Help! My Friends Are All Having Kids!
But that doesn’t mean the good times are over
After surviving the mega-year of pocket-draining weddings (everyone’s got that one season where the wedding invites just won’t stop coming) comes the next milestone in the lives of your best girlfriends: the baby boom. And though all your girls are beyond proud and beaming with joy, you’re feeling slightly jilted because you’re missing the quality time and daily talks with your BFFs. (And the subscription email you get with their baby blog update just doesn’t cut it.) So what’s a girl to do to maintain her friendships with all her new mommas, especially when she’s nowhere near having a bundle on her own? We’ve figured out how to keep those girl-bonds tight when your friends start boarding the baby bus.
Keep the calls coming
A new mom is head-over-heels in love with her precious bundle. And her every breath is devoted to the baby. We’re not joking: her every breath. Pick up the phone already and give this poor girl a break. No matter how much her thoughts are consumed with feeding and pooping these days, she still loves her dose of office gossip. And she still needs to hear about your dating escapades, new diet tricks, and latest score on the designer sale rack. So don’t cut her off your call list. In fact, add her to your speed dial.
Join in on the baby merriment
There’s no need to get knocked up. But partaking in the baby fun is an easy way to keep your friendship tight as your lifestyles start to change. She’s sure to be attending regular mommy-and-me workshops or baby classes and camps, so ask to join them for an afternoon or on a weekly basis. Not only will you get some moderately quality time with your friend, her youngster will stop looking at you like a stranger.
Give her a break
Nothing says you care to a mom more than offering your time. Play babysitter for a few hours so she can run errands or catch up on her z’s, or spend the evening chez her so she can head out on the town with her man. Thrill her to bits by doing dishes and a few household chores while you’re there.
Plan girl time
To keep your friendship in check and that girl-bond locked tight, plan some time together sans baby. Surprise her with mani/pedi appointments, hit the gym for a Pilates class, or do dinner just the two of you. Though she’s knee-deep in babyland, she still wants quality time with grownups. Plan an adults-only play date as often as you can. You’ll look back when you’re both grey and be thankful you did.
Who doesn’t love getting a care package in the mail? And, really, who’s received one since college? Play fairy godmother to your girlfriend and put together a package of treats for her (and baby if you’re feeling nice) to enjoy. Need ideas? Include indulgences like a bath soak, a good book, her favourite snack food, and a laugh-out-loud kid’s book. Not only will you make her week (parenting can be tough business), it will be crystal clear how much her friendship means to you.
Written by: Denise Wild