No kidding, who cares.....

Maybe i am what some would call a "gold digger" then because there is no way i would pay for dinner. Either he pays or we split it down the middle. I dont think i could date a guy i made more money then. Even if it is the 21st century, its still the mans "job" to provide for the women especially if they live together. Share a bank account but the man should still make more! Getting married in 2 months.

WOW Jenni, you are a little regressive when it comes to social equality. In our society, it is of no matter who makes more or less when it comes time to take care of the bill (or at least it shouldn't, JENNI). So many other things come to mind; who asked who... who paid last time, etc. In other societies, it is KNOWN and EXPECTED that the person of a higher socio-eco backround will pick up the tab, everytime. You know Jenni, women can do things now that men can, like pick up a tab now and then, buy a guy a drink, and even VOTE.

Woah! Did I JUST miss the train back to 1950 again???

How can women progressively move forward by thinking backwards? That includes picking up the tab, regardless of who makes more money or not. Take turns or split the bill. It's not worth thinking too hard about really.

Women that make money are hot. However, DON'T EVER throw it in their face!

Personally, I wouldn't date a girl who made more than me. If she suddenly got the rediculous promotion, the competition would be on.
Sorry, I'm a capricorn.

I make way more money than my boyfriend and I am also a capricorn. I love him and we do not measure ourlove based on money. If you go into a relationship with that mentality, forget it, it would not work. Try to enjoy each other to the max, as long as he/she is not hurting you emotionally/physically.

Jen

We just usually take turns buying things, less to think about and keeps both of us happy. =]

I make twice what my BF does.

He doesn't care about getting a promotion and more money, which he's been offered and he also doesn't cook or clean up (I do). So...I end up making all the money and therefore paying for everything, making all the food, doing all the dishes and laundry...

And I hate it. I never thought it would be a problem for me to make a good salary, but it is, and I resent that he doesn't pitch in in non-money ways.

mia,
you are a dream...dump that loser and get withme...i can at least cook!

Who care who makes more?
but the man shouldnt just take it for advantage.

I am dating a girl that makes more money than me... SIGNIFGANTLY MORE. When we started dating, I revealed to her how little I didn't make, but declined to hear what she makes. I am okay with her making more, but I want her to be okay with me making less.
We make each other laugh, take turns buying things, do many non-paying activities, and We think the world of each other.
We are still happily dating and still, I don't know how much she makes!

My father makes a considerable amount of money, and some of it goes to me. So, I do have quite a bit of money. But I really don't like implying that I do. I would much rather split the bill!
Although, in the end, it doesn't matter who makes more, as long as the relationship goes well.
xx

Just got married in August. Realized I make 3 times what he makes. He claims he does not care. I admit it REALLY bothers me. This is a huge stress to me. I wanted to have children and work part time while they were babies. With the way the economy is headed, I'm the breadwinner and there is NO WAY this can happen.

how do u make more money than guys

My boy friend makes less than me and it drives me insane. Especially now that we have a child together. I purchase most of what our son needs and i pay the doctor bills. He says he's going to help but when? Also for x-mas he was suppose to buy me a computer, but my mother ended up buying it and now i'm paying her back. What part of the game is that? Don't get me wrong he's a good person, some esteem issues, but he does love his son. He doesn't value money and needs me to help him pay his cell phone bill and sometimes he can't pay his half on rent. WTF! He's 30 years old and still calls his older sister for money. I don't want my son to be with out his dad, but then i don't two sons. We don't have sex because I am so turned off by him. What should i do?

Mia.... You shouldn't tolerate that. Inside the home, regardless of who makes more, should be equal territory. You both make messes in the house so the both of you should clean them up. B.S.

I make more then my boyfriend and I know it bothers him though he will never admit it. He still pays for most of our outings though. Chivalry isnt completely dead.

i have been helping my girfrend at college fiancially not that she asked me to but with her situation i saw it fit 2 help her mostly becoz of love. Now she's through with college bt is now on another course that when she completes together with the other one she wil most probably earn more than me. We love each other so much but am nw afraid of what may happen as i was now used to being her provider.

i make double my boyfriend's salary. it never really affected me because i have always been independent and not the gold-digging type....however i never intended to be a sugar mama either. I am at a point in my life where i would like to do bigger things(i.e. buy a condo, get married...) We have been dating a few years and i know he wants the same things as i but it seems like money holds us back. I am willing to compromise a diamond ring for just a plain gold band perhaps get married in city hall. i already have a down payment for a condo and i suppose he could pay for maintenance. But until what point do i stop compromising?

When it comes to me，i dont care it at all。what matters is that you love each other！

I have been in many abusive relationships where the man made more than me. Now I'm with a man who makes a lot less than me, which has been an adjustment, but who is lving and kind. I had to make many compromises, mostly with my own ego, and I am also a capricorn, where money equals stability. Sometimes the unequal division bothers me but he does things around the house I don't have time or energy for. He is my housemate. And I am extremely blessed to have him. It took almost a year to get to this level of comfort but thank god it's been a miracle. Good luck and keep the faith. If your mate doesn't contribute by trying to make life easier across the board than you need to elevulate your own personal situation because money is a huge issue for tons of people, especially given the current economy. And sometimes somethings are worth more than money. Trust.

'Why should it bother me, making more money or less money, if you are fortunate enough to have someone who loves you, do not look down on them if they make less and are honest. If your better able to bear more financial burden than realize you are blessed because your role is clear. In any case if you love money than odds are you will treat the one you love as a possession. I am happy to live modestly and love people not things.'

'I make more than double what my bf makes. And in the next couple of years I\x27ll probably make triple what he makes. \x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eI\x27ve realized it\x27s not the difference in income that bothers me, it\x27s how someone manages money that bothers me. So, we both made our own budgets, are saving for different things \x28him to buy a vehicle, me to buy a house\x29 and it works. \x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eWe split household chores equally \x28he probably cooks more than I do\x29 and he fixes all the stuff around my place. I buy him things I think he\x27d like or might need, which from time to time bothers him, but we talk about it and handle it maturely. \x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eWhat bothers you\x3f How he handles his money i.e. his goals and values\x3f How much he actually makes and the lifestyle you can\x27t share together\x3f Or some 1950\x27s ideal in your head that he\x27d buy you everything you wanted while you dusted your silver candlesticks\x3f \x3cbr \x2f\x3e\x3cbr \x2f\x3eThen think about whether the problem lies with his actions or your expectations.'

'I recently lost my job ,was helping her out with rent and alota other chores,,she was earning more than me even when I had a job,,but now I\x27m running my own business which is at times slow-motion on the revenue,,It helps me pay for groceries and all and take her out to the movies and maybe buy that nice dress..but that\x27s where all that little money goes,,can\x27t help her with rent afta that...it bothers me coz its been 3months since I lost my job,,and it feels like its been a year..I\x27m afraid of losing her becoz of my situation somebody help...'

'Santi\x3a Some of us just do. That\x27s just the way life works out sometime. For a long time I was out of work due to health reasons and my boyfriend took over the entire finical responsibility for several years and my domain was care of the home since I couldn\x27t work at that time, but now that I\x27ve re-entered the workforce I make a little more than him, not a lot, just by a few cents, but we don\x27t let it bother us who makes more or who\x27s working and who\x27s not as long as we share things equally. Now that we are both working the household chores are split between us. But we don\x27t care about such silly things as who brings in more money\x21'

'i am in a situation in that i make much more than the man i am living with.when we decided to move into an apartment together,we both agreed to equally share expenses.second relationships are way different than first time marriages.although love is there,at times i do resent being the one who pays for most of the food,things for the apartment, and some other itemss,hearing that he is low on money.this was agreed before moving in,that we share equally.i understand that now and then there is always a give and take,but i ams starting to feel that maybe he sees me as a good deal,to help him aquire a nice lifestyle,but at my expense.he does work full time and is not a slouch by any means.i have read articles on how this is 2012 and equlity in the genders,and blah blah blah.but in the end,i believe women do resent being the breadwinner.in my opinion,if you merely live together then both should share equally in most things.this also makes one partner feel more respect and not resentment towards the other.after all is said and done,and after helping with some major expenses in his life,not even a flower to say thanks....tell me that wouldn\x27t make any woman feel resentful.retrospectively,it does effect a normal relationship when a woman gives more than a man.perhaps it is our mamalian structure,biology,or just feeling that there is a man to support and protect us.and when thinking about later in life,after work is done,not having a man being able to take care of you in your old age, or if the shoe were on the other foot, tends to make you lose respect as well....and a normal relationship is one that a partner is not an enabler,or needs another and cannot stand on their own if need be.all else has it\x27s psychological problems and issues....'

'i agree that if two people are sharing an apartment then reexamine the word share...it means that both people take equal parts in the financial situation.if the man suddenly loses interest then you know he was in it for the profit and not the relationship.what kind of character does a man have who would let a woman take care of him,a sugar mama so to speak.really,how low can you get.it also depends on the era you were brought up in...baby boomers were conditioned that men were the caretakers....and seek this out in a relationship.by the way-equal work equal pay is fine...and if a man sits and has a pity party because he is not making a decent living well then who is to blame\x3f he had the same opportunity as everyone else to make a go of it in school.people who have good professions worked hard for that...you reap what you sew,right\x3fnothing worse than a guy who tries to look pathetic and sees himself as a victim.womwn liked to be romanced,and if a man got benefits and did not even get a flower for her,how low is that.......'

'i think that when a man cannot provide his share,it makes the woman angry.and it effects their whole relationship and how she feels toward him.there is nothing worse than a man who cannot live up to his end of the bargain,and who tries to con his lady out of her money......if he cannot afford things he shouldn\x27t be buying them.you cannot make a silk purse from a sow\x27s ear.....get a job.....'

'my question is has this man done this before\x3f some men have a motive...they see a woman who is doing well for herself and latch on thinking his lifestyle will also improve......ask about past relationships and see if this is his mo...it won\x27t be hard to figure out\x21no matter what your income is,expenses should be split down the middle.'

'I make 3 times as much as my boyfriend. Although he means well it is becoming increasingly more frustrating to be with him. I am at a point in my life where I want to enjoy a few nice things. He is in \x22survival\x22 mode. We r not in our 20s. I find myself bailing him out if he is in need. If he takes me out to dinner he is counting every penny. I almost feel guilty. I am always opening up my wallet for something or other. I do feel resentment.'

'I can\u2019t believe just how disgusting some of you women are. Maybe you should live in countries where women can\u2019t vote, have jobs, drive cars etc. You get all upset about not having EQUAL opportunities but also get upset about the disturbance of the natural order of things. It\u2019s good that some women are more evolved than others.'

'Have been with my husband for more than 25 years. The 3 years he made more money than I were my happiest.'