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What Kind of First Dates Do Most Guys Want?

Ask a Guy: What kind of first dates do most guys want?

A: Perfect first romantic dates are bland and are terrible stories to tell and parties or any subsequent weddings. Give me goofy any day.
- Trevor, 25, Marketing Coordinator, sketch comedy writer/performer, single

A: Depends on the woman. I would say romantic is best – probably dinner and drinks as this allows conversation enough for both to see if they even like one another.
- Mike, 31, Marketing Consultant, married

A: Sexual intercourse or at least a bj.
- Andy, 29, IT Consultant, single

A: I’d go goofy.  We’ll need to go romantic later in the relationship.
- Richard, 32, Events Planner, lives with girlfriend

A: Most guys aren’t ready for heavy romance on the first date, it should work as more of a fun ice-breaker.
Josh, 28, Model, with girlfriend

A: I’ll take the latter. Dates often go better when neither player has a location upper hand. Say you pick your favourite restaurant as a first date venue. Your familiarity with the surroundings gives you a greater comfort level in the situation. Not fair. If you both have that fish-out-of-water feeling, you can both get to know each other through experiencing something fresh. If he doesn’t call back after your ballsy karaoke rendition of “Love is a Battlefield” he ain’t worth it.
- Rod, 32, Fireman, married, baby on the way

Comments:

Well. I'm a guy and i just WANT A FIRST DATE!

Commenter
Wednesday, 07 March 2007 14:06 PM EST

lol if you want romance on the first date who are you Romio? obviously you've played so many girls you're still takin them on candlelight dinners...

Kev
Thursday, 08 March 2007 22:27 PM EST

lol if you want romance on the first date who are you Romio? obviously you've played so many girls you're still takin them on candlelight dinners...

Kev
Thursday, 08 March 2007 22:29 PM EST

has anyone noticed this andy guy is a complete a total A***? i feel sorry for any girl who ends up with him.

hrm...
Thursday, 15 March 2007 17:54 PM EST

Don't worry, probably Andy here only ends up with his right hand.

Ha
Sunday, 18 March 2007 23:18 PM EST

Something fun, yet interactive where you can mingle at your own pace. Food is a must so there needs to be a dinner, although somewhere inbetween a burger joint and suit and tie steak house for the first date. Nothing too extreme either way.
Something fun to do would be mini-golf or bowling, etc. You can hang out get to know each other at your own pace. If the dates going well you can take your time, if it's not you can definately speed up the process.

DJ
Tuesday, 20 March 2007 15:59 PM EST

I think something fun and goofy is a great frist date because it makes the guy and girl comfortable. A romantic date has all these expcetations, and rolls the guy and girl should have; who's going to pay for dinner? who's driving? What romantic, serious things should we talk about? Romatic dates makes the guy and girl nervous. Fun and goofy for me!

Solange
Friday, 23 March 2007 16:53 PM EST

I love hoodie, like I love him. I don't think you people understand how much I love him! He smells so good!

Joshen Hoard
Friday, 22 June 2007 22:55 PM EST

My Guy Says Goofy Is Romantic, And The Best Dates Come From Letting Loose And Not Being In Such A Pressured Situation.

Jessica
Thursday, 05 July 2007 20:56 PM EST

I agree with Goofy even though I'm not a guy. Goofy gives you a chance to get to know eachother... romantic takes to much work. Having fun, laughing and dropping getting ice cream all over your face is a good time. lol

Nicole
Saturday, 07 July 2007 15:09 PM EST

Andy your a prevert. you dont need to do on a date to get that u pervert.

NoName
Thursday, 09 August 2007 23:00 PM EST

Andy, when I go one a date, expecialy the first date, i don't expect sex or even a kiss ? , for me the first date is how you get to know someone, you know to see if your compatible or not, i wouldn't want to make the wrong inpression the first date. i am always my self

first dater
Friday, 10 August 2007 09:51 AM EST

now whos with me ! ?

first dater
Friday, 10 August 2007 09:52 AM EST

Andy ur head is to far up ur own a$$ i mean chill out what a jerk

y do u need my name?
Sunday, 12 August 2007 21:20 PM EST

ok so yea i would want a fun first date like maybe going to a fair or somthing so you can spend time together but not be so scared about messing up just relax and have lots of fun!

les
Sunday, 12 August 2007 21:23 PM EST

a perfect first date would have to be somewhere were you both are comfortable at. a great place would be where you can have the choice to really talk or just enjoy the quite. make sure what you eat isnt so messy like ribs and doesnt get bewteen the teeth. just kick back and relax, if things were ment to be then they will.

Jenn
Wednesday, 22 August 2007 15:33 PM EST

okay, what would you do if theres this guy that you could just stand there and hold him.
like i could do it with this one guy than you see that he's ignoring you but not your friends.
but you still want him in your arms cause all them say nothin going on there just friends than he hates one of your close friends.
but than he dumps you cause of your friend was threatning him.
who do you be mad at?
do you be mad?
are you so totally outta your head if you still want him back and would do everything and anything?

Not Saying
Monday, 27 August 2007 13:46 PM EST

i am 9 and i would say sex lol

none of buzz
Friday, 07 September 2007 18:05 PM EST

andy, your a womans worst nightmare and a S***s bestfriend

megan
Sunday, 09 September 2007 12:19 PM EST

Andy, a date is too expensive for him. Reminds me of the movies where the guy pulls his car on the side of the dark alley, talks to a skimpy clad gal, she jumps in his car and off they go... better be careful with all the sex related diseases these days...can be deadly for cheap

Kautiouz
Thursday, 20 September 2007 14:31 PM EST

okaii so theres this guy yu went out with for a lil while and he dumps yu and yu figure out it was one of his best friends and yu just want him back so bad.
but now he doesnt believe yu that yu still love him



what shuld i do please reply to me.

k.c.
Saturday, 22 September 2007 12:44 PM EST

Well my advice is to try talking to him and explain what happened and how you saw it and how you still feel. If hes not willing to listen or he still doesn't believe you then in reality he is not the guy for you. Everyone deserves someone who respects them and listens to them. It might be really hard to move on but just know you are worth more than a guy who thinks you're a liar - without trust you can't have a relationship.

nicky
Monday, 24 September 2007 13:34 PM EST

Are you really serious Andy, come on you,quite certain you can do better than that!

Smooth35
Friday, 28 September 2007 22:35 PM EST

I want to know if anybody can tell me the rules and morals of dating! r u supposed to date many men at the same time? If u do date many men r u supposed to tell the guys that u r dating other men!!!! I just don't ever want any man to think that I am not loyal! Please Help with some serious advice

such a confused woman!!
Saturday, 06 October 2007 23:43 PM EST

Oh Andy, clearly there is a reason why you are single...

Savy Sista
Saturday, 13 October 2007 14:29 PM EST

What a manwho*e Andy can be!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ahh

princess
Sunday, 14 October 2007 10:30 AM EST

Wow Andy, no wonder you're single.

=)
Monday, 15 October 2007 23:14 PM EST

So this guy and I started dating. He pursued me and made all the first moves. Its complicated though bc he is my best friends older brother and is separated from his wife (legally separated, divorce just takes awhile) So i thought what the heck no harm in going out on a date. Whenever we were together we had so much fun and really loved being around each other...but it got complicated bc all his family loves me and wants us to be together...except for his sister (my best friend) who gave us crap for two weeks and made it really difficult...plus i am 10 yrs younger then him and my parents didn't really like that but they liked him...and I am waiting for marrige before I have sex..i want it to be with someone I know is in love with me and committed for a lifetime...well he knew this from the beginning and we talked a lot about it but he said I was perfect for him and really liked me but he couldn't wait for marrige and wasn't ready to get married anytime soon...ps he just wanted sex! and he thought that i would give in. so he started seeing this other girl, before he even broke up with me..and he is getting all the sex he wants from her...but she is so ugly and an airhead..she is total opposite of what he ever said he wanted! He said to his parents and everyone that he wanted someone like me bc i was pure, and kind..just down to earth and smart with goals for myself. this girl works at a grocery store for a living...his parents don't really like her and they don't even know her but she just comes off weird to them and his brothers told me that they think he made a mistake by dumping me and going out with her..and they told him that!! I realize once you have had it (sex i mean) its hard to stop...but it just pisses me off! besides that he isn't even divorced yet and I said i don't really want to be serious with him until he is...(divorce is an emotional process and a lot to take on in a relationship and he isn't ready to move on bc he still loves his ex).the stupid thing is if i would have sex with him then he would still be with me!! what do i do...bc i still want him really bad but he is with this ugly airheaded retard ! i hate seeing them together! and his family keeps telling me how much better I am

Need Help
Tuesday, 13 November 2007 11:54 AM EST

Im sorry id just like to say that eating out on a first date can get kind of awkward, i mean i hate bad table manners and i dont think i could sit through a whole meal with someone chewing with their mouth open or slurping.. id say coffee is the best, because you can get up and leave at any time throughout the night

Sweetiee
Wednesday, 14 November 2007 22:45 PM EST

Sweetie, your right eating out on the first date is VERY awkward. Wait, hold up, oh sorry you meant dinner, ok never mind.

bob
Friday, 16 November 2007 00:00 AM EST

whatever you do, do not take a girl out for a first date to see a movie. You're suppose to get to know a person on a first date and you cant very well do that while watching a movie. As dumb as it sounds going to pladium or a an amusement park is the way to go. You can laugh and have fun while still being able to talk. and girls love being kissed in the most unexpected places like on a rollercoaster!

jenna
Thursday, 22 November 2007 00:06 AM EST

From a male perspective, I prefer to let her set the adgenda. Yes, it backfires sometimes.The man doesn't choose the women he's with, it's the other way around. Let her take you into her world. She relaxes,things go smoother. something to think about.

northern_99
Sunday, 02 December 2007 15:53 PM EST

Andy do you seriously wonder why your still single? LOL! I don't, as a matter of fact I have a few theories on why you may be!Because your the guy who only has balls on the computer(muchlike a forty year old virgin).

Lindz
Thursday, 20 December 2007 03:06 AM EST

I feel really bad for "Need Help". You sound so confused-! As a guy who is 44 and married for 14 years, I can tell you a couple of things about men. First off, the guy who is divorced is in no condition to settle down any time soon. So unless you're willing to wait it out, I would suggest you move on, as sad as this might make you feel. You are good friends with his younger sister, so I have to ask if you really want to risk this friendship? He is likely feeling emotionally vulnerable, so this "no strings" sexual relationship he is having right now with this other woman helps boost his own self worth.
One other issue is the ten year age difference. It can work, if the younger partner is not too young. It also means that both of you are at different phases of your life. For example,if you are 30 and he is 40, you are definitely in the "hungry years" of career building, while he is just looking to stabilize his career. I'm not suggesting this is a problem, but it is something to think about. The only other option is to wait out this phase of his life, but this will take at least 2 years. You have to ask yourself if you are willing to wait for him. You also did not give your age so I do not know if time line is an issue at all for you (eg.,biological clock)

Counsiler
Sunday, 06 January 2008 22:56 PM EST

Not goofy! Just fun!

Don't try and be "One of the guys" either.

If I wanted that I would head out on the town with the boys.

Wear something memorable!

Zhimmy the Man
Wednesday, 05 March 2008 12:56 PM EST

ROFLMFAO at Andy's response about how he thinks first date should consist of a BJ, then underneath it says hes single...Gee!

Nurse
Tuesday, 11 March 2008 09:27 AM EST

haha ANDY...you are the definition of a loser in my book...you only wish that could happen in reality...keep on dreaming...ew you're so nasty!

a girls worst nightmare!!!!!!!!!!

whoa
Tuesday, 06 May 2008 17:02 PM EST

Okay so fellas, answer me this we have this great first conversation is flowing and we are openly honest about what we like about each other. We converse that I like he's humour, he's smile, he's open-mindness. He does the same says Im attractive, intersting and cheeky. We end up having open-ended discussions about what foods we like, were we want to travel and then out of left field - the talk turns to sex, as it does he asks so would you have sex with a midget..?
Essentially what on earth does that mean?. I get he wants a reaction and I can see absolute humour in that but how does a girl respond...

jaded miss
Tuesday, 03 June 2008 07:44 AM EST

Perfect first date includes long conversations and good food. The more I can get to know her, the better. After all, isn't that the point of a first date? To see if there's reason for a second date.

Kevin
Saturday, 09 August 2008 00:20 AM EST

I think it isn't bad if the guy sets the agenda for a date, especially if he has you in mind it shows that he is trying to please you. Girls shouldn't feel bad if the guy takes over the planning. My previous boyfriend did not bother trying to organise anything and let me do all the planning every time we went out, it got annoying after 3 years and i was sick of him agreeing with everything i wanted to do and not giving any input into our nights out.

Kristi
Monday, 03 November 2008 01:13 AM EST

ok so ive read most of these comments and im just wondering where to go for a first date then? because apparently dinner is awkward and no way in h*ll is what Andy wants going to happen...a movie you dont really talk maybe a walk in a park?
ARGH!!!! I DONT KNOW!!!

kinda confuzzled
Thursday, 06 November 2008 15:51 PM EST

my boyfriend is taking me to a dinner and a movie.i really don't want to see that movie what should i do!!!!

jenny 18
Saturday, 20 December 2008 23:09 PM EST

First dates tell all, as
in outta all the dates ive went out
on the more the guy acts fake towards
me the more i dislike it, because it always ends up bad the fake guys, at first being all charming, funny,extremely nice. It show right
then and there that they want to get
into you're pants real bad, I know alot of guys games and all the tricks in the books, they dont fool me when they act like this.

-Addicted.
Tuesday, 13 January 2009 08:14 AM EST

So, what if a guy asks you out to a party given by friends of his that you do not know for a first date. I will know no one there and I want to hang out and get to know him, but do I have to get to know all his friends too...
What should I do?

mountholly
Wednesday, 21 January 2009 21:40 PM EST

Hahaha I have to agree... My first thoughts were .. Andy, no wonder you're still single.. cannot believe you even said that... bah.. anyway.. I have to agree with Trevor, It has to be relaxed but fun and keeping it on the DL.. you should be able to be yourself and talk openly with the other person, share silly stories (if you're anything like me you have a LOT of them :D )
just keep it simple :D

Jenni
Monday, 02 February 2009 02:09 AM EST

I'd go with something romantic too, I don't wanna use the "its a latino thing" - but im pretty sure it is

http:// www.pringlepleasure.net

Henry
Wednesday, 11 February 2009 03:35 AM EST

I asked my best friends brother to go out with me and said yes. First u asked him if he liked me more than friends and said yes. And then I asked him if he wants to go out with me and said yah. Then the very next I found out that he was cheating on me.

Lol girl3
Sunday, 10 January 2010 09:16 AM EST

Number one, look out for you. Number two, be open to growing with this person.

Justine Doll
Saturday, 11 June 2011 03:05 AM EST

Lady with the boyfriend who went to an ugly retard airhead for sex, get a grip. You sound obsessed. Beforemyou love anyone, you need to love yourself. And self respects always sees you through. Keep your virginity for the man you marry. Stick to you boundaries. Always.

Truth teller
Friday, 07 October 2011 13:47 PM EST

Lol, whats up with all the bitches whining about Andy? Don't go out with him. Not everyone wants the same kind of first dates. There are women who don't mind it. Not all of us are prudes, you know

Ira
Saturday, 21 January 2012 15:44 PM EST

Oh and about being "still" single. Not all of us are there looking forward to get married. And yet we date too. So you little boring bitches can suffocate in the diapers all you want, while the "still" single people can go out have fun

Ira
Saturday, 21 January 2012 15:53 PM EST

Andy, that's probably why you're single

Jen
Tuesday, 21 February 2012 18:40 PM EST

Ive been dating this guy for 4 monts evertthign is great no fights get along super well just awesome. when were together it feels so good and so right. Lately Ive felt a dwindle in his communication (we live an hour apart) the textas were coming as frequent and the phone calls were less. I realize these things fade as time passes but couldnt help to think that something else was wrong. I first asked him via text which he respnded nto a text convo so later when at my house i asked again. at this point im ballling my eyes out cuz i felt like something was wrong. only he didnt asnwer he just stared at me. i figure no answer was an answer in its self so i told him its best to go home. and he up and left. since i have spoken to him and he tells me how perfect i am and he need time to think...think about what?! is something is so good how can you walk away? do i give him time and space? do i say forget you for having to think about being with me? and why didnt he just answer the question when i asked him? why did he just walk away?

merc
Wednesday, 22 February 2012 06:32 AM EST

Hi am a guy and need help me and ma wife like to have sex a lot but she whant to doggy but doesn't whant it up hur ass what can a do to stop this from happing ?:)

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