Talk Dirty to Me
Do you like it when your partner talks dirty? And how dirty is dirty?
A: I don't really want her to talk dirty to me. I'd rather she actually get dirty with me. For me, dirty talk is more the realm of a first encounter, with strangers whispering disgustingly tantalizing suggestions into one anothers ears as a part of the entry-level mating ritual. With my wife, the need for initial enticements of this nature is gone, so we can just proceed to our filthy fun without bothering to waste any breath on simulated suggestions.
A: Just writing this answer makes me uncomfortable. Truthfully, I’m not sure I know what dirty talk is anymore. Any dirty talk in my relationship would probably be followed by uncontrollable, gut-busting laughter. “Can you turn the dishwasher on?” or “Baby, we need to do the laundry” is the extent of our dirty talk nowadays.
A: I'm a bit shy about that type of thing. Some basic, "Oh, yeah. You like that?" is great, but I've never dabbled much beyond that. Not sure that I want to.
A: Talking dirty isn't sexy. I find it can spoil the moment since it often seems corny, unnatural, or can lead to unintended humour. The only dirty talk I enjoy is the sweet sound of Poison blaring on my boom box.
A: Talking dirty isn't sexy but sex isn't sexy some of the time. I think dirty talk works for a certain type of sex and, personally, I quite enjoy it. For those certain types of sex that dirty talk lends itself to, I say the dirtier the better. If it's more of a romantic anniversary type of sex, then leave the dirty talk at the door.