and it was rough... any relationship at that age is because that is you're growing period, where you learn who you are and what you want and even though you may be similar at that time does not mean you will be forever. We broke up right before Grade 12 graduation and I desperately wanted a b/f. I knew that the fact that I just wanted a b/f, didn't even have anyone in mind, showed that I wasn't ready for one. I went to college, pursued my dreams, became the person I wanted to be, and got back together with that same guy after three years! We're now engaged. And for the record, I have also been told that I am beautiful and like you I had a lot going for me... but I am content with my low history with males cuz now just one guy has all of my heart, not just what's left over from other relationships.

Myrrh183
Tuesday, 01 February 2011 00:00 AM EST

your beautiful
and you obviously know how to spell boyfriend it was just a typo.
some med i tell you are idiots.

kala
Wednesday, 16 March 2011 21:34 PM EST

Your 16 beautifull and sounds like any guys dream. I know all about guys young and older trust me lol. And what i can tell you is that its alot more attractive when your not dating alot of guys and dont try and change yourself to do so, and that your confident about yourself without a guy telling you your pretty and smart, and funny....Its hard im young to but just be yourself fully, dont change, and like who you are because thats sexier then other girls at your school who goes out with guys all the time, and in the long run you'll like your history of dating better. your gorgues and never forget it.

livelovelaugh :)
Saturday, 19 March 2011 04:21 AM EST

Honestly, don't worry about those kind of things at your age.There's no need to throw yourself in a relationship now (especially since around that age, boys a really immature) Give yourself some time, stay your adorable self and they'll be flocking before you know it. If you run after them, that's often bound to failure. Let things happen on their own -magic occurs

Crimz3
Saturday, 02 April 2011 21:44 PM EST

I am 15, and never had a boyfriend, though I have been asked. I really hate my looks, but even if that is a problem, I don't want a boyfriend. In high school, they're all man-whores and druggies. At least where I live. So just ask yourself, is it really worth it? Wait until they reach an age where they can actually think with their big head, not the little one. -_- If that actually happens.

Alex
Saturday, 19 November 2011 18:43 PM EST

Your spelling is hidious, if that counts.

JROC
Sunday, 01 January 2012 16:38 PM EST

'You\x27re hardly even a woman yet.. I wouldn\x27t be worried about the way you look until your at least 20 you arent fully developed yet and if you have had two boyfriends i\x27d say you probably ok for appearance. You should seek professional help if you are feeling depressed about the way you look, instead of coming on this website asking peoples opinions.'

BadL
Wednesday, 22 August 2012 13:10 PM EST

'This post hurts my brain. You\x27re clearly a very insecure child who is looking for reassurance from boys. You seem to liken your beauty with how many boys you can line up. The reality will be that this will become a pattern that will be difficult to break. \x3cbr \x2f\x3e You need to figure out what the reason is why you feel the way you do about yourself. Please consider counseling.\x3cbr \x2f\x3e One more thing, how is it that the grammar in the comments section is so atrocious considering there is spell check. Seriously... \x22ghurl, rite, gurl\x3f\x22 Oh the humanity\x21\x21'

Educated
Saturday, 15 September 2012 18:31 PM EST

'Why do u think u are ugly u are pretty how much do want to make a bet you will get more then two boys hitting on u'

cool
Saturday, 05 January 2013 09:36 AM EST

'You have to be patient -.- don\x27t be desperate'

calm down
Thursday, 11 April 2013 20:40 PM EST

'You have to be patient -.- don\x27t be desperate'

calm down
Thursday, 11 April 2013 20:40 PM EST

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