How do we become more than friends?
Q: I am 14 years old. I liked this guy for a while and decided to take a chance and ask him out and so i did, he said maybe so i told him to take his time. He hasn't answered me yet but it was like two days ago. i don't want to seem desparate to him. Wut should i do or think. And how can we keep r convos longer? We are close i have already slept over at his house twice. so ya i need some advice!!!!
A: Tough call. Since you’re already close friends, it could be that he doesn’t know how to navigate this situation without affecting your friendship. Some guys will never bring these things up again if you don’t force the issue, so if you need an answer, you probably have to corner him on it and see what’s up. It could be that he likes the friendship the way it is. Good luck! - Chauncy
A: You’re already sounding desperate. If he was into you, he wouldn’t keep you waiting; he wouldn’t be able to think of anything but you. In my opinion, you’re probably a prospective booty call for him, knowing that he hasn’t needed to commit for you to stay at his place. Lots of fish in the sea, this one has disaster written all over it. - Richard
A: I’m a tad confused. First you (twice) spent the night at his place. Then you asked him out, with your invitations going unanswered. Do I have this right? Well, if you slept with the guy when you spent the night at his place, you might be waiting a really long time for him to get back to you. If you kept your clothes intact (which, incidentally, as a 14-year-old, you should’ve done) then you’re still in the running for the young man’s heart. So as not to seem desperate, think of an upcoming event you could ask him to. A house party, a dance… whatever. Don’t ask him, for instance, to go to the movies, as that can only be construed as a date. But simply accompanying each other to something you both would be attending anyway is a great way to get some alone time with him without beating him over the head with date invitations. - Sergio
A: I would be patient and let the situation develop naturally. Fourteen-year-old dudes can be much less mature than girls, so there is a chance that he’s feeling shy and nervous about getting involved with you romantically. If you have a good friendship with him, I would enjoy that and see what develops from there. - Josh