dont be stupid! shes having a kid, so support her! she will be having a tough enough time, so if she needs help with anything at all, be there!

do you want kids? dont feel left out!!! having kids is a big decision, so dont just do it because your friends are. This is a serious thing. Talk to your partner and duiscuss it with someone you trust. This isnt a no brainer. you need to seriously consider this, and be prepared to support another human being's life.

As a univ. student, I've been in school for the last 3 years in addition to high school.

I find that most of my friends that did not go to post secondary school ended up pregnant/married/married and expecting. Sometimes I have to wonder if I made the right decision, but when I look at them with their kids and job at a hair salon, I'll be thankful when I have my law degree and will probably have to settle their divorce case for them! Satisfaction!

I've never really felt in the past, that all of my friends were having kids and that I felt left out, however, this year, it seems like every time I turn around another friend of mine's pregnant. I feel a bit like the odd man out, even though I know I'm not ready for kids. I'm still happy for them and I support them 100%, I just feel a bit awkward about the whole thing...

So your friends are starting to have kids and you're not ready. That's okay, but you have to realize this doesn't have to be a complete fork in the road and have to end the friendship, you may just chose to see them less often. My friends and I all went to university and after some of use chose children and others not. I still talk to my friends that chosen not to have, but let's face it, we really have little in common. They don't want to hear about poopy bums, potty training, swimming lessons or their gymnastics. I listen to them deciding which winter resort to go to, or which designer outfit they just bought, it just doesn't seem that important anymore. If you're feeling awkward about them, maybe it's time to move on to other friends who don't have kids or have chosen that lifestyle. If you have chose to have kids you will want to surround yourself with other moms and dads who can lend you an ear and an occassional shoulder to cry on. You will develop friends, don't worry you will just find them around your kids activities. Friendships don't have to end, but you just see each other alot less and you meet new people who suit your new life conditions.

don't worry eventually your gonna have kids too and busy taking care of them. so just be happy and grateful. and that they have a safe delivery.

Women who are pregnant or have small children bug the piss out of me.

It's bad enough that most women can manage all but the most superficial of friendships when they aren't pregnant, but how quickly the veil slips off when their life situation changes.

This includes a new man, and especially a new baby...

I'm 28/m. Some of my friends are having kids. For the most part, they were able to keep it real with the boys while still being great fathers. I respect that they can still go out on Friday's. It means their balls are still intact.

Women, on the other hand, turn into completely different creatures altogether. Suddenly their world shrinks and anyone who doesn't want to focus on their baby 24/7 is an unwelcome presence.

Women are so fake with each other and transparently selfish.

I agree chris. Im not sexist or anything but ive found this in quite a few areas of my life. Outer circle aswell as my inner circle. Relations with my brother are wearing thin because of this, as soon as his wife had a child things have gone from bad to worse. Same thing with some of my friends. Like in a sense the friendship never existed. I believe the whole thing with having a child is over the top and way over rated. And then they moan when there life is nothing but drama.

So your friends are all pregnant? You should make more of an effort, give them gifts, and babysit for them. You should not feel pressured, confused, like your missing out on life because you aren't ready or situated enough, inadequate, or irked in any way? No. According to this article you would be wrong for thinking so selfishly. Babies. Babies are clearly more important than you.

I get it...your friends are having babies, it's all about the newborn. Totally get it. But this article is basically saying that I have to devote my time to the new mom. In reality, if you are single, not married and all your friends are, when they have kids, it's kind of depressing. Shower her with gifts...are you kidding me?? When your friends have kids and you don't, you will tend to see them less. it's a fact of life.

When all your girlfriends get themselves knocked up, it's time for you to find new friends. I really tried to like my friends' offsrping, I thought it would be different 'cuz I'd see the kids a lot.... nope. Kids are still awful little balls of hedonism that I'm not particularly interested in touching/holding/feeding/wiping. Clearly there is a reason I didn't get myself into that situation - and I'm learning that I need to stay away. I need new, childless by choice female friends.

" No matter how much her thoughts are consumed with feeding and pooping these days, she still loves her dose of office gossip. And she still needs to hear about your dating escapades, new diet tricks, and latest score on the designer sale rack. " I'd like to know where these new moms that are still interested in the real world live. In my 20s, I would try to maintain my friendships when one of my ladies became a mother. I'd listen for a while about baby stuff and then try to talk about my stuff. Either they'd cut me off telling me that the new season of True Blood wasn't important, I just couldn't understand that because nothing "magical" (I thought it was just simple biology!) had happened to me, or I'd hear from mutual friends I was being bad mouthed for not being fully focused on the baby. If you friends all have kids and you don't plan for motherhood to be part of your life ever, get new female friends. Otherwise you'll have a lot of limping friendships where you always feel like the bad guy because your life will exist beyond the baby box. All the mommy friends I had eventually hated me for continuing to live my no strings attached unless I choose them lifestyle they'd loved me for two years prior. Hey notamomma...ever.3...you are completely right on, but they'd better not ask us where to find these new friends! Those of us that don't want to breed are a very small group!

I am so bored of listening to people bang on about their bloody kids! The truth is nobody gives a toss!

My friend just told me she was pregnant and I am extremely scared that our friendship is going to end. It's hard enough trying to hangout with her now. Every time we hang out its on her terms. And this woman has millions of friends plus a husband. So to get any time with her, alone, is very rare. And now I have to compete with a baby? Which I don't want to compete with obviously. I want to be apart of both of their lives but an effort has to be made from the both of us. I'm willing to give gifts, hang out with the baby, babysit, etc. But she also has to make time for me.

I agree with the above. I am definately not anti kids, I love kids and want them one day..just not quite yet! I have suddenly hit a point in my life where it seems as if everyone seems to be pregnant..it feels really strange for one but the worst thing is that since my best friend got pregnant she seems to of changed, all she talks about is the pregnancy or doing up the house in prep for the baby! Uh I just feel bored and like I can't relate. It makes me feel really sad that I have lost a friendship but I can't say anything as 'i'm supposed to be pleased'!

This article must have been written by a mom! So biased!!!

'All of my friends who had children have turned on me. Literally, the only topic these women ever want to talk about with me, is when I\x27m going to pro-create. Am I a broken record\x3f Yes, I want them. No, not yet. Is my friendship with them contingent now on playdates with my future children\x3f If so, EFF you girls\x21 You can kiss it, because I\x27m going to be hanging out with other people. You enjoy your misery for now. I\x27ll enjoy my freedom. Thanks.'

'Speaking from experience, I\x27d have to say that every friend of mine that has children acts like they couldn\x27t care less about what\x27s going on in my life. They cut me off just to go on about their kids some more and don\x27t give me a chance to talk about my life or even to try to pretended they\x27re interested. Yes, I know it\x27s a big responsibility on them to be a mother, and it\x27s a joyful thing, but that doesn\x27t mean that they shouldn\x27t be supportive of their childless friends\x21 I\x27m 25, and it seems everyone around me has children, even people several years younger than me. I want children so badly but it is still just not the right time. I\x27m just now graduating from college and I must make sure I can find a good paying job first. When I do become a mother, I will try with everything in me to still care about the lives of my friends without children\x21'

'I have many friends that have kids and that isn\x27t in the cards for me. I like babies and I like my friends\x27 babies. We have found time to hang out together and gossip but instead of being over drinks later in the evening, it may happen earlier in the day over coffee, so baby can still be fed and get a nap\x21 It\x27s all about comprimise... on both sides...if the friendship is meant to be, it will survive with a little effort from both sides\x21'

'Im 24 yo fem and all my friends since high school have been popping out kids. Alot of the are on 3rds and 4ths. I\x27m studying to be a paramedic yet they look down on me. I want kids hopefully by the time I\x27m 30. Nothing pisses me off more than people who are trying for kids without jobs\x21 There is no such thing as a stay at home mum these days unless your partner earns 80k\x2b maybe I am extremely jealous but for me it makes me physically sick to coddle the pregnant person. My neighbour told me today she was pregnant when I was texting back congratulations everything seemed dull my ears were ringing and my face was burning I felt so angry. I don\x27t think you mums realize how hard it is for those of us who aren\x27t ready to have kids and there\x27s babies and pregnancy everywhere just rubbing it In your face\x21'

'I am a guy, and all my friends are having kids. I\x27ve been married longer then they have, and I feel bad because me and my wife have been trying. Still no kids, both me and her were checked and we are okay with fertility. I am starting to lose hope.'

'Don\x27t lose hope\x21 Have you tried the herb, Maca\x3f'

'I am so glad to see that I\x27m not the only one out there... I agree with most of the commenters here, it\x27s hard and sometimes just a big fat DO NOT WANT to have pregnant friends. My friends are calm and cool and still do social things but it scares the crap out of me to think what\x27s going to happen after their babies are born. On a selfish note, it makes me feel like time is going too fast, like there are so many wild things that I have yet to do and that once my friends all have babies \x28coming up now\x29 I will be like the last girl standing on the dance floor, going \x22But it\x27s only 11\x3a30 PM, is everybody really going home\x3f For good\x3f\x3f\x3f Wah\x21\x22'

'I looked up this post because I swear every time I call someone on the phone or see someone, they are giving me the big news. I feel like Everyone around me is somewhat vanishing and it\x27s scary. Even friends that said they never wanted to have kids... or are thinking of breaking up with their boyfriend.. Are getting pregnant. I just don\x27t understand why the ones who don\x27t want kids didn\x27t go on birth control. I am a 33 year old female and never want kids. I am single and frightened to death because I feel like some lone soldier. I am a teacher... I obviously love children. But I feel like people don\x27t understand how hard it is, and what a lifetime commitment it is and that just because everyone else is doing it doesn\x27t mean they have to. I know I\x27m pressing my on view upon them secretly but I just don\x27t get why there aren\x27t more people who choose to do other things with their lives. I\x27m a grinch I guess. I\x27m just really irritated about the whole thing.'