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Will you visit a strip club with me?

Will you visit a strip club with me?

Q: Are guys comfortable going with their girlfriend or partner to strip bars? Would it make you uncomfortable if it was at her request?

A: First Reaction: “You’re kidding – I’ll get the keys!” Second Reaction: “Hope I have enough cash for the stage show.” Third Reaction: “Wait, what’s she getting out of this?” Ultimately, we need to know your motivation for wanting to go. If you’re really, really fine with watching me cheer on naked women other than yourself, and if that’s a turn on for you, then I’ll go get my coat. But if you have an ulterior motive, or you think somehow that this is the only way to get me going, then let’s just put on a porno and talk it out.
- Trevor, 25, Marketing Coordinator, sketch comedy writer/performer, single

A: Not really comfortable. It’s kind of hot, but then again, if the woman is really into it, does that mean she is secretly gay? It could tend to bring a level of jealousy into the picture.
- Mike, 31, Marketing Consultant, married

A: She must go.
- Andy, 29. IT Consultant, single

A: In my life I couldn’t ever see this happening so it would bring up a lot of questions if she asked to go to the rippers now - uncomfortable for sure.
- Richard, 32. Events Planner, lives with girlfriend

A: Not at all, I would kind of dig it. Unless I got aroused. That could get awkward.
Josh, 28, Model, with girlfriend

A: No. Most guys I know go to strip bars as an occasional male-bonding experience. I’d truthfully be weirded out if my partner wanted to go to a strip joint. I hope she doesn’t get turned on by watching 21-year-old female dancers shaking their booties to ‘80s hair metal.
- Rod, 32, Fireman, married, baby on the way

Comments:

A strip club is just like any bar! It's not weird, I go with my man and I have even been wothout, and I am straight.

krissy
Wednesday, 21 March 2007 16:56 PM EST

Strip clubs are fun. The strippers always get the girls in the audience to flash them. Its a bunch of guys there too so you don't have to worry about that snotty nonsense that goes on at clubs. I go with my friends all the time. I went with my boyfriend once but he didn't like it.

Christine
Friday, 23 March 2007 07:02 AM EST

I think it depends on the relationship the couple has. If it's a very open relationship were the girlfriend is comfortable with herself and her boyfriend looking at more the half naked women, then they would probably go to a strip club. But if the girlfriend is uncomfortable with her boyfriend looking at other half naked women, then, they probably wouldn't go to a strip club. But personally I think that if your in a relationship there should be no need to look at other naked women because the girlfriend should be enough for the boyfriend! LOL

Solange
Friday, 23 March 2007 16:47 PM EST

Does any one noe what to do if yu like a guy & he flirts with a bunch of other girl but u want him to like yu?...help?

ASHLEY
Tuesday, 27 March 2007 00:56 AM EST

I personally like to hang with just the guys because I find that girls in my city cause too much drama and I don't have time for that. I know some guys who like to hang out with just the girls, but are you sure it's flirting? and what type of guy he is. Because he may always be looking for attention. They may be trying to make you jelous, even if you don't think so, I've experienced it and I think it's really a kind of silly way lol all I can think of is at least become friends with him& take it slow, you might never know where you two will end up. A lot of girls have this problem, maybe try chatting with him online if you're shy at first, talk on the phone or something. Gte a girlfriend to find his e-mail? I don't know FOR SURE if any of these techniques will work, but it's worth a shot girl!!

Lys
Tuesday, 27 March 2007 23:44 PM EST

I have gone with my ex and his buddy. I went because I was curious and I figure I can't be bent out of shape about him watching strippers if I don't know what goes on there.

Sheesh - I saw men sitting at tables drinking beer and watching the hockey game. The servers wore lingerie and the only people actually watching the dancers were the guys in that semi-circle around the stage and me!

Oh, and I got hit on more than the guys I was with did!

Jan
Sunday, 01 April 2007 23:17 PM EST

I didnt think this was a big deal, nor did I ever think that i might be considered GAY for going. I think couples with an open relationship should be able to do anything together, even watch nakedness dance around.

BEE-ver
Thursday, 05 April 2007 17:34 PM EST

I use to date this one guy and we'd go to strip clubs on the weekend. We'd get really drunk normally the tab between the two of us was 150. Then we'd go back to his house and F*** the S*** out of eachother...it was fabulous the most fun I've ever had in my life! I'd never ever do that with my fiance now though and I'd never tell him how wild I once was....alothough at times he most likely knows

nj
Thursday, 05 April 2007 21:28 PM EST

ya the wife and I go all the time. Hse likes the ladies!

Phil
Saturday, 07 April 2007 17:53 PM EST

would you date a guy that owns a strip club, for four years, and he would always tell you no commitment, just friends.

marguerite
Sunday, 08 April 2007 15:26 PM EST

I am bi, but have recently found the love of my life in the form of a gorgeous man. Commenting on women and comparing notes on their hotness is a little game we like to play that we can bond over. Because I'm open about my bi-ness and would never hide it, talking with him about it keeps our relationship open and honest. We've only gone to the strip club a few times on special occasions, but each time was a blast because we both trust each other.

bi bride
Wednesday, 11 April 2007 16:02 PM EST

very disrespectful if you are in a committed relationship. Leave the strip clubs to the single, and lonely. Those men and women will fake everything for a little cash, even if you are unattractive. It's a job only. Remember that. Plus if you have a significant other, that's the real thing baby! and nothing can beat that!!!! Have your own private strip show in the comfort of your own surroundings (or nice hotel)

Laurie, Still Hot after 9 years of marriage + 3 kids!!
Friday, 13 April 2007 04:27 AM EST

Jeeze, I find no issue going to a strip club with my man AND in our strip clubs they take everything off. I am just not in to sitting on Ripper Row and getting a close up shot.
Sometimes it makes for a hot evening at home....lol

Cindy C
Saturday, 14 April 2007 09:03 AM EST

I love going to the strip clubs with my guy and he loves it too! Afterwards is the best and we both have a fun time!

lucy C
Sunday, 15 April 2007 03:31 AM EST

I've offered to take my long time bf to a strip club and he said no. Not awkward, just no interest in it. I don't think it'd be a problem for either of us but it's also not something I'm gonna go out of my way to throw money down on.

Trish
Wednesday, 18 April 2007 00:02 AM EST

My husband and I always went to the strip clubs together before we had our children, and we just don't go now because of the time issue--we would rather spend time with our kids while they are still young enough to want us around! We both thoroughly enjoyed going to the clubs, though, and will go again. It is not a place for men to get picked up, that is for sure! As "Jan" said above, I got hit on more often than not and the strippers were often more than willing to give my husband more of a "show" than the other guys. Bodies are bodies and we should not be ashamed of them. If someone wants to look, it is his/her choice and should not be taken as an affront to their significant other. Trust, love, and honesty are integral parts of a relationship and if you don't have these you should not even be together, never mind not going to a strip club alone or together until you find out what is okay with your partner. All I know is that my husband and I had some killer sex after we went and not just because we saw some naked ladies...but because we spent the time together. Also, when my husband has gone "with the boys," I have encouraged him. I've even bought him lapdances, including a special one for his bachelor party!

Katie
Friday, 27 April 2007 19:57 PM EST

Hello.
Me and my boyfriend go everywhere together and i'm wondering would he take me to a strip club if so.. Im staying home. thats my opinon.. to this "Q"..

Laura
Sunday, 20 May 2007 21:33 PM EST

I've never gone with my man but wouldn't mind. I'd just be nervous that I might find it a turn on. I might get jealous. Or seeing him getting turned on. But isn't that the idea for guys..."visual stimulation". Would the girls give me a lap dance. I think I might like it. Does that mean I am gay??

Jenny
Sunday, 20 May 2007 23:57 PM EST

Jenny, if you were gay, you would know it. Anyway, if you like it then you like it, enjoy! It's possible you are bi-sexual but that's something you need to figure out on your own. You also need to define bi or gay for yourself, because personally, i'm not gay but i've kissed girls before and so on and so forth, i'm in the midst of figuring out whether or not i'm bi. I don't really consider myself bi because i would never have sex with a woman, it just doesn't do it for me although i do know i have some major bi-sexual tendencies. Either way, good luck discovering your likes and dislikes, don't let them freak you out, it's all perfectly natural and loads of fun!

CJ
Saturday, 26 May 2007 11:54 AM EST

marguerite, no i would never date that guy. He probs just wants you and isnt ready 4 a long time commitment.

Kat
Wednesday, 30 May 2007 20:39 PM EST

Oaky It would be soo weird! Like what if she's into girls?!?!?!? It is every man's dream but still!

Mistery Man
Wednesday, 30 May 2007 21:33 PM EST

A lot of women like to look at other women naked, and maybe even get off on it.. and they're completely straight. If guys are worrying about going to a strip club because it arises questions of their girlfriend's sexuality they should just get over it, she's with you, and if she's secure with her own sexuality you have no need to worry. It's so taboo for guys to look at other naked guys, but a lot of women look at other women. It's not nasty or anything, more erotic and being appreciative of the female form.

Ivy
Monday, 04 June 2007 18:02 PM EST

I'm with Ivy on that one - if you both enjoy it and it is something you can do together then why not? I would think it would be nice to find out your girl is sexually secure with herself, not frightening. If it freaks you out then i guess that's something you have to deal with on your own as well as together.

CJ
Thursday, 07 June 2007 19:10 PM EST

My fiance has asked me to go with him many of times. I don't know if i want to though. I might get jelous to see him chanting on dancing naked woman maybe one day I'll feel differently about it. But if a girl does want to go to a stripe club with her man, I wo9uld have to agree with CJ and Ivy, it doesn't mean she's unsure about her own sexuality or whether or not she's gay.

Kristy
Saturday, 23 June 2007 09:55 AM EST

i have been to LOTS strip clubs with my man and i love it cause it turns me on. i am straight but what does it matter. i love girls on me cause it makes me fell AWESOME. so i have f****d a girl before so i have had group sex what does it matter cause we are all the same and some people might not like it and thats ok. i have partied like heck and i luv it. some people might say i am lesbian or just desperate but i tell them its just ME!! (i also like guys)

chantel
Tuesday, 26 June 2007 19:29 PM EST

how do you tell a girl that you love her without it sounding weard; help

Dawn
Wednesday, 18 July 2007 09:38 AM EST

just come out and tell her all girls love 2 b adored so take her out 4 dinner and b really nice then just come out and say it!

H.G
Thursday, 19 July 2007 15:10 PM EST

a girl loves to be in bed

secretive person who is a girl
Thursday, 26 July 2007 16:36 PM EST

Never visit a strip club with your girlfriend. As a stripper and as a girlfriend, I can tell you straight up, it will not inhance your bond.

It will only lead to insicurity in one or both partners. Most strippers also think it is very disrespectfull; not only to us but your partner.

When the gf goes in the men will be ogleing wondering what she has. He will then feel disrespected and attacked.

A lot of the girls feel that if he is even looking and not paying close enough attention to her, then he is skeeze. And a dance is completley out of the question. NO ONE WILL DO IT!

Tegan
Monday, 30 July 2007 14:22 PM EST

ASHLEY, ok i've been in the same situation as you are in , and if that guy you like if flirting , with other girls, then just make yourself one of thoes girls , i know it sounds crazy but come on girl , all you have to do , is flirt with him and if he flirts back , ask him to do something ,and as soon as you get together the flirting with other girls with stop, but if you don't get together then its just not ment to be . trust me

Ashley listen!!!!
Friday, 10 August 2007 10:00 AM EST

Seeing as strip clubs are soulless dead venues that embody the abuse of sexual power of "look what you can't have and you can only pay for" that women wave in mans faces on a daily basis then, no, you wouldn't see me there, or with the girlfriend.

Jerry
Sunday, 19 August 2007 16:23 PM EST

I would ONLY go on one condition:
that he wouldn't just sit and stare at the stripper. that plain and simple.

Melissa
Wednesday, 22 August 2007 15:55 PM EST

OMg. i would never go to strip club with my boy. the only person half naked or naked should be me in front of him if i wish.....

Jenia
Tuesday, 28 August 2007 15:26 PM EST

I went to a club recently with my man , and even had a private lap dance. What a turn on. We had the best sex after. I was bi-curious, and that confirmed it for the both of us. I can't wait until we go again. I'll even pay for my own dance next time, just to get more. The dancer was hot, and she was very understanding with it being my first time.

susie
Monday, 03 September 2007 15:06 PM EST

O.k, first off ladies, (wives,girlfriends), What would you rather have; your man going to strip club, spend some money and go home, or go off and have an affair? It is human nature, especially for men, to have roving eyes. The girls in the clubs DO NOT CARE about the men that come in there - trust me! Its the $$ that they're after. A lot of couples go into these places and, believe it or not, it actually S***es things up a bit. The only reason why women have problems with their men going to strip clubs is because they're insecure about themselves. Women think about it on an emotional level, men are physical.And I hate to say it, dancers have no emotions at all for the men that come in there. Working it that kind of enviroment WILL make you numb!

Mons girl
Tuesday, 02 October 2007 03:19 AM EST

strippers are nasty and all men who go and watch them are nasty!!

stripper hater
Tuesday, 16 October 2007 11:36 AM EST

i've been to a strip club with my guy friends and bf, and just with my bf - i can't believe i'd waited as long as I had to go! Its an awesome experience IF YOU GO FOR THE RIGHT REASONS. If you go to be a chaperon/watchful eye, or to make someone else happy, its definitely not going to be fun or worth the $. If you're insecure already, why pour salt on the wound? But if you are doing it because you want to see beautiful naked women, have a fun sexy time, or do something kinda wild - who better to go with than the man you love? As long as you both accept the reality that a strip club offers entertainment -- in the form of eye candy and yummy smells (if you are lucky enough to have a dancer shake her ta-tas in your face) -- its hella fun! Men dig confident women who don't need coddling or emotional reassurance. So be prepared to own it, and accept it for what it is (entertainment), or don't go.

Bonus: women in the audience at strip clubs tend to get a lot of attention from the dancers - waaay more than your guy surely ever gets, regardless of how much $ they lay down. I've been pulled up on stage with a stripper on a few occasions. Their skin is soft, they smell pretty damn good, and its way easy for them to get wild with another woman. If that doesn't turn you both on, get outta the front row and make room for the couples that do get turned on!

they smell so goooood
Monday, 12 November 2007 02:23 AM EST

I've gone with a male friend I'm into a few times and the last time was with others including his off/on girlfriend. It's all in fun! We girls always get the most attention and when the men do get attention, we watch and have fun. Unless we are at the tip rail, usually by the time the dancer makes it to the guys we are interested in someone else. We both are bi-curious and that adds to our relaxed attitude about it, I think. As long as the men come home with or to us, who cares if they go to the strip club.

As far as women getting more attention ... I've been tongue kissed a few times, but that's the most "extra" I ever got from a dancer. Kind of hope next time is a little different, though I don't push it. It's all about what the dancer wants to do and if I get nekkid in the process, so be it! :)

Peachness
Sunday, 18 November 2007 21:03 PM EST

Listen up, if people started treating each other as "people"..sex, relationships etc would all be orgasmic!

One night stands..if the guy takes the time to make sure his partner has an orgasim first then his experience will all that much better as well.

People have to stop making excuses for everything that's wrong with sex and just relax and enjoy it....that in itself should bring us all to new heights of enjoyment!!

HELLOOOOO are you all for real??
Sunday, 16 March 2008 20:36 PM EST

i HAVE SEX ALL THE TIME AND ITS SOOOOOOOOO FUN

COCO
Tuesday, 18 March 2008 17:31 PM EST

I have been with the same girl for over a year now. When we first got together, we were both involved with other people and there was a certain taboo quality to our relationship and it made everything extra naughty and sexually charged. This got us started talking about fantasies and they involved female bisexuality and strip clubs. We've since gone to a few and they've been wild and intensely erotic and resulted in awesome sex afterwards -- but at the same time the next-day aftermath was a little scary and uncertain. She used to "wonder about" her sexuality in college, and these experiences brought some of that back. She now claims to be certain that she's straight -- despite a penchant for checking out girls' asses, still being open to lap dances, and acknowledging she wouldn't rule out "kissing a girl" -- and swears she wouldn't have sex with or seek a relationship with another woman. I am simultaneously aroused, turned on, intrigued -- and yet a little freaked, uneasy, and at times angry about it. And yet I can't let it go. It's become almost an obsession. What the hell is all of this about???

Can't Figure Out My Girlfriend
Sunday, 20 April 2008 14:44 PM EST

I've been dating my boyfriend for over 5 years. we are young and like to have fun. our friends are into going to the 'rippers so we frequent.

if ur girl is into it, go with it. she might be wanting to see ur reaction to the girls and their moves. after my first time i offered to try some of those moves for my man and he loved it. sometimes us girls need a little inspiration.

A Special Lady
Monday, 21 April 2008 16:50 PM EST

My husband wants me to experience the strip club with him for the first time and he wants to buy me a lap dance. I feel I am a little bi-curious I guess and I am very afraid of enjoying it too much because I do get off watching other women, but I am also very jealous, as I have seen in other comments enjoying this does not make me gay and I do love my husband very much.

a little confused
Friday, 09 May 2008 15:47 PM EST

I am 44 years old, and when I was younger you never seen a women in a strip bar. But on a Friday night in some strip bars you find more women then men inside watching the girls. I had one stripper ask me if she looks butch, because all the young girls are asking for lap dances.

So the question is, why are so many young women hanging out in a place that was once considered the last bastion for men.

Fyre
Tuesday, 13 May 2008 13:18 PM EST

I work at a strip club and honestly i think its so hot when couples come in together...its something for both parts the girl gets to learn new sexy moves and the guy gets to compfortably check out other women .. all in the means of going home and having HOT HOT sex.

Coco
Saturday, 12 July 2008 19:05 PM EST

to: a little confused... It is OK to enjoy another woman .. it doesnt make you gay it makes you a sexual being :)

coco
Saturday, 12 July 2008 19:06 PM EST

I DONT THINK I COULD EVER TAKE MY MAN TO
SEE NAKED WOMEN IM VERY JELOUS EVEN THOU
IM A STRIPPER MYSELF AND WORK IN TEASERS
I FEEL IM NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM.
IM NOT THE BEST LOOKING WOMEN THEIR IS.
AND STRIPPERS DOES HAVE FEELINGS AND MOST OF THE TIME WHE DONT LIKE WOMEN TO BE THEIR. THEI LAUGH TO MUCH.

LAURA
Sunday, 17 August 2008 11:35 AM EST

I HAVE NEVER REALLY BEEN THE JEALOUS TYPE, SO I SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH MY MAN LOOKING... I WOULD RATHER HIM NOT HIDE IT FROM ME THEN GO BEHIND MY BACK, AS IF HE HAS SOMETHING TO HIDE... HE IS A MAN AND MEN DO LOOK SO DO US WOMEN SO WHY HATE ON A MAN!!! WE ARE ACTUALLY GOING TO A STRIP CLUB TOGETHER FOR HIS BIRTHDAY IN A COUPLE OF DAYS AND IM EXCITED!!! I THINK WE WILL BOTH HAVE ALOT OF FUN!!!AND I SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT! IF YOU DONT LIKE IT DONT GO, IF YOU HAVE TRUST ISSUES DONT GO! SIMPLE AS THAT!

JUST ME....
Sunday, 24 August 2008 20:00 PM EST

i wudnt want my partner goingg with or without me!! demoralising completely...discusting..pervy..sick..

tracy*
Wednesday, 27 August 2008 19:19 PM EST

WELL IF I WAS WITH HIM I CAN HONESTLY SAY I WOULDNT WANT HIM GOING AT ALL.
IF HE WAS WITH ME HE SHOULD BE ABLE TO GET THE FEELING WITHOUT GOING TO A STRIP CLUB AT ALL, WITH OR WITHOUT ME.

SUMMER**
Thursday, 30 October 2008 13:27 PM EST

My girl is all for it, she loves to see me get lap dances and when we go home she is incredible in bed. I think she may be bisexual, but I don't care. She's even told me she fantasizes about me f***ing other women in front of her. Kinky girl she is...

James
Tuesday, 11 November 2008 19:00 PM EST

i have a friend who works at a strip club. she has no problem with it and thinks it's sexy to see couples coming in. she thinks it's okay if you are with another but you are checking out somebody else's boyfriend.On the other hand some people think its wrong.

pepper
Wednesday, 26 November 2008 13:13 PM EST

I am taking my SO man to a topless club for his 40th birthday. He has a fantasy of seeing me kiss a girl for the first time, and I think it would be pretty cool to see his reaction - kind of like doing a dare or something. He came to see me after going to a club with the guys once, and WOW! I would have paid for that night if I knew it existed! He thinks I am a closet L, but he is wrong. I told him to take pictures if he wants. Hey, you only turn 40 once, and I want this to be a great memory for both of us. He may chicken out, but I wont...it seems pretty exciting to me.

First Timer
Wednesday, 11 February 2009 12:20 PM EST

Update:
The birthday trip happened on schedule, and we had talked about it in advance. We agreed that he would not be getting any table dances, because I said I would not feel comfortable with women touching him. We did not stay long - I do not know how it works everywhere, (it was supposed to be a nice place) but at this club, the girls practically rub themselves in men's faces just for dollar tips. This is what happened, and I am not happy with it. He seemed to think this was normal, but he did not tell me about it in advance. I am really devastated. This was a mistake. We had such a wonderful Valentine's Day weekend, and I had a long way to crash down when this happened.
My suggestion: If you are not a bisexual, or even the slightest bit jealous, don't go with your man. I was not bothered by seeing the girls, or him watching them, but the in your face dances at the edge of the stage were too much for me. I have a photographic memory, and I can't get the image out of my head. This may end us.
I did not make a big deal out of it last night, but on top of this he had no interest in me after being with the girls. I am a pretty decent looking girl, but I feel that he must have felt really attracted to one of the girls if he was not interested at all in sex with me at afterwards. Bad news, bad news...

First Timer
Wednesday, 18 February 2009 10:33 AM EST

I had sex 50 times and it rocks!

sex 50 times
Sunday, 22 February 2009 07:12 AM EST

i wonted mu hubby to take me because i thought i would be a good thing . i got drunk before i went so it would bother me that much but when i got there i had a lot of fun. i was wonting to know what they did girls if you have never been to one its ok all they do is dance on stage yes they take off clothes but it is ok the only thing is when me and my hubby went i didnt get him a lap dance i got one and the other guys did i didnt wont a lap dance willly but i got one anyway so we wont get kicked out but all and all i had fun

trina
Friday, 20 March 2009 23:41 PM EST

I am going to take my husband to a strip club for the first time and am really looking forward to it. He and I have never been to strip club and I just wanted him to experience it just once. I am actually looking forward to seeing my husbands reaction when I start getting into it. I find nothing wrong with having innocent fun if you have a secure relationship.

Mary
Tuesday, 31 March 2009 13:13 PM EST

I think this... I am a lapdancer myself, I wouldn't really mind my boyfriend, if I had one go in there, prefebly with his mates though if it was a party or stagnight, if he was going there on his own all the time and having private (nude dances) id mabye find that a bit odd, so I would actually prefer us to go in together, make a night of it, drinks e.t.c. As a dancer, I see couples, lesbians, bi, men on there own, and everyone has a different story, but I think you have to be comfortable with it whatever situation you are in!

sarah
Sunday, 05 April 2009 11:02 AM EST

I think that if you are in a relatiionship, where both of you are pleased and comfortable with eachother, then a strip club shouldn't be a problem. Maybe it could turn bth of the peoples on and they can have a great night, straight, gay, or bi!

Adam
Monday, 06 April 2009 13:13 PM EST

My wife and I enjoy going to strip clubs . We are married for 18 years and the kids are getting older. This gives us the time to explore our fantasies and erotic needs. I know for many years that she is bi-curious. I think most woman are interested in other woman in a more or lesser way. My wife is no exception.

We are getting so turned on it is just amazing. I never saw her so hot . We normally go to the private booth for lap dances. Yes it is all about money , we all know that. But , watching my wife getting a lap dance ( well dances) opened up her boobs and go with the flow was absolutely great. The dancer and she got so turned on and into each other . They grabbed each other, kissed, and cuddle and play with their bodies from top to bottom , it just underline the fact that this natural desire.

I could see the wetness flowing from the dancer and the noises coming from my wife (she is 45) was just amazing.

Everything was arouse, their N***ples was hard and long , it was an electric storm in the booth. This was her first experience with a woman.

For a while I was in the erotic world I believe every woman fantasised about. Sharing this moment with 2 beautiful woman was surly the highlight of my sexual life. I don’t think that men really understand the hidden secrets of woman and that is so beautiful if you can share that with them.

Zander
Wednesday, 06 May 2009 03:24 AM EST

I would only ever go to a strip club again on the condition that the dancers don't touch me and I don't have to look at them. I once hit it off with this young lady at a hostel where we were both staying. I thought we had good chemistry, I was hoping we might go get coffee or something. She asked me to give her a ride somewhere and mentioned off-hand that there would be naked ladies there. She had me stop at a drugstore on the way there and on the way back even though she didn't get anything either time (?) and she dropped some quote about how to tell if you're on a good date. When we got there she just kept asking what I wanted to do next, and I wanted to scream, "I don't know, YOU asked ME for a ride!!" She also opened a pineapple juice and set it in front of me which I now think she intended for me to drink. It was an EXTREMELY awkward experience. Even if I'd had some money and hadn't been driving someone there for no particular reason, I still would have been weirded out. I like women, I just don't like pan handlers getting up in my space and taking their clothes off. I'm quirky like that. I was trying to keep to myself and not accidentally look at anything, off to the side playing a video game, and this dancer actually came up and put her hand on my shoulder. The look I gave that hand, you'd have expected it to curl up like a wicked witch's feet.

I find that women don't want to hear that we like strippers, but they really don't want to hear that we hate strippers. It makes them think there's something wrong with you and you might be too hard to train.

James
Tuesday, 19 May 2009 12:20 PM EST

I'd ask myself if she was asking me a trick question... then I would answer 'no' just in case.

Neelan
Tuesday, 07 July 2009 19:11 PM EST

I dont like to visit strip clubs where women strip , Me and my girlfriend prefer going to see hunky men strip , its more of a sexual journey , its so much energetic and my GF says those men look like a work of art , I agree with her those guys looked like sculptures and did a lapdance for me and my GF , and when we went home it was the wildest sex we both had.if i wanna see a naked woman i have my gf at home ;-) , Looking forward to going to go and see those studs again ;-)

SexyGuy
Monday, 27 July 2009 23:51 PM EST

seems kind of disrespectful to me

mildred
Wednesday, 23 September 2009 23:17 PM EST

I personally wouldn't, because I would get jealous... but I am bi-sexual so I could enjoy it as well as him if I did...

AC
Wednesday, 14 October 2009 22:59 PM EST

Taking my husband to SF to celebrate our committed open relationship. And share in our visual fantasies. Cant wait to see his face :)

Highpockets
Tuesday, 24 November 2009 01:19 AM EST

Let me see if I get this straight. Men have to watch strippers, look at porn & naked girls in magazines in order to be turned on. What's wrong with their women? Are they ugly or something?

Been Deeply Hurt
Thursday, 14 January 2010 20:12 PM EST

I have this very complicated relationship with a girl I want 2 make it official with and hopefully will eventually- Bottom line is we're both celebrating our bdays at the same time and were going 2 a strip club. Any suggestions? I already have my game plan but I'm always open 2 more suggestions. Plus I'm really unsure of what her True motive is...

Unsure of What 2 Do3
Sunday, 28 February 2010 17:30 PM EST

I know my BF went to clubs with his ex and another couple before we started dating. It's now been a year and I know he would like to do that. He also wants to visit a nude beach. I'm closer to barbie and he is far from being a ken. I don't understand his need to want to do this type of stuff. What would he do there, how would he act. I don't think I could handling the oogling and not feel like total crap. Is my naked body not good enough?

Confused3
Friday, 14 May 2010 01:43 AM EST

At first I thought it was kinda weird that my girl asked me to take her so Im thinking she might be Bi....I had no problem with it and took her just to see how she would act.Well it turned into a nightmare when she started getting a little to freaky and constantly had her hand out for more money.What was I thinking not a good idea

Lil Red3
Sunday, 16 January 2011 15:21 PM EST

I went to a stripper bar, and unless you have been you been shut up.

It is disgusting and girls are putting their vaginas in your face. At the bar, i went to guys were throwing coins into her vagina.

the guys lay on the stage and the girls shove their boobs infront of them.

maybutter3
Tuesday, 12 April 2011 12:46 PM EST

Honestly, I have no problems with strip clubs..or the fact that when my BF goes its to watch women with way nicer bodies then me. i mean yes it just makes me wanna work my ass off and get as in shape as them. But whats the difference between a man watching porn and going to watch a naked woman dance? cuz there is a big difference! Porn, he's getting off on watching another woman have sex, and watching women do things you may never ever be comfortable doing!
Strippers, they are there to dance and tease, nothing more.. yes they are up close and personal, but they are also there to make there money. I am much more okay with a stripper then i am a porno.. becuz i dont plan to get as nasty as the women in porno's do. i have a little bit more respect for my self then that.. I plan to go to a strip club with my Bf of 5 years here soon, and we might take our friends... But we are also on another level then others.. The way i look at things, strippers are gonna talk to me and wanna dance on me just as much as on him, its for the money.. thats why when we go, he isnt the only one that will be getting lap dances, i will too, but not becuz he is, Im going to enjoy my night with my BF and not babysit him.. Im gonna go to do almost exactly what he is.. im sure i wont think exactly what he does, cuz im not a man, but i know my mind wont be on the fact that he's watching women, cuz ill be busy watching too! and plus, at the end of the night, he comes home with me, and makes sure he tells me loves me more then anything in the world b4 and after he always goes. Love and Trust people!!! Sex will always be around!!! and just cuz his eyes are watching doesnt mean he's gonna go cheat, he just enjoys the naked body! I dont blame him! Most strippers are amazingly hot!

HisGF
Wednesday, 20 July 2011 17:40 PM EST

I just had my first strip club experience. Some friends and I surprised my husband for his 30th birthday. I had always been interested, I even have a few friends that are/were strippers. I had been asking him to take me for FIVE YEARS! So I decided to be the one to take him. I thought it was going to be rather quirky but actually it was quite sensual, especially after a few drinks. Watching the women parade around in the main room didn't do much for me, but the private dance was so sexy. For those men, who question their women's motives, I can't answer for them but here is why it turned me on so much. First of all, the girl paid a lot of attention to me, and I saw the lust growing in my husbands.... eyes! (Perverts, hahaha). I have a thing for seeing my man turned on, I think all women should feel the same way. The dancer was engaging and reinforced to us how sexy she thought we were, which only boosted our confidence. Lastly, when you pay someone for a sexual service, there is a built in safeness. We have discussed often (though not too seriously) about bringing in a third party and the problem as always been emotional. The financial transaction of buying a dance severs a lot, if not all emotion involved, and using someone only for their sexuality was different for me, as well as exciting.

Wahoooo87
Thursday, 08 September 2011 14:17 PM EST

I'm probably not righ tone to say anything

but I think it's perfectly alright and natural to go to Strip club with your girlfriend...

I used to strip myself in strip clubs, and I saw coubles in often..

They infact wanted private shows and gave a lots of tips, too

Now I'm happily living with my girlfriend, and my two daughters, very young....


Still occasionally we throw the kids off to my or her mother and go to clubs, sometimes even to strip clubs...

Perfectly normal I say

LesbianMother
Sunday, 30 October 2011 19:39 PM EST

i love going to the strip club however, i am bi sexual i love going with my huaband to a strip club it turns us both on and he gets raped when we get home.

marybeth female, married
Wednesday, 30 November 2011 21:53 PM EST

Id take my man to ha strip club i use to be a striper myself id pay tha girls to give him a lap dance oh im bi to i was danceing one nite and my boss told me and my friend to eat eachouther out on stag she eat my P***y so damn good best i ever had

angel
Saturday, 03 December 2011 00:19 AM EST

I love them. I never feel uncomfortable in them, in some ways its better than going to a regular bar because I hate being hit on and stared at (thats just me), being at a strip bar with my husband I rarely ever get hit on because most men there are watching the naked ladies anyway. I am bisexual too so it also caters for me as well.
I have taken my husband twice. Both times were very enjoyable and not to mention the sex afterwards!

Emma
Saturday, 10 December 2011 05:41 AM EST

I love going lapdancing with my man, we have a fab time and I love naked girls writhing over me, I know it turns him on too. We had a fab experience in South East Asia were the dancers were very hands on and yes I am bi! x

Diane
Friday, 13 January 2012 15:15 PM EST

I love going with my hubby, it is a major turn on knowing he is fantasizing about the sexy strippers,they always pull me on stage, lick my p***y through my panties, lots of fun stuff. My hubby and I have a great marriage because I let him be a man and not hide anything. Now if it was just some random girl at a bar who came up hitting on him , totally different story.... But strip clubs are great!

J
Wednesday, 25 January 2012 15:28 PM EST

Honestly I think the longer youve dated him/her is how you determin the embarrising,or hot and sexy parts.For instance me and my bf have been dating fer 4 months.Ive been asked to go.I said ok,but im scared.See,maybe 10 months is a good time to go.

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